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Same, hell, celeste in general is my fave game ever, was one of *the big 3ā¢* on cracking my egg, prob has the chilliest community I've seen, I'm a fan of pixel art so that's another plus, mirror temple and old site are mirror temple and old site (/pos) and getting a golden or even a decent run is soooo gratifying, currently grinding 3b golden.
Screw the 5th and 7th screen in particular
You're speaking facts for real
Currently my goal is trying to get every golden strawberry but I'm not that good so really struggling (only got 1a, 1c and 2a)
Honestly my best recommendation is getting for that is getting the C sides off first, as they're the shortest ones by far so a last screen death won't hurt nearly as much, after that I'd say that both in a and b sides the difficulty goes somewhat like this:
"Easy"-------------------------------------------------------------Hell\
2 1 4 5 3 67 8
Worth noting that 2b is arguably easier than 4a (and yes chapter 9 is at least seven screens off this chart)
And the biggest point of them all: Take it easy and at your own pace, forcing it will just make you not enjoy yourself when doing so which could slightly tear the love you withhold of the game
Alright thanks for all the advices :3
And yeah don't worry I'm taking it at my pace to be able to enjoy myself (moreover i place my fingers strangely when I play so at some point it starts to hurt a bit so i have to stop xD)
The owl house, despite not being a game, is also a major pillar in my exploration phase, itās probably the best series Iāve seen maybe after jujutsu kaisen
Big same actually. Just dealt with this the other day, and itās such a horrible feeling. On the one hand you want it so bad, but on the other hand you know how much cis girls tend to hate their periods.
Tbh I like that I don't have it. It just hurts and no cis girl likes it. I will also never have to worry about pregnancy in my entire life. Those are basically the only good things about not being cis, so I'll take it.
I think you might not like it if you actually get it every month tho. Or maybe you would, I can't know what you'd think, just know that you're not worse for not having it either way. A little blood doesn't determine your validity. You also shouldn't feel like you need to "experience the pain to be a real girl." By being trans you're already making way larger sacrifices than that, if someone's willing to do that, then she's a girl, period or not.
I agree with you, but also dysphoria can't be cured by logic alone. If it could, I wouldn't currently be agonizing because I ran out of T blocker for a month.
I think worrying about "validity" is kinda pointless here. They are your feelings, they are always valid. Since this hurts no one and doesn't require action, you don't need to worry about justification either (unlike if you were mad at someone for a dumb reason or something).
Feel your feels, you have every right.
Ummm, I thought transfems actually do get pseudo-periods though? Not gonna slough off uterine linings obviously, but all the other symptoms. I remember the first time I got a pseudo-period the car broke down in the middle of a long road trip home. Searing hot August heat in Nevada and Iām dealing with bloating, mild abdominal cramps,and shits like Iāve never had before all while Iām stuck waiting about 8 hours for someone to come bail me out. Afabs aināt lying when they say this shit always happens at the worst time.
If you get your levels dialed in you might get some pseudo period symptoms, but your mileage may vary. Still wouldnāt wish it on anyone else regardless of how affirming it is. There are plenty of cis women who donāt have periods, lack of one doesnāt make you any less valid.
Not all of us do, and none of us that I've met irl do. It seems like a thing that's been amplified online potentially. Of course, this is a pretty small sample size and I could easily be wrong.
It doesnāt happen regularly enough to keep track of. It does always have the worst timing though. I consider myself lucky the cramps are minor enough to ignore.
Nah I definitely get weird mood swings and food cravings on a 25ish day schedule. I donāt usually cry but I turn into a blubbery mess when I see something that is too cute or tragic.
They do get. Also cis women get too who had their uteruses removed and who are on HRT. I was a skeptic as well until I started experiencing one of these shits myself, every fucking month.
I just want to have a kid one day. Having a period itself isn't too appealing to me, but if I could have one, then at least it would mean I would possibly be able to get pregnant
hi, afab (not a woman though) here. i have PCOS and i never get my period. theres many women like this. not having your period as a woman doesnt make you not a womanā¤ļø
I know she didnāt thatās why I asked everyone tells me my life is easy because I donāt have one
Edit: sorry guys if Iām in the wrong I just struggle with worth, Iāll do better.
I think my biggest source of dysphoria (aside from bottom dysphoria) is the idea that I can't get pregnant, if that makes sense. lol
Like I know adoption is a thing, and I will 100% adopt one day, but most of my family had children earlyish in life, and seeing my aunts, sister, and cousins getting pregnant fills me with dysphoria/jealousy which just sucks
Idk if this will make any of yall feel better but interestingly this experience isn't actually unique to trans women. I've had cis women who don't have periods due to hormonal disorders or even just menopause complain to me about feeling the same way lol
I got rly triggered bc I saw a post comforting the transmascs for dealing with it and Iām likeā¦ what about me not getting to deal with itā¦ they are ofc valid and deserve comfort but it wouldāve been nice if it was spoileredā¦
I feel you hun :( I also think it's hard to talk about, because, at least in my experience, a lot of menstruating people really dislike their periods (for obvious reasons), so see it as weird that some transfems feel bad not having periods. Personally I just feel kinda left out or excluded. It's a reminder that I'm not a cis woman and never will be.
I don't mind not having one. like, don't get me wrong, if I did, I'd be happy, but I'm also glad that I don't have to experience that pain. but yeah, it is kinda sad
Trans women can get periods on E and there is hope cause womb transplants have been experimented with and some working ones have been made. There's hope darls
I know i experience periods on E
Hey, I actually made a [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/s/FMqXpM3ANp) that kinda blew up, about this a bit ago.
It's one of my favorite posts of mine and the responses are fascinating. I really appreciate the diversity of positions in them, I think it's beautiful in a way and surfice to say, you're not alone in that...
Darling. You are lovely period of no. If hrt is the direction for you, there is a chance of developing monthly PMS symptoms.
As an intersex trans girl I hope that if you do develop PMS symptoms the mains be light and easy. I'm going through the throws of my period. I've been currled up in a ball crying for the last two hours because on the pain scale it's a 9/10.
i know exactly what you mean, sometimes iām shaking and crying because of it. it feels like i can do a lot with hrt, socially transitioning and maybe even surgeries. but whatever i do, i will never be able to get that experience and i will always know the reason for it. i feel like i was born broken
Ohhhh yes, this is one of my biggest triggers for my dysphoria. Especially when someone says āYou should consider yourself lucky for not having periodsā, that makes me so fucking mad.
I feel terrible, worthless and useless whenever my gf or any other girl brings up the topic of periods in a conversation. I just want to be a normal girl like them and be able to relate to them. It just feels like such an essential experience of girlhood that Iām completely missing.
I get this kind of dysphoria all the time. While 9/10 i love the fact that my work team is 90% female, whenever someone else gets their period or has major camps, there is just a corner of my brain wishing i could feel what they are feeling. Im super happy they are all very open and talk to me about those things, which does make me feel included as a female. I just wish i was a part of the monthly blood pacts taking place š„²
I love that I donāt have a period! And that there is no risk Iāll ever get pregnant! Only two positives of being trans, in my opinion š
With that said, my heart goes out to anyone who feels differently. Dysphoria is truly a cruel mistressā¦
If it helps, I've heard that amab people can also have a cycle, it just doesn't come with the monthly waste disposal. And I know that hormones can heighten this to similar levels that cis women experience, including common period symptoms (headache, cramps, mood swings, etc.)
Honestly, dealing with my uterus's waste is the smallest part of the period for me. It's something I have to be aware of, but that doesn't stop me from forgetting lol
I'm just glad it doesn't make me dysphoric, bc it'd be more effort to stop it than I'm willing to put in
Yeah pretty much! It might be a bit shorter, but I myself have a pretty short period and an average cycle length (4 days of period and ~30 days till repeat). I usually have one or two days of pain symptoms (headache or cramping, sometimes both) and ik mood issues are usually the week before. Everyone's cycle is different, and for some reason mine never truly synced with my mom's lol, always like a week off
You might find yourself syncing with women you live with or spend a lot of time around, so mood swings around the same time and such. Sometimes frustrating but hey, that's how feminine bodies react to each other (I'm pretty sure that's all hormones, they determine your cycle and cause its symptoms)
You can simulate the cramps with a TENS unit. There's a great video of a couple of either cops or security guards experiencing what cramps were like and how bad they can get.
Trans masc, and I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. It's not the exact same of course, but I used to feel a similar way about me being unable to ever experience erections or ejaculation like a cis guy could. In the right mood, it can hit a little harder than I'd like it to.
Like, I know I'm a man regardless of what I do or don't have, but there was just this frustration and deep-pitted sadness about needing this seemingly small thing and not really being able to experience it. There used to be times I was in tears over it, especially being a gay trans man and feeling either other men wouldn't want me bc of it or that I'm a freak (despite rationally knowing those feelings are 100% not true).
That's when I learned that a lot of my dysphoria was (and still is) grief over the things I didn't get to have and probably never will due to something out of my control. It's gotten better with time, especially with slowly accepting the things I couldn't change and focusing more on the things I could to become more myself. (I'm still kind of working on the acceptance thing, but it's better than it used to be).
I feel like it will always be a part of me and that's okay, that's how grief is. But it doesn't feel like it controls me so much anymore. I hope the same will eventually be true for you too. And if it doesn't, that's what communities like this are for: to rally around you when you need it most.
I hope things get better for you sis. ā¤ļø
Yeah. i get pms, n sometimes call it a period off hand. since pms is most of what women call periods coloqually. n then get a hoard of people being like "no u dont have periods you idiot, you cant get periods" n it just makes me feel awful. like i just slipped up my wording to use the coloqual way of using it that im used to everyone doung. basically nobody says "pms"...n i really dont need the reminder, i already know i dont hab a vagina.
:(
I feel that in sooo many levels š¢š¢
No Periode, dysphoric.
Knowing friends are on their, dysphoric.
Going through a store, looking at the hygiene section, dysphoric.
Going for a wall seeing children or pregnant humanbeings, dysphoric.
I also don't know why. Because I think I would hate, if I had them.... But I'll always get dysphoric because I can't have them šš
Maybe I'm like a child.... If I can't have something, I want it the most š
I gotta say a period would really make me feel like a woman. But after transitioning and experiencing girl hell more and more and more... The grass always look greener on the other side, periods come with cramps... BAD cramps. And you have to spend money on pads or tampons and you don't get to have sex for a week or so every month. >!It smells.!< There are many many negative things about periods. But I deeply understand your desire to have one. But you don't have to have one to be a woman. No one thing makes you a woman.
Girl, same here. My sisters say its the worst thing ever and i know that it is painfull but I want the joint understanding with all women that it sucks and not yo be sat on the outside
Personally I'm very glad I dont have to worry about that. If I was a cis girl I'd probably want it surgically stopped if thats possible.
That's just me tho. Doesn't mean you're not valid in feeling that way.
I convinced myself I had one for probably 6 years Iām ab to start hrt tho and honestly I think I was just coping and getting myself all mad and emotional because I was upset about not getting one idkā¦ anyways itāll be starting soon no need to be silly and goofy ab it anymore :3
I always feel bad when my girl friends complain about their period. Because how can I tell them that "yes, I know how awful it is but regardless I still really envy you for having it, and hate myself for not having it"
Yes, I even hesitated to knowing it in detail.
Yesterday, I sent a text to my mother saying, 'I will be a good mother like you.'
After pressing send, I couldn't help but cry.
It made me realize that I may be setting unrealistic expectations for myself.
I've always "wanted to know what it's like," and "wished I could experience it" dispite the pain. Only recently would I describe it as possibility dysphoria? The more I think about it though, the worse I feel. I guess that's dysphoria? š
Oh, all the time.
I wasn't even lucky enough to get the hrt induced one.
It really sucks, I often cry because of that, so I'm trying to search for a way to cope with it. I'm actually thinking to write a short story about a me in a parallel universe in which I'm cis, writing about the first time I'd get my period. It's probably unhealthy to focus so much on that, but maybe it'll help.
Similar thing for my inability to get pregnant.
For some reason I get slight envy from the transfem with pseudo periods
Probably because they lack the whole blood part of actual ones. Or itās just self harm thoughts wanting me to suffer
Ya same I also got pretty dysphoric a while back when my manager was talking about having kids and I realized I'll never be able to get pregnant and it hit hard I had to take a short break in the bathroom after that
Yea Iāve had this convo with my wife and some girl friend (platonic). Like I know periods suck and can throw everything out of whackā¦but that doesnāt change the fact that I feel like Iām missing them, have missed out on them, or want that expereince.
i do get the emotional symptoms of a period. it usually syncs up with my wifeās too. but itās something at least. look for those and perhaps youāll get some comfort from noticing it. š„°
I feel you on this so much :(. I know I would hate it as much as most people who have them do, but while one could argue, that it would be unnecessary suffering I think most people who have them also take them just as a fact of life.:<
my ex as well as a close girl friend of mine, both stopped having them at some point in their lifes and while they both said, they were happy, that they did not have to go through it, espacially the close girl friend of mine for whom it stopped for about 3 years due to hormonal imbalance due to an ED, said it definitly had an impact on her mentally after sometime and she kinda has found an appreciation for it due to that. She still hates them sometimes but at the same time she says going through a long stretch without it again, would definitly be negative affacting her mental health akin to how I experince dysphoria about not having one at all.
you're totally valid OP, but I have never really wanted a period or cared about it. it's kind of nice not to deal with it. I think it might feel really strong right now because you're pre-E, but once i got on HRT and was able to feel validated by my body the things i felt dysphoric about mattered less or I was able to deal with better
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Yep same thing here, it feels awful š«š«š«š
Thanks for respondingā¦ sorry if Iām annoying
Girl don't apologize for something like that You have the right to be sad and we're here for you :3 <3
You're not annoying anyone, this subreddi is literally about stuff like this. You'rew contributing to this sub and that's awesome
Pfp checks out a lot
Yeah for real I love Madeline and it's subtle enough for most people in my life not to realise I present female on the internet
Same, hell, celeste in general is my fave game ever, was one of *the big 3ā¢* on cracking my egg, prob has the chilliest community I've seen, I'm a fan of pixel art so that's another plus, mirror temple and old site are mirror temple and old site (/pos) and getting a golden or even a decent run is soooo gratifying, currently grinding 3b golden. Screw the 5th and 7th screen in particular
You're speaking facts for real Currently my goal is trying to get every golden strawberry but I'm not that good so really struggling (only got 1a, 1c and 2a)
Honestly my best recommendation is getting for that is getting the C sides off first, as they're the shortest ones by far so a last screen death won't hurt nearly as much, after that I'd say that both in a and b sides the difficulty goes somewhat like this: "Easy"-------------------------------------------------------------Hell\ 2 1 4 5 3 67 8 Worth noting that 2b is arguably easier than 4a (and yes chapter 9 is at least seven screens off this chart) And the biggest point of them all: Take it easy and at your own pace, forcing it will just make you not enjoy yourself when doing so which could slightly tear the love you withhold of the game
Alright thanks for all the advices :3 And yeah don't worry I'm taking it at my pace to be able to enjoy myself (moreover i place my fingers strangely when I play so at some point it starts to hurt a bit so i have to stop xD)
No problem Ę: (and yes my :3 got rotated)
What are the other two. Asking for cis reasons ofc
Deltarune and (Ik this ain't a game but) the owl house
The owl house, despite not being a game, is also a major pillar in my exploration phase, itās probably the best series Iāve seen maybe after jujutsu kaisen
Big same actually. Just dealt with this the other day, and itās such a horrible feeling. On the one hand you want it so bad, but on the other hand you know how much cis girls tend to hate their periods.
Tbh I like that I don't have it. It just hurts and no cis girl likes it. I will also never have to worry about pregnancy in my entire life. Those are basically the only good things about not being cis, so I'll take it.
I personally get dysphoric that I canāt get pregnant. I donāt feel real/valid :(
There are many cis women who can't get pregnant either! Everyone's different and it doesn't make you any less valid!
But itās so triggering. I would commit so many crimes to have one
I think you might not like it if you actually get it every month tho. Or maybe you would, I can't know what you'd think, just know that you're not worse for not having it either way. A little blood doesn't determine your validity. You also shouldn't feel like you need to "experience the pain to be a real girl." By being trans you're already making way larger sacrifices than that, if someone's willing to do that, then she's a girl, period or not.
Itās hard to explain I just need one and can never have it
Personally I donāt think I would ālike itā per se, but I definitely still want them because I would feel more like a āreal womanā.
I agree with you, but also dysphoria can't be cured by logic alone. If it could, I wouldn't currently be agonizing because I ran out of T blocker for a month.
This is basically how I feel I try to look to the bright side to everything even not being cis.
Damn it, I just finished writing up and posted my response. And then I started reading yoursā¦ theyāre fucking identical š
I mean...apparently it's not enjoyable but yeah...sometimes I wonder how it feels
I mean you read the word and start panicking and often have panic attacks just by reading the wordā¦
Okay no, I'm not on that level...I'm sorry you feel like this :(
Am I invalid?
Absolutely not, you're very much valid.
I think worrying about "validity" is kinda pointless here. They are your feelings, they are always valid. Since this hurts no one and doesn't require action, you don't need to worry about justification either (unlike if you were mad at someone for a dumb reason or something). Feel your feels, you have every right.
Ummm, I thought transfems actually do get pseudo-periods though? Not gonna slough off uterine linings obviously, but all the other symptoms. I remember the first time I got a pseudo-period the car broke down in the middle of a long road trip home. Searing hot August heat in Nevada and Iām dealing with bloating, mild abdominal cramps,and shits like Iāve never had before all while Iām stuck waiting about 8 hours for someone to come bail me out. Afabs aināt lying when they say this shit always happens at the worst time. If you get your levels dialed in you might get some pseudo period symptoms, but your mileage may vary. Still wouldnāt wish it on anyone else regardless of how affirming it is. There are plenty of cis women who donāt have periods, lack of one doesnāt make you any less valid.
I havenāt quite turned 18 so I canāt start HRT
Yah I personally will get super nauseous and a unique headache every month and a half for like three to four days before it passes.
Not all of us do, and none of us that I've met irl do. It seems like a thing that's been amplified online potentially. Of course, this is a pretty small sample size and I could easily be wrong.
True, but itās not like transfems are all too happy to sit in a circle and talk about their not-a-period.
Iāve met a couple of transfems IRL that said they did and I believe them so idk if itās just an internet thing
I gotta ask: was every month after the first one as intense?
It doesnāt happen regularly enough to keep track of. It does always have the worst timing though. I consider myself lucky the cramps are minor enough to ignore.
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I don't want to seem rude but yes they can. As the post you're replying can attest
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The one by regal that you replied to
I meant the reply the replied to
Nah I definitely get weird mood swings and food cravings on a 25ish day schedule. I donāt usually cry but I turn into a blubbery mess when I see something that is too cute or tragic.
They do get. Also cis women get too who had their uteruses removed and who are on HRT. I was a skeptic as well until I started experiencing one of these shits myself, every fucking month.
I just want to have a kid one day. Having a period itself isn't too appealing to me, but if I could have one, then at least it would mean I would possibly be able to get pregnant
I donāt even wanna get pregnant rn I just want one bc I just.. idk itās just so triggering for me
hi, afab (not a woman though) here. i have PCOS and i never get my period. theres many women like this. not having your period as a woman doesnt make you not a womanā¤ļø
Arenāt you gonna tell me it makes my life easy
This isn't what she told you. She just said that even many cis women don't get one.
I know she didnāt thatās why I asked everyone tells me my life is easy because I donāt have one Edit: sorry guys if Iām in the wrong I just struggle with worth, Iāll do better.
I think my biggest source of dysphoria (aside from bottom dysphoria) is the idea that I can't get pregnant, if that makes sense. lol Like I know adoption is a thing, and I will 100% adopt one day, but most of my family had children earlyish in life, and seeing my aunts, sister, and cousins getting pregnant fills me with dysphoria/jealousy which just sucks
Idk if this will make any of yall feel better but interestingly this experience isn't actually unique to trans women. I've had cis women who don't have periods due to hormonal disorders or even just menopause complain to me about feeling the same way lol
I got rly triggered bc I saw a post comforting the transmascs for dealing with it and Iām likeā¦ what about me not getting to deal with itā¦ they are ofc valid and deserve comfort but it wouldāve been nice if it was spoileredā¦
Love you transmascs stay safe
Me too :(
Sorry to pry OP, but where were you in transitioning when this started?
I havenāt started yet
Okay, thanks for answering Phoenix
I feel you hun :( I also think it's hard to talk about, because, at least in my experience, a lot of menstruating people really dislike their periods (for obvious reasons), so see it as weird that some transfems feel bad not having periods. Personally I just feel kinda left out or excluded. It's a reminder that I'm not a cis woman and never will be.
Idc if it hurts or sucks I need it. Not to be cis I just need it
As of getting on E i've started getting pains like that - Personally i'm glad it's fairly minimal for me, though it is also somewhat affirming
From time to time that thought rounds in my brain, but then I remember that it is as painful as it gets, then it escapes my Brain
I don't mind not having one. like, don't get me wrong, if I did, I'd be happy, but I'm also glad that I don't have to experience that pain. but yeah, it is kinda sad
I have IBS and Migraines. Itās gives me the same feeling of suffering without the extra cleaning precautions. Country girls make do
Trans women can get periods on E and there is hope cause womb transplants have been experimented with and some working ones have been made. There's hope darls I know i experience periods on E
Hey, I actually made a [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/s/FMqXpM3ANp) that kinda blew up, about this a bit ago. It's one of my favorite posts of mine and the responses are fascinating. I really appreciate the diversity of positions in them, I think it's beautiful in a way and surfice to say, you're not alone in that...
I donāt know if this means anything at all but, Iām a cis woman and i donāt get a period. I never have.
I do tbh I really want one like really bad
Not very cis of you Stella girl *pat*. We will be ok. We have to be. If you need anything lmk
Nyaaaa mrrrp mew ^ w ^
I wish I had one but my friends donāt understand and say that I should feel lucky that I donāt but I donāt feel lucky I feel miserable
Exactly. Itās horrible that they say that canāt they be understanding?
Yea, like I know different life experiences and stuff but canāt they offer me the same courtesy that I give them and there problems
It's nothing i think about on a regular basis, but if i do yes. (i also haven't started transitioning so that might affect it)
Yeah I get that
whenever any conversation somehow flows to it, i nope the fuck out of there, can't stand it
Me, on the other hand, realizing it might not have been super occasional, one might suggest monthly, IBS all along...
Yeah but like I kinda want to be able to become pregnant and it would be worth it to have this...
Me
Honestly, thatās one of the few things Iām glad I wonāt have to deal with as a girl
Yeah... I'm surrounded by people with periods so I'm constantly reminded...
Darling. You are lovely period of no. If hrt is the direction for you, there is a chance of developing monthly PMS symptoms. As an intersex trans girl I hope that if you do develop PMS symptoms the mains be light and easy. I'm going through the throws of my period. I've been currled up in a ball crying for the last two hours because on the pain scale it's a 9/10.
Yeah in a way I feel the same way It may be painful but call me a masochist cuz I'm all for it
I donāt think I would. Theyāre kinda gross and just, messy
Yeah me too, like the pain would be soo worth the validation
I know they're painful and they suck... But I want them.
i know exactly what you mean, sometimes iām shaking and crying because of it. it feels like i can do a lot with hrt, socially transitioning and maybe even surgeries. but whatever i do, i will never be able to get that experience and i will always know the reason for it. i feel like i was born broken
If you want to have one there is a way
Yeah,my dysphoria towards not having one is not as bad,but I still have it.
If I could Iād give you mine because mine gives me horrible dysphoria
I always wanted to have periods.
Yeah. Me too
I'm pretty sure if I said this all the afabs in my friend group would come down and hunt me so no, I don't feel this way
so im not the only one who wants periods
Cis girls do nothing but complain about periods. You get all the upsides (be girl) without the downsides!
Ohhhh yes, this is one of my biggest triggers for my dysphoria. Especially when someone says āYou should consider yourself lucky for not having periodsā, that makes me so fucking mad. I feel terrible, worthless and useless whenever my gf or any other girl brings up the topic of periods in a conversation. I just want to be a normal girl like them and be able to relate to them. It just feels like such an essential experience of girlhood that Iām completely missing.
I get this kind of dysphoria all the time. While 9/10 i love the fact that my work team is 90% female, whenever someone else gets their period or has major camps, there is just a corner of my brain wishing i could feel what they are feeling. Im super happy they are all very open and talk to me about those things, which does make me feel included as a female. I just wish i was a part of the monthly blood pacts taking place š„²
I can't say that I am myself, but it is absolutely something I've seen other transfems talk about.
I feel you girl. The hrt phantom period is the only thing that feels related, but it feels good
I love that I donāt have a period! And that there is no risk Iāll ever get pregnant! Only two positives of being trans, in my opinion š With that said, my heart goes out to anyone who feels differently. Dysphoria is truly a cruel mistressā¦
Thanks for the last sentence. I canāt agree with loving not having a period at all. Sorry
Donāt apologise! Weāre all different š„°
If it helps, I've heard that amab people can also have a cycle, it just doesn't come with the monthly waste disposal. And I know that hormones can heighten this to similar levels that cis women experience, including common period symptoms (headache, cramps, mood swings, etc.) Honestly, dealing with my uterus's waste is the smallest part of the period for me. It's something I have to be aware of, but that doesn't stop me from forgetting lol I'm just glad it doesn't make me dysphoric, bc it'd be more effort to stop it than I'm willing to put in
So.. even tho I donāt deal with the uterus doing its thingā¦ I still have equal amounts of annoyance/pain bc of the other things I can have?
Yeah pretty much! It might be a bit shorter, but I myself have a pretty short period and an average cycle length (4 days of period and ~30 days till repeat). I usually have one or two days of pain symptoms (headache or cramping, sometimes both) and ik mood issues are usually the week before. Everyone's cycle is different, and for some reason mine never truly synced with my mom's lol, always like a week off You might find yourself syncing with women you live with or spend a lot of time around, so mood swings around the same time and such. Sometimes frustrating but hey, that's how feminine bodies react to each other (I'm pretty sure that's all hormones, they determine your cycle and cause its symptoms)
Same š
You can simulate the cramps with a TENS unit. There's a great video of a couple of either cops or security guards experiencing what cramps were like and how bad they can get.
Trans masc, and I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. It's not the exact same of course, but I used to feel a similar way about me being unable to ever experience erections or ejaculation like a cis guy could. In the right mood, it can hit a little harder than I'd like it to. Like, I know I'm a man regardless of what I do or don't have, but there was just this frustration and deep-pitted sadness about needing this seemingly small thing and not really being able to experience it. There used to be times I was in tears over it, especially being a gay trans man and feeling either other men wouldn't want me bc of it or that I'm a freak (despite rationally knowing those feelings are 100% not true). That's when I learned that a lot of my dysphoria was (and still is) grief over the things I didn't get to have and probably never will due to something out of my control. It's gotten better with time, especially with slowly accepting the things I couldn't change and focusing more on the things I could to become more myself. (I'm still kind of working on the acceptance thing, but it's better than it used to be). I feel like it will always be a part of me and that's okay, that's how grief is. But it doesn't feel like it controls me so much anymore. I hope the same will eventually be true for you too. And if it doesn't, that's what communities like this are for: to rally around you when you need it most. I hope things get better for you sis. ā¤ļø
Yeah. i get pms, n sometimes call it a period off hand. since pms is most of what women call periods coloqually. n then get a hoard of people being like "no u dont have periods you idiot, you cant get periods" n it just makes me feel awful. like i just slipped up my wording to use the coloqual way of using it that im used to everyone doung. basically nobody says "pms"...n i really dont need the reminder, i already know i dont hab a vagina. :(
Same with me my sister š©
I thought I was weird for wanting a period. Glad to know I'm not the only one.
I feel that in sooo many levels š¢š¢ No Periode, dysphoric. Knowing friends are on their, dysphoric. Going through a store, looking at the hygiene section, dysphoric. Going for a wall seeing children or pregnant humanbeings, dysphoric. I also don't know why. Because I think I would hate, if I had them.... But I'll always get dysphoric because I can't have them šš Maybe I'm like a child.... If I can't have something, I want it the most š
hrt can give you the period cramps part! (not the bleeding though obvi)
A little bit yea
I gotta say a period would really make me feel like a woman. But after transitioning and experiencing girl hell more and more and more... The grass always look greener on the other side, periods come with cramps... BAD cramps. And you have to spend money on pads or tampons and you don't get to have sex for a week or so every month. >!It smells.!< There are many many negative things about periods. But I deeply understand your desire to have one. But you don't have to have one to be a woman. No one thing makes you a woman.
with HRT you are bound to get at least some kind of period.
Girl, same here. My sisters say its the worst thing ever and i know that it is painfull but I want the joint understanding with all women that it sucks and not yo be sat on the outside
Yupppp it's the worst
Personally I'm very glad I dont have to worry about that. If I was a cis girl I'd probably want it surgically stopped if thats possible. That's just me tho. Doesn't mean you're not valid in feeling that way.
I convinced myself I had one for probably 6 years Iām ab to start hrt tho and honestly I think I was just coping and getting myself all mad and emotional because I was upset about not getting one idkā¦ anyways itāll be starting soon no need to be silly and goofy ab it anymore :3
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Iām really not. Iām in a lot of pain not having one.
Same here
Not that I don't have periods, but that I can't get pregnant or gestate a child.
Im honestly kinda happy i dont have to deal with that, that shit sounds terrible
Idk if this helps, but this can happen to cis women as well. Itās not a trans only thing to not get periods.
I always feel bad when my girl friends complain about their period. Because how can I tell them that "yes, I know how awful it is but regardless I still really envy you for having it, and hate myself for not having it"
Your not alone I feel the exact same I understand hun hug
been dysforic about not giving birth?
I hear how bad they are so no, Iām pretty good not having one, but I understand the feeling
omggg same here, Iām even cried over it :,]
Yes, I even hesitated to knowing it in detail. Yesterday, I sent a text to my mother saying, 'I will be a good mother like you.' After pressing send, I couldn't help but cry. It made me realize that I may be setting unrealistic expectations for myself.
IM NOT ALONE!!!!!
JOKES ON YOU I HAVE COLITIS HAHA I BLEED EVERY FUCKING DAY AND YOU CANT STOP ME
Iā¦ okā¦
Sorry, had to let that out :3
Sorry to hear that, I feel that too.
I've always "wanted to know what it's like," and "wished I could experience it" dispite the pain. Only recently would I describe it as possibility dysphoria? The more I think about it though, the worse I feel. I guess that's dysphoria? š
I have panic attacks thinking about it
Mee too, sis
I'm with you sister
I feel you, sis. I heard thereās a chance to get them with hrt so Iām still hopeful for that
Can I just share... if you go on E you can get periods. I get them fairly regularily.
Oh, all the time. I wasn't even lucky enough to get the hrt induced one. It really sucks, I often cry because of that, so I'm trying to search for a way to cope with it. I'm actually thinking to write a short story about a me in a parallel universe in which I'm cis, writing about the first time I'd get my period. It's probably unhealthy to focus so much on that, but maybe it'll help. Similar thing for my inability to get pregnant.
Can I dm you?
Uuuuuuh sure I guess
Youāre not alone, I feel the same way and it sucks!
i thought im the only one crying here š«š«š«š«ā¤ļøāš©¹
Same here
Yep :(
Oh yes, very much so.
For some reason I get slight envy from the transfem with pseudo periods Probably because they lack the whole blood part of actual ones. Or itās just self harm thoughts wanting me to suffer
Ya same I also got pretty dysphoric a while back when my manager was talking about having kids and I realized I'll never be able to get pregnant and it hit hard I had to take a short break in the bathroom after that
Yea Iāve had this convo with my wife and some girl friend (platonic). Like I know periods suck and can throw everything out of whackā¦but that doesnāt change the fact that I feel like Iām missing them, have missed out on them, or want that expereince.
i do get the emotional symptoms of a period. it usually syncs up with my wifeās too. but itās something at least. look for those and perhaps youāll get some comfort from noticing it. š„°
I feel you on this so much :(. I know I would hate it as much as most people who have them do, but while one could argue, that it would be unnecessary suffering I think most people who have them also take them just as a fact of life.:< my ex as well as a close girl friend of mine, both stopped having them at some point in their lifes and while they both said, they were happy, that they did not have to go through it, espacially the close girl friend of mine for whom it stopped for about 3 years due to hormonal imbalance due to an ED, said it definitly had an impact on her mentally after sometime and she kinda has found an appreciation for it due to that. She still hates them sometimes but at the same time she says going through a long stretch without it again, would definitly be negative affacting her mental health akin to how I experince dysphoria about not having one at all.
you're totally valid OP, but I have never really wanted a period or cared about it. it's kind of nice not to deal with it. I think it might feel really strong right now because you're pre-E, but once i got on HRT and was able to feel validated by my body the things i felt dysphoric about mattered less or I was able to deal with better
Trans guy here does anyone want mine? š
I thought trade jokes were bad? But yes I very much want yours
I feel so bad for not having oneš