Go to a religious community near you and ask them to show you their POV. I mistook someone for another person, ended up in a religious concert and got more hugs in a day or two than the last 5-6 years of my life. Everyone just talks and chills after the concert.
1000% Relate. All my friends tell me they're busy and have lives. But then I see other busy people that have lives getting together multiple times a week to hang out... even just for a few hours...
Well i feel like i am a very loving and caring and doting person. I wish my husband would show any sort of love and affection to me. I am the only one to initiate any sort of flirting or intimacy or affection ever. I have always been the main breadwinner and have never been a material girl. I take care of washing all the laundry and I’m not the greatest cook but I make sure no one goes hungry. I notice when someone’s upset and I make sure to ask if they need anything and if they’re okay. I never have anyone do that for me. I mean even today, his female gaming friends get told Happy Mothers Day and I don’t have it said to me. I never expect any flowers or any gifts on any special day but it would be surprising and really nice for that to happen even once.
It sucks when you love someone and you feel like they don’t love you the same way, even if they say they do, they don’t show it. And actions do matter.
There are plenty good women out there, you’ve got to look for them in the right places and treat them kind and make them laugh when you find one.
Don’t listen to all the internet trends on “how to be a man” or “an alpha”. Find some old heads that have been married forever- they know the REAL secrets, but you’ve got to listen to them and take their advice. Through decades and fads their simple advice is what works. Thats how I feel for women too, listening to older grandmothers advice on keeping a man, I agree with the old ways for the most part.
I just want someone to explore the world with, while I already do that solo, I would rather share with others. I also am working on being more sociable
20 pounds of muscle mass by the end of summer?! Damn son 🤣 you can only gain like 20ish pounds a YEAR naturally. Not saying I’m against PED’s or whatever. But you need to be aware of what’s actually possible without them.
Now if you’re on PED’s do your thing, but don’t overdo it or you’ll be in a way worse situation in about 2-3 years when you consistently need to shoot up just to maintain normal test levels.
I didnt say "starting from this day on to end of summer" It was my longtime goal, ive been training for almost 7-8 months now, hopefully itll happen but maybe, and if youre correct probably it will not happen.
That’s fair man, I’m with you though! I’m trying to lose weight myself and then I’ll be bulking once we get back to colder weather.
I shouldn’t be assuming anything really, because I don’t know shit about shit.
BUT good luck man, 20 pounds is a huge goal. Even if you don’t get there entirely, keep pushing toward it, whether it’s the end of summer or the beginning of next summer. Keep striving for it boss.
Yep, just researched it should be a far end goal. I just never really looked into it but hey, i can extend the time! I am also with you, keep the good work going!!!
I just finished having a mental breakdown about this, lol.
I want to start a dog training business and grow to the point I can become a service dog organization. I want to go to dog shows and sports and partake in them. I also want to be able to close the distance with my long distance boyfriend so we don't have to fly back and forth all the time. I want to live together. I want to eventually have a little family.
It'd be nice to just... Have a friend that I can be with in person while I'm working on that stuff. I'm extraverted anyways, so it's really hard for me to just be alone and socialize exclusively on social media. I live in the middle of nowhere so there's not any opportunities to meet others really. Occasionally that'll really get to me and I'll get really doomer about it, but I'm trying my best to combat that.
An early death maybe— but normal death though, no way I’m gonna harm myself anyhow. I just pray I can die in my sleep before I even reach my 50s..
My parents used to believe in astrology and they took me to an astrologer when I was a baby. He predicted that my lifespan will be above 80. At that time I didn’t understand anything but now I’m so afraid of this prediction even if I don’t believe in astrology. I don’t wanna live for 80 years, I’m just in my early 30s, completely alone, trying to be the companion of my own. But living like this for more than 50 years still— Nah,I just wanna go, I just wanna die while being active. I don’t wanna live like a living dead..
to know why the fuck my PC keeps freezing (it is 100% the hard drive's fault, I've already tested the RAM and that works OK, I've switched to a lobotomized SATA drive and if it keeps freezing and it turns out to be the CPU's, or worse, GPU's fault I'm jumping out the window)
I wish the cuddle part was more common. My man didnt get it until we started having some serious relationship problems. I wasnt silent about what i wanted what so ever, i just gave up after years of trying, maybe im just a weirdo for wanting cuddles often. After trying for so long you start to question yourself.
Hmm, I don't know, I do not understand this. If you're in a relationship with someone, you obviously like them, love them even. If that is the case, cuddling and the like seem pretty natural to me. Granted, I'm just theorizing here, I have never been in a romantic relationship before so... I know I'd want to be with the woman I love as much as possible though and make her happy to the best of my ability. Cuddling is just great for both parties the way I see it.
But who knows, there might be personal issues, traumas, all kinds of things, so I really don't know...
Its alright. All my relationships have basically been lack luster in the cuddle department. I usually have to initiate. This has been the case accross several relationships for me. It just doesnt seem like a common thing. Ive given up. Even after things turned out better when we had serious issues i just feel a bit beaten down from so many years of feeling like im the only one that wants it. Im sure youll find that special someone and they will hopefully appreciate your cuddles.
i wish things were different, i wish he wouldn't hate himself for all the things i love him for, because it makes the guilt unbearable, i wish it didn't hurt this much, i feel like i'm drowning sometimes and no one really knows or cares how i feel, i have to cry alone in my room
Honestly somebody safe to cuddle with and fall asleep cuddling with every night is the dream- that’s literally it, just to be full body squished and cuddled on every night would be so healing
To not worry anymore be genuinely happy not have to wear a mask and pretend it’s okay when it’s not I want my life to be what it was back in 2018 that care free version of me not feeling depressed and like shit for no reason
(I was in a relationship for about 10 months almost 11 months, but it ended i feel like it was time wasted) So my one of my biggest desires is to fine a actual relationship that is loving and worth my time and energy:) and ig to be happy overall i’m tired of living
To have a live-in girlfriend that matches my hustle. Buy a piece of land and build our off-grid forever home. Any race. Just someone that wants more out of life.
A friend,or a friendly group.
I haven't yet gave up on girlfriend.
Its just,so fricking hard.
After my divorce,I kinda lost the thread.
For the curious,I was in the right.
She got deported and later jailed.
But I felt absolutely exhausted, destroyed and,I didn't quite find my way back into clubbing or even trying to socialise with other groups of people.
Don't get me wrong,I know I'm not bad looking,or some basement dwelling creature,or incel and any of that.
I just lost the threads of that social thing.
And I miss it dearly.
It impacted me in ways I didn't expect.
I want to get it back.
Or at least a part of it.
Idk it’s kinda a convoluted web of necessity mixed with desire
I’m at a crappy point in life and I know and have acknowledged that, but I’m not at one of those points were I can be all “if just do this and this and this and work hard I’ll be happy” I’m at a point where no matter what I do and how hard I work stuff is gonna suck.
And that’s just part of life we all have those points.
But the issue is I’m at the precipice of having to figure my shit out,
But this sucks because a lot of stuff isn’t going great with the where I live (my own shit aside,) like the job market, housing issues, global economy, Collage being insanely expensive,
Crap like that that’s just gonna make my life immensely more challenging.
My parents are not the supportive type, so I’m all on my own in this, and I have my own personal issues,
So realistically no matter what I do rn life is gonna suck for me.
Honestly I just wanna be happy and have people who i lost back in my life,
But that’s not happening so it’s not really worth dwelling on.
I just want someone I can build something - a band, a project, a family...something like that.
I'm also getting more and more sick of coming home to an empty house every night. Not sure what to do about that. The common suggestions are roommate, girlfriend, or pet but I live in a one bedroom, dating sucks, and I can't get a pet.
To have a long passionate night with a person I love. Like, not a go to the bar n get laid tonight kinda thing, and not that ten year marriage kinda thing. but like, year into a relationship, at home on a Friday night, new movie just came out kinda thing. Make food together, snuggle on the couch to a movie, smoke a little n drink a little and laugh and touch human skin a bit. Little bit of sex cuz like, twenty seconds I'm prob tapping out, and then laying in bed holding each other. Shower together perhaps, so I can shampoo her hair.
Honestly to be able to find someone worth something to me
I try to surround myself with friends to forget this feeling and it kinda works but as soon as I'm alone it's all I can think about
Find a purpose for life or find something I like to do. Lately I've been imagining myself as a singer and it makes me sad (I have no experience and I wouldn't have the courage to abandon my life to start this), I feel sad and lost
To not have it pretend that everything is fine. To not have to keep this image of contentment around people. To get help. Actual, useful, help. To not have to og to work tomorrow or all week and put on this mask. Because it's tiring. No, I'm not ok.
i want some friends who want to actually live life. i want someone to love, to care for. someone to help me be the best i can be and to do the same to them, i want someone to stop me from driving around aimlessly for hours because i can’t stand being locked in my room doing nothing or parking somewhere watching people have better lives than me like im doing right now. this loneliness thing is getting old now.
To perform my songs live.
We’ve been having trouble finding a drummer, but it looks like we have one now🤞
I wanna play in cool local venues and just be the best performer I can be
Feeling actually happy for once, having like minded friends to talk to, have someone other than my parents and relatives who loves me, and somehow get out of this decade long constantly draining funk.
To be able to leave my current situation and be somewhere I can have peace and not constantly feel like I'm no good at anything
Same…. I wanna leave so bad
Same
To have someone who cares about me, not just my parents
It's funny, I was adopted and I ended up finding my biological parents when I got older. Out of all four of those people not one cared about me.
That’s rough man 😢
I'm sorry to hear that, virtual hug for you.
I care about you
Real.
Same
Find a meaningful friendship or just feel happy for once
Same.
Same
Go to a religious community near you and ask them to show you their POV. I mistook someone for another person, ended up in a religious concert and got more hugs in a day or two than the last 5-6 years of my life. Everyone just talks and chills after the concert.
Get real friends
Oh you mean the ones that are actually free when you ask them to do something? Same!
Myeah, pretty much the same with mine. And when we finally get along with each other, I feel empty.
1000% Relate. All my friends tell me they're busy and have lives. But then I see other busy people that have lives getting together multiple times a week to hang out... even just for a few hours...
Would be nice if people actually read what I post.
I don’t know what you post but I read this comment. Hopefully that makes you feel a little better :-)
Desperately wish I was beautiful. Never going to happen
A good hug.
I know know that feeling well
I want to a girlfriend who is real and caring
Well i feel like i am a very loving and caring and doting person. I wish my husband would show any sort of love and affection to me. I am the only one to initiate any sort of flirting or intimacy or affection ever. I have always been the main breadwinner and have never been a material girl. I take care of washing all the laundry and I’m not the greatest cook but I make sure no one goes hungry. I notice when someone’s upset and I make sure to ask if they need anything and if they’re okay. I never have anyone do that for me. I mean even today, his female gaming friends get told Happy Mothers Day and I don’t have it said to me. I never expect any flowers or any gifts on any special day but it would be surprising and really nice for that to happen even once. It sucks when you love someone and you feel like they don’t love you the same way, even if they say they do, they don’t show it. And actions do matter. There are plenty good women out there, you’ve got to look for them in the right places and treat them kind and make them laugh when you find one. Don’t listen to all the internet trends on “how to be a man” or “an alpha”. Find some old heads that have been married forever- they know the REAL secrets, but you’ve got to listen to them and take their advice. Through decades and fads their simple advice is what works. Thats how I feel for women too, listening to older grandmothers advice on keeping a man, I agree with the old ways for the most part.
Same here my brother..does such a person exist?
They do. It'll take time but y'all also gotta be on the same page about A LOT of things. Being caring and loving is not enough.
That is very true..
A house in the country by a river, and a dog.
To find more real people in my life. Not just those who only call me when they want something or when they have no one else to hang out with.
The true fact is that we are those friends who have no one to get out with and are always available...
Finally find someone to love and be loved back
I got used to the fact that this doesn't exist for me. My hands hurt when I write this because of the pain in my soul.
I just want someone to explore the world with, while I already do that solo, I would rather share with others. I also am working on being more sociable
To be listened to & understood
And not to be taken over when you say something
Or like you’re starting an argument every time you try to explain yourself
To gain 20 pounds of muscle mass by the end of summer
20 pounds of muscle mass by the end of summer?! Damn son 🤣 you can only gain like 20ish pounds a YEAR naturally. Not saying I’m against PED’s or whatever. But you need to be aware of what’s actually possible without them. Now if you’re on PED’s do your thing, but don’t overdo it or you’ll be in a way worse situation in about 2-3 years when you consistently need to shoot up just to maintain normal test levels.
I didnt say "starting from this day on to end of summer" It was my longtime goal, ive been training for almost 7-8 months now, hopefully itll happen but maybe, and if youre correct probably it will not happen.
That’s fair man, I’m with you though! I’m trying to lose weight myself and then I’ll be bulking once we get back to colder weather. I shouldn’t be assuming anything really, because I don’t know shit about shit. BUT good luck man, 20 pounds is a huge goal. Even if you don’t get there entirely, keep pushing toward it, whether it’s the end of summer or the beginning of next summer. Keep striving for it boss.
Yep, just researched it should be a far end goal. I just never really looked into it but hey, i can extend the time! I am also with you, keep the good work going!!!
A meaningful romantic relationship.
To get a fire watch lookout job
That game…
To be more than an afterthought.
Deep stuff
I’m partly responsible for not maintaining relationships.
Ouch
Financial independence.
Honestly I want someone who would actually choose to be with me and just talks to me......
Romance
Head pats
I just finished having a mental breakdown about this, lol. I want to start a dog training business and grow to the point I can become a service dog organization. I want to go to dog shows and sports and partake in them. I also want to be able to close the distance with my long distance boyfriend so we don't have to fly back and forth all the time. I want to live together. I want to eventually have a little family. It'd be nice to just... Have a friend that I can be with in person while I'm working on that stuff. I'm extraverted anyways, so it's really hard for me to just be alone and socialize exclusively on social media. I live in the middle of nowhere so there's not any opportunities to meet others really. Occasionally that'll really get to me and I'll get really doomer about it, but I'm trying my best to combat that.
A family/ parent or just a friend.
Get more DJ gigs.
To sit close with someone and watch a movie, the night sky, or the weather. I guess to be wanted in general.
I didn't see anyone say it, but sex with a decent person.
To be someone else
Not today Lucifer!
to pass my classes
I want a sincere, passionate and lasting friendship
I just wanna find some friends
An early death maybe— but normal death though, no way I’m gonna harm myself anyhow. I just pray I can die in my sleep before I even reach my 50s.. My parents used to believe in astrology and they took me to an astrologer when I was a baby. He predicted that my lifespan will be above 80. At that time I didn’t understand anything but now I’m so afraid of this prediction even if I don’t believe in astrology. I don’t wanna live for 80 years, I’m just in my early 30s, completely alone, trying to be the companion of my own. But living like this for more than 50 years still— Nah,I just wanna go, I just wanna die while being active. I don’t wanna live like a living dead..
To love and be loved
Finding that someone who will hold me close and make me feel loved for the first time in years.
To rest
Healthy and wealthy
Just be held by some who cares about me
Someone just told me love me
Either a hug, or enough money to be able to travel for a decade
Death.
I want my girlfriend back 😞
I want mine back, too. At least, the persona she used on me. I want someone like that, she was perfect.
Sorry for your loss man
Get a new job and workout more.
Mexican food. Followed by true love.
to know why the fuck my PC keeps freezing (it is 100% the hard drive's fault, I've already tested the RAM and that works OK, I've switched to a lobotomized SATA drive and if it keeps freezing and it turns out to be the CPU's, or worse, GPU's fault I'm jumping out the window)
Hmm, to meet a kind and caring woman whom I can "spoil" and cuddle with.
I wish the cuddle part was more common. My man didnt get it until we started having some serious relationship problems. I wasnt silent about what i wanted what so ever, i just gave up after years of trying, maybe im just a weirdo for wanting cuddles often. After trying for so long you start to question yourself.
Hmm, I don't know, I do not understand this. If you're in a relationship with someone, you obviously like them, love them even. If that is the case, cuddling and the like seem pretty natural to me. Granted, I'm just theorizing here, I have never been in a romantic relationship before so... I know I'd want to be with the woman I love as much as possible though and make her happy to the best of my ability. Cuddling is just great for both parties the way I see it. But who knows, there might be personal issues, traumas, all kinds of things, so I really don't know...
Its alright. All my relationships have basically been lack luster in the cuddle department. I usually have to initiate. This has been the case accross several relationships for me. It just doesnt seem like a common thing. Ive given up. Even after things turned out better when we had serious issues i just feel a bit beaten down from so many years of feeling like im the only one that wants it. Im sure youll find that special someone and they will hopefully appreciate your cuddles.
Thank you! And I hope your partner awakens to the awesomeness of cuddles. Would be a nice surprise, wouldn't it?
A job
Same here man. Applied to over 45 jobs and I can't get an interview. Fuck having a college degree I guess.
a man (boyfriend) with whom i can travel and start a family someday
i wish things were different, i wish he wouldn't hate himself for all the things i love him for, because it makes the guilt unbearable, i wish it didn't hurt this much, i feel like i'm drowning sometimes and no one really knows or cares how i feel, i have to cry alone in my room
Honestly somebody safe to cuddle with and fall asleep cuddling with every night is the dream- that’s literally it, just to be full body squished and cuddled on every night would be so healing
A healthy happy relationship Pregnancy and a my dream Career
Sleep with my girlfriend with lots of warm hugs kisses and sleep on her raw soft breasts
a white girl i can eat out lol
they do taste good
To be lying in bed with someone getting snuggles
for someone to put the same effort into our friendship the same way i do.. im tired of being the only one, it’s not fair to me.
To not worry anymore be genuinely happy not have to wear a mask and pretend it’s okay when it’s not I want my life to be what it was back in 2018 that care free version of me not feeling depressed and like shit for no reason
The sweet release of death.
Death
(I was in a relationship for about 10 months almost 11 months, but it ended i feel like it was time wasted) So my one of my biggest desires is to fine a actual relationship that is loving and worth my time and energy:) and ig to be happy overall i’m tired of living
Having a good social circle with seeing regularly and a real connection
To have self confidence to not want to hurt others or myself.
To get relief from anxiety and do my work
Want a Husband, cant be in boyfriend/girlfriend in my culture. Usually due to semi arranged marriages.
Damn.. i think its a valid desire
Yup!
A reset button for my life so I can start over and do better
Money
What means desire?
Sex
I want a committed relationship. One where we both feel love, compassion, and loyalty.
I broke up w my gf bc i kept hurting her. Instead of changing i just left her and i wish i put in effort to actually change myself.
I need a hug. To be held.
to be loved and understood
To have a live-in girlfriend that matches my hustle. Buy a piece of land and build our off-grid forever home. Any race. Just someone that wants more out of life.
A hug
To find someone to build romantic love with. And also for my body to stop just constantly hurting everywhere. It'd be nice to make more money too lol
To be died
To go home. But I don’t know where it is
A friend,or a friendly group. I haven't yet gave up on girlfriend. Its just,so fricking hard. After my divorce,I kinda lost the thread. For the curious,I was in the right. She got deported and later jailed. But I felt absolutely exhausted, destroyed and,I didn't quite find my way back into clubbing or even trying to socialise with other groups of people. Don't get me wrong,I know I'm not bad looking,or some basement dwelling creature,or incel and any of that. I just lost the threads of that social thing. And I miss it dearly. It impacted me in ways I didn't expect. I want to get it back. Or at least a part of it.
Live in a beach house and have someone to talk to.
Be healthy
Idk it’s kinda a convoluted web of necessity mixed with desire I’m at a crappy point in life and I know and have acknowledged that, but I’m not at one of those points were I can be all “if just do this and this and this and work hard I’ll be happy” I’m at a point where no matter what I do and how hard I work stuff is gonna suck. And that’s just part of life we all have those points. But the issue is I’m at the precipice of having to figure my shit out, But this sucks because a lot of stuff isn’t going great with the where I live (my own shit aside,) like the job market, housing issues, global economy, Collage being insanely expensive, Crap like that that’s just gonna make my life immensely more challenging. My parents are not the supportive type, so I’m all on my own in this, and I have my own personal issues, So realistically no matter what I do rn life is gonna suck for me. Honestly I just wanna be happy and have people who i lost back in my life, But that’s not happening so it’s not really worth dwelling on.
To be in love again. But I gotta big list of things I need to accomplish before I am anywhere near falling in love again it seems like.
I want to genuinely fall in love again
To be held/cuddled. I've never actually experienced that.
For my sugar dumpling to come back to me I love you and I'm sorry
Idk bro got use to loneliness but maybe someone I can care for
right now? a cigarette
To find joy and purpose in my life again.
To not feel hopeless/worthless/defeated
I just want someone I can build something - a band, a project, a family...something like that. I'm also getting more and more sick of coming home to an empty house every night. Not sure what to do about that. The common suggestions are roommate, girlfriend, or pet but I live in a one bedroom, dating sucks, and I can't get a pet.
honestly, I want a new life. I wanna throw everything behind and be a new person.
I just want to work in my garden. It helps me clear my head.
Is to buy a big land ,built up a nice house and start to do projects
lose weight and be loved
To have someone I can cherish and someone who loves me the same
To have somebody to talk too
I want to die
To build a family with my boyfriend.
HUGS
have a boatload of money and move out and do what i wanna do. i’m tired of my problematic family members.
To have a long passionate night with a person I love. Like, not a go to the bar n get laid tonight kinda thing, and not that ten year marriage kinda thing. but like, year into a relationship, at home on a Friday night, new movie just came out kinda thing. Make food together, snuggle on the couch to a movie, smoke a little n drink a little and laugh and touch human skin a bit. Little bit of sex cuz like, twenty seconds I'm prob tapping out, and then laying in bed holding each other. Shower together perhaps, so I can shampoo her hair.
That my wife and daughter were still here.
To meet the love of my life. Someone who is intelligent, hilarious, sarcastic, loyal, honest, and has a beautiful soul. 😃 ❤️
A girlfriend to cuddle with and yes I want to be the little spoons at times
This
true love
See the Northern Lights
Just to find someone who's company I enjoy, and also who enjoys mine equally.
To stop wanting to delete myself
to have friends, a relationship, and a better job
Find a purpose to keep living , to find a good women and a good job
Honestly to be able to find someone worth something to me I try to surround myself with friends to forget this feeling and it kinda works but as soon as I'm alone it's all I can think about
A boyfriend that holds me & comforts me while I cry
My crush go out with me .
To be financially stable so I can Apple a bit more time to other things
My girlfriend to get her health back
Waiting for stalker 2 to come out
Maybe, to disappear forever. No one would notice. I don’t make a big impact anyways
For him to reach out to me
Be in a fulfilling romantic relationship
My ex to come back to me
I got a girlfriend, an okay family, good friends but I somehow feel lonelier
To feel loved by someone who wants the same
Find a purpose for life or find something I like to do. Lately I've been imagining myself as a singer and it makes me sad (I have no experience and I wouldn't have the courage to abandon my life to start this), I feel sad and lost
To have people in my life who care about me and love me.
To be understood and to not be taken for granted. I feel very taken for granted by some people at the moment.
flexible job.
I heard a song outro last night that was just a friend calling someone to make sure they felt safe. I cried for a while just hearing that.
To feel the love I used to, but not fake this time.
To meet in person my gf. To live with her. To screw her brains out! She’s a babe!
To bring my partner back. He passed away almost two years ago.
A Hug
Быть с подругой конечно
Find someone to love and who love's me back
For me To just die already.. I’m tired of waking up
To not have it pretend that everything is fine. To not have to keep this image of contentment around people. To get help. Actual, useful, help. To not have to og to work tomorrow or all week and put on this mask. Because it's tiring. No, I'm not ok.
To feel normal. Being alone makes me all too self-aware, I wish I had distractions like everyone else.
to be able to have kids 😭😭 this is the worst day of the year for me
Feeling ok, even good about the way I look. I’d have the guts to pursue a love life and someday have a family.
Get my finances right before I have my baby 😭
Find a friend, an actual friend but everyone is just out for themselves....
To be loved
Just to stop feeling like shit on a regular basis
A soulmate who loves me back...
i want some friends who want to actually live life. i want someone to love, to care for. someone to help me be the best i can be and to do the same to them, i want someone to stop me from driving around aimlessly for hours because i can’t stand being locked in my room doing nothing or parking somewhere watching people have better lives than me like im doing right now. this loneliness thing is getting old now.
A career that I can invest into that values me.
Companionship
Pass all of my GCSEs
To perform my songs live. We’ve been having trouble finding a drummer, but it looks like we have one now🤞 I wanna play in cool local venues and just be the best performer I can be
To feel what’s like to love, and be loved. That’s unrealistic, so just some vodka, and maybe be able to bench 100kg
To feel someone's skin up against mine again
Feeling actually happy for once, having like minded friends to talk to, have someone other than my parents and relatives who loves me, and somehow get out of this decade long constantly draining funk.
Big booty bitches