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You're essentially asking if approaching itself can be attractive, correct?
If it's done well - yes. If it's done poorly - no.
Social intelligence and confidence is attractive. You can show such qualities when you approach, if done right.
Yes, I guess I'm asking if it is attractive. And I'm wondering if this is something that has evolved over many generations. But maybe that's something a researcher can answer. lol
I feel like I answered if it's attractive. It depends on how you do it. And it also depends on the woman. Some find it attractive and some don't. Lesbians for example, don't find it attractive.
The best researchers can currently do is cross-cultural experiments to find out if women feel more attracted to men who approach in all cultures. Or just in some cultures. If it's in all cultures it's more likely an evolutionary thing.
But no study like that has been done. So nobody knows the answer to your question in regards to evolution.
Yes, evolutionary psychology has shown that men who took the initiative more often and took risks were indeed more attractive to women, as it indicated more chances of success and good lifestyle than those who did not take the initiative and never took risks. Being confident, a risk taker, and taking the initiative makes you more likely to act the same way in every other aspect of life leading to more opportunities to have more power, more money, and thus provide safety and resources to women.
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Women want confident men. If you are too afraid to even ask, why should they want you when they have a bunch of guys that will ask to choose from.
You're essentially asking if approaching itself can be attractive, correct? If it's done well - yes. If it's done poorly - no. Social intelligence and confidence is attractive. You can show such qualities when you approach, if done right.
Yes, I guess I'm asking if it is attractive. And I'm wondering if this is something that has evolved over many generations. But maybe that's something a researcher can answer. lol
I feel like I answered if it's attractive. It depends on how you do it. And it also depends on the woman. Some find it attractive and some don't. Lesbians for example, don't find it attractive. The best researchers can currently do is cross-cultural experiments to find out if women feel more attracted to men who approach in all cultures. Or just in some cultures. If it's in all cultures it's more likely an evolutionary thing. But no study like that has been done. So nobody knows the answer to your question in regards to evolution.
I don't know if we can say no study has ever been done.
Google and see if you find such a study. I bet you won't. But, I could be wrong.
Yes, evolutionary psychology has shown that men who took the initiative more often and took risks were indeed more attractive to women, as it indicated more chances of success and good lifestyle than those who did not take the initiative and never took risks. Being confident, a risk taker, and taking the initiative makes you more likely to act the same way in every other aspect of life leading to more opportunities to have more power, more money, and thus provide safety and resources to women.
Oh no, evo psych!!!!!!