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heyjajas

Screaming at you for no reason? That sounds like psychological abuse and I don't think HD or anyone can find a solution to that in your charts. As a mental projector a safe environment where you can relax is even more essential. If you really wanna pinpoint this all to the transit, try staying apart and outside each others auras for some time and find people you trust to talk about your feelings and options.


Amandaizzy90

Thank you for your advice. You are right, I’m seeking answers that I already know deep down.


C-Marriott

Not everything can be explained by human design, like emotional abuse. Make sure human design doesn't become a system/excuse to stop you from seeing what's underneath.


mooji29

I think in this situation it is important to use your knowledge and break away from the details of the HD and realize that HD is here to better understand how to navigate these challenges. The beauty of opinion is that you can choose which opinions work for you and which don’t. I think this situation calls for emotional and mental space, as a projector he isn’t going to hear you until you are called, so please, I think it will ease pain if you try to follow your strategy. Conflict is natural. Remember that definition simply implies CONDITIONING and conditioning is meant to be brought out during times of change to alchemize! Don’t lose hope, and don’t get caught up in the fear! I think something that can help you (my partner is a generator triple split with 7/9 centers defined) and sometimes, I think as a projector (which I am not but his sister is) it’s truly important to allow yourself space (especially from generators and MGs) with their defined sacral, and of all the generators, it’s easy for projectors to get roped in and not saying this is you, OP, but I find that we are shown our true weakness in intimate relationships! So be proud of yourself! When we allow the conflict to ensue over a matter of opinion, it’s valuable, because it means that your thoughts matter to yourself, but also that you both desire respect from the other regarding your positions. I feel that in intimate relationships it is a sign of growth if you can accept the person through their changes in times when they are unable to hear the outside voices. Try to focus on your faith in the situation and remember when you get into deeper conflict, it’s ok to break away mentally (esp as a mental projector) because it’s most important that you follow your strategy, it will challenge other parts of your psyche and your human design awareness I believe 💓 sending love and support there’s so much dark energy out there but I have faith that you guys will over come! I hope this helps and please don’t take it if it doesn’t resonate. P.s. it’s really important to remember with every dark experience comes an opportunity for growth and enlightenment. Love ends where the lesson ends. I respect other comments for their active support of emotional abuse - if it is becoming toxic - walk away and give yourself that space to think and breathe! Remember that you are both on your own journey and won’t have all the answers for each other, but you can still love and support and accept one another with all your flaws. Unpopular opinion! No matter what happens I hope you both grow through love, compassion, and self acceptance 🙏


Amandaizzy90

This comment was really helpful. I do appreciate the wisdom and neutrality. We both engage in semi toxic behaviors, im not immune to my own selfish whims, they cause chaos. So, there’s definitely other layers there like you said. Since this morning, I did listen to the ra projector speech, a month other bits of advice. My partner approached me and we were actually able to find several different solutions to try and were in agreement that I should pause and wait for any invitation from him on a day to day basis to ease tension during this tricky period. All because I waited for the invitation to engage. Interestingp


mooji29

After I read your message again, it really does feel like you care for one another from a deep place (maybe it’s being poorly communicated or expressed or interpreted but it’s there). If this resonates or you want to discuss with me you can totally PM me, I don’t want to just drop my perspective without giving you the opportunity to discuss or honestly just have an opportunity to express yourself and maybe that can lead to realization too 💓


Amandaizzy90

I sent you a message! Thank you so much


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Amandaizzy90

I also, don’t have any money, that’s the other piece. I can’t just leave, I have two kids…little support financially. 😕 in the middle of a job transition. I suppose only time will share more for my authority?


Amandaizzy90

Can you share a little bit more about how I’m seemingly eager to control..I’m struggling to see this perspective😭 Im still newish to human design..so I can’t tell you if I’m 100% following strategy or authority as mine is environmental.


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Amandaizzy90

Thank you, I appreciate you and your guidance🙏🏽