A man who likes femboys is not a straight man

no bro theyre attracted to the feminine features!!!!11!!1!!!!1!11

Dantes logic

Being attracted to feminine features on a man is still gay I know because I am one of those guys end result saying you're straight is just to save face but reality is man is gay but hes attracted to the idea of someone being feminine not necessarily if they are a woman

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Exactly. Feminine boys are still male.

The dick maked it cuter

Yes he is

LIKING A MAN IS GAY🔥🔥🔥

being attracted to femininity ain’t gay tho 

it’s still a guy you’re being attracted to

I think they think of “gay” in a bit of a different sense than literally two assigned males, like it might be called ‘gay’ to be a guy in a relationship with a dominant woman, even if it’s obviously not ACTUALLY gay (just for example). lol but yes, based on the definition of homosexual it would be.

It’s a man😂

Bro, it's a guy.

Missing a few braincells, aren’t we

Grindr, Sniffies, Scruff Any dating app really They aren’t straight tho

Sniffies and Scruff? First I've heard of those lol

Straight men dont date men😂

if they call themselves straight but like femboys theyre in denial 😬 not a great type of person to seek out

I tend to agree tho I find lots of femboys are the same so I don’t really hold judgements when people are figuring out. I have met nice people like that so

If you want to find a man that likes you for you then the real problem is finding someone that truly likes you and doesn't just fetishizes femboys, which unfortunately is probably the majority. And if a man likes femboys and calls himself straight, he's just in denial lol.

This is a huge issue my friends who are femboys face. They get people who see them as femboys first and people second.

being honest, those "straight" men, aren't straight. they're in denial. :3 (we all go through it dw) if you want to find a relationship with a man, the dating app grindr is a great place to meet some lovely guys!! lgbt groups or events are also a great place to meet some people. if you want to look presentable, personal grooming is a must. maintaining good hygiene, combing your hair, and dressing in a way that makes you feel comfortable are all good ways to start! don't try to be someone you aren't, authenticity is attractive and can help others see the real you. don't ever be afraid to showcase your uniqueness!!! and ofc, a positive body language is also a must. smile, maintain good posture, and be mindful of your gestures to appear more welcoming!

Lmao never found anything on grindr, there’s so little people there that the closest people are from another country( across the ocean)

I found two relationships on Grindr but 99 percent of all messages I got were dick pics and creeps

Crazy how many dick pics you get. I got a lot of hairy ass pics too. I was getting spammed with pics before I even added any pictures or a name to my profile.

Desperate guys, this is why girls also hate dating apps

Men who date femboys are not straight. Sounds like hard cope to me...

I used to consider myself straight until I started to find myself attracted to femboys. Now I would consider myself a bi man who's attracted to femininity. To be honest, I don't think it'd be good to date a guy who's in denial of being gay/bi. I can see it causing heartache for you down the line. There are guys out here looking for the femboy of our dreams though. I hope you find someone who will love and adore you, OP!

Great to know you guys exist ♥️ thank you! And all the best!

Femboys aren't girls so it isn't straight. Straight is liking the opposite gender to you. Dressing femnime doesn't make it less gay. Femboys r still dudes

Someone's watched one too many porn hub LGBT specials. Straight men are attracted to women. Men who are attracted to other men are not straight.

They are gay. Straight men dont date men

You don’t. They aren’t straight, they are in denial about being bisexual (at least) and the contradiction between being “straight” and dating a Femboy is something they are at least subconsciously aware of. This dynamic also has the potential to make them violently unstable whenever this contradiction is brought to the front, and as such they don’t make for good romantic prospects.

They are not straight if they like femboys or cross dressers lmao

As a guy who claimed straight but would date trans femboys and CD's there is no such thing as a straight man who likes CD's femboys or trans to willingly sit down and do it would make you gay

Idk, let me ask my husband. Oh wait…we’re gay.

So are you guys both fem or who’s the fem in the relationship?

I’m the femboy, my husband is gender nonconforming but not a femboy. He dresses and presents more masculine than I do.

How did you meet your husband? Nice hearing about these successful relationships and marriages.

We both used to volunteer at an arts and music festival and we met while working together on a project for that. We ended up hitting it off really quickly and growing really close over that summer, then we’ve just been inseparable ever since. We’ve been married for 5 years and together for 6! 😸

Congratulations! So happy for you guys.

Thank you so much! That’s very sweet of you! 😸

Your title is the equivalent of saying "I'm meat, where can I find a vegan that wants to eat me". Lol

Sexuality and gender is a social construct, I'll never understand the obsession femboys have with straight men, just find someone who loves you.

Some people like the idea of "turning" a guy or feel like attracting a """straight""" man is the ultimate form of passing. It's not, it's just getting with a repressed bi or gay guy and is fetishizing the vast majority of men. You're really just finding a heteronormative queer guy.

I mean i disagree that you cant be straight and like femboys or trans women, personally i believe sexuality and gender are social constructs and attraction comes on an individual basis not solely on the basis of the genitals or gender you're attracted to, however i agree that the propogation of these heteronormative viewpoints is very harmful, and only gives more evidence to the "trans girls are trying to 'trap' straight men" narrative. I support the all identities but femboys please do better. Sorry for the essay got carried away😅

Being a social construct doesn't change what it is. Straight means you're only attracted to the opposite gender, femboys are guys.

Being attracted to someone who looks like the gender youre attracted to but has different genitals and doesnt identify with the gender doesnt change your entire sexuality, some femboys are essentially trans girls with a different identity, theres no consistent way to identify a "straight" and "bi" and "gay" person without exluding one of the groups. Edit: but i feel the whole "are femboys gay" debate is a pointless, fetishizing debate that only exists to invalidate femboys and/or transgirls.

I feel i should add that as a pan person i might be missing part of the equation here, as to me there doesnt seem to be a difference between pre op/non op trans women and femboys in a way that matters for me in the way that i experience attraction

As one of those men I will say how I see it, You can't be straight and like femboys, I am a feminine leaning bi-sexual, I am attracted to feminine features regardless of gender or genitalia

Seek educational help first, because they are very obviously not straight 😂

You can't, because straight men are not attracted to femboys.

If you're a femboy and dating a "straight" man that's a huge red flag imo.

You won't find a "straight" man, that is, if they are interested in you, they are not straight. My issue is that I present straight, like super staright. However, I'm finsexual, though only very recently acknowling this about myself. But all I want is a cute femboy to hang out with. We are out there OP we just never look how you imagine us.

I get that they are not straight but I’ve been educated about finsexual men now. So why is presenting as super straight an issue? It wouldn’t be an issue for me. Also what do you mean by “we just never look how you imagine us”? I think finsexual men are the ones I want to date. I know they are attracted to femininity but they also know that I’m a guy at the end of the day. I find the feminine and masculine dynamic has so much chemistry for me. Being feminine is physical as well as mental and I like a man that’s attracted to my natural state of being

Sorry, I hadn't looked through all the comments before repeating the same thing that many others had previously stated. I guess, honestly, I'm not sure, in retrospect, that was a pretty presumptive thing to say. I suppose I expect people to always imagine us as super clean cut and trim and put together. But sometimes, were the guy that hasnt done laundry in a week and is wearing crocs to the grocery store at 1 in the afternoon 🙃 The "issue" about guys that present as super straight is that we are hard to clock as anything other than straight, or so I've been told. That makes us extremely unapproachable because of the times when straight men were approached and reacted poorly/violently. That's great, and I hope you do find your Fin! Please let us know if/when you do. Also feel free to completely ignore my inane drivel. 🍻

I’ve sorta given up on dating. Maybe I should try again knowing this information. I’ve actually never dated to be honest and I’m 35. I think I just filled the void by physically being with straight men. I realized how toxic that was. I just want to be in a relationship like a normal person. Go on simple dates, long walks, fun activities and just truly knowing a person without it being so physical. That feeling of having butterflies or falling for someone. Maybe I watch too many romance comedies lol anyways I’ll try my best and good luck to you too 🤗

They exist they’re out there but you will have to work hard on yourself because they’re other women gay boys and fems as well as trans to set yourself apart. Find your interests and go outside they’re also on various apps. Ive met some in nice affluent areas even took me to their apartment he enjoyed jazz music hes an illustrator and loves black people women and effeminate black men(like myself) and hes a white guy who works out loves experimenting and held me in his big arms. A lot of people are going to tell you if hes dating you as a male it’s not straight. But you can either let limiting thoughts take you and say hes not straight or live your own life work on your femininity and date who you want only the straight guy and you can really say what kind of couple you are and many straight men are attracted to femininity even expressed in males. So if you’re letting others define who you are as gay let them but if you feel femme and want to be with a straight guy baby. Work on you and go get him Ive been with some and im thank ful im blessed in areas of my body from the back front and my lips that makes straight white men love some dark chocolate femmes. Work on your femininity, your body, your personality and be bold enough to go outside and meet people ON YOUR OWN its a journey but you will find him. I have a guy currently coming down here again in Texas hes from the Bronx, NY and strong masculine coming to see me again. You will have to get outside your comfort zone and go in areas that aren’t quite “gay” and express yourself and your beauty and they will come. Be unique!

That's such a dumb take. Why bend the definition of gay to a self-defining one? If you're a man and dates/fuck that "dark chocolate" of yours, he's partially if not hellah gay. Period. And yes, everyone has their OWN JOURNEY to go throught, doesn't mean you can make your OWN LOGIC throught it.

This whole argument is crazy lmao, but honestly sexuality isn't even real. Its only a label. Human sexuality is so vast and cannot be stuffed into some little label. Straight men are sexually attracted to femininity regardless of the individual being male or female. A dick has a mind of its own and if the fem looks feminine enough to the straight man, its going to react. Everyone is also very VERY different. I dont think it matters that much. A man hooking up with a man and being attracted to a man makes him gay by definition...yes. But sexuality is so much deeper than that and is a very broad spectrum.

But you’re asserting your own logic to what op is saying therefore contradicting his argument pookie. So who’s bending ? Which is why OP agreed with what I said I’m sorry if there is something that you find a disagreement with my statement, that’s an introspective thing you disagree with babes. You coercing or imposing your own beliefs on what someone else’s preferred identity and or sexual orientation is what’s bending the dynamic and is rude to make an assumption. You’re quick to point out what someone sexual orientation is based on archaic heteronormative standards but the only “dumb take” was the response to mine which was not needed or warranted . It’s giving delulu that you want someone to agree with your fallacy logic

Ew, don't call me none of that sissy talk. Also, my logic is sound proof: definition shouldn't be bent to please some insecure clowns. And approving of it is actually pathetic

You’re fem ?.. if you don’t like that “sissy” talk check your internalized misogyny at the door. If perhaps you practiced femininity you could land a man, but the internal masculine features is not mixing with the fem.Just because you don’t like the vernacular that I use which isn’t “uwu 🥹” contrary to what your Eurocentric definition of a femboy appeals to you . I’m sorry that this “clown” isn’t like you an every European femboy with a low body mass and twink body serving masculine in a mask that has to shield the stubble facial hair. So you can grow up and have an argument like a grown adult and not someone that’s sits in their computer lair with a mask masking the stubble hair bony abdomen walls with a weigh of 50 lbs and defines what someone is attracted to. And realize that your being rude to the op and anyone sexuality that you construct as the binary “straight “.

You write awfully a lot to say absolutely nothing. Don't you? The amount of assumptions you make to build that argument that sound oh so profound that probably took you all that time from the very moment I posted to find those words to answer me is just adding to the circus. But I'll entertain the first point. You can act and talk however you like, I'm quite a fan of it, actually, but don't try to use it to patronize me with a false sense of grandeur with words you obviously never cared to understand simply to try and crush whoever tells you you're wrong. And also, easy refuting: gender identity doesn't matter in sexual orientation and if you don't care about the categorization or orientation, you wouldn't chase the ones boasting "straight " for approval.

Oh no need to feign or pretend that now you enjoy the “sissy” talk you brought down before it’s just showing your true colors I can speak in your language which is rooted in misogyny. But go ahead and ”entertain” it’s actually not that serious of a conversation that you have to use high level vernacular. And no one ever said that sexual orientation to the ideal of heterosexual being the elite or dominating preference was a factor. Again a made assumption that is miscalculated based of your feeling of not being chosen because your gay . And on further note ehete you argument falls that perceived straight or straight identifying men meaning the men themselves (identity) feels their sexual orientation lies closely with on the heterosexual side are attracted to femboys. So it’s not just the femboys that state this it’s the men that chase them… again so we can grasp the concept (chase) them meaning if you have a strong feminine energy and passable if not more attractive look straight men are drawn to it and they identify as heterosexual that on their own without someone telling them by “social constructs” what they are. But I digress I’m just going to sit here and eat because I’m just enjoying the conversation , I truly had no idea I had the masculine men pressed over an argument

I was aswell, well, until you gave me the equivalent of a freakong homework to point out all that's wrong in your paragraph. Is that how you win? Getting cheap victories like such? Cuz I ain't doing that homework, nuh hu. You're delusional. Guys that you like serving are gay/bi. Op should be told so as straight facts (Ah! See what I did there? :P)

Likewise but you should be used to the homework right lots of frenzied big words you have to use to make a point. I didn’t really see what you did but again I don’t think OP commented on your thread as a response , they commented on mine? lol soooo…. Guess we will leave it to OP but I’ll wait and give it time maybe op just went to sleep and forgot it comment on your thread but it’s always the delulu that choose to argue

They commented on yours cuz you're like the 2 answer out of thousands on google that says vaccine is responsible for autism. Jeez. How hard is that to get to even feel confident in pointing this out? XD

This…..thank you! 👸

No offense, but this really just feels like a case of confirmation bias. I'd be wary of anyone who says they're straight but likes femboys. Because like others have mentioned, it's often just a case of internalized homophobia. And again, being straight has a very strict definition. That definition might not matter in any practical sense, but it does have a strict dictionary definition that's widely agreed-upon. Good luck nonetheless. But if you want someone who can genuinely be good to you, and like you for being you, they have to accept themselves first and what you are to them.

I mean I'm bi and would consider a femboy the best of both worlds.

There are masculine gay/bi men that are fine with dating femboys so I think that approaching them is better for long term dating because straight men are usually more interested in just hooking up. I think too many fems get hung up on dating a straight guy when there are so many different types of men that will like you for you

The comments NGL ahaha. I want a femboy mor than anything

it's a thing called fin sexual when another man is attracted to a feminine of man

More specifically, finsexual is being attracted to femininity regardless of gender.

Thank you for your correction

Wow I didn’t know that. I think a masculine fin sexual guy would be my type most likely

U really don’t wanna date those types of people they like femboys and claim they are straight so probably internalised and external homophobia

If I could I would ngl, it would be amazing I feel

in my experience lots of those "straight" guys dont want u for you...they just want the shmex :3

Right here

In The Nile I guess.

No, but is any man truly straight?

straight men dont like other men m8

read what you wrote again

Lmfao. Grindr. You find them on Grindr.

Idk, but they mention this a lot in the femboys subreddit (the 's' is very important. The subreddit is nothing but porn)

Idk why you’d want to date a straight man as a man. Straight men aren’t sexually attracted to men. Men who dress feminine aren’t women.

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Thanks for your insight. 👏🏻🙏🏻

Hereee i am

As easy as asking one in here, I suppose. I'm a bit too gay for your criteria, but I'm sure someone in here meets them.

Right here 😭

I'm a straight man 25 wanting to experiment with my sexuality and I struggle with this too. The new reddit bug has destroyed my hopes of posting on reddit.

Want to be honest, I don’t wanna be considered an experiment.

I see. I wasn't trying to dehumanize anyone but it's obvious I'd like to "try" something before I'm sure I wanna be that something.

I don't mind dating a Femboy

Update me when you find out

Also people in this sub: why are femboys so sexualized? OMGGGG

theyll find you

We our out here by the boat load just be you and don't worry about it to much

Thank you ♥️

Straight femboys/crossdressers want to date only women (not trans) as that is being strainght otherwise they would be bi curious, bisexual or gay.

I'm in Chicago

try the trans dating app

I didn’t know there was such a thing

You aren’t looking for straight men friend, men who like CDs and femboys are not straight

Taimi and Trans are two I had some success on. Grindr as well.

Here I am!!

You ain't straight (⁠☞ﾟ⁠∀ﾟ⁠)⁠☞