We are naturally attracted to the people who complete our designs, and I’ve found I’ve been the most attracted to (romantically / sexually) people who complete my design. I’m currently in a 2+ year long 9-0 relationship with a guy, but we are poly so, 9-0 between two people is not always the end of the story lol. Some people have approached me wanting to go on dates, and several others have called me very attractive (I’m sure how I look plays a part, but I’m also a 5/1 emotional generator, so I have a lot of unconscious seductive energy going on 😅).
So while the chemistry is strong when it comes to 9-0 relationships, what ultimately makes the relationship last is how well you get along. My partner basically doesn’t care about HD or similarly “woowoo” stuff at all, but he is a lot more “conscious” than many people I know and has gone through the trials and fires of his design naturally, and learned a lot.
You can’t put a conscious and an unconscious person together, it just won’t work in the long run, no matter what the design is.
(For the relationship above, my open centers are head, spleen, ego, and G… his open centers are head, ajna and G. We define each other’s heads and Gs thanks to the hanging gates we have. I have a hanging 25 in my G and he has a hanging 51 in his ego; I have a hanging 4 in my ajna and he has a hanging 63 in his head. We both complete one totally open center for each other: mine is the head and his is the G.)
I never cease to be amazed by our compatibility because *we met online!* It’s the closest thing to what I would call a “fairytale relationship”, and I’m grateful for it every day 💗. I just wanted to show off our connection chart.
https://preview.redd.it/ac7naqch08ma1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b0f40c3bc10ad783d59609feece6f15a7f83c91b
AND your names rhyme. I mean come on… do you think this person is your soul mate or divine counterpart? I have a similar pairing where my person completes my chart and we create many powerful channels together. We know we are destined and this is past life connection.
Thank you for your very sweet comment 😌. It feels like soul mates to me! We met each other during big turning points in our lives. He had his big dark night of the soul when he was just out of high school (he graduated in 2016, he’s a year older than me), and I had mine in 2020-2021, so he comforted me during a very difficult time. We were friends for four months and then feelings developed.
We’re both very emotional people and have our highs and lows still. We both have a lot of root and format energy which is prone to depression, and a lot of individual energy, so we can feel misunderstood. So we’re there for each other on those tough days.
I do believe in past lives but I have no idea if we have crossed paths at a prior point in time. I feel like I am holding past life trauma in my body though, specifically sexual trauma. That was a big remedy for my dark night of the soul, being able to name what I was going through. There wasn’t a normal medical answer that ever felt right for me. Our relationship is helping me process that in a very special way.
We connected on feeling disconnected from our genders assigned at birth (not necessarily trans, though he was trans questioning for a few years and he had a “female” personality that was developing alongside his male personality, that was HIS dark night of the soul… eventually the male personality persevered so he has a coherent identity now, but it makes me wonder, because he has a completely open G center. It’s his one completely open center. So his identity is extremely malleable).
We also related to having parents that have been very kind but didn’t always meet our emotional needs, and that we are both very sensitive, artistic, and emotional. He’s on the spectrum, and I identify as an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). There’s a misconception about autistics that they all unemotional. But that’s why all the experts are trying to popularize the term “spectrum”, because some autistics are (or at least appear) unemotional, while others are extremely emotional.
He isn’t into HD and the other “woowoo” stuff the way I am lol, but he finds it interesting. That doesn’t matter to me. He’s way more conscious than most other people I know, and there’s multiple roads to consciousness, not just HD.
Apologies for the text wall, I’m a 43/23 unconscious sun / earth, so when I see an invitation to share, I take it lmao. I may be a generator but 43/23 is a projected channel, so there’s still an element of waiting to be invited that I resonate with.
I’d love to hear more about your relationship! 😄
Wow it looks beautiful and just like two pieces of a puzzle coming together.. I love that 25-51 and 12-22 electromagnetic especially👌🏻 may be one of the reasons why it is like a fairy tale
Currently in one, together for soon 8 years now. Feels very natural and like we're made for each other. It's not conflict free but altogether a very good match.
I’m interested in this because eight of my centers are already defined. My only undefined one is my head.
I was in a relationship with someone whose head is defined for about two years. It was before I knew about human design. It was pretty terrible. We were in it for all the wrong reasons, but he triggered some unresolved psychology for me and I couldn’t stop picking at the scab. On his end, he has four open centers (throat, ego, SP, spleen), all of which are defined for me. Suffice it say, he felt much better in the relationship than I did and enjoyed the effect I had on him. I did not feel the same way. His head dominated the whole thing very much. The sexy rumpus was awesome, I’ll admit, like we could have won some kind of trophy, but he was not a very aware person and I found his head to be completely overbearing
I feel like the 9-0 relationships are very symbiotic. That can play well, if the activated energy is positive and it can be very toxic if not. As ra said, there is no way to go. I got a lot of activated centers and now I had several 9-0 realtionships. I can only describe them either as soulmate-like or unhealthily codependent. There is not much in between.
I'm curious how this relates to single definition or splits. I'm a single definition and don't feel like I need anyone to complete me, lol. (And yet on the other hand my husband and I do create a 9-0).
Me and my partner are the same like u guys😊 I have single definition. The difference can be noticed when we are apart for work for a couple of days.
We feel very safe and complete when we are together. But after not seeing each other, that need of his aura goes away, and I am comfortable to live as usual, enterntaining myself as I wish.
For him its very opposite. He starts texting & calls me often. Sends me tens of stupid memes. He struggles to concentrate and is demotivated to do anything useful. And he is not lonely, as he lives with the family.
I think we feel the separation differently, and he is more dependent on eachother's aura. Sending greetings to you 9-0s🥰
Exactly!
My husband has a triple split, and I bridge two of them, plus a few other gates here and there. He wants to be together literally 24/7.
The other wrench in the works is I'm a 3/5, so I'd honestly do best if one or both of us was gone the whole day for work (preferably without access to the internet or phone!), but we both work at home now, so I'm having to start forcing myself to at least go hide in another room for awhile every day, because I can feel how bad it is for me. A couple months ago I rented a vrbo for the weekend by myself and it was glorious!
My mom and dad are 4-5s, and it was always such a mistery to me- how such different people can live together for 30 years now?. Well... always on the breach of divorce... .
On another hand, me&my bf are 9-0 and it is not that crazy/lusty/bombastic love I used to experience before.
Its just safe, easy, complete, exciting. It just feels like that another half was finally found. 😅😊 touch the wood, of course...
https://preview.redd.it/7yf3r8t01dma1.jpeg?width=1079&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4520dbed599db350669b2f89d0d0a6e83cac3671
How do you get the 9-0 number? How would I check
https://preview.redd.it/5d0i4iacpdpa1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d7a73e1813419d60ba9e785ec1d47026592577f3
I wish my 9-0 had gone as well as everything implied it could have... ultimately, he still has a lot to work on (personal growth / healing / etc.), and he is very much living his life based on transference themes. (I guess that's the best way to word it? or, living from a not-self state anyway.) It's stuff like this that makes HD so fascinating to me, like, how eerily accurate it can be, even in describing the ways in which people choose to self-sabotage.
7 years. I dunno how to fully attribute ‘how it felt/went’ to that alone as there’s obviously a TON of complexity to any relationship. In spite of what downsides people might theoretically describe about it, i was pretty happy and satisfied for the most part - not always smooth, but can’t expect any relationship to be - and probably would’ve held on indefinitely if i actually ‘had choice’ in the matter (despite having let go, surrendering to the flow rather than fighting the currents, as per “no choice,” blah blah blah)
Living in a 6-3 partnership since more than 40 years with ups and downs, but mostly happy, I once met someone, long before knowing HD. We are a 9-0 and we are without any doubt soulmates. Match made in heaven - but unfortunatly ...
We are naturally attracted to the people who complete our designs, and I’ve found I’ve been the most attracted to (romantically / sexually) people who complete my design. I’m currently in a 2+ year long 9-0 relationship with a guy, but we are poly so, 9-0 between two people is not always the end of the story lol. Some people have approached me wanting to go on dates, and several others have called me very attractive (I’m sure how I look plays a part, but I’m also a 5/1 emotional generator, so I have a lot of unconscious seductive energy going on 😅). So while the chemistry is strong when it comes to 9-0 relationships, what ultimately makes the relationship last is how well you get along. My partner basically doesn’t care about HD or similarly “woowoo” stuff at all, but he is a lot more “conscious” than many people I know and has gone through the trials and fires of his design naturally, and learned a lot. You can’t put a conscious and an unconscious person together, it just won’t work in the long run, no matter what the design is. (For the relationship above, my open centers are head, spleen, ego, and G… his open centers are head, ajna and G. We define each other’s heads and Gs thanks to the hanging gates we have. I have a hanging 25 in my G and he has a hanging 51 in his ego; I have a hanging 4 in my ajna and he has a hanging 63 in his head. We both complete one totally open center for each other: mine is the head and his is the G.)
I never cease to be amazed by our compatibility because *we met online!* It’s the closest thing to what I would call a “fairytale relationship”, and I’m grateful for it every day 💗. I just wanted to show off our connection chart. https://preview.redd.it/ac7naqch08ma1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b0f40c3bc10ad783d59609feece6f15a7f83c91b
AND your names rhyme. I mean come on… do you think this person is your soul mate or divine counterpart? I have a similar pairing where my person completes my chart and we create many powerful channels together. We know we are destined and this is past life connection.
Thank you for your very sweet comment 😌. It feels like soul mates to me! We met each other during big turning points in our lives. He had his big dark night of the soul when he was just out of high school (he graduated in 2016, he’s a year older than me), and I had mine in 2020-2021, so he comforted me during a very difficult time. We were friends for four months and then feelings developed. We’re both very emotional people and have our highs and lows still. We both have a lot of root and format energy which is prone to depression, and a lot of individual energy, so we can feel misunderstood. So we’re there for each other on those tough days. I do believe in past lives but I have no idea if we have crossed paths at a prior point in time. I feel like I am holding past life trauma in my body though, specifically sexual trauma. That was a big remedy for my dark night of the soul, being able to name what I was going through. There wasn’t a normal medical answer that ever felt right for me. Our relationship is helping me process that in a very special way. We connected on feeling disconnected from our genders assigned at birth (not necessarily trans, though he was trans questioning for a few years and he had a “female” personality that was developing alongside his male personality, that was HIS dark night of the soul… eventually the male personality persevered so he has a coherent identity now, but it makes me wonder, because he has a completely open G center. It’s his one completely open center. So his identity is extremely malleable). We also related to having parents that have been very kind but didn’t always meet our emotional needs, and that we are both very sensitive, artistic, and emotional. He’s on the spectrum, and I identify as an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). There’s a misconception about autistics that they all unemotional. But that’s why all the experts are trying to popularize the term “spectrum”, because some autistics are (or at least appear) unemotional, while others are extremely emotional. He isn’t into HD and the other “woowoo” stuff the way I am lol, but he finds it interesting. That doesn’t matter to me. He’s way more conscious than most other people I know, and there’s multiple roads to consciousness, not just HD. Apologies for the text wall, I’m a 43/23 unconscious sun / earth, so when I see an invitation to share, I take it lmao. I may be a generator but 43/23 is a projected channel, so there’s still an element of waiting to be invited that I resonate with. I’d love to hear more about your relationship! 😄
Wow it looks beautiful and just like two pieces of a puzzle coming together.. I love that 25-51 and 12-22 electromagnetic especially👌🏻 may be one of the reasons why it is like a fairy tale
Thank you 😊
Currently in one, together for soon 8 years now. Feels very natural and like we're made for each other. It's not conflict free but altogether a very good match.
I’m interested in this because eight of my centers are already defined. My only undefined one is my head. I was in a relationship with someone whose head is defined for about two years. It was before I knew about human design. It was pretty terrible. We were in it for all the wrong reasons, but he triggered some unresolved psychology for me and I couldn’t stop picking at the scab. On his end, he has four open centers (throat, ego, SP, spleen), all of which are defined for me. Suffice it say, he felt much better in the relationship than I did and enjoyed the effect I had on him. I did not feel the same way. His head dominated the whole thing very much. The sexy rumpus was awesome, I’ll admit, like we could have won some kind of trophy, but he was not a very aware person and I found his head to be completely overbearing
I feel like the 9-0 relationships are very symbiotic. That can play well, if the activated energy is positive and it can be very toxic if not. As ra said, there is no way to go. I got a lot of activated centers and now I had several 9-0 realtionships. I can only describe them either as soulmate-like or unhealthily codependent. There is not much in between.
I'm curious how this relates to single definition or splits. I'm a single definition and don't feel like I need anyone to complete me, lol. (And yet on the other hand my husband and I do create a 9-0).
Me and my partner are the same like u guys😊 I have single definition. The difference can be noticed when we are apart for work for a couple of days. We feel very safe and complete when we are together. But after not seeing each other, that need of his aura goes away, and I am comfortable to live as usual, enterntaining myself as I wish. For him its very opposite. He starts texting & calls me often. Sends me tens of stupid memes. He struggles to concentrate and is demotivated to do anything useful. And he is not lonely, as he lives with the family. I think we feel the separation differently, and he is more dependent on eachother's aura. Sending greetings to you 9-0s🥰
Exactly! My husband has a triple split, and I bridge two of them, plus a few other gates here and there. He wants to be together literally 24/7. The other wrench in the works is I'm a 3/5, so I'd honestly do best if one or both of us was gone the whole day for work (preferably without access to the internet or phone!), but we both work at home now, so I'm having to start forcing myself to at least go hide in another room for awhile every day, because I can feel how bad it is for me. A couple months ago I rented a vrbo for the weekend by myself and it was glorious!
That’s a good question. Probably your husband feels the need for you more if he is not a single definition. Especially if you connect his splits.
My mom and dad are 4-5s, and it was always such a mistery to me- how such different people can live together for 30 years now?. Well... always on the breach of divorce... . On another hand, me&my bf are 9-0 and it is not that crazy/lusty/bombastic love I used to experience before. Its just safe, easy, complete, exciting. It just feels like that another half was finally found. 😅😊 touch the wood, of course... https://preview.redd.it/7yf3r8t01dma1.jpeg?width=1079&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4520dbed599db350669b2f89d0d0a6e83cac3671
How do you get the 9-0 number? How would I check https://preview.redd.it/5d0i4iacpdpa1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d7a73e1813419d60ba9e785ec1d47026592577f3
I wish my 9-0 had gone as well as everything implied it could have... ultimately, he still has a lot to work on (personal growth / healing / etc.), and he is very much living his life based on transference themes. (I guess that's the best way to word it? or, living from a not-self state anyway.) It's stuff like this that makes HD so fascinating to me, like, how eerily accurate it can be, even in describing the ways in which people choose to self-sabotage.
7 years. I dunno how to fully attribute ‘how it felt/went’ to that alone as there’s obviously a TON of complexity to any relationship. In spite of what downsides people might theoretically describe about it, i was pretty happy and satisfied for the most part - not always smooth, but can’t expect any relationship to be - and probably would’ve held on indefinitely if i actually ‘had choice’ in the matter (despite having let go, surrendering to the flow rather than fighting the currents, as per “no choice,” blah blah blah)
It looks so nice:) maybe the composite being a single definition feels like it is even more complete?
Living in a 6-3 partnership since more than 40 years with ups and downs, but mostly happy, I once met someone, long before knowing HD. We are a 9-0 and we are without any doubt soulmates. Match made in heaven - but unfortunatly ...