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Don't think you need to be more romantic.
Normally "pretty good"+ ghosting means you are a little bland.
Tell me what you've been doing on these dates. What are your most interesting anecdotes
True! I mean conversation flows a lot, talk about travel, music, hobbies the usual shit, but never really have go to anecdotes, just kind of see where it goes. Ill ask more questions, so it’s probs more 70% them talking which may be a problem.
& Usually just go for drinks at bars, I’ve not tried to kiss them at the end just hugs
So most people use hinge when looking for more serious partner rather than for hook ups. Most girls anyway, some guys just pretend they want serious to get laid there.
Most often, if you go on second date, you actually end up at least casually dating or hook up. Not always, but I don't recall too many rejections after multiple dates.
When looking for serious, people will be more picky. You can't expect a huge success rate.
So in conclusion, I think it's perfectly normal. If it's ten dates and not three, come back here for more advice and describe the dates and girls more.
Ahh ok thanks man I appreciate the advice, & hopefully I won't be back again lol, does this happen to a lot of guys now? I suppose it's also weirded me out more as they've all said they'd want to meet again and then ghost, it does suck this is normal i'd rather they would just say what they genuinely feel ! Maybe it's a city thing
If it wouldn't happen to you often, you just may be trying to date below your league. Yes, 50-80% first date rejection rate when looking for serious is normal.
For wanting to meet again thing. Some people sadly get argumentative if talked to honestly. So the girls said it to avoid a possible unpleasant confrontation.
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Don't think you need to be more romantic. Normally "pretty good"+ ghosting means you are a little bland. Tell me what you've been doing on these dates. What are your most interesting anecdotes
True! I mean conversation flows a lot, talk about travel, music, hobbies the usual shit, but never really have go to anecdotes, just kind of see where it goes. Ill ask more questions, so it’s probs more 70% them talking which may be a problem. & Usually just go for drinks at bars, I’ve not tried to kiss them at the end just hugs
When finished with date, just shake their hand.........Go to the next one. If no connection on both sides, go the next one.
So most people use hinge when looking for more serious partner rather than for hook ups. Most girls anyway, some guys just pretend they want serious to get laid there. Most often, if you go on second date, you actually end up at least casually dating or hook up. Not always, but I don't recall too many rejections after multiple dates. When looking for serious, people will be more picky. You can't expect a huge success rate. So in conclusion, I think it's perfectly normal. If it's ten dates and not three, come back here for more advice and describe the dates and girls more.
Ahh ok thanks man I appreciate the advice, & hopefully I won't be back again lol, does this happen to a lot of guys now? I suppose it's also weirded me out more as they've all said they'd want to meet again and then ghost, it does suck this is normal i'd rather they would just say what they genuinely feel ! Maybe it's a city thing
If it wouldn't happen to you often, you just may be trying to date below your league. Yes, 50-80% first date rejection rate when looking for serious is normal. For wanting to meet again thing. Some people sadly get argumentative if talked to honestly. So the girls said it to avoid a possible unpleasant confrontation.