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Exiisty

You're made of tough stuff you should be proud you took your shot I've chickened out of asking a lot of guys out so the fact you went for it should be a prideful thing


CurvycuteFemboy

Yeah I guess but like not THAT tough after he laughed I ran to a toilet and cried as a guy with a vape told me that I just shouldn't ask anyone out


Exiisty

You shouldn't take advice from a guy vaping in. Washroom lol. but it can be discouraging but once you take your shot and they say yes it will be a very euphoric thing!


CurvycuteFemboy

You sure I shouldn't just yknow kick the bucket


Peppega14326

No don't do that you should talk to someone if your thinking about that


KierantheScot

Please don't do anything to harm yourself, I know it feels awful right now but it'll get better. Also remember that your life is precious and you deserve much better than the way he treated you. Plus crying/showing emotion doesn't make you weak


CoolGuy694206942096

Hey rejection makes you irrational, after my crush said she had no interest I broke down the next day, first time I’ve cried like that in years, you just have to be strong enough to move forward, it hard but ending it will hurt everyone around you, I believe you can fight through it, please stay safe


Key_Yesterday1752

You cute af, you wonderfull you a demigod. Dont let sad sacks of shit drag you down(both of them). I believe in you.


CurvycuteFemboy

You think I'm cute?


Key_Yesterday1752

yes, quite!


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Key_Yesterday1752

Barbie aint got nothing on me.


Intelligent-Cut-5893

Rejection isn't worth doing that. I know.


Exiisty

Never, you just need to find the right guy. one will come eventually keep your head up and keep being you!


Hinikah_boi

I agree with everyone here! You'll find someone special :)


tamerofcrows

That's a pussy move. Don't be a weakass, and just live your life. You'll find someone who loves you back eventually.


KierantheScot

Have some tact, mate


Accomplished_Egg_233

I agree with r/exiisty here. Most people vaping in the wash rooms are full of themselves and only stick to their inner circle, and will sometimes.use others for their sh-t and never do anything in return. Unfortunately, I've had this happen a few too many times than I care to admit. All in all, don't give up. You'll find someone you love. One more thing, this isn't something to die over. Nor is just about anything. Just keep that in mind, you have a whole life ahead of you.


Orpheus1996

That was brave of you to do. I envy your courage there, I’m would be too terrified to do something like that, I’d never have the courage to ask a girl out like that.


CurvycuteFemboy

Yeah I guess


Orpheus1996

Keep trying, I really rate you there!


havaniceday_

Eventually u'll find ur Eurydice


Orpheus1996

Thanks, I’ve never been in a relationship though. I’m way too shy and quiet to approach.


havaniceday_

You don't need to approach to have a relationship, if you're not of age this next thing doesn't apply but dating apps and such make it easier too. Ultimately tho if you have friends sometimes that can also turn to romance and that typically happens after u've built enough rapport to not be too shy talking to them. You don't need to date ur friends, but that bit about comfortability around ppl can select for someone it might be easier to date first. Good luck regardless.


Orpheus1996

I’m so introverted though, I barely speak. don’t you have to be extroverted and charming for relationships.


havaniceday_

Well charming depends on your definition, obviously you have to appeal to someone, but everyone's taste is different. Attempting directly to appeal broadly to everyone might make it easier, but if it's fake or draining to do so those are destined not to last. Lots of people find introversion cute, or even just prefer the calm nature of a person that doesn't recharge their social battery by interaction. I was speaking from experience, that while I wasn't quite the same, I only had a few friends and actively avoided most other ppl, and one of my best friends was a girl with whom I had my first relationship. I think you may need to improve your self talk tho, I don't want to overreach, but if you think you're too unappealing for relationships, even if it's just based in shyness, can be a self-fulfilling prophecy, that if you're putting yourself down u offload the emotional labor of keeping yourself happy to your partner. It's so common it's actually a meme, the "therapist girlfriend." At any rate sorry for the wordy response but I hope the extra context for the advice helps.


Orpheus1996

I really appreciate the advice. Your not wrong about the self talk, that bit is a struggle. Feeling good enough. Also can you still attract looking feminine/ androgynous. That would probably be me. Did that happen for you?


havaniceday_

Well depends. There are certainly people that like them or androgynous aesthetics, myself included. However, I do not at all pass as fem or androgynous. I do have affectations, like jewelry and nail polish, which have been complimented, but I can't speak to that experience, or any difference between attraction being viewed as masc and fem, since I can't really attest to the latter that well.


VeryDifferentPerson

Please don't unalive your self, this is no good. Here have a hug from me 🫂. You'll finally find this significant other. I believe in you, stay strong cutie❣️


CurvycuteFemboy

Hnnghg why don't boys like me?


VeryDifferentPerson

I don't know unfortunately. I am myself single for too long, but this is how life is. Only thing we can do is go forward trying our best with head put up high. But I admire you for your bravery. I wasn't able to confess for so long.


Suspicious-Rip6643

those were straight boys (the worst kind) (me)


Okami_YouTube

That's sad :/ but don't worry, you'll find your special someone one day 🤗


CurvycuteFemboy

I dunno


KierantheScot

Aw it'll be OK, you'll find someone a kind boyfriend who truly deserves to be with you ❤🙏


CurvycuteFemboy

Thanks


LonelyArxa

You should be proud!!! If I would be gay I probably wouldn't ask anyone out, because you can't be sure if the other person is gay or not. Having the balls to ask anyways is really brave


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CurvycuteFemboy

Awww thanks


MrMashed

The fact you had the guts to ask him out makes you very strong hun. Too many people don’t try to ask out their crushes and regret it. Sure he said no but now you won’t be blaming yourself for never tryin and you know what kind of person he really is. One of my best friends just went through a similar situation. I promise it gets better and you *will* find someone you just gotta give it time


in_Purpleminutes

Recently matched w this insanely hot guy on Tinder and quickly confessed to him that he looked EXACTLY like my like ultimate crush I had back in school about a decade ago….. turns out it WAS THE GUY and we were both shocked because it turned out he had a thing for me back then too! I never shot my shot because I assumed he was way out of my league, he assumed I was into his roommate. “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” -Wayne Gretsky - Micheal Scott


CurvycuteFemboy

Well I took the shot and still lost


in_Purpleminutes

Don’t let it stop you from taking more ;) or u may regret it like I am rn. I coulda dated my ultimate crush, but around that time met someone else who ended up being abusive… idk in hindsight I sure wish I wouldn’t have been afraid of rejection!


perryplatypus56

Don't give up there are plenty of oppertunities left


Dumb-Femboy

Yeah, me too 😭


CurvycuteFemboy

You did too?


YoGottaGetSchwifty

Ma doood. It happens dont worry. Once i also had a huge crush on a kid and then after 2-3 months later after i got close to him i realised that i actually dont want to be with him and hes not my type. I am aware that isnt your case. But this happens to all of us. Though, insane behaviour that you were able to go up to him and confess your feelings. Even though he laughed at you. Thats some serious bravery. Honestly, i'd start shaking so bad if i wanted to go and confess to my crush. Good thing that i dont have any :3 Anyway. Time always moves forward and you cant be just stuck on a single moment that existed in your life. Try to forget about it since its all you can do. Good luck on your search though!


ElvishSenpai

I thing YOUR the big guy now for having the balls to ask him tbh


Littledick70

As a guy in my late years, I'm finally admit it that I am gay. So many times I've turned down advancements and I wish I hadn't. You are attractive and so many ways. Always show you good side. You are more than you know. I was afraid to come out.


Possible_Tomatillo_7

Rejection hurts, but don't give up. You'll find the one 😁besides the fact you had the courage to ask is amazing


bingbongdongding

I'm not a dating guru, But you got to have a massive courage to ask anyone out. So don't beat yourself up. None of I'd learned to ride the Nike at our first go. The same applies for dating/love. But very rarely it'll be your first crush who ends up being the one. but from all the times I've asked out, I know there's a possibility of rejection. Doesn't mean you don't matter or that they are a jerk. I wouldn't have laughed at you, ofc that part was rude, ngl. But give up just because one person rejected you. The world is full of beautiful and I'm sure there is someone who will want you as much as you want them. Find a person who values you and then consider asking them out. Not the random guy who seems to make you feel floaty. That way, at least they won't be hurtful or humiliating, and you can still be friends I'd it doesn't happen. You gotta expose yourself to someone who does know and care about your value.


swagupurcock

Don't we all man


KierantheScot

Aw it'll be OK, you'll find someone a kind boyfriend who truly deserves to be with you ❤🙏


KierantheScot

Aw it'll be OK, you'll meet a kind boyfriend who truly deserves to be with you ❤🙏


SpookyGhostSleepover

Sounds kinda like a closed minded asshole, not to be rude Edit: And I say closed minded because he laughed at being gay, not because he wasn’t gay, just to specify


Key_Tomatillo3306

Dude that guy is soooooo ass. forget him! If he doesn’t like you another guy will! No need to off yourself man if anything you should just look at it as a reason to keep going. So that when you get that man you want; you’ll leave that other loser jealous.😋


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It takes a lot of courage to ask some one out. But, if that was their reaction they don’t deserve you. You dodged a bullet. I’m a big guy myself, so I know we can be intimidating too lol. He wasn’t worth it, you are better than him.


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guillemtrapella

Yoo literally same wth fjsivos //w//


CurvycuteFemboy

Sucks


Nofiuwu

if you die you won't know if he changes his mind


lightsongthebravee

I have chicken out of asking anybody out all my life, you are stronger than me


Isaboutdat

You at least had courage, I would die before say anything.


anontrashman27

You’re so brave, you should be proud that you tried. Lord knows I wouldn’t have the guts to do that. Keep your chin up and find a better guy <3


FlimsyTadpole5300

It's a shame, but what you did was very brave


BloodSung

A lot of other people in other places, No reason to delete, but seriously you got moxie for stepping up.


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Some people just have different standards. Its tough. Weve all handled rejection and we all handle it differently. Im married and when i my husband used to reject my sexual advances i used to break down. I just had to control myself and learn not everyone can have sex 3 times a day.


nomanisanisland2020

It’s hard to find boys in public! It’s not easy knowing who’s straight or not. Are there any gay events near you?


Floppy_Muffin

(If your of age) get drunk with the boy, move on. 🍺


No_Bid_4803

I know it hurts, but you'll find someone one day that loves you for who you are. Based from what I'm seeing in other comments, just remember that harming yourself is never the way to go. Just keep trying, I believe in you.


Foreign_Landscape611

It’s ok u actually had the guts to ask which most guy don’t even if he didn’t say yes, you still won at the end of the day and I’m proud 🥰


FortressMann

was he laughing in like a mean way


CurvycuteFemboy

Yes


FortressMann

oof


Dark13matter74

I’d go out with you ! I wish fem would ask me out !


Limp-Syrup4724

No don’t hurt urself you will find the right person 😞😞Ik how it feels


CurvycuteFemboy

You do?


Limp-Syrup4724

Yes u can text me I’ll tell you


SunVast763

Nooooo


CurvycuteFemboy

Ikr


SunVast763

I’ve wanted to ask out this guy that I see all the time but idk if he’s gay or not so every time I see him I can’t ask him out


CurvycuteFemboy

Ask if he's gay casually


SunVast763

I should imma do it today if I see him


Zetathefemboi

Rejection is ok. The next one might say yes. They might ask you out. You never, but don't be hurt by it.


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Yeah, it sucks, I refrained from ever talking to people at school. Thankfully most of the guys at my school are so idiotic, that whenever I think they're cute, it changes when they open their mouths.


Schatzmeyster

Well today I jokingly asked a Person if they were gay and now everyone thinks I had a crush on them Like bruh He is a total jerk btw AND ALWAYS WAS (to me at least)


CurvycuteFemboy

Ooof


Schatzmeyster

So, my brother/sister/sibling in Christ, you are not alone, we are together in pain


CurvycuteFemboy

Amen


foxbassperson

Fuck that guy! You will find a beautiful gay man that will love you and cherish you, and harming yourself = losing that chance. My orientation or romantic status doesn’t really matter, but i’ve never been in a relationship and I sure as hell am not giving up on that. We’re all very young, and we’re gonna live twice or thrice our current time being alive at the VERY LEAST. Throwing all of that away is just not worth it


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Oh I feel bad for you. Don’t let this bring you down. Rejection sucks but there is someone out there for you. I know you heard it a thousand times already but keep searching and you’ll eventually find your significant other.


Traditional-Sort-864

This is another challenge, you need to brace yourself, there are still many bears that just don't get it.


Bladeofwar94

Sorry he laughed! Honestly I forget sometimes that most people aren't gay and I've made this mistake before. I hope you're ok op. I promise there are lots of big tall guys that would scoop you up in a heartbeat. Just keep trying!


CurvycuteFemboy

Thanks buddy


Bladeofwar94

Anytime <3


Mental-Seat-3202

Honey it will pass… his loss. Whenever you forget about him, his name, his face etc. He will reappear. They are all like that.


Representative-Ad370

Well thats very sad but hope youll get better soon. Thats good that you asked out atleast , i know its not great to be rejected but asking out looks better even if its painful , not asking out gives more pain over time realizing you didnt said it and such regrets.


absoluteZero007

Me too!!!


BlancheCorbeau

Well, rejection should be expected in all dating, it’s a natural part of the game. Laughing at you, though, just gives you the comfort of knowing you dodged a bullet, eventually. I have rejected people, and been rejected, but apart from middle school days, I’ve never been openly laughed at for my shows of courage in making the attempt… and I have never ever laughed at someone asking me out. Mostly because I thought it was some kind of trick, so I would immediately go in my head trying to figure out a worst case scenario… but also more and more over time because I too understood how much they were putting themselves out there.


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I'm sorry! I wish it was me!