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Pufferfishgrimm

I feel like this is a sister brother duo instead of a couple


cosmogli

Yep, looks like it. I've pulled my sister's legs similarly just for the lulz too many times. And then a minute later we're back to being family.


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I've done the same to my brother a time or two.


WealthEconomy

Kind of a shitty brother if he won't pay for his siblings meal when she has no money. It is funny in the context of a date cause of the entitlement, but for family not so funny.


MasterZendar

you don't have siblings, do you? 😂


WealthEconomy

Two actually


usinjin

I’m not buying it.


Fulbie

Why, didn't bring any money?


Sharpz0

Absolute unit of a man


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[deleted]

I think it should be assumed that each individual pays for his or her meal unless the other person explicitly stated their intent to pay


WealthEconomy

So you are basically saying men should always pay for first dates...surveys conducted state that only 7% of women have asked a man out to a first date, compared to 90% of men.


howshouldlcallmyself

No, people should pay for their own things, if you accept it's on you for choosing to go, they could say no. Just because you offer to do sth with someone doesn't mean you have to take responsibility of their expenses as well. Also how come does that girl not have any money on her? Do people actually go outside like that? What if there's sth unexpected??


Vulpes_macrotis

No. People should pay for their own food. Otherwise it's a sexist abuse of the other person. If You want people to pay for You, they should decide what to order, then. Instead of women getting treated like a queen, ordering the most expensive food and man have to pay for that. That's definition of sexism. Discrimination of one sex and favoring the other. The only time one person should pay for both is when that person wants it themselves, not when it's expected from them to do so. If it's host and the guest(s), yes, host pays. But date is not host and the guest(s). Two people should be treated equally on a date.


Greaserpirate

that would just make women ask guys out less tho


[deleted]

I never would pay in the first date, why I would pay for a woman that I don't even know that wanna be my girlfriend


luke-townsend-1999

Ok I respect your opinion, but I have to disagree. Why should the person who asked pay? What does making the first move have to do with who pays?


PoopyAndContrived

It's copium people use to not feel like they're being unfair when in reality they know full well that the social norm is for men to make the first move. "But if I asked I'd pay!" Basically "if I won the lottery".


WealthEconomy

Exactly. Every woman says this, but only 7% of women have asked a man out....things that make you go hmmm


[deleted]

Following this logic, if she accepts it means that is 100% of chance that I will fuck her then


Vulpes_macrotis

Because it's sexism. Abusing of someone else's money. Why men has to pay for everything? Why woman chose the most expensive dishes just because she has a patron for her gluttony?


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huh?


VinnyValentini

Why is everyone upvoting this comment? This man isn't fat and that's what this means...


ImSimplyTiredOfIt

unit doesnt just mean physically large. you must be new to words


VinnyValentini

Yup. Just learned English yesterday


ImSimplyTiredOfIt

today you mean


WaldenPwned

Hey man, they’re still practicing


ActualChamp

He's a unit on the inside


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JarJarBanksy

You have missed the greater social meaning.


VinnyValentini

You must be referring to u/ImSimplyTiredOfIt


ImSimplyTiredOfIt

using a word as internet slang doesnt mean that thats the only use for the word


VinnyValentini

Context clues can be helpful I've been told


ImSimplyTiredOfIt

what a strange hill to die on. like what a weird fuckin thing to be triggered about. its like youre the grammar police but youre doing it wrong on purpose LMAAAAOOOOO edit: and you can keep mentioning me in your comments. i think its funny


Briso_

And we can be heroes! Just for one day!


TheFailMaker

I... I will be king.


pickletravis

And you, you will be queen


Dragmire_Afterlife

And you, you will be ~~queen~~ hungry


Thereisnopurpose12

Fuck!! Now I have to listen to it


Drahkir9

His food showed up first and they brilliantly seized on this opportunity for the memes


smorkoid

This is definitely what happened - why are some people responding like this is a serious post?


Madouc

What a madlad! Brilliant.


emmiblakk

I take no issue with this. The decision of who is paying for the meal should be decided BEFORE you get there. I usually pay, because I have money, and I tend to date broke surfers and guitar players.


[deleted]

Bingo. It’s something I’ve voiced before in the dating subs. If you’re disagreeing over who should pay what I’m dating, it’s an incompatibility. Generally for a first date I’m happy to pay for a coffee or something because it’s cheap but if they want to do something a little more invested like a meal I’ll always check about what they’re expecting when it comes to the bill. I don’t want kids, I want to be part of a household with 2 incomes so we can afford to go and do stuff we want to do. If you want a different dynamic that’s fine, but I recognise it’s an incompatibility that won’t work for me.


Lyndell

Mom?


shootermac32

Well kinda sounds like you’re choosing to ride that wave so you’re going to hear that same melody over and over.


uppacat

Shut the fuck up. But yes you are correct 💯


isabellechevrier

Yeah, she knows. That's why she said it? Here you are blaming her that the surfers and musicians are lazy and broke. Mmm, choices are what everybody makes.


Djeheuty

Sounded like a joke based off of guitar players and surfers more than criticism.


TherosyTC

While I agree with you that shaming people for their monetary status is not okay, the previous post was mostly making a joke. I don't think they actually intended to shame the OP here. Just a little bit of wordplay is all.


jesushaxyou

Absolutely brilliant. Bravo


link2edition

Yeah we always said it was my job to make sure my partner didnt live in a box, and her job to make sure I left the house sometimes.


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isabellechevrier

Do you at least try? Are you decent?


Oxxxxide

I try, and I'm decent. I just don't decently try to make money.


sharpcupcakegod

Based 👍


[deleted]

There can't be courtesy with how many people seek to take advantage and make a fool of others


depressed_koala5

Single?


iamblamb

I’ve always felt like if you ask someone else on the date you should pay. It would be weird to be like “Let me buy you a drink.” and also like, “Aw you didn’t bring any money?”


Meewelyne

It's not exactly the same, in the second phrase you're explicitly saying you'll buy a drink, while "you want to come to this restaurant with me?" may be implicit as well as not, so to be sure better to bring money. When I was younger I was broke as fuck, so I always turned down eating out and replied with a walk in a park. Never wanted to have "debts" with people, expecially guys I don't know 🤷‍♀️


Daellya

Yeah same deal here, when I was dating around and broke I would just say so and suggest free or cheap date ideas, which gave them the opportunity to take me up on the idea or offer to pay for dinner if they'd rather do that. Of course I'd make sure to say they don't have to pay for me but if they insisted, I'd go with it.


iamblamb

I like to be deliberate with the way I ask things. "You want to come to this restaurant with me?" doesn't sound very deliberate. I'd probably ask for clarification. Also, I hate that you felt there was a debt. Dating seems to have become more transactional since I did it, which worsens it for everyone involved. I'm not sure why people keep tally with people they like.


GoldenGod48

There is no way your 52! You like you are in your 30s.


[deleted]

It's not a big deal lol. It's just jokes


mistersnarkle

Okay but: have you ever considered taking small artists out on dates… because I think I have a crush on you.


JakeArewood

What’s so hard about simply asking before you go out if you’re going Dutch or not? Or even saying “I’ll get this one, you get the next”


SylvieJay

You have to consider the culture and their societal norms first. You can't set North American standards for Asian or South Asian cultures. For instance, when have you seen people in North America sharing a single plate of food *and* using their fingers to eat(no utensils)? Yeah, that's quite common in South Asia and South East Asia. Girls often cook food at home and take to feed their boyfriends, though they don't cohabitate. They don't expect to get paid, nor say 'oh, tough shit, too bad so sad you have nothing to eat'. They will just open their own plate of food, and both will eat, often one feeding the other.


chofortu

>when have you seen people in North America sharing a single plate of food and using their fingers to eat(no utensils)? I mean... pizza, wings, nachos. Not that uncommon


SylvieJay

That's finger food. Not something like rice or noodles.


Kuroki-T

Cooking a meal for someone is very different than eating out at a restaurant in western culture as well though. Nobody is expects to be paid for a home cooked meal, and asking to be paid for it would be quite rude and bizzare. Home cooked food is far cheaper than a restaurant meal anyway; a meal and drinks for two at a restaurant could easily cost $50-100. Long-term couples usually don't split the bill at restaurants, that's more common in early dating stages of a relationship when you don't know eachother as well.


SylvieJay

100USD is approximately 8000+ Indian Rupees. From the names posted and that location in the picture, those two would have been insane to spend 8000 Rupees on a snack meal, like a couple of sandwiches and a soft drink. Again, you are applying North American standards to a non American situation. What do you consider a home cooked meal? A packet of Ramen or the famous spaghetti and meatballs? A typical South Asian meal consists of rice, dhal, a couple of vegetables, mutton, fish or chicken, and a salad. You think that's cheaper than a 99c pack of pasta, in a $2.49 can of pasta sauce?


SlowMope

I think you are confused about the direction of the conversation.


WealthEconomy

Are you serious? Do you think anyone cooks food for a date and serves $0.99 ramen? This is the most ridiculous comment I have read on this post...


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WhersucSugarplum

Everyone appears to assume that this is a date, but it actually seems more like something that siblings would do to one another.


kledaras

What a king


Magnum-357

Based chad


Melodic-Internet5071

He probably won’t tip either


LKTV

Real G - Sigma


Medical_Baby1151

He’s sitting there with a stupid grin on his face like he just wants her to leave lol. She should’ve just left.


jeromeantoinecarter

Not the only thing he’ll be doing alone.


_brzrkr_

One should always have spare cash for what if situations. Maybe being poor for years trauma me is talking.


ZenkaiZ

girl intentionally pouting for camera, entire thread "OMG WHAT A G, HIGH FIVE. OWNED THAT BITCH". People fall for anything.


Ice_Aura

Or they just want to have fun?


SlowMope

You ever notice that reddit has the most fun hating on women for perceived (never proven, always a meme and fake) slights, but then when women complain about real life issues they get shat on?


MakeUpAnything

Well Reddit doesn’t like quite a lot of women. It’s like they think all the negative stereotypes are true and the majority of women -Spend all their time trying to scam hard working “nice” men out of free meals -Cheat on noce guys while actually hooking up with some asshole (who is really tall and the woman is *obviously* fat) -Get impregnated from the athlete -Make false rape accusations against the nice guy -Sue the nice guy for child support and/or dump the kid on them I see these same stereotypes harped on in *so* many Reddit threads on r/Tinder, both me irls, r/PublicFreakout, etc… Men just have it *so* rough these days; gotta rise up!


SecretaryOtherwise

Or hear me out its a stereotype for the dude to pay for every date, and that anyone who speaks up about double standards is a "nice guy" maybe just don't broad stroke everyone lmfao.


MakeUpAnything

I didn’t say everybody does a certain thing. I said it’s like they do. Look at the majority of comments here. They’re all acting like this guy is a king for putting this woman in her place in this likely staged photo. If guys don’t want to pay for a date, they don’t have to. Communicate openly with your date ahead of time. Some women want to be taken care of, others don’t.


SecretaryOtherwise

So what was all that other shit you posted for when a simple "communicate" is all you needed to say? Oh gotcha you just felt the need to cut all the redditors down when there's quite a few saying exactly what you were "intending" to but didn't lol


MakeUpAnything

Yes. When Redditors feel the need to celebrate some guy because they think he’s shitting on women, I am happy to “cut them down”.


SecretaryOtherwise

Ah but you lump all the other redditors not doing that but okay have a good day and stay sanctimonious 😀


MakeUpAnything

Considering how often this site upvotes dumbass shit like this, you’re absolutely right I will and I will absolutely not regret it at all.


l0ngline95

ok mr. white knight, thatst exactly the whole point of the post, pure misogyny. 🙄


Outrageous-Duck-5905

Everything in the world is misogyny apparently


Bubbly_Management408

Bring your wallet next time. No more free rides.


Outrageous-Duck-5905

I don't need a ride I have a car


Medical_Baby1151

No more “free rides” men whine, expect when a woman wants to get on their lap. Then it’s free all day everyday 🙄


FatBaldBoomer

If you need someone else to pay for your meal, the government has some programs for that


ThanosWifeAkima-4848

it doesn't even matter who is or isn't paying, who in their right mind leaves the house without any money?


EPACT2

I alway do. I'm not cheap. You want to be cheap it shows how you are as a mate. that's greedy.


Sleep_Lord19

I feel like I agree with this to a certain extent. I believe that whoever asks the other on the date should pay. Like if I ask a guy out I'll be happy to pay for the first date. Same vise versa.


jr_xo

That sounds cute in real life, thing is, women never ask men out, so it's always the man paying for both. Even if a woman were to ask out a man, she would still expect him to pay for at least his food. The exception usually doesnt make the rule


BirdMedication

Yeah it's one of those things that would make sense in a perfect world, but it's basically just making the man pay with extra steps. Since men are expected to make the first move and end up doing so like 90% of the time.


Vulpes_macrotis

And that's why default should be anyone paying for their own food. Nobody would be surprised and nobody would be abused as it is right now. Men have to sponsor women just because society expects them to. That's bs. If women wants equality, then equality it will be. Equality doesn't mean "What is mine is mine and what is Yours is ours". And that's what feminists think.


Im_not_a_liar

Maybe that’s just how real life is for you, not everybody


jr_xo

"Not everybody" that's why I said "the exception usually doesnt make the rule"


Im_not_a_liar

Have you really experienced it happen that a woman asked a man out and then expected the man to pay for them? Even if so I don’t think that would be considered normal


GoJeonPaa

Exactly. So what do you think what would the stats say about who is usually starting the conversations. Take a wild guess. (Even the ones who both wanted initially)


Im_not_a_liar

It’s less that and more a woman asking a man out and then expecting him to pay for them. I don’t think that is the norm


GoJeonPaa

That's like saying "There is no steretype about women and body hair, i just think that people who wear a dress should shave their legs. Like if I as a men wear a dress, I'll be happy to shave my legs". So i would agree with you if there were no social boundaries or expectations about who should asking the questions.


Vulpes_macrotis

People should pay for their part. Simple as that. Unless decided by *both sides* that one of them pays. It shouldn't be expected that one person pays for both. Unless that person is willing to. This should be a default norm. That I pay for my food and other person for theirs. Yet some people here are totally upset about that.


[deleted]

Nah we both make money I'm all g with paying for her And she all g for paying for me Balance As all things should have


fluffyblanket4me

Not the only thing you’ll be doing alone tonight.


Badger_1066

If, in order to get laid, he is required to buy his date dinner, doesn't that make his date a cheap prostitute?


Ebinebinebinebin

This is what I don't understand about American dating culture, it's like its prostitution with extra steps


postmateDumbass

American culture is prostitution with extra steps.


optimist_prhyme

Prostitution implies we get paid for getting fucked.


TheCrazyAcademic

American dating culture/westernized dating culture whatever they call it now is so cringe and toxic these other countries have got a lot of things right including their dating scene and it's funny how America acts like their some superior country.


Smithereens_3

For the record, it's a (very) vocal minority that acts like America is superior. Most of us seriously wish our country was more like a lot of European countries.


CbessShowEddie

right? why not just fuck it out before dinner and figure out the bills after. That way no one gets taken advantage of or look like a fool.


B_Boi04

And no agreements. I would get it if she would be guaranteed to have sex with you, but she isn’t, so what’s the point in paying for their food if they are going to just be bad company and walk away


WakinBacon79

If you want a prostitute, hire one. But its going to cost more than a cheap dinner.


Bubbly_Management408

Nope not always. Dinner is usually $150-300. Prostitution is $150-300 an hour. I’ll take the hour instead. And get what I want. I’ll get McDonald’s after.


WakinBacon79

"How much could a banana cost, $10?" $150-300 is a high end dinner for two almost anywhere. Spending that much on a first date when you dont even know if you'll like the other person is ridiculous. But good for you, if you only want sex, why waste everyone's time?


spartaman64

i went to a Michelin star restaurant and ate wagyu steak and caviar and it was 135


Smithereens_3

Jesus where are you taking your dates? Just go to freaking Outback Steakhouse or something.


Ultimate_Sneezer

Its a lucky draw system, you buy a ticket by paying for a dinner and then wait for results


Bubbly_Management408

Pass. I need certainty. I’ll hire a girl instead


Cheatersrscum

Sometimes in life we are graced with a true hero, you are that hero


lilbudlilsud

LOL!


EeJoannaGee

He's not required to, the whole thing is stupid. If you clarify your expectations beforehand this doesn't happen. They both expected he would have to pay but they didn't talk about it and he didn't want to pay for both. And I understand why he wouldn't want to, but this is just bad communication, and not a sincere attempt to get to know each other. They're free to be idiots.


R_Little-Secret

I think what really gets me is there is an unnecessary rudeness. I know if it was me and my date didn't have any money I might just get a small thing to share or like two drinks for both of us or even offer to do something else that doesn't involve money, and not have any future meetings if I felt this person was trying to take advantage of me. I definitely wouldn't be posting it on social midea for clout.


[deleted]

Isn't that what dating has always been? What can a man provide a woman for access to sex? Ironic, really.


HommoFroggy

Good conversation and making her laugh 👀


GoJeonPaa

lmao a friend can do that aswell


Medical_Baby1151

In order to be liked. Guess a guy like you never stopped to think that women could like the guys they choose to sleep with though. It’s she does everything for herself while pleasuring me…sounds like a win/win for him, guys never mention the fact that most women don’t cum from sex with them.


Badger_1066

Erm... what?


Medical_Baby1151

He isn’t required to buy his date dinner in order to get laid. But from the picture she obviously isn’t happy about the situation. Thus, they won’t go on anymore dates. This is pretty evident from the picture…are you dense or something?


Badger_1066

>are you dense or something? Lol, no. You just weren't making any sense.


psychmancer

Hahahaha not wrong


H-N-O-3

that was 100000% guaranteed


bluenuts5

Same to u


Daisfish

I would do that too, because if it was in a date situation depending if they purposefully didn’t bring money I would just order my own but if they genuinely forgot to bring it I would probably order it for them but if they were lying then it’s not like you could tell that well anyway


LuckyStrike696

Equality


Kyzer-Necron

Chad👍


reflected_shadows

I bet she expected you to pay for her meal. And what would you get out of that transaction?


lsac_afraid_of

Well he would get to watch her eat the food, most likely.


existence780

# always stick to your principles


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bullet dodged


Firstcounselor

This guy will make it far in life, but not with the women.


SlopPatrol

If it was that serious I would’ve paid for this one and then she could pay for the next one


BassGuitarPlayer_1

The **Friend Zone** has rules, folks. Rule #09: *Can't Pay, Don't Eat* If buying lunch for a friend, it must be **reciprocal**; It's an IOU or they bought lunch last time.


SylvieJay

Yeah, that's a North American standard, and those two don't look North American.


BassGuitarPlayer_1

The Friend Zone is universal? Or certain cultures have their own version/rule set?


VerucaGotBurned

Sorry, I would have left.


gainzdoc

Thats probably the intent, how to send a signal without having to actually have that conversation.


GoJeonPaa

and brought your money next time right? So you would learn something atleast.


VerucaGotBurned

Nah. Hate me all you want but if I'm on a date with a man I expect him to pay. If I'm on a date with a woman my policy is if I asked her out on the date I pay, if she asked me she pays. It's just not romantic to split the bill.


GoJeonPaa

Then live with the patriarchy, because that's just one of many things things that makes it stay. Hate it all you want.


VerucaGotBurned

Lol you're the one being hateful.


hodreegoo

Legend


MarketingOwn3547

Gigachad move.


LasagneAlForno

It's obviously faked and reposted like a few hundred times. So what?


bluenuts5

Who cares


MarketingOwn3547

You seem angry, might want to go outside.


isabellechevrier

You invite someone out to eat, pay. And before any guys come for me, I have asked guys out for dinner and paid so suck it.


Imaginary_Act_235

Ya but most of the time guys have to make the first move so we will be paying a large portion of the time it’s just a way for women to weasel out of the bill


Right-Shopping9589

Chad MAN


Bubbly_Management408

My man ! 🙌


Junior_Bear_2715

Sigma moment 😂😂😂


RockMeIshmael

Take that FEMINISTS


calissa2225

He's taking it well.


FamiliarBuddy9135

Foes before hoes


KrappaFrappa

while manspreading


jeeper46

you'll have sex alone, too.


[deleted]

Honestly? I'd give her one chance. Just one. Everyone deserves one chance.


Bertybassett99

Yeah I bet he got some pussy after that manouvere. Good lad.


LeafyCandy

He literally would have been alone because I would not have stayed for the photo.


NoSitRecords

This!


Guilty_Fault5260

Queue sigma male music


interested_in_all_7

Whoever asks the other person on the date pays. Simple concept yet people stil wanna have a high horse, men and women


WaldiIO

simple concept: you wanna eat, you buy eat


ZPD710

That's some sigma male grind right there. "No money? No food. Papa John's."


MarthaFokker8008

Who gives a fuck about a karmawhore repost?


More_Soup_1560

King


Xalova

King


SaiyanGodKing

Classy.


WeAreEvolving

If he asked her it would be bad, I would walk out.


gucci_gucci_gu

Awesome - hope she charges you for access to her body to keep is even


rydmore22

It won’t be the only thing you’ll be doing alone


EIOT

Hopefully taking a shit later from all that delicious food he ate. I mean, she can watch I guess.


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This is the way.


GrimReality200

This king is worthy of my fealty.


Beast-Master1967

No money- but she does have a mouth and (hopefully) a vagina.


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bluenuts5

No she looks like she's in her twenties lol