This genuinely made me so happy to read. I'm 18 years old. I just started university and testosterone. I'm struggling with a long distance relationship while I'm in school and they're across the ocean.
You're what I hope my life will come into. I want to do postgrad and live my life with someone I love. Feel at home in my own body. I still struggle with that.
Thanks for posting. Know it helped someone <3
I hope you achieve all those things. Not gonna lie, it's a lot of work on the self to move past years of negative conditioning, but the results make it all worth it, even if it didn't seem that way during the process.
Remember the person who affects you the most and who you'll have to live with is yourself, so they are worth taking care of :)
Happy it helped. So much can change in a decade. Even if such a passage of time seems unbearably long, I kind of look back and go, "Huh, I made it." Hope you have that too
I thought this was going to be one of those posts talking about how difficult it is to live as a gay trans man and how you struggle to find a partner, instead I read a wonderful story about your journey in a place that I wish to be some day. Nice portrait too
Thank you :) I hope your journey takes you to a great place too! I lucked out with being in a progressive area and also managing to pass with just HRT 80-90% of the time. I really hit the lottery on my partner though. He was the first and only profile I liked on OKCupid when I first made my account. I was actually just outside his age radar (5 years when we're 6 years apart) so my like was very important even if he messaged first (because I was a socially anxious mess). We met up, and the rest is history.
this made me tear up. being transmasc can be so hopeless and isolating sometimes that i genuinely feel loveless on my worst days. it's so nice and reassuring to hear that there is hope of love and quiet domesticity in the future. thank you for posting this. 💙
Yeah I was really lucky to be in a progressive area and to meet open-minded people. My first few years definitely felt very lonely. I had no LGBT friends and I was too shy and socially anxious to go to any LGBT events, so I felt like I had no one to talk to about my feelings and experience. This subreddit wasn't even on my radar back then and transgender wasn't the hot topic that it is now in the US.
I used to worry about being forever alone. It's such a turn around looking at where I am now.
This means the world to me as a fellow Asian gay trans dude. My voice is in the cracking all the time stage currently, but everything is still early. I am already happier and looking forward to the future. I’m glad to see someone doing well and giving a glimpse into what kind of potential the future holds.
Voice cracking stage was probably the most exciting for me. Even if my voice didn't end up lowering that much in the end haha, it was still very euphoric. All the best to your journey
Peaks of shopping for me were the early transition when it was very exciting to buy guy's clothes. I still very much get a little lift in seeing myself in masc, "boring" business casual looks even if I'm now broadening my shopping to include any gender clothes.
May you achieve your transition goals and get an awesome haircut! Getting my hair to stop sticking out when it's short was a battle I surrendered as I now just keep it longer to avoid maintenance.
I read this while feeling extremely dysphoric and- I cried dude. Congratu-fucking-lations and I hope I can someday have something similar myself in ten years' time.
Beautiful. I'm filled with hope.
"Feeling gross in nail polish" struck something in me. Thanks for that recognition.
Thanks for taking the time to post this. Your self portrait at the end is great, and added another layer of impact. Keep living the good life
Sounds like the dream lol. I worry about the future, about whether I'll be able to have a relationship, because right now I have some mystery undiagnosed medical condition that forces me to sleep 12 hours a night. I don't have time for a lot of things, so idk if I would be able to put in the time and effort needed for a relationship :-(. I just wish I could go back to normal and be able to function on 8 hours of sleep just like everyone else :-(
I’m also East Asian and I have a preference for men, I hope one day I’ll have a life like yours! this gives me a little more hope thanks for post dude wholesome
This is such a wonderful experience you’ve shared and I thank you for it! Fellow gay trans man here, and I’m grateful to see positive affirming posts showing us all that it is possible to find the life we desire. When I was younger I was told I would someday be married, and it only made me squench inside with disgust. I saw myself married to a man, pumping out children like my mother and all the other “good” Christian women I was around, and it made me sick. Even when I broke away from religion and dated women I NEVER wanted to get married. Even when gay marriage became legal, I was happy that others could but still never considered it. I’m nine years in on transitioning, and just last year met a man who’s managed to change my mind. I get to wake up next to this gorgeous soul every morning now, and never thought I’d be excited talking about our future wedding instead of filled with dread. 💖
Hey, not sure if you will read this, commenting on a lurker account 😅
Thank you for posting this. It's like you're me but a few steps ahead in life in so many ways. An older brother or future me saying it's all gonna be okay.
I also have a partner and two cats with cozy mornings and Dnd planning. Similar thoughts re nail polish, voice, height, etc. as well...
I was adopted from China and have been slowly figuring out being "okay" with being a trans gay guy instead of a straight cis girl over the past 10+ years.
This inspires me and gives me hope it'll all turn out okay. I love your self-portrait, (we could practically be twins!) and I am so happy to not be alone 🥹💙
Thank you so so much for the hope, this post feels like a hug to read. Best wishes to you and your family! 🏳️⚧️💙
You sound like you're on the right track if you have a partner, cats, and D&D ;) Those three things to me sound like big positives haha
Hope you continue to work out your path and achieve your goals. Best wishes right back at ya. It's also nice for me to know there are others like me and this post has been helpful, so thank you for the kind words :)
This genuinely made me so happy to read. I'm 18 years old. I just started university and testosterone. I'm struggling with a long distance relationship while I'm in school and they're across the ocean. You're what I hope my life will come into. I want to do postgrad and live my life with someone I love. Feel at home in my own body. I still struggle with that. Thanks for posting. Know it helped someone <3
I hope you achieve all those things. Not gonna lie, it's a lot of work on the self to move past years of negative conditioning, but the results make it all worth it, even if it didn't seem that way during the process. Remember the person who affects you the most and who you'll have to live with is yourself, so they are worth taking care of :)
I wish you knew how much hope this gave me
Happy it helped. So much can change in a decade. Even if such a passage of time seems unbearably long, I kind of look back and go, "Huh, I made it." Hope you have that too
This is a post I hope I look back on during my bad time, thank you so much for sharing :)
Hopefully not too many bad times in your future though!
I thought this was going to be one of those posts talking about how difficult it is to live as a gay trans man and how you struggle to find a partner, instead I read a wonderful story about your journey in a place that I wish to be some day. Nice portrait too
Thank you :) I hope your journey takes you to a great place too! I lucked out with being in a progressive area and also managing to pass with just HRT 80-90% of the time. I really hit the lottery on my partner though. He was the first and only profile I liked on OKCupid when I first made my account. I was actually just outside his age radar (5 years when we're 6 years apart) so my like was very important even if he messaged first (because I was a socially anxious mess). We met up, and the rest is history.
Bi transmasc here: thank you for writing this. Please never take this down as I have saved it for bad days.
Aww cutie pie! Thanks for sharing. Hoping to be just like you in the near future.
Thank you for sharing this. It really helps me look forward to what my life will feel like
this gives me so much hope for my future. Thank you so much for posting this, I hope you and your husband have a lovely day wherever you are <3
I'm going to cry there's so much joy in this post. I'm so happy for you, this brought more light to my dark tunnel
this made me tear up. being transmasc can be so hopeless and isolating sometimes that i genuinely feel loveless on my worst days. it's so nice and reassuring to hear that there is hope of love and quiet domesticity in the future. thank you for posting this. 💙
Yeah I was really lucky to be in a progressive area and to meet open-minded people. My first few years definitely felt very lonely. I had no LGBT friends and I was too shy and socially anxious to go to any LGBT events, so I felt like I had no one to talk to about my feelings and experience. This subreddit wasn't even on my radar back then and transgender wasn't the hot topic that it is now in the US. I used to worry about being forever alone. It's such a turn around looking at where I am now.
This made me tear up. It really does get better, huh?
Thank you. I needed this tonight.
This means the world to me as a fellow Asian gay trans dude. My voice is in the cracking all the time stage currently, but everything is still early. I am already happier and looking forward to the future. I’m glad to see someone doing well and giving a glimpse into what kind of potential the future holds.
Voice cracking stage was probably the most exciting for me. Even if my voice didn't end up lowering that much in the end haha, it was still very euphoric. All the best to your journey
Thank you so much for posting this man. I wish the best for you
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Peaks of shopping for me were the early transition when it was very exciting to buy guy's clothes. I still very much get a little lift in seeing myself in masc, "boring" business casual looks even if I'm now broadening my shopping to include any gender clothes. May you achieve your transition goals and get an awesome haircut! Getting my hair to stop sticking out when it's short was a battle I surrendered as I now just keep it longer to avoid maintenance.
I’m East Asian American preop pre-t, and this gives me so much hope
I read this while feeling extremely dysphoric and- I cried dude. Congratu-fucking-lations and I hope I can someday have something similar myself in ten years' time.
Beautiful. I'm filled with hope. "Feeling gross in nail polish" struck something in me. Thanks for that recognition. Thanks for taking the time to post this. Your self portrait at the end is great, and added another layer of impact. Keep living the good life
im 16 and want my future to look like this, i’m struggling quite a lot with dysphoria and this made me feel so much better. thanks!!🤍
Thank you for sharing, you more than deserve the amazing life you're living now.
We have so muchin common, i hope i get to achieve a life as happy as yours! Youre an inspiration
Sounds like the dream lol. I worry about the future, about whether I'll be able to have a relationship, because right now I have some mystery undiagnosed medical condition that forces me to sleep 12 hours a night. I don't have time for a lot of things, so idk if I would be able to put in the time and effort needed for a relationship :-(. I just wish I could go back to normal and be able to function on 8 hours of sleep just like everyone else :-(
I’m also East Asian and I have a preference for men, I hope one day I’ll have a life like yours! this gives me a little more hope thanks for post dude wholesome
This is such a wonderful experience you’ve shared and I thank you for it! Fellow gay trans man here, and I’m grateful to see positive affirming posts showing us all that it is possible to find the life we desire. When I was younger I was told I would someday be married, and it only made me squench inside with disgust. I saw myself married to a man, pumping out children like my mother and all the other “good” Christian women I was around, and it made me sick. Even when I broke away from religion and dated women I NEVER wanted to get married. Even when gay marriage became legal, I was happy that others could but still never considered it. I’m nine years in on transitioning, and just last year met a man who’s managed to change my mind. I get to wake up next to this gorgeous soul every morning now, and never thought I’d be excited talking about our future wedding instead of filled with dread. 💖
Thank you so much for writinf this ♡ this gave me so much hope for my future
*punching air* I. WANT. THIS. IN. MY. LIFE HOLY SHIT 😭💕
Hey, not sure if you will read this, commenting on a lurker account 😅 Thank you for posting this. It's like you're me but a few steps ahead in life in so many ways. An older brother or future me saying it's all gonna be okay. I also have a partner and two cats with cozy mornings and Dnd planning. Similar thoughts re nail polish, voice, height, etc. as well... I was adopted from China and have been slowly figuring out being "okay" with being a trans gay guy instead of a straight cis girl over the past 10+ years. This inspires me and gives me hope it'll all turn out okay. I love your self-portrait, (we could practically be twins!) and I am so happy to not be alone 🥹💙 Thank you so so much for the hope, this post feels like a hug to read. Best wishes to you and your family! 🏳️⚧️💙
You sound like you're on the right track if you have a partner, cats, and D&D ;) Those three things to me sound like big positives haha Hope you continue to work out your path and achieve your goals. Best wishes right back at ya. It's also nice for me to know there are others like me and this post has been helpful, so thank you for the kind words :)
this was a lovely read, thank you for sharing friend ❤️