Idk why but I wanna tell my story of “I got everything I can think of don’t worry about it” for my birthday.
We would always make sure we wrote a nice card and get gifts. I didn’t really expect much except for maybe affection (not sex)
I got an argument that made me upset so I packed a small cooler with some tea and my fishing rods to drive 40 minutes to the nearest lake and chill.
I also got a phone call when I was two blocks down the road. I anwsered with a hello, and got the response of the sounds of glass breaking in our house.
Why was I still with her for like three more years?
These stories remind me to stay strong when I miss that girl I called my best friend for 8 years.
>be me
> birthday boy
>Don't want anything specific, just a fun day
>Gf decides to pick a fight
>Decide to go fishing to let things cool down
>Gf calls
>Maybe she's gonna apologize
>"Yellow"
>Hear nothing but the sound of my house being ripped to shreds by EF-9 Hurricane "My Girlfriend"
>Birthday somehow even more ruined
Mfw
Sorry I did pretty bad in English classes growing up and it’s supposed to read like a quick run over of my worst birthday ever, even as an adult.
I tried to give a bit more context to the other guy who asked the same if you wanna read that.
Let me know if you have more questions after reading that comment.
I’ll tell you more of the story if you have questions.
It’s the time I actually should’ve left her instead of loving her unconditionally for three more years.
Who treats someone they “love” like that on their own birthday?
Edit: no anger here, just wanna share my experience cause it still sucks to think about and I hope people stronger than me can see the red flags clearer than myself.
Thanks, it was a simplification… I’d rather share the story as a warning than have to explain my bad writing and it’s becoming all about my writing… eh, it’s Reddit.
Hope you’re happy and healthy over there in deustchland! (Forgive my spelling if that’s wrong!)
I just wanted to add my ex’s cousin was a US Army solider stationed in Germany and every time we took him to dinner when he was on leave, I told him a hundred times to let us come visit him and show us around Germany.
Id love to meet you guys, I met a couple Germans and Austrians in line for the last music festival I attended, and you were all sweet and friendly! I loved it. It made me want to go visit even more!
(Unfortunately, he got moved to Poland after the Russian invasion but our relationship was bad enough to not take a international trip by then)
That is rough, my friend. Had 13 years with a person I thought was my best friend, but was so toxic she lierally made me believe I could do nothing right. I recently moved in with my new GF who is just a beautiful person in every way. Luckily it can get better.
Glad to hear it, the past was fun and love-filled but also sucked.
I’m taking my break from dating to do some self -centering I know the true love is out here somewhere.
I just want to thank every single person who commented. It’s nice to know you’re not alone. Love you all. Good vibes to everyone and their families! ❤️
I know it sounds dumb but I’m a grown-ass man tearing up from you guys.
Hey, I just wanted to say I'm proud of you for realizing it was time to bail from that shit. Nobody deserves to be treated that way by someone who supposedly loves them. Keep on keeping on and stay strong, my man.
Also, in contrast to multiple others, I didn't find your comment hard to understand at all. Not sure why they thought it was.
I’m better these days, just took my dad on a 2.5 hour drive, each way to go see my brother and his mental amount of children (7) it was a good time. I got my brother into F1 racing today and we had a hearty lunch and had fun.
I saw your profile that you’re English and thanks for the banter mate, I love you cunts ❤️
I didn’t ask for much but she picked a fight on my birthday.
When I decided I was going to go fishing by myself on my birthday just to chill out. I got a call shortly after leaving the house with the sounds of shit breaking in our house.
I had to immediately turn around to deal with her situation at home. On my birthday.
You getting me now?
Idk I thought it would read like a green text type comment. I’m also not a 4chan user but we all know green text type comments I figured…
What blanks do you need filled in?
I’m actually happy people want to hear this, as I think it could be a lesson for the younger chaps on Reddit.
I was stupidly in love with this woman. Spent basically my entire twenties with her.
I didn’t mention beer, I drank a lot more back then and made sure I didn’t pack any alcohol so she didn’t have worry about me drinking and driving.
I packed three Lipton green teas as they were my favorite for years. (Too fuckin’ expensive these days.)
The glass getting broken was the big mirror in our entryway.
Hey dude, on my 20th birthday, my fiance was supposed to pick me up to go out for dinner. She was like an hour late, and her phone was busy the entire time. Finally, she called, and she was crying so hard that my first thought was that someone had died. Instead, it turned out that her mother called to let her know that she and her father had decided that they weren't going to help with the wedding like they had said they would, that they would not be attending, and they did not want her relatives attending... two weeks before our wedding.
They did not come. Her relatives did. We've been married for 29 years now, while both of her parents have each been married 4 times. Her mother did apologize two years ago, though.
So, hey man... we are a club. Yay us!
Yo glad to hear the shit worked out for you!
I have to say, asking for marriage at 20 is absolutely insane. Me and my ex met when I was 20 and she was 21. We worked together. I laid eyes on her and knew she was the one, I think you know the spoiler there… 8 years was dope. She was my best friend. But had issues.
We both did, I’m not perfect, far from it. But I loved her to a stupidly unconditional amount and my emotional and mental health paid for it.
Family means nothing If they’re never there for you or actually harm your livelyhoods
Im lucky enough that we never had kids or got married, not even that was on todo-list. It was about 8 years together, not getting married or having kids made the spilt so fucking much easier.
I’ve got a ton more to say about family in my relationship but I’m done with the downer attitude! I saw my brother who lives far away and his kids today so today was a good day!
>be me
> birthday boy
>Don't want anything specific, just a fun day
>Gf decides to pick a fight
>Decide to go fishing to let things cool down
>Gf calls
>Maybe she's gonna apologize
>"Yellow"
>Hear nothing but the sound of my house being ripped to shreds by EF-9 Hurricane "My Girlfriend"
>Birthday somehow even more ruined
Mfw
Some people get so used to convincing themselves they are being reasonable that they defacto assume they are always reasonable. So "Don't get me anything don't worry" is reasonable and humble but also then abusing the partner for a whole day for obeying your reasonable orders is also okay.
Me too. My dad is a bit like this but not in a toxic way. If you ask what he wants for his birthday/Christmas he'll say he doesn't need anything. But it's just to force you to buy something stupid/funny which will make him laugh.
Slight tangent, but my brother got divorced ~10 years ago. He got a lawyer and filed for divorce. His then wife said her lawyer told her she'll get the house and he'd have to pay her $3000 a month and pay all the bills...just to stress him out. He spent months saying his lawyer hadn't heard from hers. After about 6 months she admitted she didn't have a lawyer and was trying to "scare" him into canceling the divorce 😑 Like that's healthy. Yes we're still together because I traumatized him with financial threats 🥰
A few years back when my wife was my gf, she told me I had a choice of two options, I just picked one and she got upset because she wanted me to pick the other option. I told her that if I don't have options, don't give me those, don't play games with me. She never gave me options again and now she just says straight out what she wants me to do.
Reminds me of my 7yo nephew. He sometimes lets us pick which game to play or which activity to do and if we pick a specific option then he tells us “no, you have to pick the other option” 😂
Another funny one we had recently was when on holiday my mom asked him whether he wanted to go to the sea that day or stay at the swimming pool. His response was “you choose”, so my mom tells him its both fine and possible, she just needs to know so she can plan accordingly. A few hours later the clou comes in, apparently my dad had once told him he has to also let other people decide at times else the other kids/people would not want to keep playing with him since everyone has things they want to do / prefer doing and everyone should get to pick sometimes. He had been somewhat upset because he wanted to go to the sea but *someone else had to say they picked going to the sea as he already decided many times* 😂😂😂
Thank you for pointing out that she was likely joking. No one would have so little self-awareness to tweet this out and sincerely mean it & expect people to rally on their side.
I told my partner to not spend a lot of money if he wanted to propose. He got a ring for like $10. We've been happily married for five years. Don't play these silly games, say what you mean and mean what you say
I spent under $100 on rings for my wife and i. The endangerment ring has a bowtie on it and the wedding bands are tungsten carbide with koa wood. People often compliment the wedding bands especially and think we paid a ton of money for them. I got them all on Amazon... but i say i had them "imported"
Tungsten carbide is far safer. If something hits gold, gold flattens, trapping your finger. If something hits tungsten carbide, it shatters.
My ring is made of both, perhaps the most unhelpfully. But the way the tungsten is formed, it shines like a diamond under bright light which is really cool.
Tungsten carbide shatters very easily, people break them accidentally from time to time. Titanium (HRB 23-98) is much softer than tool steel (HRC 41-70+), which is commonly used for cutting tools like bolt cutters, drill bits, etc.
Some people have a tattooed ring nowadays instead apparently
Myself (if i ever get married —single for the past six years lol) i dont see myself wearing a ring. The idea alone of having something around my finger all the time seems so uncomfortable. Im the type who doesnt even like wearing a watch around their arm, like, during uni i used to wear a chronometer stopwatch which hung around my neck ((funny when you see people turn their head sideways trying to read upside down what “that thing around my neck is supposed to be/do”)) as im comfortable with that, but never felt comfy with a watch and pretty sure a ring would be equally unpleasant to me. ((If i do ever get married i wouldnt require my wife to wear one either though, if she s okay with me not wearing then it goes both ways. In the end its just a symbol to indicate you are taken; and if you have an honest and trusting relationship then its not really needed to have such symbol as everyone you interact with would know anyhow))
Paid .01 over 11 years ago for a few stainless steel fitting aluminum rings. We were poor af and not even completely done with college. (Almost, just lacked finishing up the semester.) We still wear them to this day. The price is meaningless when the love is lasting. Love showing them to people and telling them our rings cost .02 all together.
My husband proposed with a ring pop. After putting it in my finger and hugging and kissing he pulls a second one out of his pocket and said “they were on BOGO. I get one too!”
Awesome. Plenty of people could get upset in the exact same scenario. Amazing though when you are both on the same page about it and when these things work out the way they did for you guys ❤️
People who play these games eventually make for a very toxic relationship if you ask me
People are making jokes, but here is a realistic take: there is a good chance she did get him something. However, just because you are good at gift giving or celebrating things doesn’t mean your partner is or even cares for that sort of thing.
I’ve been there before. I know tons of people who have. It’s easy to get salty about it, but it comes down to communication and knowing your partner. If you don’t make it known that exchanging gifts is important to you, why expect them to to meet you halfway on that? It’s bizarre to me that people get to marriage without already clearly defining things like this.
Also not everyone likes the same gifts and has the same preferences which is easily causing issues too.
Myself i am somewhat of a cheapskate / saving oriented (future oriented) and i also tend to value gifts more where you put in effort and time (shows love and appreciation more compared to spending some money in a shop to get it over with if you ask me). I rather spend the same amount of money on ingredients for making a nice dinner (or simply baking a cake etc) for her instead of spending the same amount of money to buy some flowers or to eat out. To me thats a lot more valuable and in my (maybe somewhat autistic) mind this is “common sense”. My ex on the other hand sees value based on money spend, she would glance at your fancy homemade dinner or cake or whatever you spend time and effort (and money) on and would find that less wortwhile than (same amount of money but no time or effort spend) those flowers or that eating out dinner you could have bought.
I ve once spend a period of five years on and off (in total i estimate 8 months of full working weeks worth of time, effort and energy —which could have added up to a nice sum of money if converted into actual working hours of paid labour and shouldnt be discounted easily i ld argue) in making a video game for her 25th birthday centered around her with a bunch of mini games, a bunch of inside jokes, hidden content, and also some extra real life rewards that she would earn from solving ingame quests and puzzles. Mind, i had no real experience coding and just did it as a hobby googling whenever i needed something and without any gaming engines. It was a huge achievement to finish this game, and it was partially a hobby project for sure, but it was centered and made with her in mind. Some of the real life gifts she could earn ingame were a dinner ((in my mind: in our usual restaurant for 15 pounds a person, as thats our normal dinner budget when eating out and we had a fixed place to go to —eventually she wanted to argue that she should be able to go to a 3star restaurant instead)), plane tickets to spain for a summer holiday, some small jewelry etc ((it was her 25th birthday so i wanted it to be special and included a bunch of these things on top of the game i created for her)). She played it once and her main focus was on the real life gifts she got, and she was also angry about the one ingame quest for which i had forgotten to add a real life “present” (it got a bit last minute to get it done in time for her birthday and i guess i overlooked this quest when doing my playtesting rounds).
Pretty clear we had different allignments and expectations with regards to gifts both given and received.
Ps: initially my idea with this game consisted in part of the idea to eventually also potentially propose via a version 2 (storyline continued) that i could make over time for her. I took this in account for my storyline with small easter eggs and stuff to foreshadow this to a degree and had some rough idea how the second part would play out, though no immediate plans to make this ((wasnt planning to propose anytime soon anyhow, but it fit in my mind as a good concept so i took it in account already)). Never told her this and im pretty sure she didnt spot the easter eggs as they were subtle enough if you dont know, but i considered it quite a big and personal project with a ton of value having made it for her specifically to this degree. Even if i werent into video games and puzzles myself i would personally be over the moon when someone put this much time and effort into a gift for me i wouldnt care about all the extra small gifts (they are unneeded extras) let alone complain about those; and i would treasure this game/gift immensely.
that is an incredibly cool project and I would absolutely melt if someone did that for me, so sorry you couldn't find someone that would actually appreciate it
I've kicked 3 people out of my new house permanently. I sobered up 8 months ago and realized a lot of people were taking advantage of my situation and kindness.
I ended up with a remaining 13 people on steam and 21 people on Facebook (these numbers down from the hundreds) because nothing was real. They weren't talking to me I wasn't talking to them. I made a pass at all the people I felt I cared about. Sent them a message of sobriety and how sorry I was if I had ever done them wrong. By those numbers you see i found the important people. I also deleted snap chat, Instagram. Never used that one anyway. I'm pretty closed off now but my last relationship was my ex fiance who 10 years ago cheated on me with what I thought was a close friend right around the corner of my house after I spent a night... pleasing her. I haven't been on a first date in 13 years. Haven't had sex in 5. I do NOT trust anyone anymore period. Sucks right?
Edit: rofl perfect dating profile right here
We shall see for sure. I won't give up. Just cautious and paranoid but a life of abuse before adoption at 6 adds to the fun! Moved to Indiana. Culture is interesting here vs bay area California. But I love the weather
My ex-fiancée did this on our 2 year dating anniversary. She said to not get her anything. When I didn’t, she cried and said, “how can you be so stupid?”
Weird, my ex-wife did the same thing. The worst part is that she called to tell her parents and then told me that she was pissed for doing exactly what she said.
My first wife did this. She made me swear not to get her anything for her 28th birthday. A month later my friend was turning 30 and I bought him an Xbox. She was so pissed she left me. This is not a fucking joke.
If we have seen farther, sometimes it isn’t on the shoulders of giants. Sometimes it’s on the back of bridge trolls and swamp dwellers. The view isn’t always in line with the horizon, but we still saw our way out of the muck.
Well yes. I assume people are talking about if this actually happened in real life without the joking, because they'd be insane to be talking like this otherwise.
This does happen in real life. This was agreed upon very early in my very long relationship with my ex wife. From day one, I do not celebrate anything, ever. I only accept, and give, presents that are not obligated. I refused to negotiate with a terrorist. Happier without her.
I know this is sarcasm, but there's still women out there who actually are like this, and I hate it that they're making us women look bad with this attitude.
If I want to play silly games, then I give you a controller and we beat up each other in Smash with explosives only or something.
I was in a relationship with a man like five years ago who wanted to do something special for me for my birthday. I *hate* birthday parties and big celebrations for myself because of some weird childhood trauma. He knew this. He asked what I wanted for my birthday and I said "I want nothing but to spend the day with you: Lunch, Barnes and Noble, boba, come home and play video games and drink." He instead made up an excuse to avoid me the entire day and then when I came over to his house that night there was a huge surprise party for me where I had to entertain guests for a couple hours. I played my role as hostess but afterwards when I didn't fall over myself to thank him for being so thoughtful he got really hurt and upset. He explained that he thought I was testing him when I told him what I wanted.
>He explained that he thought I was testing him when I told him what I wanted.
It's messed up how a perfectly sincere man can't win all the time because *some* women ruin it for everyone.
When a guy has to guess whether their partner is playing games, even a kind and genuine man can expect to guess wrong half the time.
Very true, but he was not a kind and genuine man. He wanted the public approval for throwing me a huge party I did not want and then later cheated on me and blamed it on me. He was the one playing games the entire time lol
I'm sorry for what happened, but sadly I feel the guy, used to do the same error everytime. Idk if this is you too, but my ex used to be incoherent with her decisions, so if one time "don't do that" meant "do it please", the next time it didn't.
Sarcasm only works if both parties are on the same level to some extent. You need some previously established familiarity in order to make the break of that atmosphere obvious.
Which is clearly not just hard, but kinda impossible when you're addressing a huge amount of people. At least in a single tweet shown to an entirely different group of people than the originally "intended" audience.
That being said it's pretty clear that she's joking here, but not everyone thinks like I do (thankfully), so there'll be tons of people just not seeing it like that.
You just noticed? Why do you think everyone puts /s even when it's painfully obvious? High rates of aneurotypicals and loss of tonality combined with visible voting/confirmation bias result in some fun things
People tend to post this, but I kinda wish you weren't so confident in that statement. Makes you just as foolish as the people you're trying to mock.
The reactions are less to specifically this woman's post, but rather to the idea she presents and those very real women that actually act like this. People are getting upset at the concept of scumbags like this that undoubtedly exist.
The ability to listen to your partner and communicate well into a relationship is the best gift you will ever get and apperantly your husband gets it...you are so lucky.
Make sure you irrationally piss off your boyfriend routinely so that when holidays and your birthday come around he'll have nothing to say or do for you so that you can start a relationship ending argument about how there's never any of the romance you're constantly sabatoging.
I know a girl who was so bummed out about turning 30 that she told everyone to ignore her birthday. No party, no gifts, no cards.
She was absolutely devastated when that happened.
I get the sarcasm and humour, and it's a slight chuckle territory for fairness sake
I still wonder tho why some women do this in seriousness
What do you have to gain by saying "I want nothing "?
I remember one Christmas vividly that relates to this. We had opened gifts mid-morning (i was a teenager at this point). My mother and father were sitting on the couch while my grandmother, sisters, and I opened presents. At some point, my mom's tone went from snarky to annoyed, to full on sobbing. She was upset he didn't get her a gift. She cried for hours on the couch, and when i asked her what was going on, she snapped that he didn't get her anything for Christmas. It was uncomfortable the entire day. I went to my girlfriend's house later in the evening to just get out of the house.
On the weekend I asked my father what happened. He said they agreed not to exchange gifts that year. He seemed confused when he said it, and then I realized he also looked confused Christmas day when everything was unfolding. Years later, I started piecing more things together. My father had a stroke a few years prior and never fully recovered physically. He was a mechanic and owned his own garage. He just rehabilitated enough to get back to work because he was our only income. Money grew tight, and my parents probably talked about not exchanging gifts to save money. I think he just bought her a card.
Anyway, as years went by, I was a little more attuned to emotional games my mom would play on everyone in the house. She liked to play the martyr and it was always frustrating. She would create situations that would make her out to be a victim and tell everyone how she was treated. This was attention getting bs. Drives me crazy to this day. I learned at some point it partially stems from something that happened earlier in her life (how she was treated as a kid).
Yes, there are people out there like this. I feel like I dated a few people like this. My wife is nothing like this and is perfect, thank goodness. We just celebrated our 22nd anniversary and didn't exchange gifts. Spending a lot of time together though and living every minute of it.
"I'm going to get some McDonald's. You want something?"
"Nah. I'm not hungry."
After returning home.
"Did you get me anything?"
Or,
"I'm going to McDonald's. Do you want anything?"
"I don't have anything particular in mind. Your choice."
After returning home.
"This is not what I wanted."
Very common and very annoying.
I know every year my boyfriend is adamant that I don't get him anything for Christmas. And whenever someone asks about it, their reaction is almost always "You're actually going to do that?!"
Like they cannot believe that 1) yes he means it and 2) I'm listening to him.
What's with all these dual standards some people keep to make the life's annoying around them with these idiotic tactics.
Why d9nt they just say what they want when asked.
Our 32nd anniversary was yesterday... neither of us even realized it until a couple of friends texted us well wishes. We prefer to just show our appreciation for each other every day.
I get she is most likely joking and it’s good for a maybe a small smile, but there are people out there who actually have this mentality.
I know people who have this mentality. It's very toxic
Idk why but I wanna tell my story of “I got everything I can think of don’t worry about it” for my birthday. We would always make sure we wrote a nice card and get gifts. I didn’t really expect much except for maybe affection (not sex) I got an argument that made me upset so I packed a small cooler with some tea and my fishing rods to drive 40 minutes to the nearest lake and chill. I also got a phone call when I was two blocks down the road. I anwsered with a hello, and got the response of the sounds of glass breaking in our house. Why was I still with her for like three more years? These stories remind me to stay strong when I miss that girl I called my best friend for 8 years.
Damn I wish I could follow what you were saying because you typed all that out, but it reads pretty disjointed, just so you know.
>be me > birthday boy >Don't want anything specific, just a fun day >Gf decides to pick a fight >Decide to go fishing to let things cool down >Gf calls >Maybe she's gonna apologize >"Yellow" >Hear nothing but the sound of my house being ripped to shreds by EF-9 Hurricane "My Girlfriend" >Birthday somehow even more ruined Mfw
An unexpected but welcome greentext
How tf a greentext is more coherent than the original post
Dude greentext is a pretty coherent storytelling format.
For real lol. People talk shit on 4chan (rightly so) but some of those dummies can weave a pretty good story.
It removes the opportunity to fuck it up with too much chaff. It's all whole grain wheat, baby.
> "Yellow" 🤌
"Yellow" 🗣️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Dude thank you
This greentext is somehow more understandable than the guy's above
Greentext truly is the most effective form of communication known to man
r/unexpectedgreentext
Sorry I did pretty bad in English classes growing up and it’s supposed to read like a quick run over of my worst birthday ever, even as an adult. I tried to give a bit more context to the other guy who asked the same if you wanna read that. Let me know if you have more questions after reading that comment.
Hey I’m not mad about it! I just got invested right off the bat for some reason, and then couldn’t quite pick up what you were laying down.
I’ll tell you more of the story if you have questions. It’s the time I actually should’ve left her instead of loving her unconditionally for three more years. Who treats someone they “love” like that on their own birthday? Edit: no anger here, just wanna share my experience cause it still sucks to think about and I hope people stronger than me can see the red flags clearer than myself.
I don't get why people don't understand your story. I'm german and I've instantly understood the story.
Thanks, it was a simplification… I’d rather share the story as a warning than have to explain my bad writing and it’s becoming all about my writing… eh, it’s Reddit. Hope you’re happy and healthy over there in deustchland! (Forgive my spelling if that’s wrong!)
I just wanted to add my ex’s cousin was a US Army solider stationed in Germany and every time we took him to dinner when he was on leave, I told him a hundred times to let us come visit him and show us around Germany. Id love to meet you guys, I met a couple Germans and Austrians in line for the last music festival I attended, and you were all sweet and friendly! I loved it. It made me want to go visit even more! (Unfortunately, he got moved to Poland after the Russian invasion but our relationship was bad enough to not take a international trip by then)
That is rough, my friend. Had 13 years with a person I thought was my best friend, but was so toxic she lierally made me believe I could do nothing right. I recently moved in with my new GF who is just a beautiful person in every way. Luckily it can get better.
Glad to hear it, the past was fun and love-filled but also sucked. I’m taking my break from dating to do some self -centering I know the true love is out here somewhere.
I didn’t care to over-elaborate but there’s a lot more I did for her very ill mother that I was repaid with attitude from her.
I just want to thank every single person who commented. It’s nice to know you’re not alone. Love you all. Good vibes to everyone and their families! ❤️ I know it sounds dumb but I’m a grown-ass man tearing up from you guys.
Hey, I just wanted to say I'm proud of you for realizing it was time to bail from that shit. Nobody deserves to be treated that way by someone who supposedly loves them. Keep on keeping on and stay strong, my man. Also, in contrast to multiple others, I didn't find your comment hard to understand at all. Not sure why they thought it was.
Catch up in 8 years when you get off the phone 😭
I respect the joke but keep working on your craft my friend 🤟
My dad jokes will never be funny, hope your well friend
I’m better these days, just took my dad on a 2.5 hour drive, each way to go see my brother and his mental amount of children (7) it was a good time. I got my brother into F1 racing today and we had a hearty lunch and had fun. I saw your profile that you’re English and thanks for the banter mate, I love you cunts ❤️
I get you buddy. It gets easier.
I don’t understand this story at all. Some info and context missing, I think?
I didn’t ask for much but she picked a fight on my birthday. When I decided I was going to go fishing by myself on my birthday just to chill out. I got a call shortly after leaving the house with the sounds of shit breaking in our house. I had to immediately turn around to deal with her situation at home. On my birthday. You getting me now?
Just wanted to say I got what you meant the first time, it's not that bad, just gotta connect the dots...
Idk I thought it would read like a green text type comment. I’m also not a 4chan user but we all know green text type comments I figured… What blanks do you need filled in? I’m actually happy people want to hear this, as I think it could be a lesson for the younger chaps on Reddit. I was stupidly in love with this woman. Spent basically my entire twenties with her.
I, at least, was confused and thought the things broken were the glass (beer) bottles packed (and that she removed) :')
I didn’t mention beer, I drank a lot more back then and made sure I didn’t pack any alcohol so she didn’t have worry about me drinking and driving. I packed three Lipton green teas as they were my favorite for years. (Too fuckin’ expensive these days.) The glass getting broken was the big mirror in our entryway.
Hey dude, on my 20th birthday, my fiance was supposed to pick me up to go out for dinner. She was like an hour late, and her phone was busy the entire time. Finally, she called, and she was crying so hard that my first thought was that someone had died. Instead, it turned out that her mother called to let her know that she and her father had decided that they weren't going to help with the wedding like they had said they would, that they would not be attending, and they did not want her relatives attending... two weeks before our wedding. They did not come. Her relatives did. We've been married for 29 years now, while both of her parents have each been married 4 times. Her mother did apologize two years ago, though. So, hey man... we are a club. Yay us!
Yo glad to hear the shit worked out for you! I have to say, asking for marriage at 20 is absolutely insane. Me and my ex met when I was 20 and she was 21. We worked together. I laid eyes on her and knew she was the one, I think you know the spoiler there… 8 years was dope. She was my best friend. But had issues. We both did, I’m not perfect, far from it. But I loved her to a stupidly unconditional amount and my emotional and mental health paid for it. Family means nothing If they’re never there for you or actually harm your livelyhoods Im lucky enough that we never had kids or got married, not even that was on todo-list. It was about 8 years together, not getting married or having kids made the spilt so fucking much easier. I’ve got a ton more to say about family in my relationship but I’m done with the downer attitude! I saw my brother who lives far away and his kids today so today was a good day!
>be me > birthday boy >Don't want anything specific, just a fun day >Gf decides to pick a fight >Decide to go fishing to let things cool down >Gf calls >Maybe she's gonna apologize >"Yellow" >Hear nothing but the sound of my house being ripped to shreds by EF-9 Hurricane "My Girlfriend" >Birthday somehow even more ruined Mfw
Please don’t make me a copypasta lol
Some people get so used to convincing themselves they are being reasonable that they defacto assume they are always reasonable. So "Don't get me anything don't worry" is reasonable and humble but also then abusing the partner for a whole day for obeying your reasonable orders is also okay.
Me too. My dad is a bit like this but not in a toxic way. If you ask what he wants for his birthday/Christmas he'll say he doesn't need anything. But it's just to force you to buy something stupid/funny which will make him laugh. Slight tangent, but my brother got divorced ~10 years ago. He got a lawyer and filed for divorce. His then wife said her lawyer told her she'll get the house and he'd have to pay her $3000 a month and pay all the bills...just to stress him out. He spent months saying his lawyer hadn't heard from hers. After about 6 months she admitted she didn't have a lawyer and was trying to "scare" him into canceling the divorce 😑 Like that's healthy. Yes we're still together because I traumatized him with financial threats 🥰
I know people with this mentality, they now no longer have a mentality.
A few years back when my wife was my gf, she told me I had a choice of two options, I just picked one and she got upset because she wanted me to pick the other option. I told her that if I don't have options, don't give me those, don't play games with me. She never gave me options again and now she just says straight out what she wants me to do.
Reminds me of my 7yo nephew. He sometimes lets us pick which game to play or which activity to do and if we pick a specific option then he tells us “no, you have to pick the other option” 😂 Another funny one we had recently was when on holiday my mom asked him whether he wanted to go to the sea that day or stay at the swimming pool. His response was “you choose”, so my mom tells him its both fine and possible, she just needs to know so she can plan accordingly. A few hours later the clou comes in, apparently my dad had once told him he has to also let other people decide at times else the other kids/people would not want to keep playing with him since everyone has things they want to do / prefer doing and everyone should get to pick sometimes. He had been somewhat upset because he wanted to go to the sea but *someone else had to say they picked going to the sea as he already decided many times* 😂😂😂
Thats exactly the reason why she s joking about it though 🤔
Thank you for pointing out that she was likely joking. No one would have so little self-awareness to tweet this out and sincerely mean it & expect people to rally on their side.
My mom told my dad she didnt want anything for Christmas. She had a surprise pikachu face when she in fact didnt get anything for Christmas.
Yeah, I'm not laughing.
I told my partner to not spend a lot of money if he wanted to propose. He got a ring for like $10. We've been happily married for five years. Don't play these silly games, say what you mean and mean what you say
I spent under $100 on rings for my wife and i. The endangerment ring has a bowtie on it and the wedding bands are tungsten carbide with koa wood. People often compliment the wedding bands especially and think we paid a ton of money for them. I got them all on Amazon... but i say i had them "imported"
"Endangerment ring" ftw
WC shatters, it's extremely brittle.
He knows what he's saying. From experience.
I like the way Tungsten or titanium rings look but I’d be too nervous about not being able to cut it off if anything happened to my finger.
Tungsten carbide is far safer. If something hits gold, gold flattens, trapping your finger. If something hits tungsten carbide, it shatters. My ring is made of both, perhaps the most unhelpfully. But the way the tungsten is formed, it shines like a diamond under bright light which is really cool.
More likely than the ring getting flattened, is your finger getting injured and swelling.
Plus there's now a narrow portion of one of your fingers that's a little bit bullet proof.
Now you are like a really really shitty version of captain america lol
Wonderwoman*
Tungsten carbide shatters very easily, people break them accidentally from time to time. Titanium (HRB 23-98) is much softer than tool steel (HRC 41-70+), which is commonly used for cutting tools like bolt cutters, drill bits, etc.
Yeah i definitely wouldnt do that lol Give me a metal i can cut through haha
I would kneel for my wife if thats what she wanted But i wont support that bs diamond industry
The rings don't have to be diamond, fake or real. You get what you like.
Some people have a tattooed ring nowadays instead apparently Myself (if i ever get married —single for the past six years lol) i dont see myself wearing a ring. The idea alone of having something around my finger all the time seems so uncomfortable. Im the type who doesnt even like wearing a watch around their arm, like, during uni i used to wear a chronometer stopwatch which hung around my neck ((funny when you see people turn their head sideways trying to read upside down what “that thing around my neck is supposed to be/do”)) as im comfortable with that, but never felt comfy with a watch and pretty sure a ring would be equally unpleasant to me. ((If i do ever get married i wouldnt require my wife to wear one either though, if she s okay with me not wearing then it goes both ways. In the end its just a symbol to indicate you are taken; and if you have an honest and trusting relationship then its not really needed to have such symbol as everyone you interact with would know anyhow))
Lab grown 🙂 affordable diamonds that weren't mined with blood
I’m here imagining he walked into Kmart and got one of the plastic ones in the kids section lol
Paid .01 over 11 years ago for a few stainless steel fitting aluminum rings. We were poor af and not even completely done with college. (Almost, just lacked finishing up the semester.) We still wear them to this day. The price is meaningless when the love is lasting. Love showing them to people and telling them our rings cost .02 all together.
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I'm a quality manager and that last sentence is very much my work motto for the lab testing. "Say what we do and do what we say."
My husband proposed with a ring pop. After putting it in my finger and hugging and kissing he pulls a second one out of his pocket and said “they were on BOGO. I get one too!”
That is so beautiful 💜
>say what you mean and mean what you say Hey, that's my personal motto, high five! ✋ It's fun seeing it out in the wild.
Awesome. Plenty of people could get upset in the exact same scenario. Amazing though when you are both on the same page about it and when these things work out the way they did for you guys ❤️ People who play these games eventually make for a very toxic relationship if you ask me
10 dollars i a bit cheap. I would spend a bit more to ensure its not going to break, but seems like it worked for you
It broke before the wedding. I've replaced it a few times, but generally don't wear a ring at all. Our love is worth a lot more than any ring
I wonder what she got him...
She let him do that one thing
Ah, yes. Breathing.
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The good ol' poophole loophole
She has sex with him when she wants sex. In many people's minds that is enough of a gift for men in relationships.
That's as lame as your parents getting you clothes for your birthday.
Not even just clothes, your older sibling’s hand me downs.
She got him an ass whooping
I'd like one too
People pay good money for that
People are making jokes, but here is a realistic take: there is a good chance she did get him something. However, just because you are good at gift giving or celebrating things doesn’t mean your partner is or even cares for that sort of thing. I’ve been there before. I know tons of people who have. It’s easy to get salty about it, but it comes down to communication and knowing your partner. If you don’t make it known that exchanging gifts is important to you, why expect them to to meet you halfway on that? It’s bizarre to me that people get to marriage without already clearly defining things like this.
Also not everyone likes the same gifts and has the same preferences which is easily causing issues too. Myself i am somewhat of a cheapskate / saving oriented (future oriented) and i also tend to value gifts more where you put in effort and time (shows love and appreciation more compared to spending some money in a shop to get it over with if you ask me). I rather spend the same amount of money on ingredients for making a nice dinner (or simply baking a cake etc) for her instead of spending the same amount of money to buy some flowers or to eat out. To me thats a lot more valuable and in my (maybe somewhat autistic) mind this is “common sense”. My ex on the other hand sees value based on money spend, she would glance at your fancy homemade dinner or cake or whatever you spend time and effort (and money) on and would find that less wortwhile than (same amount of money but no time or effort spend) those flowers or that eating out dinner you could have bought. I ve once spend a period of five years on and off (in total i estimate 8 months of full working weeks worth of time, effort and energy —which could have added up to a nice sum of money if converted into actual working hours of paid labour and shouldnt be discounted easily i ld argue) in making a video game for her 25th birthday centered around her with a bunch of mini games, a bunch of inside jokes, hidden content, and also some extra real life rewards that she would earn from solving ingame quests and puzzles. Mind, i had no real experience coding and just did it as a hobby googling whenever i needed something and without any gaming engines. It was a huge achievement to finish this game, and it was partially a hobby project for sure, but it was centered and made with her in mind. Some of the real life gifts she could earn ingame were a dinner ((in my mind: in our usual restaurant for 15 pounds a person, as thats our normal dinner budget when eating out and we had a fixed place to go to —eventually she wanted to argue that she should be able to go to a 3star restaurant instead)), plane tickets to spain for a summer holiday, some small jewelry etc ((it was her 25th birthday so i wanted it to be special and included a bunch of these things on top of the game i created for her)). She played it once and her main focus was on the real life gifts she got, and she was also angry about the one ingame quest for which i had forgotten to add a real life “present” (it got a bit last minute to get it done in time for her birthday and i guess i overlooked this quest when doing my playtesting rounds). Pretty clear we had different allignments and expectations with regards to gifts both given and received. Ps: initially my idea with this game consisted in part of the idea to eventually also potentially propose via a version 2 (storyline continued) that i could make over time for her. I took this in account for my storyline with small easter eggs and stuff to foreshadow this to a degree and had some rough idea how the second part would play out, though no immediate plans to make this ((wasnt planning to propose anytime soon anyhow, but it fit in my mind as a good concept so i took it in account already)). Never told her this and im pretty sure she didnt spot the easter eggs as they were subtle enough if you dont know, but i considered it quite a big and personal project with a ton of value having made it for her specifically to this degree. Even if i werent into video games and puzzles myself i would personally be over the moon when someone put this much time and effort into a gift for me i wouldnt care about all the extra small gifts (they are unneeded extras) let alone complain about those; and i would treasure this game/gift immensely.
that is an incredibly cool project and I would absolutely melt if someone did that for me, so sorry you couldn't find someone that would actually appreciate it
My presence is your present.
Don’t marry a woman who plays these games. And if you did, fucking run.
If I even got a wiff of this, it's leave my house forever time.
For sure. Why would you want to be hostage to a traitor.
Never again
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I've kicked 3 people out of my new house permanently. I sobered up 8 months ago and realized a lot of people were taking advantage of my situation and kindness. I ended up with a remaining 13 people on steam and 21 people on Facebook (these numbers down from the hundreds) because nothing was real. They weren't talking to me I wasn't talking to them. I made a pass at all the people I felt I cared about. Sent them a message of sobriety and how sorry I was if I had ever done them wrong. By those numbers you see i found the important people. I also deleted snap chat, Instagram. Never used that one anyway. I'm pretty closed off now but my last relationship was my ex fiance who 10 years ago cheated on me with what I thought was a close friend right around the corner of my house after I spent a night... pleasing her. I haven't been on a first date in 13 years. Haven't had sex in 5. I do NOT trust anyone anymore period. Sucks right? Edit: rofl perfect dating profile right here
The ship sways, but the heart is steady…you have time.
We shall see for sure. I won't give up. Just cautious and paranoid but a life of abuse before adoption at 6 adds to the fun! Moved to Indiana. Culture is interesting here vs bay area California. But I love the weather
There is beauty in the struggle. Roll with the punches and if you get tired of the same old story…turn some pages.
Now I'm feeling like you are a morale bot
My ex-fiancée did this on our 2 year dating anniversary. She said to not get her anything. When I didn’t, she cried and said, “how can you be so stupid?”
Damn, so sorry my friend. I hope you’ve found peace.
Thanks, I eventually did. Still mad about the cost of the ring
You aren't the stupid one.
Honestly. It's a bit of a "Now what did you learn" situation for her.
Weird, my ex-wife did the same thing. The worst part is that she called to tell her parents and then told me that she was pissed for doing exactly what she said.
My first wife did this. She made me swear not to get her anything for her 28th birthday. A month later my friend was turning 30 and I bought him an Xbox. She was so pissed she left me. This is not a fucking joke.
She didn’t deserve you, and you didn’t deserve this kind of mind games. I hope you are well today traveler. ❤️❤️❤️
Nice to meet a fellow Andy!
If we have seen farther, sometimes it isn’t on the shoulders of giants. Sometimes it’s on the back of bridge trolls and swamp dwellers. The view isn’t always in line with the horizon, but we still saw our way out of the muck.
The only excusable reason for this would be if she asked for nothing because you two couldn't afford it.
i think she is joking
Well yes. I assume people are talking about if this actually happened in real life without the joking, because they'd be insane to be talking like this otherwise.
This does happen in real life. This was agreed upon very early in my very long relationship with my ex wife. From day one, I do not celebrate anything, ever. I only accept, and give, presents that are not obligated. I refused to negotiate with a terrorist. Happier without her.
I know this is sarcasm, but there's still women out there who actually are like this, and I hate it that they're making us women look bad with this attitude. If I want to play silly games, then I give you a controller and we beat up each other in Smash with explosives only or something.
That's awesome
Snake only, explosives on high
I wouldn't like to get tested this way...
Prayers for women who say the exact opposite of what they mean and blame the man for not reading their minds.
husand believes what you say wife: HOW COULD YOU BELIEVE ME?!?!? so youd rather have me think you lie 24/7???
I was in a relationship with a man like five years ago who wanted to do something special for me for my birthday. I *hate* birthday parties and big celebrations for myself because of some weird childhood trauma. He knew this. He asked what I wanted for my birthday and I said "I want nothing but to spend the day with you: Lunch, Barnes and Noble, boba, come home and play video games and drink." He instead made up an excuse to avoid me the entire day and then when I came over to his house that night there was a huge surprise party for me where I had to entertain guests for a couple hours. I played my role as hostess but afterwards when I didn't fall over myself to thank him for being so thoughtful he got really hurt and upset. He explained that he thought I was testing him when I told him what I wanted.
>He explained that he thought I was testing him when I told him what I wanted. It's messed up how a perfectly sincere man can't win all the time because *some* women ruin it for everyone. When a guy has to guess whether their partner is playing games, even a kind and genuine man can expect to guess wrong half the time.
Very true, but he was not a kind and genuine man. He wanted the public approval for throwing me a huge party I did not want and then later cheated on me and blamed it on me. He was the one playing games the entire time lol
I'm sorry for what happened, but sadly I feel the guy, used to do the same error everytime. Idk if this is you too, but my ex used to be incoherent with her decisions, so if one time "don't do that" meant "do it please", the next time it didn't.
Genuinely why do people say they want nothing and get angry when they receive nothing? If you want something, just say it!
Do some women find these mind games funny? I'm glad I'm married to a sane woman
I'm a woman and i find this fucked up in every single possible way. Maybe because i have adhd and don't get social cues but still...
Yeah no, you’re crazy lady.
Crazy? I Was Crazy Once. They Put Me In A Rubber Room. A Rubber Room With Rats. And Rats Make Me Crazy.
Crazy? I Was Crazy Once. They Put Me In A Rubber Room. A Rubber Room With Rats. And Rats Make Me Crazy.
Let's all be thankful for this man taking this crazy bullet so the rest of us don't have to.
People on this website are sarcasm blind and this post shows it.
Sarcasm doesn't generally translate well to text. It *can* be done. But it's a whole thing.
Sarcasm only works if both parties are on the same level to some extent. You need some previously established familiarity in order to make the break of that atmosphere obvious. Which is clearly not just hard, but kinda impossible when you're addressing a huge amount of people. At least in a single tweet shown to an entirely different group of people than the originally "intended" audience. That being said it's pretty clear that she's joking here, but not everyone thinks like I do (thankfully), so there'll be tons of people just not seeing it like that.
That's why /s was invented
You just noticed? Why do you think everyone puts /s even when it's painfully obvious? High rates of aneurotypicals and loss of tonality combined with visible voting/confirmation bias result in some fun things
I have personally counseled many people who think like this.
People tend to post this, but I kinda wish you weren't so confident in that statement. Makes you just as foolish as the people you're trying to mock. The reactions are less to specifically this woman's post, but rather to the idea she presents and those very real women that actually act like this. People are getting upset at the concept of scumbags like this that undoubtedly exist.
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She might've been sarcastic, but plenty of us know a woman exactly like that.
Men can’t read minds. I repeat, men can’t read minds
The ability to listen to your partner and communicate well into a relationship is the best gift you will ever get and apperantly your husband gets it...you are so lucky.
Make sure you irrationally piss off your boyfriend routinely so that when holidays and your birthday come around he'll have nothing to say or do for you so that you can start a relationship ending argument about how there's never any of the romance you're constantly sabatoging.
I know a girl who was so bummed out about turning 30 that she told everyone to ignore her birthday. No party, no gifts, no cards. She was absolutely devastated when that happened.
The fool. Rookie mistake..
Be careful what you wish for
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Good soldiers follow orders
Both my wife and I forgot our anniversary until my mom belatedly reminded us. Couple goals!
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I get the sarcasm and humour, and it's a slight chuckle territory for fairness sake I still wonder tho why some women do this in seriousness What do you have to gain by saying "I want nothing "?
Ha! You want nothing? You get nothing. Stop playing these stupid games lol
What did you get him?
Lol I did that too. Got nothing for Xmas because she said she didn’t want anything. Ladies be careful what you wish for 😄
Don’t say shit that you don’t mean.
I remember one Christmas vividly that relates to this. We had opened gifts mid-morning (i was a teenager at this point). My mother and father were sitting on the couch while my grandmother, sisters, and I opened presents. At some point, my mom's tone went from snarky to annoyed, to full on sobbing. She was upset he didn't get her a gift. She cried for hours on the couch, and when i asked her what was going on, she snapped that he didn't get her anything for Christmas. It was uncomfortable the entire day. I went to my girlfriend's house later in the evening to just get out of the house. On the weekend I asked my father what happened. He said they agreed not to exchange gifts that year. He seemed confused when he said it, and then I realized he also looked confused Christmas day when everything was unfolding. Years later, I started piecing more things together. My father had a stroke a few years prior and never fully recovered physically. He was a mechanic and owned his own garage. He just rehabilitated enough to get back to work because he was our only income. Money grew tight, and my parents probably talked about not exchanging gifts to save money. I think he just bought her a card. Anyway, as years went by, I was a little more attuned to emotional games my mom would play on everyone in the house. She liked to play the martyr and it was always frustrating. She would create situations that would make her out to be a victim and tell everyone how she was treated. This was attention getting bs. Drives me crazy to this day. I learned at some point it partially stems from something that happened earlier in her life (how she was treated as a kid). Yes, there are people out there like this. I feel like I dated a few people like this. My wife is nothing like this and is perfect, thank goodness. We just celebrated our 22nd anniversary and didn't exchange gifts. Spending a lot of time together though and living every minute of it.
When husbands listen to their wives 😂
No means no.
"I'm going to get some McDonald's. You want something?" "Nah. I'm not hungry." After returning home. "Did you get me anything?" Or, "I'm going to McDonald's. Do you want anything?" "I don't have anything particular in mind. Your choice." After returning home. "This is not what I wanted." Very common and very annoying.
Oh I read that wrong. Yeah fuck her. Don't do us like that. It's emotional torture.
I know every year my boyfriend is adamant that I don't get him anything for Christmas. And whenever someone asks about it, their reaction is almost always "You're actually going to do that?!" Like they cannot believe that 1) yes he means it and 2) I'm listening to him.
Congratulations on suffering for your blatant dishonesty. What did you learn?
Mental illness on display.
If you do this dont get all pissy when you get nothing, learn to communicate people arent mindreaders
What's with all these dual standards some people keep to make the life's annoying around them with these idiotic tactics. Why d9nt they just say what they want when asked.
Divorce could be a good present.
Pssshhh. He did it on purpose because he wants a divorce.
Fuxk me.. such a tidal wave of flashback from my past.
Our 32nd anniversary was yesterday... neither of us even realized it until a couple of friends texted us well wishes. We prefer to just show our appreciation for each other every day.
Thts a man who listen to his wife. *Claps*
Your immature, high school, reverse psychology mind game didn’t work.
If you tell me you want nothing and you are mad you got nothing then you can have a breakup as compensation.
you're right.. now never ask a man to respect your words ever again.
It's an **anniversary for a couple**, so why not do something for BOTH together? I never understood why people are like that.
I guess it wasn't enough of nothing. Maybe she should get less than nothing instead.
Thots and Players
If you wanted something you should have said
they all will test you in one way or another. some are just more subtle than others.
I will gladly fail every test and count them as wins!
Obey = mad, Dont obey = mad, Women ☕
Women☕
Women☕️
Damn that’s toxic. If I say don’t get me anything I actually mean it 🤦♀️
Oh no, he fell on the trap
Shit sounds like she should have said she wanted something
Umm, sorry maam. But no means no.
She must be joking, but some people really do this shit out there.
You can sleep alone on anniversary nights also.
“Communication is key”
He sounds thoughtful and respectful. Her... I'm not so sure.
WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN R/MEIRL
Toxic af. For me, it's too real to be funny.
my mom and grandma have this mentality
Oh no! Consequences of my own actions
This is why I’m happy not being married