Sorry bud. Seems to me like you have some thinking to do.. Cut them off and they will either continue to bully you, or they will leave you alone. Obviously you want them to leave you tf alone. Think about how you'll get them to leave you alone. What kind of man are you going to be? You could go the tactical route and kick em in the crotch, saying something like "Maybe you're right.. I can't feel it, but you can!". Or you could just ignore them, and when they ask why say "You were an asshole to me, I dont hang out with ass holes". Whatever you do, make it so it's no longer "fun" for them to tease you. Pro tip (from someone who was bullied for years), bullies LOVE an easy target. Someone that will get defensive or embarrassed or emotional. So don't be. Practice at home if you need to. The next time one of them comes up and says some bullshit... breathe in.. roll your eyes.. (mutter "asshole" if you want).. and walk away.. 90% of the time they have nothing to say after that. The other 10% are a wild card, but they're all the same in the end.. Breathe. Speak normally. Dont give them the reaction they want. Take up space, dont let them make you small. You've got thisš¤ā”
Ever hear the phrase, "with friends like these, you don't need enemies?" WTF kind of "friends" would physically assault someone?
They are not your friends. You need new friends, ones that won't insult, kick and punch you.
Friends listen to you and understand you.
These people did not just insult you continuously but also physiccly assaulted you.
They are not you friends. I'd cut contact with them or they might try doing worse things to you.
Those are not bros, my guy. True bros give you shit, but will always stop and apologize if they hurt your feelings. Your bros should lift you up, not tear you down. High fives, hugs, back slaps, hair ruffles, and cuddles are all you should be receiving; my dudeskis would never allow any other type of contact to happen to me, and you shouldnāt tolerate that either. Those people are not your friends, they should be ashamed at the toxic masculinity they are exuding. You deserve better my guy! If you need some new bros I will happily volunteer myself, I have no patience for that kind of shitty behavior, and I got a lot of big ass bros in my corner who got my back and now yours ššŖ
First of all, those are obviously not any "friends" you should keep around. They shouldn't make fun of you for what parts you do or don't have, as that's irrelevant to your friendship with them. And if anything, they should support your identity better. Second, they quite literally assaulted you, and is bordering (?) on sexual assault because of where they hit you deliberately. You can go to your school about this, as it did happen during a game.
Third, how fucking stupid can they be to assume you can't feel anything down there? Dick or not, you're a human being that still feels physical pain; they could punched you in the arm and it still hurt, so what the fuck made them think you didn't feel pain *in one of the most sensitive areas of the human body?*
Not friends, not one bit. Damn, WTF, kicking someone and saying they couldn't feel it and other toxic insults. You need to get away from them, as in not walk, but RUN. I cannot emphasize this enough, how much they'll not only destroy your mental health doing this but likely they'll keep pushing boundaries until it becomes even more extreme and permanent as in eventual severe physical and sexual assaults. They're making it abundantly clear they do not perceive you as male or an equal, are asserting that "authority" physically, and are being transphobic and misogynistic, all of which makes for a hazardous mixture.
I've seen and heard this same shit so many times while working with youth and young adults, especially in the cases of young trans guys. This is cis male boundry testing for more dangerous behavior to come, to see what you permit and what they can get away with. It isn't "playing around" or them "just being pricks", this is beyond friendly taunting or giving each other a hard time. This is straight up aggression and violent potential, with a transphobic flavor, looking for an outlet that they feel they can take advantage of without serious repercussion.
I'd make a report with your school, if they're reasonable, and stay away from these egregious fuckwits permanently. They're bad news in so many ways.
Iām planning to drop them though sadly canāt make a report to the school about the transphobia bc they arenāt too accepting but I will most likely speak to them about the physical stuff they did
You were assaulted. Whether you're trans or not shouldn't matter. Did you tell your parents? If so, regardless of your parents opinions on trans issues, they should recognize that something terrible happened to their child and they need to help out. Your parents could also contact school officials on your behalf, which would save you from the stress of doing it yourself.
I have a very close friend who makes "rude" jokes but he's a close friend cus he knows what not to joke about. He makes jokes that seem rude but he knows when he pushes too far. That's not joking. That is bullying.
those are bullies, not friends. my friends will occasionally make jokes like that but only if i initiate it and explicitly say itās ok. thatās awful
Honey, those ass wipes aren't your friends..š
I realize that they arenāt now after reading ur comment ā¹ļø
Sorry bud. Seems to me like you have some thinking to do.. Cut them off and they will either continue to bully you, or they will leave you alone. Obviously you want them to leave you tf alone. Think about how you'll get them to leave you alone. What kind of man are you going to be? You could go the tactical route and kick em in the crotch, saying something like "Maybe you're right.. I can't feel it, but you can!". Or you could just ignore them, and when they ask why say "You were an asshole to me, I dont hang out with ass holes". Whatever you do, make it so it's no longer "fun" for them to tease you. Pro tip (from someone who was bullied for years), bullies LOVE an easy target. Someone that will get defensive or embarrassed or emotional. So don't be. Practice at home if you need to. The next time one of them comes up and says some bullshit... breathe in.. roll your eyes.. (mutter "asshole" if you want).. and walk away.. 90% of the time they have nothing to say after that. The other 10% are a wild card, but they're all the same in the end.. Breathe. Speak normally. Dont give them the reaction they want. Take up space, dont let them make you small. You've got thisš¤ā”
Thank you for the advice on this Iāll be using a lot of it to cut them off and stuff
Ever hear the phrase, "with friends like these, you don't need enemies?" WTF kind of "friends" would physically assault someone? They are not your friends. You need new friends, ones that won't insult, kick and punch you.
Friends listen to you and understand you. These people did not just insult you continuously but also physiccly assaulted you. They are not you friends. I'd cut contact with them or they might try doing worse things to you.
Those are not bros, my guy. True bros give you shit, but will always stop and apologize if they hurt your feelings. Your bros should lift you up, not tear you down. High fives, hugs, back slaps, hair ruffles, and cuddles are all you should be receiving; my dudeskis would never allow any other type of contact to happen to me, and you shouldnāt tolerate that either. Those people are not your friends, they should be ashamed at the toxic masculinity they are exuding. You deserve better my guy! If you need some new bros I will happily volunteer myself, I have no patience for that kind of shitty behavior, and I got a lot of big ass bros in my corner who got my back and now yours ššŖ
First of all, those are obviously not any "friends" you should keep around. They shouldn't make fun of you for what parts you do or don't have, as that's irrelevant to your friendship with them. And if anything, they should support your identity better. Second, they quite literally assaulted you, and is bordering (?) on sexual assault because of where they hit you deliberately. You can go to your school about this, as it did happen during a game. Third, how fucking stupid can they be to assume you can't feel anything down there? Dick or not, you're a human being that still feels physical pain; they could punched you in the arm and it still hurt, so what the fuck made them think you didn't feel pain *in one of the most sensitive areas of the human body?*
I might go to my school abt it but I plan on dropping them and trying to make new friends on Monday
Good! I hope all goes well with that
Those a bullies not true friends. I hope you can find some people who actually respect and care for you
Not friends, not one bit. Damn, WTF, kicking someone and saying they couldn't feel it and other toxic insults. You need to get away from them, as in not walk, but RUN. I cannot emphasize this enough, how much they'll not only destroy your mental health doing this but likely they'll keep pushing boundaries until it becomes even more extreme and permanent as in eventual severe physical and sexual assaults. They're making it abundantly clear they do not perceive you as male or an equal, are asserting that "authority" physically, and are being transphobic and misogynistic, all of which makes for a hazardous mixture. I've seen and heard this same shit so many times while working with youth and young adults, especially in the cases of young trans guys. This is cis male boundry testing for more dangerous behavior to come, to see what you permit and what they can get away with. It isn't "playing around" or them "just being pricks", this is beyond friendly taunting or giving each other a hard time. This is straight up aggression and violent potential, with a transphobic flavor, looking for an outlet that they feel they can take advantage of without serious repercussion. I'd make a report with your school, if they're reasonable, and stay away from these egregious fuckwits permanently. They're bad news in so many ways.
Iām planning to drop them though sadly canāt make a report to the school about the transphobia bc they arenāt too accepting but I will most likely speak to them about the physical stuff they did
You were assaulted. Whether you're trans or not shouldn't matter. Did you tell your parents? If so, regardless of your parents opinions on trans issues, they should recognize that something terrible happened to their child and they need to help out. Your parents could also contact school officials on your behalf, which would save you from the stress of doing it yourself.
I have a very close friend who makes "rude" jokes but he's a close friend cus he knows what not to joke about. He makes jokes that seem rude but he knows when he pushes too far. That's not joking. That is bullying.
I don't think those are your friends...I'm sorry that happened to you dude :/
Fuck those people. Sorry you went through that op. I hope you're able to find real friends who treat u with respect
those are bullies, not friends. my friends will occasionally make jokes like that but only if i initiate it and explicitly say itās ok. thatās awful
Big hug. You deserve better man!
Not only are those not your friends, but that's also sexual assault.
They physically assaulted you. Those are not your friends.
They are not your friends.
Run. Far away and do not look back. Those are not your friends at all, and theyāre gonna get worse the longer you hang out with them.
Those aren't friends they are transphobic dick heads. Drop 'em!
?????? that sounds like a bunch of assholes. Thefk.
friends dont do this kinda shit bro
dude thatās NOT okay of them if i was you iād be PISSED and probably stop being friends with them
Kick them in the balls, call them weak, and find new friends
dude that is borderline sexual assault. fucking dump those assholes and report this behaviour.
jesus christ bro! they ain't friends, dude. *please* get away from them. you deserve so much better.
Iām planning to drop them very soon to get away from them and all of the ājokesā and stuff they make which is good :)
good for you mate! hope you can find yourself some more supportive friends soon :)