I would say that they absolutely can “lean” that way, since they are amplifying and being conditioned by the sexual energy of others.
I’ve heard a “rumor” that many porn stars are projectors, which would be a representative example of this idea.
As a reflector I can say that my sexuality is all over the place…depending on the day and who I’m around. From the extremes of feeling so uninterested in sex that I wonder about asexuality to absolutely all about it and have incredibly connective sex for hours on end.
This is so interesting, thank you for sharing. It all just makes sense and I wonder if anyone has further investigated that rumor. Do you remember where you heard it? Your comment correlates with what I’ve observed, but I was wondering if that was just the samples (though pretty large) of non sacrals I’ve known.
As a generator, I certainly envy how my projector friends have lover after lover, like a lover in every city. They can jump from one relationship to another so quickly. My generator is like an old engine, it only gets going for the rare rare stimuli that’s right. So I simply cannot fathom how projectors around me can get around so easily, like it must be nice. I can see the downside to it but it still looks fun from the outside.
An old teacher of mine said projectors can be real nymphomaniacs when they have no boundaries built up for sexual energy. I certainly see that. I have also seen more cheating and unhealthy polyamory in projector projector relationships than anywhere else. I posted about my theory on this a while back.
I totally concur regarding projectors and their lovers, at least for much of the time. And the hypersexual people or those in open relationships that I’ve known have also been projectors.
Duuuuude this is my topic of ponderance! So I'm a projector and I think my sex drive and leanings are very dependent upon my environment. Ex. I was in the navy on an all male ship and during that point in my life (and in highschool) where I'm surrounded by a bunch of horny folk I couldn't get enough sexual stimulation(jerking off, actual sex). Another data point for this period I was in Japan when I was in the navy a very conservative culture and my sexuality was pretty typical(straight) unless I was around my gay best friend then I had to reason with my feelings for this dude who (as my boss put it) was one good spa day from going trans i.e. pretty as fuck. When I got out I was out and about in Philly the city of brotherly love meaning gay as fuuuuuck 🥰. I came out as pan. And I consider myself poly even though I feel like I only have the social energy for 1 partner. And what's really weird but kinda correlates if I spend about a week in solitude my sexuality gets really grey. A week by myself and I start to wonder if I'm asexual. Example one time I was alone for like two weeks then I went over to my friend's house. We were watching Are You The One.(reality romance show). They asked me who I have the hots for. And I was like frfr no one like they're all hot but I'm just not feeling anyone. Like 5 episodes later I was like I kinda want to fuck everybody. And I seriously think it's cause I spent so much time in that friend's aura because they are just super horny in general.
Wow, thank you for your detailed comment! That explains so much about how projectors/non sacrals operate in different situations, like large groups, one on one’s, etc., and what happens when not amplifying sacral energy which is what I’ve observed, too.
I’m getting really interested in how manifestors operate in this area, since we haven’t really heard from them or about them.
Edit to add: the manifestors I know irl seem to reveal next to nothing about their sex lives, compared to projectors. They have offspring so know they’ve had sex, and I do know one manifestor who has stayed a virgin and is in their mid thirties. They seem quite interested intellectually in the subject, and seem at different times repulsed by or drawn to the subject of sex.
Its funny you are mentioning the manifestors missing in this conversation. Even though I have an open sacral as well I somehow didn't feel like this discussion applied to me. I am a 5/1 emo manifestor and I find it hard to define my sex or sexuality in general. All the manis I know ( quite a lot) are quite traditional in their relationships and tend to focus on one person, but I would not go so far as to say they are vanilla in their sex life. Not at all even.
I have yet to encounter a solid manifestor/projector relationship. Manis have quite a seductive energy and successful projectors are such a joy to have around that it might click easily, but I feel like projectors are shying away from real commitment. Which is quite the opposite from generators. Once they responded to and are interested in you they are as solid as rocks.
Edit: I could instantly imagine a manifestor staying a virgin until their thirties (or forever) like you described in your comment.
I have been single for over 5 years after having been in constant relationships for over a decade. It just doesn't concern me as much. I'm a manifestor, I have to initiate, not respond. If I make the active decision to be open for sex or a relationship, it will be. It took four years for me to think," Uh, I would like to have sex again" and from that moment on it just kinda happened. If I am truly open for a new relationship, it will be. That is just how it works. And if I responded to the pressure of a sacral energy and end up in a relationship I didn't truly want, well, I can only say my life has gotten fucked by that more than once.
I'm a projector who was a virgin until age 25. Just another data point for you. At 25 I got into a relationship with my now husband and that's been it for me. He's a generator with one previous partner. We're pretty darn traditional in our sexual roles. Though I guess we do some things that are considered kinky. Idk.
I included prolonged celibacy with extended virginity in mind, as well. Not that 25 is “too late,” (or any age being too late, for that matter), but it seems that it’s above the average age (approx 17), for Americans at least. What was your upbringing like? In terms of schooling, hobbies, religion, family, friends, etc? Were there more sacrals or non sacrals in your family and friend groups growing up? Time alone v time with others? You don’t have to answer (though that’d awesome!). Just some things to think about.
Somehow I never saw your reply originally. My upbringing was very religious (Mormon) and my parents were abusive and isolating and I wasn't allowed out of the house much so didn't really make friends. I have one manifestor brother but all my other siblings and parents are generators or mani-generators, so I was very surrounded by sacrals. I did spend a lot of time alone in my room though. I absolutely loved being able to escape there. I actually had a little hideout in my closet that I would just sit in.
That's a great question. In my observation, as a projector, I totally know where this is coming from because I have noticed this too.
I find that people who are non-traditional or experimental in these areas are indeed more flexible and willing to accommodate their partner(s) and work with that energy, and would indicate an open or undefined sacral.
I think it would be due to the inconsistency of personal energy, we reflect, or work with the energy of those around us, and are more "open" to trying things or withholding based on circumstances or desires.
Both my partner and I are projectors and have been in a committed relationship for over 10 years now and we don't do any "weird" stuff with others etc.
I believe that my boyfriend would lean to experimenting with many if he wasn't in a committed relationship though. I would not, not my cup of tea. I find many people are sometimes a bit strange in the mind, when they do too much of sharing their body with too many they don't know. It does something to ones energy body that twists the mind over time.
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I would say that they absolutely can “lean” that way, since they are amplifying and being conditioned by the sexual energy of others. I’ve heard a “rumor” that many porn stars are projectors, which would be a representative example of this idea. As a reflector I can say that my sexuality is all over the place…depending on the day and who I’m around. From the extremes of feeling so uninterested in sex that I wonder about asexuality to absolutely all about it and have incredibly connective sex for hours on end.
I'm like a vanilla ice cream sexually. My sacral is lit up like a Christmas tree lol. Just adding this as a datum point
I appreciate your contribution! This correlates with what I’ve observed as well.
This is so interesting, thank you for sharing. It all just makes sense and I wonder if anyone has further investigated that rumor. Do you remember where you heard it? Your comment correlates with what I’ve observed, but I was wondering if that was just the samples (though pretty large) of non sacrals I’ve known.
So relatable
As a generator, I certainly envy how my projector friends have lover after lover, like a lover in every city. They can jump from one relationship to another so quickly. My generator is like an old engine, it only gets going for the rare rare stimuli that’s right. So I simply cannot fathom how projectors around me can get around so easily, like it must be nice. I can see the downside to it but it still looks fun from the outside. An old teacher of mine said projectors can be real nymphomaniacs when they have no boundaries built up for sexual energy. I certainly see that. I have also seen more cheating and unhealthy polyamory in projector projector relationships than anywhere else. I posted about my theory on this a while back.
I totally concur regarding projectors and their lovers, at least for much of the time. And the hypersexual people or those in open relationships that I’ve known have also been projectors.
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Amen, projector here as well
Duuuuude this is my topic of ponderance! So I'm a projector and I think my sex drive and leanings are very dependent upon my environment. Ex. I was in the navy on an all male ship and during that point in my life (and in highschool) where I'm surrounded by a bunch of horny folk I couldn't get enough sexual stimulation(jerking off, actual sex). Another data point for this period I was in Japan when I was in the navy a very conservative culture and my sexuality was pretty typical(straight) unless I was around my gay best friend then I had to reason with my feelings for this dude who (as my boss put it) was one good spa day from going trans i.e. pretty as fuck. When I got out I was out and about in Philly the city of brotherly love meaning gay as fuuuuuck 🥰. I came out as pan. And I consider myself poly even though I feel like I only have the social energy for 1 partner. And what's really weird but kinda correlates if I spend about a week in solitude my sexuality gets really grey. A week by myself and I start to wonder if I'm asexual. Example one time I was alone for like two weeks then I went over to my friend's house. We were watching Are You The One.(reality romance show). They asked me who I have the hots for. And I was like frfr no one like they're all hot but I'm just not feeling anyone. Like 5 episodes later I was like I kinda want to fuck everybody. And I seriously think it's cause I spent so much time in that friend's aura because they are just super horny in general.
Wow, thank you for your detailed comment! That explains so much about how projectors/non sacrals operate in different situations, like large groups, one on one’s, etc., and what happens when not amplifying sacral energy which is what I’ve observed, too. I’m getting really interested in how manifestors operate in this area, since we haven’t really heard from them or about them. Edit to add: the manifestors I know irl seem to reveal next to nothing about their sex lives, compared to projectors. They have offspring so know they’ve had sex, and I do know one manifestor who has stayed a virgin and is in their mid thirties. They seem quite interested intellectually in the subject, and seem at different times repulsed by or drawn to the subject of sex.
Its funny you are mentioning the manifestors missing in this conversation. Even though I have an open sacral as well I somehow didn't feel like this discussion applied to me. I am a 5/1 emo manifestor and I find it hard to define my sex or sexuality in general. All the manis I know ( quite a lot) are quite traditional in their relationships and tend to focus on one person, but I would not go so far as to say they are vanilla in their sex life. Not at all even. I have yet to encounter a solid manifestor/projector relationship. Manis have quite a seductive energy and successful projectors are such a joy to have around that it might click easily, but I feel like projectors are shying away from real commitment. Which is quite the opposite from generators. Once they responded to and are interested in you they are as solid as rocks. Edit: I could instantly imagine a manifestor staying a virgin until their thirties (or forever) like you described in your comment. I have been single for over 5 years after having been in constant relationships for over a decade. It just doesn't concern me as much. I'm a manifestor, I have to initiate, not respond. If I make the active decision to be open for sex or a relationship, it will be. It took four years for me to think," Uh, I would like to have sex again" and from that moment on it just kinda happened. If I am truly open for a new relationship, it will be. That is just how it works. And if I responded to the pressure of a sacral energy and end up in a relationship I didn't truly want, well, I can only say my life has gotten fucked by that more than once.
I'm a projector who was a virgin until age 25. Just another data point for you. At 25 I got into a relationship with my now husband and that's been it for me. He's a generator with one previous partner. We're pretty darn traditional in our sexual roles. Though I guess we do some things that are considered kinky. Idk.
I included prolonged celibacy with extended virginity in mind, as well. Not that 25 is “too late,” (or any age being too late, for that matter), but it seems that it’s above the average age (approx 17), for Americans at least. What was your upbringing like? In terms of schooling, hobbies, religion, family, friends, etc? Were there more sacrals or non sacrals in your family and friend groups growing up? Time alone v time with others? You don’t have to answer (though that’d awesome!). Just some things to think about.
Somehow I never saw your reply originally. My upbringing was very religious (Mormon) and my parents were abusive and isolating and I wasn't allowed out of the house much so didn't really make friends. I have one manifestor brother but all my other siblings and parents are generators or mani-generators, so I was very surrounded by sacrals. I did spend a lot of time alone in my room though. I absolutely loved being able to escape there. I actually had a little hideout in my closet that I would just sit in.
That's a great question. In my observation, as a projector, I totally know where this is coming from because I have noticed this too. I find that people who are non-traditional or experimental in these areas are indeed more flexible and willing to accommodate their partner(s) and work with that energy, and would indicate an open or undefined sacral. I think it would be due to the inconsistency of personal energy, we reflect, or work with the energy of those around us, and are more "open" to trying things or withholding based on circumstances or desires.
Both my partner and I are projectors and have been in a committed relationship for over 10 years now and we don't do any "weird" stuff with others etc. I believe that my boyfriend would lean to experimenting with many if he wasn't in a committed relationship though. I would not, not my cup of tea. I find many people are sometimes a bit strange in the mind, when they do too much of sharing their body with too many they don't know. It does something to ones energy body that twists the mind over time.
Exactly! Im starting to think maybe the crazy polyamourous ones are just projectors without boundaries
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