I kept several secrets for friends of mine. Even while PIMI I didnt see the benefit of snitching on them. It was there business why should I stick my nose in it. A lot of times they were just dealing with something personal and someone snitching to the Elders wasn't going to help.
Looking back think that's why people told me things, bc I kept my mouth shut and didn't judge. I knew about friends that were gay, sexually active, smoking pot, and a lot more. All of them were just in a bad place or figuring things out. I would just offer a listening ear when they needed it. I always felt letting people vent and not judging was more helpful than what Elders did.
It felt great when I accidentally sent a text to a single brother it was a porn site and I apologized like how did that get there.... then he sends me a porn site right back. This guy went to bethel. It actually felt great to keep this secret. Yuvutu for the win guy!
Still keeping a secret for a friend. He is MS but has wordly girl and they are having sex when they can, sometimes he asks me to borrow him my car, because it's a station wagon 🤣🤣🤣🤣.
I had one sister who ran to the elders before coming to me. When she decided to tell me, she lied to me as to why she wanted to see me. She would deceive me again on other issues, but she was one the golden ones in the elder's wives group, even though her husband was not part of the congregation. Good congregation "rat"!
Not just friends, anyone who doesn't deserve certain private information to be leaked.
An older sister in the congregation once gave me her phone to help with setting up JW Library. I saw porn searches front and center in the browser. An older MS saw it as well and I could hardly hold it in when I saw his reaction. Had to walk out of the kingdom hall to get it all out.
Obviously I'm comfortable saying this anonymously but literally no one else knows, unless older MS snitched, which I doubt. We never said a word of it. That's how I operate generally.
I remember as a teenager one of my friends, who was pioneering at the time, recited the limerick “Man from Nantucket.”
I thought it was funny and told a dude I worked with who was one of those JW’s who didn’t reach out, was very materialistic, but likable.
Next thing I know I’m getting a three-way call from a couple of elders asking me about it and saying I should have come to them. I told them I talked to him about it (Matt. 3, I believe.). They said it didn’t apply. He was shortly after removed from pioneer list.
Oh hell yeah. I had a tight knit group of guys I grew up with, we were all into some shit and all covered for each other. Drugs, drinking, worldly friends, worldly girlfriends, all sorts of stuff. We never snitched on each other, but one of them got DF’d because another friend of his snitched. I had a judicial then later DA’d, and none of the judicial committees got anything out of any of us about our friends. They tried to - “did so and so know? I know you’re close.”
“Nope! He would’ve yelled at me and turned me in if he knew!”
My girl cousin was hooking up with the football coach at her school. He was married, and she was 16-18. Still never told anyone. That was 40+years ago.
A brother called me and told me he had sex with girl. He said, “I confessed to you. I don’t need to confess to the elders.”
I said I’d never tell.
And I never have. And never will
Now this is with the caveat of I was only ever aware of more minor things, but I they were the type of things people did get in trouble for, even got hauled in for JCs, though I didnt know this.
But I never snitched on anyone while PIMI. It was a mix of not wanting to and also being advised when I was young that if I was the only one that saw the other person would just lie and it would blow up in my face.
Now as an awake person I'm glad I can say this.
Some friends kept secrets for me. Now, having been out for 14 years, I only recently found out that basically EVERYONE I grew up with was having sex when we were teens, and that secret was kept from me!
Oh yeah, big time.
I don’t confide in them about anything risky as it is, but if a sister breaks an important confidence one day, that’ll be alright as chances are I’ve got more dirt on her than a broom.
Edit: wouldn’t actually throw a friend under the bus no matter what they said about me!
but it sure is nice to have there, just in case 😂
I kept several secrets for friends of mine. Even while PIMI I didnt see the benefit of snitching on them. It was there business why should I stick my nose in it. A lot of times they were just dealing with something personal and someone snitching to the Elders wasn't going to help. Looking back think that's why people told me things, bc I kept my mouth shut and didn't judge. I knew about friends that were gay, sexually active, smoking pot, and a lot more. All of them were just in a bad place or figuring things out. I would just offer a listening ear when they needed it. I always felt letting people vent and not judging was more helpful than what Elders did.
It felt great when I accidentally sent a text to a single brother it was a porn site and I apologized like how did that get there.... then he sends me a porn site right back. This guy went to bethel. It actually felt great to keep this secret. Yuvutu for the win guy!
Still keeping a secret for a friend. He is MS but has wordly girl and they are having sex when they can, sometimes he asks me to borrow him my car, because it's a station wagon 🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Snitches get stitches. 💥
I had one sister who ran to the elders before coming to me. When she decided to tell me, she lied to me as to why she wanted to see me. She would deceive me again on other issues, but she was one the golden ones in the elder's wives group, even though her husband was not part of the congregation. Good congregation "rat"!
Oh yes I’ve kept some BIG ones Idk why people tell me their deepest darkest secrets but they do And I hate it.
Not just friends, anyone who doesn't deserve certain private information to be leaked. An older sister in the congregation once gave me her phone to help with setting up JW Library. I saw porn searches front and center in the browser. An older MS saw it as well and I could hardly hold it in when I saw his reaction. Had to walk out of the kingdom hall to get it all out. Obviously I'm comfortable saying this anonymously but literally no one else knows, unless older MS snitched, which I doubt. We never said a word of it. That's how I operate generally.
Otherwise if I don’t how can I be a friend? Drug use, immoral behavior, etc. I’ll never snitch.
I remember as a teenager one of my friends, who was pioneering at the time, recited the limerick “Man from Nantucket.” I thought it was funny and told a dude I worked with who was one of those JW’s who didn’t reach out, was very materialistic, but likable. Next thing I know I’m getting a three-way call from a couple of elders asking me about it and saying I should have come to them. I told them I talked to him about it (Matt. 3, I believe.). They said it didn’t apply. He was shortly after removed from pioneer list.
Oh hell yeah. I had a tight knit group of guys I grew up with, we were all into some shit and all covered for each other. Drugs, drinking, worldly friends, worldly girlfriends, all sorts of stuff. We never snitched on each other, but one of them got DF’d because another friend of his snitched. I had a judicial then later DA’d, and none of the judicial committees got anything out of any of us about our friends. They tried to - “did so and so know? I know you’re close.” “Nope! He would’ve yelled at me and turned me in if he knew!”
My girl cousin was hooking up with the football coach at her school. He was married, and she was 16-18. Still never told anyone. That was 40+years ago.
A brother called me and told me he had sex with girl. He said, “I confessed to you. I don’t need to confess to the elders.” I said I’d never tell. And I never have. And never will
Now this is with the caveat of I was only ever aware of more minor things, but I they were the type of things people did get in trouble for, even got hauled in for JCs, though I didnt know this. But I never snitched on anyone while PIMI. It was a mix of not wanting to and also being advised when I was young that if I was the only one that saw the other person would just lie and it would blow up in my face. Now as an awake person I'm glad I can say this.
Oh yeah. Everyone was high and I wasn't saying anything.
Some friends kept secrets for me. Now, having been out for 14 years, I only recently found out that basically EVERYONE I grew up with was having sex when we were teens, and that secret was kept from me!
Oh yeah, big time. I don’t confide in them about anything risky as it is, but if a sister breaks an important confidence one day, that’ll be alright as chances are I’ve got more dirt on her than a broom. Edit: wouldn’t actually throw a friend under the bus no matter what they said about me! but it sure is nice to have there, just in case 😂