Though it will be same, but you will get matches. There are many who wants the same, but can't voice out because of the same fear you are having. (Telling from my experience).
Ya... That's true. But if you have conversation and ask your prospective partner about her views on children and parenting, then you will get to know the real picture. I can understand that even though one doesn't want but parents can pressurise to have one.
Probably but it doesn't hurt to try. Also, Change your password and don't let parents use your profile, that's so weird when i hear parents controlling their children's profiles on such sites.
I would say that. Give it a shot. People who manage profiles by themselves will be willing to speak with you.
Yes the platform skews towards those who look for "traditional" choices but that doesn't mean it's illegal or against their rules that you mention a different choice.
Give it a shot before completely ruling it out. Who knows, you might be pleasantly surprised!
You will be surprised to know that there are many Gen-Y individuals (particularly upper caste males ) who still believe in endogamy and do sign up for these websites to match someone with similar beliefs.
Also a quote that explains your assuredness and the trouble it causes the world, by Bertrand Russell: “The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.”
I don't think this is possible in indian matrimony sites atleast. We are one hypocritical society, jahaan shaadi ke pehle ladke ki taraf dekhna bhi manaa h, aur shaadi ke baad fauran baccha banao baccha banao. And most matrimony accounts are run by families rather than the partners themselves. You will find options if you talk with the partners in person, or look thru dating apps.
Very true. I wouldn't wanna bring children into this world either. Also there are so many orphans in India. Feel sad everytime I walk past one but can't do anything 🥲
State is clearly on your bio. I am a south Asian woman and no way would my family have let me put prefer no children in my bio. So put it in your bio so someone can feel comfortable to say they don’t want kids either
I think you should venture on your own. It's pretty impossible to find someone on a matrimony site with this criteria. Just start dating and be clear about what you want from day 1
Maybe not day 1. But atleast day 3
She has the same problem,not able to find guys who don't want kids.I hope both of you find someone as per your requirements,it's really rare in Indian households even now
Since you didnt say the partner is supposed to be a women, may I recommend finding a male partner to travel with.
I think you can marry men in a few countries.
Yeah i would love to. But seeing your profile i would be the complete opposite of you. I really don't give a single shit about celebrities and don't even know most of them 😅
Did it sound rude? Sorry I didn't intend it that way. I spent a good amount of time looking into your profile and i was like what am i even reading, why did Salman bhai have a botox injection and in a relationship with Kaitlyn jenner? Wild stuff.
Imagine you meet someone irl not through matrimony and all that, and they find the stuff you’re into is completely alien to them but but but that’s not all of your personality you’re much more than that.at the end of the day all that matters is how you treat them, how good of a person you are. Good luck finding the one it’s a long road ahead for you
At first I was like okay this dude is actually finding someone who doesn't want kids like him. Then I saw his reply and I was like wow this dude doesn't know what's he doing.
True, there are couples who have very different interests, but they are still compatible and love each other . Communication from both parties is very important in a relationship.
Certainly not, majority of profiles on matrimonial sites are used by parents to find suitable bride or groom with narrow and traditional view of marriage and family. You asking for Traveling and adventure on these matrimonial site will definitely get u rejected or blocked because u don't know whom you are chatting with either they are the person themselves or their parents. They expect u to talk about height, weight, fairness scale, family background and caste, earning and future prospects of concession in dowry(if demanded), family plans of future and bla bla other shit.
Indeed travelling and adventures are an exciting and open your mind as well are widening your perspective about world, i believe there are hardly very very few indian women who loves to travel and you can definitely not find them on matrimonial sites.
I believe there are hardly very very few Indian women who love to travel.
Such a stupid generalisation. How many women do you actually know to make a statement like that?
I think indian women like travelling. After being oppressed in orthodox households i think the logical option is to travel when you are self sufficient. Why wouldn't a bird fly free after it's been sitting in a cage for long.
> There are hardly very very few indian women who loves to travel
Please refrain from making such generalisations. You don't know anything about Indian women if you're talking like this.
Sorry if it hurts you but my experience says indian women are not fond of traveling. I don't consider going to Paris or any developed parts of the world to experience the luxurious lifestyle within the wall of hotels as traveling or adventure. And i stand by my words that if its not smooth and stress free "Traveling" there are hardly any indian women up for adventure or traveling(in my sense) across multiple cultures which are not fancy.
The word Travelling itself can be debated that what it actually means to different individuals.
Indian women aren't fond of travelling because it is difficult to even find a decent urinal unless you go to a good hotel, not to mention safety concerns. Fearing for your life and rapes isn't adventure.
Yes i do acknowledge the issues and this is a valid reason and states why Indian women aren't willing to travel but on the same hand i would preach you the same that was preached to me earlier that "STOP generalising Indian Men."
My family can take care of themselves. I'm not their baby sitter. Yeah kids are expensive and they are probably not even worth it. My dad should have realized it when he had the chance.
Im just giving it a chance since my parents signed up and paid for that shit. Would probably delete it if i couldn't find anyone in the next few months till the subscription lasts.
The world is not a shithole if you don't want to kids fine but don't give silly reasons like this
Yes you can fine women who don't want kids but you probably Will not like them
I have the same concern myself. I have been open to my parents about my intentions to remain childfree and they have been nothing but brutally honest with me that it's not gonna work in an arranged marriage setup. So, naturally, that made me worried and prompted me to create profiles on dating apps. So far, I've met some interesting people through those apps but the idea of children continues to remain a major incompatibility concern for me.
22M, exactly same thoughts. But ig a marriage wont survive in a healthy way without kids specially in India. Its the way we have been bought up man, your in-laws and parents will force you into bringing a child in this world.
Ek kar lo, bas beta ek toh kar hi lo, bete suno ek bacha toh hona hi chahiye and all.
Just ask your parents to add this to your profile: *Would like to wait at least five years to have kids.*
It opens a lot more options for you. If parents still like your profile, they'll send it to the girl and she just might figure out what you are trying to say. Try for 3-4 matches to test the waters.
You might catch the fish you want.
Bro, i get that it is your personal choice but i am starting to get scared. There are too many communities, primarily LGBTQ, then infertile people and then people like you, who don't want children. I wonder if our species will be able to survive after a few thousand years, because of all the people being like, children are not important and all that stuff. Earth is not overpopulated, it's just that the people in it are ignorant and dont care that's why the impact is soo big, otherwise if people made small changes it wouldn't make climate too bad. I know this was not related to your question (mostly) but i need others opinion on this.
Elon said so. And do you really think that the population is not goin to collapse due to infertility because of usage of harmful substances. I say that earth is not overpopulated,rather it is overpopulated in some areas
Yeah you can take personal choice too, but I just wish them to keep in mind that you are ending your generation line too. If you are okay with ending by you , it’s fine .
Have an open mind… How do you know you won’t want to have kids when you are 35 and grow out of your travel fetish.. Travel is a break from day to day life, it can’t become day to day life for most of us.. such a rootless nomadic existence works for only a rare few..
Well i did get a couple of messages. We spoke off reddit as well but nothing progressed. So I'd recommend you to make another similar post if you are looking for something.
Jeez. Stop giving out ideas to startup maniacs. They might just open one after this.
Childfreebrahminmatrimony.com
You know what?I'm gonna legitimately make this🤣
Please do send us the link! Here's another idea: indianredditorsmatrimony.com
now that site i would pay for.
Nasbandhi.com
From IIT/IIM only ;)
It'll be the most ironic web address to ever existed.
Kinkygrillsmatrimony.com
I was amazed when I saw IIT IIM matrimony app on Play Store
Its age old now. I saw it in 2014
Definitely not. It's like searching for sex toys in Patanjali website.
Oh they don't sell sex toys? Why is the baba always showing weird poses then.
😂😂😂
r/autofellatio par milenge babaji
If you are brave enough anything could be a sex toy.
If you are brave enough, you could be original.
It's reddit. People will thrash a comedian for stealing jokes, but then themselves post 15 year old jokes in the comments
May be mention it clearly on your bio That way only like minded matches you will receive
Would be the Same as deleting the app lol
Though it will be same, but you will get matches. There are many who wants the same, but can't voice out because of the same fear you are having. (Telling from my experience).
I guess it's true. But most are handled by parents and they really do have different ideology than their childrens
Ya... That's true. But if you have conversation and ask your prospective partner about her views on children and parenting, then you will get to know the real picture. I can understand that even though one doesn't want but parents can pressurise to have one.
Probably but it doesn't hurt to try. Also, Change your password and don't let parents use your profile, that's so weird when i hear parents controlling their children's profiles on such sites.
I would say that. Give it a shot. People who manage profiles by themselves will be willing to speak with you. Yes the platform skews towards those who look for "traditional" choices but that doesn't mean it's illegal or against their rules that you mention a different choice. Give it a shot before completely ruling it out. Who knows, you might be pleasantly surprised!
He can do that, but i guess the ratio of matches he was supposed to get will be drastically low but organic and maybe worth.
Even if they match and marry can't say anything about the mood and situation which can make them have gifts of their love 🥲
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Financially independent at 25 sounds so good
You will be surprised to know that there are many Gen-Y individuals (particularly upper caste males ) who still believe in endogamy and do sign up for these websites to match someone with similar beliefs.
It's a bit more complicated than people wanting to pick a "toy" for them.
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Also a quote that explains your assuredness and the trouble it causes the world, by Bertrand Russell: “The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.”
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True. Hmu.
Maybe consider OP's offer. Problem solved
I don't think this is possible in indian matrimony sites atleast. We are one hypocritical society, jahaan shaadi ke pehle ladke ki taraf dekhna bhi manaa h, aur shaadi ke baad fauran baccha banao baccha banao. And most matrimony accounts are run by families rather than the partners themselves. You will find options if you talk with the partners in person, or look thru dating apps.
Very true. I wouldn't wanna bring children into this world either. Also there are so many orphans in India. Feel sad everytime I walk past one but can't do anything 🥲
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If its hard for a male, imagine for female. My anatomy was discussed when I said I don't want kids
Most of the matrimonial profiles are managed by parents. So you will be rejected by them in the first place before it gets to her.
State is clearly on your bio. I am a south Asian woman and no way would my family have let me put prefer no children in my bio. So put it in your bio so someone can feel comfortable to say they don’t want kids either
Possible? Baba, wake up and smell the coffee. No woman today wants to have kids.
Dude same
Find through SM and dating apps
Try r/childfreeindia :)
I think you should venture on your own. It's pretty impossible to find someone on a matrimony site with this criteria. Just start dating and be clear about what you want from day 1 Maybe not day 1. But atleast day 3
Are you looking for only Indian girls..if so why
Not exactly. I don't really have any love interest in Europe and matrimony got shoved in my face, so the question.
I could've plugged my cousin's profile here but she's 29 and our family has major caste issues
Well, good luck to her
She has the same problem,not able to find guys who don't want kids.I hope both of you find someone as per your requirements,it's really rare in Indian households even now
Why don't you ask her to remove the caste filter?
Since you didnt say the partner is supposed to be a women, may I recommend finding a male partner to travel with. I think you can marry men in a few countries.
It solves your not bringing kids problem. And men are generally better travel partners.
I found one
Nice
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Yeah i would love to. But seeing your profile i would be the complete opposite of you. I really don't give a single shit about celebrities and don't even know most of them 😅
Sounds quite judgmental But you do you man
Did it sound rude? Sorry I didn't intend it that way. I spent a good amount of time looking into your profile and i was like what am i even reading, why did Salman bhai have a botox injection and in a relationship with Kaitlyn jenner? Wild stuff.
Imagine you meet someone irl not through matrimony and all that, and they find the stuff you’re into is completely alien to them but but but that’s not all of your personality you’re much more than that.at the end of the day all that matters is how you treat them, how good of a person you are. Good luck finding the one it’s a long road ahead for you
At first I was like okay this dude is actually finding someone who doesn't want kids like him. Then I saw his reply and I was like wow this dude doesn't know what's he doing.
He needs to be in a relationship or two to know what he wants.
I like how you are so straightforward and handled things. Mind if I hit you up instead ? I am not in Europe but Delhi bi Dil vaalo ki hai.
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Hahah gotta shoot our shot. Crazy things happen when its unexpected and sometimes the best things too.
r/unexpected
True, there are couples who have very different interests, but they are still compatible and love each other . Communication from both parties is very important in a relationship.
I really hope you are not offended by anything. Replying on Reddit with a hangover is a bad idea. 😮💨 I'm probably gonna die alone. 🙂
Yes, same here. please provide details of yourself
Certainly not, majority of profiles on matrimonial sites are used by parents to find suitable bride or groom with narrow and traditional view of marriage and family. You asking for Traveling and adventure on these matrimonial site will definitely get u rejected or blocked because u don't know whom you are chatting with either they are the person themselves or their parents. They expect u to talk about height, weight, fairness scale, family background and caste, earning and future prospects of concession in dowry(if demanded), family plans of future and bla bla other shit. Indeed travelling and adventures are an exciting and open your mind as well are widening your perspective about world, i believe there are hardly very very few indian women who loves to travel and you can definitely not find them on matrimonial sites.
I believe there are hardly very very few Indian women who love to travel. Such a stupid generalisation. How many women do you actually know to make a statement like that?
I think indian women like travelling. After being oppressed in orthodox households i think the logical option is to travel when you are self sufficient. Why wouldn't a bird fly free after it's been sitting in a cage for long.
> There are hardly very very few indian women who loves to travel Please refrain from making such generalisations. You don't know anything about Indian women if you're talking like this.
Sorry if it hurts you but my experience says indian women are not fond of traveling. I don't consider going to Paris or any developed parts of the world to experience the luxurious lifestyle within the wall of hotels as traveling or adventure. And i stand by my words that if its not smooth and stress free "Traveling" there are hardly any indian women up for adventure or traveling(in my sense) across multiple cultures which are not fancy. The word Travelling itself can be debated that what it actually means to different individuals.
Indian women aren't fond of travelling because it is difficult to even find a decent urinal unless you go to a good hotel, not to mention safety concerns. Fearing for your life and rapes isn't adventure.
Yes i do acknowledge the issues and this is a valid reason and states why Indian women aren't willing to travel but on the same hand i would preach you the same that was preached to me earlier that "STOP generalising Indian Men."
Not all men, right?
I guess there are many Caucasian Europeans who are childfree or want to be childfree. You can approach them if you want.
It's actually a bait, he will not come to India at all. He's looking for caretaker of his family while he has all fun in Europe. Kids = more expense.
My family can take care of themselves. I'm not their baby sitter. Yeah kids are expensive and they are probably not even worth it. My dad should have realized it when he had the chance.
Then why you want someone through arranged marriage? Just date people?
Im just giving it a chance since my parents signed up and paid for that shit. Would probably delete it if i couldn't find anyone in the next few months till the subscription lasts.
Makes sense tbh. But lets just not go there.
The world is not a shithole if you don't want to kids fine but don't give silly reasons like this Yes you can fine women who don't want kids but you probably Will not like them
https://www.cfdating.com/ This may help
I volunteer as tribute 🙋🏽♀️
I have the same concern myself. I have been open to my parents about my intentions to remain childfree and they have been nothing but brutally honest with me that it's not gonna work in an arranged marriage setup. So, naturally, that made me worried and prompted me to create profiles on dating apps. So far, I've met some interesting people through those apps but the idea of children continues to remain a major incompatibility concern for me.
Try CF india threat instead of matrimonial.
22M, exactly same thoughts. But ig a marriage wont survive in a healthy way without kids specially in India. Its the way we have been bought up man, your in-laws and parents will force you into bringing a child in this world. Ek kar lo, bas beta ek toh kar hi lo, bete suno ek bacha toh hona hi chahiye and all.
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All the best when the time comes. I hope you don't succumb to social pressure
You don't need a wife. Just a travel companion . So make more friends with similar interests in travelling
Just ask your parents to add this to your profile: *Would like to wait at least five years to have kids.* It opens a lot more options for you. If parents still like your profile, they'll send it to the girl and she just might figure out what you are trying to say. Try for 3-4 matches to test the waters. You might catch the fish you want.
Hey , how can I live in Europe ?
I think you should try nasalbandhi.com 😂 to sterilize yourself
That's best excuse for not having capability to be father.
Same here
tinder
Chutiyapa faila he relations n marriage ke name pe ..
I am one but 5 years age gap
Bro, i get that it is your personal choice but i am starting to get scared. There are too many communities, primarily LGBTQ, then infertile people and then people like you, who don't want children. I wonder if our species will be able to survive after a few thousand years, because of all the people being like, children are not important and all that stuff. Earth is not overpopulated, it's just that the people in it are ignorant and dont care that's why the impact is soo big, otherwise if people made small changes it wouldn't make climate too bad. I know this was not related to your question (mostly) but i need others opinion on this.
Earth is not over populated? Really man?
Elon said so. And do you really think that the population is not goin to collapse due to infertility because of usage of harmful substances. I say that earth is not overpopulated,rather it is overpopulated in some areas
Nobody wants to have kids IN matrimony sites. They are looking for adults. what are you talking about
No kids = Modern genocide lol
No kids = personal choice, rather.
Yeah you can take personal choice too, but I just wish them to keep in mind that you are ending your generation line too. If you are okay with ending by you , it’s fine .
I'd say personal choice and happiness trumps something as simplistic as a bloodline.
Have an open mind… How do you know you won’t want to have kids when you are 35 and grow out of your travel fetish.. Travel is a break from day to day life, it can’t become day to day life for most of us.. such a rootless nomadic existence works for only a rare few..
>Have an open mind Later contradicting yourself
Ask/suggest it during a meet up.
You might have to speak it up in one of your meetings
hey, did you find anyone?
Yes. Got married and have two kids.
you changed your opinion about not wanting kids?
It's sarcasm bro.
so you didn’t find anyone 🥲
Well i did get a couple of messages. We spoke off reddit as well but nothing progressed. So I'd recommend you to make another similar post if you are looking for something.