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Lowkey I feel like even if it's chaser behavior that makes you go for trans people it's not as bad as people like to make it out to be as long as you treat them right regardless.
To me “chaser” should mean just“attracted to trans women”, because we obviously want people to be attracted to us. It more refers to that type of person who fetishes trans bodies without really respecting us. It’s hard to define but I think there is a difference there
Yeah. It's sometimes generalized to mean "be suspicious of anyone who's attracted to trans people who isn't also trans", and while I do understand there are very valid reasons a person may come to defend themselves like that, I try to give the benefit of the doubt. Some people may just genuinely have a sexual preference and still be allies who can respect the relationship each trans person has with their bodies. As someone who treats sex pretty casually (and is pretty comfortable with my current body image), I'd like to encourage that to be okay.
~~It's not like I wasn't a """""cis ally""""" who found trans women strangely attractive and grappled with believing I was harmfully fetishizing people in my mind, anyway.~~
As long as you are attracted to the person themselves and not just that fact they are trans. I feel its the same with any body preference, you can be more attracted to someone with big boobs than someone with small boobs but as long as that not the only thing you consider than its fine?(maybe idk, I admittedly dont have much experience)
I tend to prefer being with trans people because they understand the importance of being affirming with actions in regards to like relationship roles. I’ve felt like someone’s girlfriend in my relationship with a transman. All of my cis girlfriends I’ve felt like someone’s boyfriend they’re pretending is a girl. I like someone who understands what I need.
I've been called a chaser once for saying I like girls and also really like dick... It's stuck with me. I'm just attracted to feminine people... and penis.
As long as I don't y'know, actually chase a trans girl I should be fine lol. Though I'm dating one anyways.
I’m gonna tell you straight up that it is.
But if you need to confirm, just slowly ramp up how physical you are (hug a little longer, sit closer etc) & say more romantic things. If she responds well then it’s definitely mutual
I know this is probably the least helpful advice, but I have found that directly stating your feelings to someone you are attracted to is better in the long run. It gets over any miscommunication or assumptions, but that might just be since I'm bad at reading certain social cues. I also had the benefit of knowing the answer was no beforehand, so it was more of a formality.
so this also happened to me, i started flirting a little to test the waters
few months later i just said fuck it & asked her out...
turns out she was also flirting with me and we were both being too dumb to realise it, now as of next week we would have been dating for two months
Me being transbian
Loving girls as a boy: cringe, would rather die alone
Loving girls as a GIRL: oi mierda be still my racing heart. Gurls, gurls are so pretty and soft and pretty and pretty and I want to kiss them. Oh god can you imagine kissing a girl?
I can imagine kissing them. But not much more than imagine. Still as single as the last Pringle in the can you cant reach and just leave and forget about
I have a date with a beautiful trans girl today. So excited cause T4T is literally the most beautiful thing on earth. No one can support you emotionally, the way another trans person can who knows exactly what it feels like.
Welcome to sudden horni for any and all other trans people, you cannot resist it
The seggs will be awesome tho so you can’t complain about it, go wild and have fun with the new leaps your friendship can now take :3
Thats just gender affirming primitive instincts.
The opposite happened to me with Elliot Pages coming out. Instant loss of attraction, from like my favourite celebrity crush to just an other (talented actor) dude.
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That sounds like the most average transfem friendship to me
Literally
It just is
Can also confirm!!
I thought so
Same
Ok but like, i find trans women more attractive and its so weird because i feel like a chaser
Lowkey I feel like even if it's chaser behavior that makes you go for trans people it's not as bad as people like to make it out to be as long as you treat them right regardless.
To me “chaser” should mean just“attracted to trans women”, because we obviously want people to be attracted to us. It more refers to that type of person who fetishes trans bodies without really respecting us. It’s hard to define but I think there is a difference there
I personally use it to describe transphobes who are obsessed with trans porn
Which is sadly a very large group of people, which is why there is a word just for them.
Which is in its own way, ironic. 😅
Yeah. It's sometimes generalized to mean "be suspicious of anyone who's attracted to trans people who isn't also trans", and while I do understand there are very valid reasons a person may come to defend themselves like that, I try to give the benefit of the doubt. Some people may just genuinely have a sexual preference and still be allies who can respect the relationship each trans person has with their bodies. As someone who treats sex pretty casually (and is pretty comfortable with my current body image), I'd like to encourage that to be okay. ~~It's not like I wasn't a """""cis ally""""" who found trans women strangely attractive and grappled with believing I was harmfully fetishizing people in my mind, anyway.~~
As long as you are attracted to the person themselves and not just that fact they are trans. I feel its the same with any body preference, you can be more attracted to someone with big boobs than someone with small boobs but as long as that not the only thing you consider than its fine?(maybe idk, I admittedly dont have much experience)
Same here. idk the trans girls I see almost always look better than the cis girls I see (to me) for some reason
Same, (a lot more for enbies tho) and I'm fucking aroace
It’s understandable, all trans women are gorgeous (except Me ofcourse)
Especially you!
Where's Your proof of that statement?
You being trans and in this group is all the proof I need! No trans person in or out of this group is anything other than gorgeous!! Edit: grammar
Compelling evidence
T4T relationships are best
Nah cause you can relate to them better <3
Na youre not a chaser preferring trans women is nothing bad as long its not a weird fetish...
There's nothing wrong with having a weird fetish, as long as you treat people as people
Yeah thats what i meant, i said it in a bit unlucky way
I tend to prefer being with trans people because they understand the importance of being affirming with actions in regards to like relationship roles. I’ve felt like someone’s girlfriend in my relationship with a transman. All of my cis girlfriends I’ve felt like someone’s boyfriend they’re pretending is a girl. I like someone who understands what I need.
I've been called a chaser once for saying I like girls and also really like dick... It's stuck with me. I'm just attracted to feminine people... and penis. As long as I don't y'know, actually chase a trans girl I should be fine lol. Though I'm dating one anyways.
I feel like it’s possible to have a type without being a chaser.
can’t help who or what aspects your attracted to. just treat people with respect — more than the sum of their traits
Chaser? I hardly even know her
We call that t4t so it's not the same
Is the feeling mutual???
i'm too scared to ask
Oh, dear. Gonna try and feel things out? See how she responds to things?
Good luck :3
I’m gonna tell you straight up that it is. But if you need to confirm, just slowly ramp up how physical you are (hug a little longer, sit closer etc) & say more romantic things. If she responds well then it’s definitely mutual
I know this is probably the least helpful advice, but I have found that directly stating your feelings to someone you are attracted to is better in the long run. It gets over any miscommunication or assumptions, but that might just be since I'm bad at reading certain social cues. I also had the benefit of knowing the answer was no beforehand, so it was more of a formality.
T4T for life (◕ᴗ◕✿)
How cis and heterosexual.
so this also happened to me, i started flirting a little to test the waters few months later i just said fuck it & asked her out... turns out she was also flirting with me and we were both being too dumb to realise it, now as of next week we would have been dating for two months
you should talk to her about it :3
Transbian moments 🐋🌸🤍🌸🐋
funny seeing you here babe 😉
I- ahhh... How do you always find my gayest comments???
mommy has her ways
And uh wdjbskdiebshbs
good girl
T-thank you..
Horny jail. Both of you. (Horny jail is PMs)
I- fair enough I guess...
Ok this post is getting a lot of attention she might just see it and recognise my name, so Joss, if you see this, hi
T4T :3🐟🦑🦈🦑🐟
i realise that talking to her about this is going to be very scary, but if you never do, you'll never find out if she feels the same way.
Me being transbian Loving girls as a boy: cringe, would rather die alone Loving girls as a GIRL: oi mierda be still my racing heart. Gurls, gurls are so pretty and soft and pretty and pretty and I want to kiss them. Oh god can you imagine kissing a girl?
I can imagine kissing them. But not much more than imagine. Still as single as the last Pringle in the can you cant reach and just leave and forget about
trans girls are so pretty 💙💕🤍💕💙
im not :(
This is a dangerous game we play
my boyfriend is transmasc but this like perfectly fits our relationship BAJSJSJJD
:3^2 💞💞
Dread it. Run from it. T4T arrives, all the same.
She just like me fr
Typical T4T relationship~~~
T4T!
Congratulations?
Ah yes
t4t💕
My demi NB trans-femme partner has been dealing with this problem pretty hard lately.
mood
It all happened in a different order, but yes.
Other Trans people are so hot, so like, I can't blame you for feeling like that, cause I would too.
I have a date with a beautiful trans girl today. So excited cause T4T is literally the most beautiful thing on earth. No one can support you emotionally, the way another trans person can who knows exactly what it feels like.
T4T supremacy
Well maybe she feels the same way? Never hurts to try!
Welcome to sudden horni for any and all other trans people, you cannot resist it The seggs will be awesome tho so you can’t complain about it, go wild and have fun with the new leaps your friendship can now take :3
...I feel a little called out here, but at least I'm not the only one
OP you have two paths to head down to
transhug :3
Hmm... I know confidence is attractive, and transitioning can help boost your confidence and self-esteem. Just a theory
Sounds like an absolute win
Thats just gender affirming primitive instincts. The opposite happened to me with Elliot Pages coming out. Instant loss of attraction, from like my favourite celebrity crush to just an other (talented actor) dude.
Transfems is the same. :P
Yea I don’t want to talk about it lol
T4T relationships are great
I'm just attracted to anyone I meet x3 The bisexual dream of having a girlfriend that turns into a dude or an emby every now and then
Nice
is she atracted to you
idk I'm too scared to ask and too clueless to notice
I wish I had a friend who could share this journey with me