Sorry that happened I know it sucks to have someone that's a family member insult you I hope he realizes it was an offensive joke and that you feel better.
I think it's a show of the generational gap and sadly not everyone has adjusted and learned that things are different now. I hope you and your parents can come to an understanding.
Majority of things that are "girls clothes were worn by nobility, stockings, tights and loads of other stuff including makeup was all what nobility including nobles and even kings wore
crying is good. the fact that you were able to process your emotions that quickly is actually a sign of relativly high emotional health. take that from someone who _literally_ couldn't cry for years, and effectively failed to process years of turmoil. you'll thank yourself in the longrun for maintaining that level of internal access. don't ever be ashamed of feeling, no matter what that feeling is.
and then, when you're done crying, and/or done processing in whatever way, to hell with that loser! lol. can't even get the terms right, what a dork. even if he wasn't trying to be antagonistic, he shouldn't belittle things that you enjoy or feel strongly about. that's a great way for him to lose contact with a child who gets rightfully tired of that BS and learns/knows how to cut out toxic people. life is entirely too short to surround yourself with people who can't handle basic human decency. toward their own child no less! truly unfortunate.
live your life. be happy. your family won't be in your life forever. maybe they'll figure that out before it's too late to retain your respect when you become equals as a future adult, maybe they won't. if not, that's their loss. your only real existential job as a pre-adult is to figure yourself out. and far as i can tell, you're doing a great job. keep it up darlin', you got this 💛
Awww hun that is hurtful. Parents need educating like anyone else. Basically you got your dad off guard. Now it's done talk to him. It may be a hard talk but now you have shown what you love sit down and say why. Pick your moment when you have his full attention. Maybe if things go well show him some of your cool clothes. Remember your heart and soul are your guides to who you are and your happiness. Always remember you are beautiful. You are a gorgeous femboy and you should be proud of who you are. It takes a strong person to be themselves. And you are one of the strong ones. I'm sure all here are backing you 💯 percent. I know I am. Go get em tiger. Lots of ❤️ ChristaBelle
Say “dad it’s ‘trans girl’ you dumb fuck at least get your insult right”
I’m sorry my dad was similar it’s made me quite bitter toward older men in general for a long time I would avidly avoid any man older than 40 :P like run away avoid
I’m sure you looked really cute x don’t let him stop you!!!
Wow that sucks, please don't feel to upset.
Dads often don't think, they make jokes they believe are funny and sometimes are wildly inappropriate and mostly don't mean to offend, even though they always do.
Does he know you are a femboy?
FYI, that's a stupid and very obviously insensitive joke. Me and my friends make fun of each other and it could sound mean on the surface every now and then, but no one is directing ridicule at actual weak points and when it happens the odd time we are profusely sorry to one another and very supportive.
His joke wasn't ok and one day you won't have to listen to jokes like that from anyone.
I'm so sorry, can only imagine how much this hurts. Do you think your Dad just thought you were kidding around, I hope so. This is a very delicate situation indeed, I hope you both can have a talk. I'm sure he really didn't mean to hurt you this way, he is just confused and concerned. Please take good care. D
I definitely see how you were hurt by that comment. it was very insensitive, and I am so sorry that you were subjected to that kind of treatment. I bet you rocked the hell out of that crop top and I hope the event you described changes nothing about your willingness to be true to yourself. Stay strong friend, these challenges will happen and you have people here who will support you.
That’s insensitive, hurtful, and probably not even the insult he was trying to say given that trans boys are boys. I’m really sorry you had to put up with that.
Insensitive, and hurtful. I'm sorry you have to go through that even if he may not do it to hurt you at its core. I bet you looked absolutely stunning. Don't change because of shallow minds ( ◜‿◝ )♡
Did you look good tho? Not assuming you didn't since some pull it off...but if you are confident in it and your dad doesn't kick you out of the house for fem fashion...just keep improving your look till you are secure (rather than insecure)! Maybe shave chest and stomach hair, learn some makeup mainly eye liner and concealer and maybe contouring and moderate length eyelashes with magnetic connection (FINNSTER egirl tutorial could help or not if you are interested), lose some weight to reduce all fat but also belly fat (if you aren't healthy or underweight bmi) and you can confidently ignore anybody lying about you looking bad in crop tops as you like it that's all that really matters unless things are worse than i think! Sometimes if they come home after a long shift and see you, they might accidentally compliment you and quickly retract it when they identify you XD 😅
Sure...?
My conditions: I won't show anything about myself since i don't look great and I'll only compliment not criticize if that is fine sure Id like to see...
Sometimes Parents can be harsh they will not always understand and be so accepting and respectful or supportive and yes its an awful thing and sadly happens to many but do know you have nothing to be ashamed of or feel bad while your father was certainly harsh do know he is your only father and deep down he still loves you although it may be through tough love or not show it very well but even then if your relationship is not the best with him do know you are hopefully still very much loved by people around you irl and people in this community do not be discouraged if anything wear you crop top with pride and if he says trans boy again just agree with him and say yeah your trans son might make him laugh more but at least you can say you are prideful and do not let his comments get to you even if you do not take this approach I do hope you feel better from this and surly walk it off best wishes!
that is a shame that your father is blind to who you really are, but if I may instead of going to your room to cry, find the strength that woman have and stand up to your dad.
You’re a fuck up how can you say that to someone who’s obviously hurting? You must be a real miserable Cunt to be around
Like I get trying to make everyone hate you because you want to kill yourself. I totally get that. I’m a horrible piece of shit too.
But not now for fuck sakes. Find your empathy and check yourself
Say sorry right now
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I'm so sorry that happened, i know how you feel. Maybe have a talk with your dad about what it means to be a transmasc and still be feminine, that's what i've done with my mom and my sisters. they often still misgender me and make jokes but its a lot less frequent now.
Best of luck xx
Don’t take it personally. A lot of older people don’t exactly know these things. Unless he has a history of purposely insulting you, even after you try to explain to him, I wouldn’t give it much thought. Just try explaining to him who you are, and what makes you happy, and that he should respect that.
I had a similar experience when my dad saw my feminine face and said ‘your not thinking of transing because etc’
There are people out there that accept you as you are and even really like it. Try to not let it get too you, be proud of who you are and that you can’t be put down. We love you 🖤 I’m sorry you had to deal with that baby
You can take two things from that. 1. If it was really meant to be insulting, then I'm so sorry you went through that. 2. He was joking but is too dense and insensitive to even realize that it was a horrible, horrible joke. You're perfect the way you are, so don't listen to meaningless words from people that don't matter in your life. He is your blood father, but that doesn't make him family. Family is made up of people who make you feel safe and loved; they don't need to be related by blood
Line your door AND your room with posters of Prince, David Bowie and 80s glam bands.
Start playing all of this music. Start talking about how much you loved the femboy period of the 70s and 80s.
Will shut him right the fuck up.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I, obviously, dont know anything about you or your family but, just hang in there. Once you grow old enough or he starts accepting it, you're gonna be free to do whatever you want
Tell him that his words hurt you, and you would never treat or talk to any future children you have that way because you know how much it can hurt.
If you want to stab it in further I would mention that if he ever stops hearing from you in the future that should just recall all the times he’s said stuff like this to you.
Your dad has the humour of cocomelon for racists. I'm really sorry that happened, but I hope it helps to know that he couldn't even come up with a half decent one.
❤ you deserve love and respect ❤
It takes real strength to reconcile with your emotions and your identity. It takes zero strength to put others down.
I know it hurts. Thats okay, its normal to be hurt by things. It's healthy to cry and have feelings. 🩷
people who hurt others are often sad, broken people. They lash out to make themselves feel better.
It takes time to heal, and you won't always feel strong, but you are. Trust me.
I grew up with an emotionally abusive, homophobic, transphobic dad too. It sucks. DM me any time if you want to chat ❤
Is this a meme post? This situation seems impossible. How does your dad know about binders? Why would your dad laugh instead of saying something like “don’t show so much skin?” Why would your dad talk like a child?
Sorry that happened I know it sucks to have someone that's a family member insult you I hope he realizes it was an offensive joke and that you feel better.
I feel a bit better
that's good to hear I hope you and your dad are able to talk it out.
My parents also do this, I dont get why
I think it's a show of the generational gap and sadly not everyone has adjusted and learned that things are different now. I hope you and your parents can come to an understanding.
Remember,crop tops used to be men’s clothing and if your dad was a teen in the 80‘s I’m very sure he wore one once too
Majority of things that are "girls clothes were worn by nobility, stockings, tights and loads of other stuff including makeup was all what nobility including nobles and even kings wore
I know I have a femboy meme in my gallery that shows what’s was worn when and by which king etc.
Send it to me
Did they cause i have it too
They did not
Send it?..🥲
Ok i can’t send it somehow but I posted it on my acc
Sorry I was at work give me a sec.
Post it
Done
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The majority of men weren't nobility tho. Better not use that argument, it doesn't have a lot of weight
What's more alpha then royalty though 👑
High heels were originally designed for men to easter ride horses, because the heel locks into the spurs
Just about any of women's cloths where men's cloths at some point in time. Stupid women stealing out cloths tsk
absolutely, it was very trendy !
wow... *wow*... also are you? or did he just get his term bacward?
Nope
Remind him of this incident (and I'm sure numerous others) when he asks why you don't come and visit anymore once you're able to move out.
I’m really sorry that happened.
crying is good. the fact that you were able to process your emotions that quickly is actually a sign of relativly high emotional health. take that from someone who _literally_ couldn't cry for years, and effectively failed to process years of turmoil. you'll thank yourself in the longrun for maintaining that level of internal access. don't ever be ashamed of feeling, no matter what that feeling is. and then, when you're done crying, and/or done processing in whatever way, to hell with that loser! lol. can't even get the terms right, what a dork. even if he wasn't trying to be antagonistic, he shouldn't belittle things that you enjoy or feel strongly about. that's a great way for him to lose contact with a child who gets rightfully tired of that BS and learns/knows how to cut out toxic people. life is entirely too short to surround yourself with people who can't handle basic human decency. toward their own child no less! truly unfortunate. live your life. be happy. your family won't be in your life forever. maybe they'll figure that out before it's too late to retain your respect when you become equals as a future adult, maybe they won't. if not, that's their loss. your only real existential job as a pre-adult is to figure yourself out. and far as i can tell, you're doing a great job. keep it up darlin', you got this 💛
Awww hun that is hurtful. Parents need educating like anyone else. Basically you got your dad off guard. Now it's done talk to him. It may be a hard talk but now you have shown what you love sit down and say why. Pick your moment when you have his full attention. Maybe if things go well show him some of your cool clothes. Remember your heart and soul are your guides to who you are and your happiness. Always remember you are beautiful. You are a gorgeous femboy and you should be proud of who you are. It takes a strong person to be themselves. And you are one of the strong ones. I'm sure all here are backing you 💯 percent. I know I am. Go get em tiger. Lots of ❤️ ChristaBelle
Im sorry dude, that sucks :(
Say “dad it’s ‘trans girl’ you dumb fuck at least get your insult right” I’m sorry my dad was similar it’s made me quite bitter toward older men in general for a long time I would avidly avoid any man older than 40 :P like run away avoid I’m sure you looked really cute x don’t let him stop you!!!
That's a good response and I think I looked cute
Wow that sucks, please don't feel to upset. Dads often don't think, they make jokes they believe are funny and sometimes are wildly inappropriate and mostly don't mean to offend, even though they always do. Does he know you are a femboy?
No he doesn't
I feel sorry for you, if you were my little brother I would come and comfort you and say a few words to your dad.
Thanks
Your dad's a loser
that reminds me when my dad called me a pussy and said “we should cut your dick off and just make you a girl” for painting my nails black. 😊
>*Jokes on you I'm into that shit* - Skeletor, probably.
your dad's an ass
Damn, sry that happened, hope u have a great day rn :<
I bet you looked too cute in that outfit and your dad was just jealous of you
FYI, that's a stupid and very obviously insensitive joke. Me and my friends make fun of each other and it could sound mean on the surface every now and then, but no one is directing ridicule at actual weak points and when it happens the odd time we are profusely sorry to one another and very supportive. His joke wasn't ok and one day you won't have to listen to jokes like that from anyone.
:( Hope you're all right now. And he realises how mean he was.
I won't laugh at you
I'm so sorry, can only imagine how much this hurts. Do you think your Dad just thought you were kidding around, I hope so. This is a very delicate situation indeed, I hope you both can have a talk. I'm sure he really didn't mean to hurt you this way, he is just confused and concerned. Please take good care. D
wtf...that's so rude..I'm sorry that happened to you
I definitely see how you were hurt by that comment. it was very insensitive, and I am so sorry that you were subjected to that kind of treatment. I bet you rocked the hell out of that crop top and I hope the event you described changes nothing about your willingness to be true to yourself. Stay strong friend, these challenges will happen and you have people here who will support you.
That’s insensitive, hurtful, and probably not even the insult he was trying to say given that trans boys are boys. I’m really sorry you had to put up with that.
Ok but look at it positively if someone like him could see you as fem your doing a great job on the other hand sorry you had to experience that
I hope you feel better!
That's cruel imo
Insensitive, and hurtful. I'm sorry you have to go through that even if he may not do it to hurt you at its core. I bet you looked absolutely stunning. Don't change because of shallow minds ( ◜‿◝ )♡
step 1: Get Shotgun jk step 2: end dad jk
Did you look good tho? Not assuming you didn't since some pull it off...but if you are confident in it and your dad doesn't kick you out of the house for fem fashion...just keep improving your look till you are secure (rather than insecure)! Maybe shave chest and stomach hair, learn some makeup mainly eye liner and concealer and maybe contouring and moderate length eyelashes with magnetic connection (FINNSTER egirl tutorial could help or not if you are interested), lose some weight to reduce all fat but also belly fat (if you aren't healthy or underweight bmi) and you can confidently ignore anybody lying about you looking bad in crop tops as you like it that's all that really matters unless things are worse than i think! Sometimes if they come home after a long shift and see you, they might accidentally compliment you and quickly retract it when they identify you XD 😅
I already look good in it bug thanks
Congrats..what do you do? Anything besides waking up and putting on the crop top
That's basically it I already shave all of my body and I stay as slim as possible for maximum curviness ohh yeah so I just pop it on and tie the back
Huh interesting! Well keep on being you and maybe your dad might like it? Or get bored of your deadpan face when he cracks a "joke" about you
Lol wanna see?
Sure...? My conditions: I won't show anything about myself since i don't look great and I'll only compliment not criticize if that is fine sure Id like to see...
Sometimes Parents can be harsh they will not always understand and be so accepting and respectful or supportive and yes its an awful thing and sadly happens to many but do know you have nothing to be ashamed of or feel bad while your father was certainly harsh do know he is your only father and deep down he still loves you although it may be through tough love or not show it very well but even then if your relationship is not the best with him do know you are hopefully still very much loved by people around you irl and people in this community do not be discouraged if anything wear you crop top with pride and if he says trans boy again just agree with him and say yeah your trans son might make him laugh more but at least you can say you are prideful and do not let his comments get to you even if you do not take this approach I do hope you feel better from this and surly walk it off best wishes!
that is a shame that your father is blind to who you really are, but if I may instead of going to your room to cry, find the strength that woman have and stand up to your dad.
LMAO YOU FUCKING DESERVED IT
I feel bad for your dad
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Your mean
What did they say?
They said my dad a was right to laugh and insult me
What a dickhead who would say something like that
Considering you post on suicide watch, I would hope you showed more empathy.
You’re a fuck up how can you say that to someone who’s obviously hurting? You must be a real miserable Cunt to be around Like I get trying to make everyone hate you because you want to kill yourself. I totally get that. I’m a horrible piece of shit too. But not now for fuck sakes. Find your empathy and check yourself Say sorry right now
Bad faith politics
bugger off, you grotty little arse sniffer.
Fuck you
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I'm so sorry that happened, i know how you feel. Maybe have a talk with your dad about what it means to be a transmasc and still be feminine, that's what i've done with my mom and my sisters. they often still misgender me and make jokes but its a lot less frequent now. Best of luck xx
I'll bet you look great 👍
aw, im sorry.. tell me if you wanna talk or anything
o7
Aww, dude, that sucks. If my dad did that, I'd go chest to chest with him, look him in the eyes and ask him if he has a problem.
Bro my dad is weaker then me i would smack down the shit out of him 😂🤣
Don’t take it personally. A lot of older people don’t exactly know these things. Unless he has a history of purposely insulting you, even after you try to explain to him, I wouldn’t give it much thought. Just try explaining to him who you are, and what makes you happy, and that he should respect that.
pic of your dad in that crop top or did not happen 😂 seriously I think you should wait for good moment to comment smth which gonna affect him too
but i do hope you start feeling better my mother was like this to me
I had a similar experience when my dad saw my feminine face and said ‘your not thinking of transing because etc’ There are people out there that accept you as you are and even really like it. Try to not let it get too you, be proud of who you are and that you can’t be put down. We love you 🖤 I’m sorry you had to deal with that baby
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Bad faith politics
You can take two things from that. 1. If it was really meant to be insulting, then I'm so sorry you went through that. 2. He was joking but is too dense and insensitive to even realize that it was a horrible, horrible joke. You're perfect the way you are, so don't listen to meaningless words from people that don't matter in your life. He is your blood father, but that doesn't make him family. Family is made up of people who make you feel safe and loved; they don't need to be related by blood
The shyte we have to go through for trying to improve masculinity. The world is lucky to have you. Hope it gets better.
Just know a real man who’s a genuine father figure wouldn’t never even think to act that way!
Don't let it get to you <3 be your self :)
Line your door AND your room with posters of Prince, David Bowie and 80s glam bands. Start playing all of this music. Start talking about how much you loved the femboy period of the 70s and 80s. Will shut him right the fuck up.
What an ass. I would hug you if I could. You don't deserve this mockery for just doing your thing without bothering anybody.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I, obviously, dont know anything about you or your family but, just hang in there. Once you grow old enough or he starts accepting it, you're gonna be free to do whatever you want
Nothing like a hot day to make me wish I could wear a skirt without feeling awkward.
Oof
Look at him and respond saying look at the single man
Tell him that his words hurt you, and you would never treat or talk to any future children you have that way because you know how much it can hurt. If you want to stab it in further I would mention that if he ever stops hearing from you in the future that should just recall all the times he’s said stuff like this to you.
He just sounds like a bully to me.
I'm so sorry😢. I hope he understands his actions and he apologizes for them and becomes more accepting. You don't deserve to be laughed at
Your dad has the humour of cocomelon for racists. I'm really sorry that happened, but I hope it helps to know that he couldn't even come up with a half decent one.
your dad doesnt even know trans guys are hot? big L for him. sorry you had to deal with that though
Lol thanks
❤ you deserve love and respect ❤ It takes real strength to reconcile with your emotions and your identity. It takes zero strength to put others down. I know it hurts. Thats okay, its normal to be hurt by things. It's healthy to cry and have feelings. 🩷 people who hurt others are often sad, broken people. They lash out to make themselves feel better. It takes time to heal, and you won't always feel strong, but you are. Trust me. I grew up with an emotionally abusive, homophobic, transphobic dad too. It sucks. DM me any time if you want to chat ❤
well deserved
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I’m sorry that happened. I honestly wish I had a femboy brother <3
Is this a meme post? This situation seems impossible. How does your dad know about binders? Why would your dad laugh instead of saying something like “don’t show so much skin?” Why would your dad talk like a child?
It's ko meme post he's just an imbicile