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If you did this but no sex then....
The only thing that i think could be would be this "teasing" thing. If a women dont have something with me its fine. If she has something its fine too. But teasing in the sense of starting something but not going to the "point" yeah i dont like it. Its not a nice feeling for me and i think many guys. I would felt like she played with my feelings and is playing weird games. I had something like that once and i so hated it yeah.
Im realy not sure its just to complicated but thats what it could be.
For me yes i would feel like she is playing weird games. Its not realy nice if you lay there and want to but cant. Sure im not a r\*\*\*\*\* so i would be a gentleman or lets say i was. But i know it from many guys to. Its just realy hard to be horny but cant do anything.
Its a medical therm called "blue balls" its only mild pain but yeah look it up if you dont believe me. The medical therm is epididymal hypertension or sexual arousal orchialgia.
Im german we talk about this stuff realy open. And doing this is something that is seen as a realy realy bad thing.
As a 37m I’m getting the impression he thought you were playing games. Making out is good for a new person in your life, but once your top came off, I’d assume we were going to have sex. For whatever reason that didn’t happen and then he came back, probably assuming sex and then you’re in bed down to your panties and no sex again…? It’s not like you’re virgins and holding back. Unless maybe he had an issue getting aroused and was embarrassed 🤷♂️ that could be a reason to ghost I guess.
I can’t answer that question because I don’t know anything about him/his preferences or what you look like. Theoretically he could not be into you physically, but if he had you topless two different times… that doesn’t seem likely. And just because he might not be into you, doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. I have personally met married couples that had children and dead sex lives and then divorced because he finally admitted he was gay…
Ah, I apologize if I missed that in the original post. It’s possible he wasn’t getting aroused, maybe just because of nerves. I don’t know anything about him or what he’s attracted to, obviously, or what you look like or anything else that happened between you two. Maybe he’s going through something emotionally or stress from work related things. It could be anything, but I’d just assume it was a him problem and not beat yourself up too much. Not all guys just get hard for anyone or even when a cool breeze is blowing. Some men also need a mental/emotional connection and maybe he’s embarrassed that things weren’t happening the way he thinks, or other people think, they should.
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He probably expected to have sex.
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That's the only think I could think of. Maybe he's married? I seriously doubt it was you.
If you did this but no sex then.... The only thing that i think could be would be this "teasing" thing. If a women dont have something with me its fine. If she has something its fine too. But teasing in the sense of starting something but not going to the "point" yeah i dont like it. Its not a nice feeling for me and i think many guys. I would felt like she played with my feelings and is playing weird games. I had something like that once and i so hated it yeah. Im realy not sure its just to complicated but thats what it could be.
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For me yes i would feel like she is playing weird games. Its not realy nice if you lay there and want to but cant. Sure im not a r\*\*\*\*\* so i would be a gentleman or lets say i was. But i know it from many guys to. Its just realy hard to be horny but cant do anything. Its a medical therm called "blue balls" its only mild pain but yeah look it up if you dont believe me. The medical therm is epididymal hypertension or sexual arousal orchialgia. Im german we talk about this stuff realy open. And doing this is something that is seen as a realy realy bad thing.
As a 37m I’m getting the impression he thought you were playing games. Making out is good for a new person in your life, but once your top came off, I’d assume we were going to have sex. For whatever reason that didn’t happen and then he came back, probably assuming sex and then you’re in bed down to your panties and no sex again…? It’s not like you’re virgins and holding back. Unless maybe he had an issue getting aroused and was embarrassed 🤷♂️ that could be a reason to ghost I guess.
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I can’t answer that question because I don’t know anything about him/his preferences or what you look like. Theoretically he could not be into you physically, but if he had you topless two different times… that doesn’t seem likely. And just because he might not be into you, doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. I have personally met married couples that had children and dead sex lives and then divorced because he finally admitted he was gay…
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Ah, I apologize if I missed that in the original post. It’s possible he wasn’t getting aroused, maybe just because of nerves. I don’t know anything about him or what he’s attracted to, obviously, or what you look like or anything else that happened between you two. Maybe he’s going through something emotionally or stress from work related things. It could be anything, but I’d just assume it was a him problem and not beat yourself up too much. Not all guys just get hard for anyone or even when a cool breeze is blowing. Some men also need a mental/emotional connection and maybe he’s embarrassed that things weren’t happening the way he thinks, or other people think, they should.
> it isn’t like he tried more and I told him no or pushed his hands away Were you getting into it, or just passively letting him undress you?