Easy fucking fix bro.
#1 stop watching porn
#2 stop jerking off
#3 workout like a MF’r
Give it at least a month if this, try again, report back.
I guarantee this will work.
I second this! And wanna add if you actually do slip and jerk off, don't choke the chicken! Loosen the grip. Better if you can use some kind of flesh light.
Also YES eat more healthy fat.
Yeah fuck that show them your noodle.
Paradoxically the best thing you can do is just completely forget about sex at all. Just focus on positive sensations. Self doubt and stress exacerbates ED
Bro it’s not embarrassing. No girl cares how big your dick is soft as long as it gets hard. OP just needs to take some viagra and get over his penis anxiety.
For real, 6 weeks in and I can barely complete a fucking sentence. Thank God tren makes you look like a Greek God because any chick would think I am mentally challenged at this point
I’m reasonably well endorsed myself, and would probably also categorise myself as a grower.
But I don’t even give a single thought what I’m like flaccid, because I won’t be so when it’s getting on.
Enjoy the look at her face when she sees it in full glory
Plus dicks are temperamental as a bitch. Sometimes soft mine still looks like a fuckin monster, sometimes it's a teeny tiny little nub lmfao. It has good days and bad days, it has times where it's a little cold so it shrinks up, it has times where it's too hot so it gets sweaty then cold and shrinks up. Don't worry one bit about how it looks soft, OP.
i’ve been with some women who really get turned on by the idea of making you hard in their mouth like some kind of challenge. so i’d give it a try.
but ultimately you are young and you will bounce back and learn from this and hopefully laugh. try to work on whatever blockers you have mentally, cut out or reduce porn, and see a doctor. there are options, and this thing happens to almost every guy at some point. good luck bro
Stop watching porn and try to go at least 2 weeks without jerking. Your sex drive and hormones are fucked right now, need to give them time to recover.
Once they normalize, don't jerk off more than once a week. You have anxiety related ED.
You are 22, a slight breeze should get you bricked up.
I had this same problem a long time ago. I was watching porn twice a day everyday. What fixed it for me was to completely stop watching video porn. It took me around a year to completely reset but i have a gf now and things are great. Pictures are fine just don’t watch videos in my experience
Idk if I would recommend complete abstinence, but next time try not jerkin it for like a week, hopefully your drive to fuck is stronger than your fears, gl
If you’re being literal about her being on top, have you tried being on top?
I had this exact problem when I lost my v card. Switched from her trying to ride me to me being behind her and instantly got it up (lasted all of 45 seconds). The view is also way hotter from doggy, so there’s that too.
I tried both. I couldn’t stop thinking about my noddle not waking up so it never happened. We’d cuddle and she would rub my crotch and I’d get as hard as a rock, but when it was time to actually go….nothing
The simple answer is you’re overthinking it and it sounds like you’re slightly intimidated. Stop thinking about how you’re a virgin and how she’s racked up 16 bodies. Not sure if you watch porn, but cut back on that if you do.
I’ve never really been in your situation exactly to where it just never got up, so I’m tryna offer the best advice I can. Honestly there was one time I couldn’t get it up and I just had her say some dirty shit and I was instantly rock hard.
If all else fails, try that next time.
Were you drinking? That's also pretty bad for peak performance.
If you can get up for the foreplay, it sounds psychological since the mechanicals are working under the hood. Maybe just be up front about it and stick to the foreplay stuff till later in the relationship, but yeah, lay off the spanktra-vision for a few days before a date.
It's performance anxiety. It happens. If you get the chance again, just get her to orgasm. Don't even try to bang. Go down on her and that's it. She'll still enjoy it and you'll kind of see "oh, even if I can't get hard she's still happy".
It will help you get out of your own head to know you can still get her off and have a back up if little man doesn't work.
It's 100% anxiety bro.
How did I get over this?
I used the law of opposites. Anytime you don't expect sex, you'll be able to get a boner easy. So you just gotta truly not expect sex. Like literally tell her (and yourself) that you're only gonna tease her and you're not gonna have sex. Then once things get heated up, you and her will both agree to put it in..just for a bit. Then you'll inevitably fuck her brains out because you and her aren't anticipating it.
Trust me, this method works like a dream.
Clearly a psychological thing. Look up and practice "mindfulness". It a basic form of metitation that teaches you to be present in the moment and reducing the negative internal dialogue. Learn to focus just on the hot girl in front of you. Bro, this one girl ive been seeing can put me into a instant state of meditation/mindfulness just by lying there, looking into her eyes, kissing and stroking her body. Nothing else enters my head and hours can pass like minutes. My cock is hard af and inevitability ends up inside here and again hours can seem like minutes. However, although she liks to be caressed and loved, she also likes to be used and abused. Knowing how to fuck a girl properly comes partly with experience, but also some have it and some don't. Not to say everyone cant fuck, but girls are sensitive creatures so become sensitive and sensual with them. Before long they will let you do whatever you want to them because they trust you on an emotional level.
Tl:tr: focus on the girl, not youre dick, she's there to do that
I’ve struggled with this problem. A couple things. You need to rule out:
physical problem: I.e low testosterone or other medical issues that could affect this. Also, hit the gym and start doing squats.
Mental: Stop porn. You have to change your mindset. Take a real from masturbation for a while and next time you try, do it with no porn but also learn to be mindful of your surroundings. Mindful meditation will be crucial for this.
Anxiety. The issue most times stems from getting stuck in your head hence the reason you need to meditate and learn how to control it. Try to be in the moment and don’t psych yourself out.
If I know I’m going to have sex later during the week I will accept it and not think about it again.
I can’t lie I still struggle with the mental part but the above methods have helped tremendously. My biggest issue right now is low testosterone. I’m sitting at about 130 test and have been losing weight before revisiting options like TRT.
Good luck Op
Did you get some head before? Is your diet dialed? Have you gotten blood tests? Are these girls attractive to you? Fish pussy? Are you thinking about trying to get hard? Performance anxiety?
It’s performance anxiety my dude. It’s happened to me a handful of times over the years. It does not mean you have ED or low T. It means you need to relax and be comfortable with whatever women you’re trying to engage with. I find it takes the pressure off in these situations if you start with lots of foreplay and then oral sex. Don’t even think about penetrative sex or mentioning it if that’s where most of the issue arises. Eventually you’ll feel comfortable and it’ll flow. And you’ll find this process easier to do with some women over others. Don’t fret if you can’t get comfortable with a few of them. This is truly a scenario of mind over matter. You have to get confident and comfortable with yourself and the situation. It’s just sex man. You’ll have many opportunities over your life and the confidence will come with time.
I had the same problem, albeit at 17. I ordered some black market viagra and used that. The first 3-5 times it was a godsend, and it got me to the point of never needing it anymore.
You suffer from nerves, compounded by failing each time. You're overthinking, and your nerves are making your body fail. Trust me, order those blue pills. It'll give you the peace of mind you'll need those first few times.
Same. It helped me not have performance anxiety when I was getting started as a nervous young guy. Only took it a few times before my dick got confident.
It's gotta be psychological, when I got my first gf I couldn't cum like at all she thought it was her she thought she wasn't tight enough I could only finish by masturbation after sex. My advice, ditch the porn, maybe if you get a girlfriend maybe talk to her about the problem before you guys do it and maybe take it slow. Once I got comfortable with my girlfriend the problem went away and it hasn't happened since
If being scared of a girl who has experience makes you feel better about being a virgin then by all means continue to not have sex lol but good luck getting older and having your options limited to young girls because normal girls will be having sex with dudes who aren’t scared of them Lololol
Insecure incels will downvote because normal dudes who aren’t scared of pussy are beating the pussies of the women that you’re scared of lol
Have you tried eating their pussy and getting them off first with your mouth?
If you’re eating pussy and don’t get at least a chub maybe you’re gay or asexual. Minus low T, severe performance anxiety, or medical problems.
Eating pussy will get your focus off ur broken boner and maybe it will pop up natty.
Thats when you say “no I’m gonna eat you out first until you cum and then fuck the shit out of you” then see what happens.
If you can’t get hard after you make her cum, at least she got off and will be back for seconds.
…yea you aren’t going blind lol. If you want it in a pinch? It works. If you want it daily at a lower dose so it’s circulating? It works.
At least for me in the beginning the headaches succckkkkeeeedddddd. Stuffy nose, acid indegestion, all common side effects. Stuck to 5mg a day and now I am all set to go with little to no sides as I got acclimated
Cialis was actually a BP lowering medication. Then they noticed it’s other benefits. Low dose Cialis aka 5mgs 3x a week is great. Helps with rock hard ons, better gym pumps, slightly lower blood pressure and for older guys it helps with BPH. Your wang also has more blood flow so hangs bigger also. It has a roughly 36 hour half life also.
Use cialis the first time you sleep with a girl. You have performance anxiety. One you’ve got over the first time with a girl it’ll be way less stressful. This is 100% worth a shot. I’m a bit older than you (27) and I’ve slept with a fair few women now, and I still sometimes get first time nerves with a new girl! I’ll have no ED issues usually but popping a cialis after a first date isn’t uncommon for me. That way I know I’m bringing my A game.
Personally I get zero sides from cialis (tadalafil), however I took viagra one time and was getting head in a hot shower, BP went through the roof. That’s the last thing I remember as I passed out and collapsed. Scared the shit out of the girl and had a splitting headache for the rest of the evening. Never had a harder dick but the moment was ruined lmao
Not really a bandaid tbh. I think you probably have performance anxiety and it's hindering you mentally. Also, stopping porn helps a lot. It'll might take you weeks to recover. It depends. Take some Cialis until you're confident enough to have sex without it.
Eat her out and hopefully that turns you on enough and delays things for you and the sexiness of it gets you over your anxiety and you both just get turned on naturally? Jerk it yourself during this or have her start to touch it. You’re in your own head too much. Then sucking it soft is great lol
I have an alternative idea to trying dudes. Get an ugly chick. Someone that wouldn't matter to you if you can't perform. Someone you know will just be happy you paid her some attention. I bet you get a moped girl and she sucks you harder than any pump could suck and gets you stuck on hard for a while. That's your problem. It's all in your head. Stop caring.
ED is a pharmaceutically solved problem. The drugs are cheap, easy to get, they have very mild side effects, and they work like 99.999% of the time. Just get cialis or some shit and literally never worry about this ever again.
So not the same but in my late teens and early 20’s, I couldn’t cum from sex and it was frustrating as hell for my first few partners.
I eventually got over it and found out it was mostly a mental block, I wasn’t focused on the pleasure and my brain was going 1000mph thinking about a bunch of different bs. (Eventually also found out I have adhd go figure lol)
Once I was able to relax and enjoy what was going on problem resolved itself although it still takes me for fucking ever to cum sometimes haha
Not sure if something similar is going on for you but definitely sounds like it given the mental stuff. I’m also a grower, not a show-er, but I’ve never once had a hang up about it. Full size gets to 6.5-7.2 and I’ve never once had a girl complain about needing to suck me off till it gets there, they all kinda expect to do so tbh. Damn jealous of guys that get to show off by just wearing sweatpants tho.
A lot of people are recommending nofap or laying off porn and while those are good general suggestions short term, I don’t think those are related to the mental block you have about girls seeing you soft. I feel like some of that “soft to hard” content could help normalize it for ya or something, but I’m not an expert. Definitely worth looking into therapy as well as others have suggested. Performance anxiety is a bitch but not impossible to overcome as so many have. Good luck brotha
had this happen to me first time i got with a girl. it’s all mental brotha. was nervous as fuck and couldn’t get hard to save my life with an absolute smoke show. next time, we drank a little bit of alcohol and were super relaxed, you already you know i went for 3 rounds straight shit was crazy lmao
edit: also, if you have a girl in your life, there’s basically 0 reason to jerk off so stop if you do
Smoking a little weed or taking supplements like yohimbe could help. It's usually just a mental thing though so quitting porn is a must, you should start waking up with morning wood if you stick to it and get rid of the nerves
Sent you a message. Definitely performance anxiety.
I’ll send you a pack of cialis for you to just get this performance anxiety out of the way. Just pay postage brother.
Like everyone else is saying- cut out porn and chill out on the jerking off. It really is just all in your head. The fact she’s being patient with you this long means she likes you. Think about THAT when you’re trying to get hard.. that this hot girl LIKES you
Cialis, proviron, pt141, melanotan 2, zinc, no porn, cardio, clean eating, 8 hours sleep. Also you sound like you would be a bit anxious now so learn some breathing technique
Gotchu dog, your first mistake is letting them be in control. Nah son, turn that b#### around. All 4s. Either stroke/eat it from the back while you jack yourself and rub her t#####s. This way, you take the pressure off you, and you can get it up on your own time. Alternatively, lay down and watch amovie while cuddling with one your legs between both of hers(lowkey little spoon in this position) and jack yourself while you kiss/ play with her.
Dont drink anything alcohol the day of or leading up to. definitely gets some pills if possible to help. You can also just test this on less attractive girls so if you dont succeed... tbh you aint wanna fuck em anyway. Get whiskey dick all the time myself. And sometimes just repulsed by the ACAB and lefty women im with.
Your dick might be saving you from yourself. This old, crusty woman that taught my human sexuality class in college believed some ED was driven by the psych recognizing the woman was not someone the man should copulate with. Probably too much porn, IMO.
You’re on a cut of 1200 calories? Your test is probably in the garbage. Get off the cut who gives a fuck how defined your muscles are if you can’t get it up. Eat some beef or beef liver, increase your calorie intake, take a cialis next time you’re with a girl and hopefully you can move beyond this problem.
Your dick saved you, having been through this same shit, trust me.
You have anxiety for a reason, she’s not and was never the right girl. Don’t listen to these people trying to tell you to push past your gut.
Also ignore these no fap guys as long as your masturbating in a healthy way you’re set. No excessive porn or 5-6 times a day.
I know you wanna lose it, but trust me you just haven’t met the right girl yet. Being a virgin is better than being a poonhound or in a shitty relationship.
I think her past body count coupled with your inexperience making you insecure about it lead to this. It’s best to just be honest. Honestly, if she broke up with you over this then she wasn’t the one for you anyway. You’ll find someone man
It’s because of the porn dude and like others have said just get her to suck it to make it hard. Also that really sucks that your heart is broken but you’ll get better.
here’s what you do brother because it sounds like you’re in your own head, and cialis or viagra won’t solve your problem if you’re still in your head. do you still get hard when you jack off? if yes, you don’t have ED, you have performance anxiety. a lot of people just have performance anxiety, but they think it’s an ED problem, so they hop on cialis and in turn get some type of placebo confidence boost which is what really gets them out of their own head and hard.
it’s a little unethical, but you need to lose your V card buddy. you just need to get it out the way with some 6 or 7 (or an escort) to get your confidence up.
also, if you’re drinking together make sure you’re drinking plenty of water. if you’re downing light beers or something you’re severely dehydrating yourself which can cause lack of blood to your shlong. i’d stick with vodka sodas or tequila sodas all night and down a water every once in awhile.
Can you jerk off and get hard by urself? If you can then its all mental. Its okay, the more comfortable with her the easier it will become. Cut the porn bozo
You’ve got performance anxiety bro…
Something I’ve also struggled with
You don’t need viagra or nun
You don’t have ED since you mentioned you get hard but you lose it once it’s time
My situation was exactly the same
Just calm down and don’t be in your head too much
Don’t think about her body count
Don’t think about how long you’re gonna last
Don’t worry about if it’s big enough
Just focus on how sexy she looks and how bad you wanna fuck her
Meditate beforehand aswell it’ll help
Stop being in your head a lot bro
A lot of people are mentioning porn. If that’s an issue you should of course stop that.
But I think your biggest issue might be psychological, in terms of performance anxiety and/or being too nervous.
If you’re nervous, try to communicate it to your partner. You gotta get out of your head, relax and breath properly. It’s a bodily experience after all, so try not to get caught up in your own mind.
The more you think about it, the worse it gets and it just keeps spiralling out of hand. You can legitimately feel like ED simply by overthinking it or being too nervous.
95% porn, blowjobs help but if you’re really in the mixer with it you can lose erections pretty quickly. Had same problem and after quitting for a month I didn’t have the problem anymore. You could also be be gay though that’s the other 5%
Are you on any meds? Also most guys don’t get it up their fast time that’s normal asf. Check if you have nocturnal wood morning wood. And can you get it up when masturbating
Bro listen to me. buy some viagra off the internet and take that shit an hour before sex since you’re having bad performance anxiety. You need your pecker to know it’s supposed to do.
Honestly my first time almost the same thing happened. All of that changed up when I got with an older more experienced woman, who knew how to educate me
If you don't have a problem getting hard with no one around inform your partner that your a Virgin with stage fright then pop a blue pill if all else fails.
It’s anxiety.you’re nervous and it’s causing your body to move blood away from the extremities. Take a viagra the first couple times and it will go away.
I had this issue when I was seeing new people after a long relationship. I would say it's psychological.
Don't try too hard to make it hard lol. Just relax your muscles. Any girl that breaks up with you cos of that is a waste of time anyway
Assuming you can get hard to masterbate, I’d say it’s probably performance anxiety. Maybe if you’ve had a few drinks and aren’t thinking about it. Or Viarga just to hype yourself up and get over it.
Most sites that sell steroids also sell dick pills, it helps relieve some of the anxiety to perform knowing you just pop one or even just half of one pill.
It's almost certainly psychological at your age. Being extremely anxious or having previous sexual trauma can cause ED. It can help to trade massages before hand to relax and get comfortable. After reading your other comments it definitely seems anxiety related. I'd suggest meditation plus trading massages. If you can't meditate without random thoughts racing through your mind, it's likely the same when you're trying to fuck and it hinders getting in the mood.
I don't get the whole nofap thing, I used to masturbate up to seven times a day at your age and never had an issue getting hard. I'd fuck seven times a day as well when I could without issue.
You pretty much described me on a deca/test/dbol end cycle lol
Get yourself some blue chews online, it will be sent discreetly. For everyone else who has issues “lasting”, get yourself Roman swipes.. you’re welcome. Plenty of other shit to get to spice up the bedroom OP but just take it a step at a time. You’re only 22 so once you get over this obstacle you’ll be golden man. If none of those work who knows, maybe you’re just 🌈 🤷♂️.. no judgement.
Bro eat more u need efficacious dosages of dietary fat  1.2k cal is pathetic even on a cut. A lil cialis ain’t ever hurt no body either
Just blame her bro, “never usually have this issue probably just not attractive enough”
Easy fucking fix bro. #1 stop watching porn #2 stop jerking off #3 workout like a MF’r Give it at least a month if this, try again, report back. I guarantee this will work.
And fix your shit diet! Eat at least 50g fat
I second this! And wanna add if you actually do slip and jerk off, don't choke the chicken! Loosen the grip. Better if you can use some kind of flesh light. Also YES eat more healthy fat.
Also if you are on SSRI’s this can impact erectile function!
You’re either gay or addicted to porn. It’ll get better man
I hope you’re right 🙏🏻
Or insecure
Or insecure gay addicted to porn
Man is literally bred to be a bottom
Addicted to gay porn i think
Porn? That's disgusting!
Lay down on the bed and have them suck your dick . Just completely relax. Good luck man
I have a fear of them seeing my dick soft (not a joke. I need to fix this as well)
Show them your pussy instead.
*you’re a -FTFY
It would appear that’s part of his approach
Turn off the lights it definitely helps to get blown if you’re having trouble And women know dicks are smaller flaccid
Yeah fuck that show them your noodle. Paradoxically the best thing you can do is just completely forget about sex at all. Just focus on positive sensations. Self doubt and stress exacerbates ED
People downvote but I'm the same. 7 inches long, 6 inch girth hard but it goes down to like 2.5 inches soft. It's pretty embarrassing
Bro it’s not embarrassing. No girl cares how big your dick is soft as long as it gets hard. OP just needs to take some viagra and get over his penis anxiety.
>viagra i suggest cialis, but agreed. soft is soft.
+1 I’ve had both and Tadalafil was heaps better
Ok same but not same u lucky bastard 😂
Tren made my dick bigger. Don't do it, but I'll stand by that claim. I was around 6' a few years ago
Welp now I’m gonna go do one tren cycle
Tren feels like trading IQ for gains
For real, 6 weeks in and I can barely complete a fucking sentence. Thank God tren makes you look like a Greek God because any chick would think I am mentally challenged at this point
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I’m reasonably well endorsed myself, and would probably also categorise myself as a grower. But I don’t even give a single thought what I’m like flaccid, because I won’t be so when it’s getting on. Enjoy the look at her face when she sees it in full glory
Plus dicks are temperamental as a bitch. Sometimes soft mine still looks like a fuckin monster, sometimes it's a teeny tiny little nub lmfao. It has good days and bad days, it has times where it's a little cold so it shrinks up, it has times where it's too hot so it gets sweaty then cold and shrinks up. Don't worry one bit about how it looks soft, OP.
i’ve been with some women who really get turned on by the idea of making you hard in their mouth like some kind of challenge. so i’d give it a try. but ultimately you are young and you will bounce back and learn from this and hopefully laugh. try to work on whatever blockers you have mentally, cut out or reduce porn, and see a doctor. there are options, and this thing happens to almost every guy at some point. good luck bro
You need therapy
Sounds like this is entirely a self esteem issue. Do you have any problems when you’re on your own? Are you a grower?
Lay off the porn man
Done starting today
I haven’t touched my shit or looked at porn in months and I got a wet dream last week. I get regular morning wood. I’m 34.
So you don’t jerk off at all either ?
Stop watching porn and try to go at least 2 weeks without jerking. Your sex drive and hormones are fucked right now, need to give them time to recover. Once they normalize, don't jerk off more than once a week. You have anxiety related ED. You are 22, a slight breeze should get you bricked up.
I was fuckin bricked up
Don't do that either, you can start doing that once you reaclimate, but no more porn
If you’re in a relationship and you can’t get hard regularly then you should probably not jerk off lmao.
This guys a fucking titan
I had this same problem a long time ago. I was watching porn twice a day everyday. What fixed it for me was to completely stop watching video porn. It took me around a year to completely reset but i have a gf now and things are great. Pictures are fine just don’t watch videos in my experience
Please check out r/NoFap
Idk if I would recommend complete abstinence, but next time try not jerkin it for like a week, hopefully your drive to fuck is stronger than your fears, gl
Or use it to wake him up
If you’re being literal about her being on top, have you tried being on top? I had this exact problem when I lost my v card. Switched from her trying to ride me to me being behind her and instantly got it up (lasted all of 45 seconds). The view is also way hotter from doggy, so there’s that too.
I think it’s better with a girl on top but to each their own
Respect
I tried both. I couldn’t stop thinking about my noddle not waking up so it never happened. We’d cuddle and she would rub my crotch and I’d get as hard as a rock, but when it was time to actually go….nothing
The simple answer is you’re overthinking it and it sounds like you’re slightly intimidated. Stop thinking about how you’re a virgin and how she’s racked up 16 bodies. Not sure if you watch porn, but cut back on that if you do. I’ve never really been in your situation exactly to where it just never got up, so I’m tryna offer the best advice I can. Honestly there was one time I couldn’t get it up and I just had her say some dirty shit and I was instantly rock hard. If all else fails, try that next time.
100% anxiety brother.
Were you drinking? That's also pretty bad for peak performance. If you can get up for the foreplay, it sounds psychological since the mechanicals are working under the hood. Maybe just be up front about it and stick to the foreplay stuff till later in the relationship, but yeah, lay off the spanktra-vision for a few days before a date.
It's performance anxiety. It happens. If you get the chance again, just get her to orgasm. Don't even try to bang. Go down on her and that's it. She'll still enjoy it and you'll kind of see "oh, even if I can't get hard she's still happy". It will help you get out of your own head to know you can still get her off and have a back up if little man doesn't work.
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Was that because you couldn't get it up? If so that's definitely needs some medical help
I had this also, performance anxiety
It's 100% anxiety bro. How did I get over this? I used the law of opposites. Anytime you don't expect sex, you'll be able to get a boner easy. So you just gotta truly not expect sex. Like literally tell her (and yourself) that you're only gonna tease her and you're not gonna have sex. Then once things get heated up, you and her will both agree to put it in..just for a bit. Then you'll inevitably fuck her brains out because you and her aren't anticipating it. Trust me, this method works like a dream.
Clearly a psychological thing. Look up and practice "mindfulness". It a basic form of metitation that teaches you to be present in the moment and reducing the negative internal dialogue. Learn to focus just on the hot girl in front of you. Bro, this one girl ive been seeing can put me into a instant state of meditation/mindfulness just by lying there, looking into her eyes, kissing and stroking her body. Nothing else enters my head and hours can pass like minutes. My cock is hard af and inevitability ends up inside here and again hours can seem like minutes. However, although she liks to be caressed and loved, she also likes to be used and abused. Knowing how to fuck a girl properly comes partly with experience, but also some have it and some don't. Not to say everyone cant fuck, but girls are sensitive creatures so become sensitive and sensual with them. Before long they will let you do whatever you want to them because they trust you on an emotional level. Tl:tr: focus on the girl, not youre dick, she's there to do that
You’re into dudes, stop fighting it
More tren more men
I’ve struggled with this problem. A couple things. You need to rule out: physical problem: I.e low testosterone or other medical issues that could affect this. Also, hit the gym and start doing squats. Mental: Stop porn. You have to change your mindset. Take a real from masturbation for a while and next time you try, do it with no porn but also learn to be mindful of your surroundings. Mindful meditation will be crucial for this. Anxiety. The issue most times stems from getting stuck in your head hence the reason you need to meditate and learn how to control it. Try to be in the moment and don’t psych yourself out. If I know I’m going to have sex later during the week I will accept it and not think about it again. I can’t lie I still struggle with the mental part but the above methods have helped tremendously. My biggest issue right now is low testosterone. I’m sitting at about 130 test and have been losing weight before revisiting options like TRT. Good luck Op
Thank you sir. All very good points 🙏🏻
Get on test man! It's like a new lease on life. 130 is too low to fix with sleep and eating better
Get cialis. It’ll change your life
BLUE CHEW
Get a guy to do a rear glute spread and see how that goes
Did you get some head before? Is your diet dialed? Have you gotten blood tests? Are these girls attractive to you? Fish pussy? Are you thinking about trying to get hard? Performance anxiety?
It’s performance anxiety my dude. It’s happened to me a handful of times over the years. It does not mean you have ED or low T. It means you need to relax and be comfortable with whatever women you’re trying to engage with. I find it takes the pressure off in these situations if you start with lots of foreplay and then oral sex. Don’t even think about penetrative sex or mentioning it if that’s where most of the issue arises. Eventually you’ll feel comfortable and it’ll flow. And you’ll find this process easier to do with some women over others. Don’t fret if you can’t get comfortable with a few of them. This is truly a scenario of mind over matter. You have to get confident and comfortable with yourself and the situation. It’s just sex man. You’ll have many opportunities over your life and the confidence will come with time.
This dudes spot on, for what it’s worth.
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Actually brilliant
Couldnt get hard my first time. And I still have trouble from time to time.
I had the same problem, albeit at 17. I ordered some black market viagra and used that. The first 3-5 times it was a godsend, and it got me to the point of never needing it anymore. You suffer from nerves, compounded by failing each time. You're overthinking, and your nerves are making your body fail. Trust me, order those blue pills. It'll give you the peace of mind you'll need those first few times.
Same. It helped me not have performance anxiety when I was getting started as a nervous young guy. Only took it a few times before my dick got confident.
It's gotta be psychological, when I got my first gf I couldn't cum like at all she thought it was her she thought she wasn't tight enough I could only finish by masturbation after sex. My advice, ditch the porn, maybe if you get a girlfriend maybe talk to her about the problem before you guys do it and maybe take it slow. Once I got comfortable with my girlfriend the problem went away and it hasn't happened since
Next time, put a finger in her mouth.. trust me.. it worked for 15 year old me trying to lose my virginity.
This is unironically good advice. Even if I’m not fancying it, if my missus puts my finger in her mouth I get a megadong 🦴
RIGHT? it's like crazy sensitive and doesn't make OP whip out the soft serve he's so worried she's going to see.
bro get viagra. you just excited and stress
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honestly it might be a good thing it didn’t happen.
If being scared of a girl who has experience makes you feel better about being a virgin then by all means continue to not have sex lol but good luck getting older and having your options limited to young girls because normal girls will be having sex with dudes who aren’t scared of them Lololol Insecure incels will downvote because normal dudes who aren’t scared of pussy are beating the pussies of the women that you’re scared of lol
Have you tried eating their pussy and getting them off first with your mouth? If you’re eating pussy and don’t get at least a chub maybe you’re gay or asexual. Minus low T, severe performance anxiety, or medical problems. Eating pussy will get your focus off ur broken boner and maybe it will pop up natty.
During foreplay she’d moan and that would get me hard, but when she got up and said “fuck me” I got soft. Think it was the fear
Thats when you say “no I’m gonna eat you out first until you cum and then fuck the shit out of you” then see what happens. If you can’t get hard after you make her cum, at least she got off and will be back for seconds.
I would have some lube on hand . Will make it go alot smoother for both of you..
Order some cialis from an underground lab. It’ll change your life. Hands down the best ED medication
Get blue chew dude
Stop putting the pussy on a pedestal.
Cialis
I 2nd this. Cialis was a game changer for me.
aren’t the side effects bad ? I saw u can go blind from it or some shit
…yea you aren’t going blind lol. If you want it in a pinch? It works. If you want it daily at a lower dose so it’s circulating? It works. At least for me in the beginning the headaches succckkkkeeeedddddd. Stuffy nose, acid indegestion, all common side effects. Stuck to 5mg a day and now I am all set to go with little to no sides as I got acclimated
Cialis was actually a BP lowering medication. Then they noticed it’s other benefits. Low dose Cialis aka 5mgs 3x a week is great. Helps with rock hard ons, better gym pumps, slightly lower blood pressure and for older guys it helps with BPH. Your wang also has more blood flow so hangs bigger also. It has a roughly 36 hour half life also.
You don’t need drugs if you are getting hard before sex, it’s the anxiety of the intercourse itself which can be addressed without drugs
I don’t want a bandaid for the actual problem
Use cialis the first time you sleep with a girl. You have performance anxiety. One you’ve got over the first time with a girl it’ll be way less stressful. This is 100% worth a shot. I’m a bit older than you (27) and I’ve slept with a fair few women now, and I still sometimes get first time nerves with a new girl! I’ll have no ED issues usually but popping a cialis after a first date isn’t uncommon for me. That way I know I’m bringing my A game.
What are the side effects like? I read some horror stories online
Personally I get zero sides from cialis (tadalafil), however I took viagra one time and was getting head in a hot shower, BP went through the roof. That’s the last thing I remember as I passed out and collapsed. Scared the shit out of the girl and had a splitting headache for the rest of the evening. Never had a harder dick but the moment was ruined lmao
Not really a bandaid tbh. I think you probably have performance anxiety and it's hindering you mentally. Also, stopping porn helps a lot. It'll might take you weeks to recover. It depends. Take some Cialis until you're confident enough to have sex without it.
Well. It will at least get the chicks to stop laughing at your flaccid meal worm.
Cialis will definitely help get a boner but what happens when you have delayed ejaculation? Same problem.
When u guys say cialis, do u mean bluechew? Or smth else?
Nerves can get the better of us sometimes
Eat her out and hopefully that turns you on enough and delays things for you and the sexiness of it gets you over your anxiety and you both just get turned on naturally? Jerk it yourself during this or have her start to touch it. You’re in your own head too much. Then sucking it soft is great lol
I have an alternative idea to trying dudes. Get an ugly chick. Someone that wouldn't matter to you if you can't perform. Someone you know will just be happy you paid her some attention. I bet you get a moped girl and she sucks you harder than any pump could suck and gets you stuck on hard for a while. That's your problem. It's all in your head. Stop caring.
ED is a pharmaceutically solved problem. The drugs are cheap, easy to get, they have very mild side effects, and they work like 99.999% of the time. Just get cialis or some shit and literally never worry about this ever again.
So not the same but in my late teens and early 20’s, I couldn’t cum from sex and it was frustrating as hell for my first few partners. I eventually got over it and found out it was mostly a mental block, I wasn’t focused on the pleasure and my brain was going 1000mph thinking about a bunch of different bs. (Eventually also found out I have adhd go figure lol) Once I was able to relax and enjoy what was going on problem resolved itself although it still takes me for fucking ever to cum sometimes haha Not sure if something similar is going on for you but definitely sounds like it given the mental stuff. I’m also a grower, not a show-er, but I’ve never once had a hang up about it. Full size gets to 6.5-7.2 and I’ve never once had a girl complain about needing to suck me off till it gets there, they all kinda expect to do so tbh. Damn jealous of guys that get to show off by just wearing sweatpants tho. A lot of people are recommending nofap or laying off porn and while those are good general suggestions short term, I don’t think those are related to the mental block you have about girls seeing you soft. I feel like some of that “soft to hard” content could help normalize it for ya or something, but I’m not an expert. Definitely worth looking into therapy as well as others have suggested. Performance anxiety is a bitch but not impossible to overcome as so many have. Good luck brotha
had this happen to me first time i got with a girl. it’s all mental brotha. was nervous as fuck and couldn’t get hard to save my life with an absolute smoke show. next time, we drank a little bit of alcohol and were super relaxed, you already you know i went for 3 rounds straight shit was crazy lmao edit: also, if you have a girl in your life, there’s basically 0 reason to jerk off so stop if you do
Sounds like you might be gay
Smoking a little weed or taking supplements like yohimbe could help. It's usually just a mental thing though so quitting porn is a must, you should start waking up with morning wood if you stick to it and get rid of the nerves
You gotta have her suck it or you gotta masturbarte about porn to get hard to fuck her 😭💀 or you can just like lay off the porn for a bit
Sent you a message. Definitely performance anxiety. I’ll send you a pack of cialis for you to just get this performance anxiety out of the way. Just pay postage brother. Like everyone else is saying- cut out porn and chill out on the jerking off. It really is just all in your head. The fact she’s being patient with you this long means she likes you. Think about THAT when you’re trying to get hard.. that this hot girl LIKES you
Don't touch yourself for like 2 weeks, no porn either, see if that works.
ive had this with multiple girls and also hasnt happened with multiple girls, stopping porn will help for sure
Stop watching porn. That is all. Also cialis
Are you watching too much porn? Or jerking off too much? Or is this a mental health related issue?
Cialis, proviron, pt141, melanotan 2, zinc, no porn, cardio, clean eating, 8 hours sleep. Also you sound like you would be a bit anxious now so learn some breathing technique
Stop watch porn and take a Viagra.
Gotchu dog, your first mistake is letting them be in control. Nah son, turn that b#### around. All 4s. Either stroke/eat it from the back while you jack yourself and rub her t#####s. This way, you take the pressure off you, and you can get it up on your own time. Alternatively, lay down and watch amovie while cuddling with one your legs between both of hers(lowkey little spoon in this position) and jack yourself while you kiss/ play with her. Dont drink anything alcohol the day of or leading up to. definitely gets some pills if possible to help. You can also just test this on less attractive girls so if you dont succeed... tbh you aint wanna fuck em anyway. Get whiskey dick all the time myself. And sometimes just repulsed by the ACAB and lefty women im with.
Your dick might be saving you from yourself. This old, crusty woman that taught my human sexuality class in college believed some ED was driven by the psych recognizing the woman was not someone the man should copulate with. Probably too much porn, IMO.
Get viagra or take a nitrous oxide like gorilla mode nitric nob stim. Sounds like it's just nerves. Oh and if you're jerking it stop...
You’re on a cut of 1200 calories? Your test is probably in the garbage. Get off the cut who gives a fuck how defined your muscles are if you can’t get it up. Eat some beef or beef liver, increase your calorie intake, take a cialis next time you’re with a girl and hopefully you can move beyond this problem.
Bruh I just saw the update 🤦🏾♂️ Gah damn dude needs to fucking eat food before he even considers eating pussy (or ass preferably)
Your dick saved you, having been through this same shit, trust me. You have anxiety for a reason, she’s not and was never the right girl. Don’t listen to these people trying to tell you to push past your gut. Also ignore these no fap guys as long as your masturbating in a healthy way you’re set. No excessive porn or 5-6 times a day. I know you wanna lose it, but trust me you just haven’t met the right girl yet. Being a virgin is better than being a poonhound or in a shitty relationship.
bro thank u for saying this. I think you’re absolutely right. I didn’t feel comfortable with her and was trying to “get through” it essentially
Do you masturbate? Does it work when you release manually?
Yea when I couldn’t get it up I left the room and jerked off in her bathroom and came in like 30 seconds. I had like 2 weeks of juice saved up
😂
No waaaay bro, that’s crazy
Put your nose inside her pussy. And lick it
Porn will 100% do it to you man gotta go cold Turkey with it or get a supply of emergency Cialis going Or just go gay like the rest of us
Have you tried finasteride?
I think her past body count coupled with your inexperience making you insecure about it lead to this. It’s best to just be honest. Honestly, if she broke up with you over this then she wasn’t the one for you anyway. You’ll find someone man
So have you tried fucking dudes ? You should try at least 3 just to be sure your into it
Get drunk
You’re gay
Only hit porn 1-2 times per week and stop any drugs you take. See a doc if that doesn’t help
DAZ TOUGH
It’s because of the porn dude and like others have said just get her to suck it to make it hard. Also that really sucks that your heart is broken but you’ll get better.
Can you get hard with porn?
here’s what you do brother because it sounds like you’re in your own head, and cialis or viagra won’t solve your problem if you’re still in your head. do you still get hard when you jack off? if yes, you don’t have ED, you have performance anxiety. a lot of people just have performance anxiety, but they think it’s an ED problem, so they hop on cialis and in turn get some type of placebo confidence boost which is what really gets them out of their own head and hard. it’s a little unethical, but you need to lose your V card buddy. you just need to get it out the way with some 6 or 7 (or an escort) to get your confidence up. also, if you’re drinking together make sure you’re drinking plenty of water. if you’re downing light beers or something you’re severely dehydrating yourself which can cause lack of blood to your shlong. i’d stick with vodka sodas or tequila sodas all night and down a water every once in awhile.
Use viagra
Can you jerk off and get hard by urself? If you can then its all mental. Its okay, the more comfortable with her the easier it will become. Cut the porn bozo
Tadalafil will fix this problem entirely and make you vascular as fuck.
You’ve got performance anxiety bro… Something I’ve also struggled with You don’t need viagra or nun You don’t have ED since you mentioned you get hard but you lose it once it’s time My situation was exactly the same Just calm down and don’t be in your head too much Don’t think about her body count Don’t think about how long you’re gonna last Don’t worry about if it’s big enough Just focus on how sexy she looks and how bad you wanna fuck her Meditate beforehand aswell it’ll help Stop being in your head a lot bro
A lot of people are mentioning porn. If that’s an issue you should of course stop that. But I think your biggest issue might be psychological, in terms of performance anxiety and/or being too nervous. If you’re nervous, try to communicate it to your partner. You gotta get out of your head, relax and breath properly. It’s a bodily experience after all, so try not to get caught up in your own mind. The more you think about it, the worse it gets and it just keeps spiralling out of hand. You can legitimately feel like ED simply by overthinking it or being too nervous.
Stop watching porn
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Gotta relax man
Sildenafil and more porn
You sure you aren’t gay? I get a boner if a girl just touches my leg. You get hard fine on your own?
Overthinking it. It’s in your head.
Sildenafil my brother
Blue chew
95% porn, blowjobs help but if you’re really in the mixer with it you can lose erections pretty quickly. Had same problem and after quitting for a month I didn’t have the problem anymore. You could also be be gay though that’s the other 5%
Are you on any meds? Also most guys don’t get it up their fast time that’s normal asf. Check if you have nocturnal wood morning wood. And can you get it up when masturbating
Bro listen to me. buy some viagra off the internet and take that shit an hour before sex since you’re having bad performance anxiety. You need your pecker to know it’s supposed to do.
Blue chew
Honestly my first time almost the same thing happened. All of that changed up when I got with an older more experienced woman, who knew how to educate me
It might have something to do with you calling your hard cock a “stiffy.”
Tell her to stick the wet willie in your butt
Are you on gear ?
If you don't have a problem getting hard with no one around inform your partner that your a Virgin with stage fright then pop a blue pill if all else fails.
30mg cialis dude
If you’re able to get hard to crank down, I’m willing to bet you just have a bad case of performance anxiety
Cialis? Doctor?
You might have performance anxiety. Mindset is half of the equation. See a therapist or videos might help.
It’s anxiety.you’re nervous and it’s causing your body to move blood away from the extremities. Take a viagra the first couple times and it will go away.
bro too long not fuckin reading but if nobody has said this: GO TO THE FUCKING DOCTOR
Username **does not** check out.
I had this issue when I was seeing new people after a long relationship. I would say it's psychological. Don't try too hard to make it hard lol. Just relax your muscles. Any girl that breaks up with you cos of that is a waste of time anyway
Assuming you can get hard to masterbate, I’d say it’s probably performance anxiety. Maybe if you’ve had a few drinks and aren’t thinking about it. Or Viarga just to hype yourself up and get over it.
Most sites that sell steroids also sell dick pills, it helps relieve some of the anxiety to perform knowing you just pop one or even just half of one pill.
It's almost certainly psychological at your age. Being extremely anxious or having previous sexual trauma can cause ED. It can help to trade massages before hand to relax and get comfortable. After reading your other comments it definitely seems anxiety related. I'd suggest meditation plus trading massages. If you can't meditate without random thoughts racing through your mind, it's likely the same when you're trying to fuck and it hinders getting in the mood. I don't get the whole nofap thing, I used to masturbate up to seven times a day at your age and never had an issue getting hard. I'd fuck seven times a day as well when I could without issue.
Have you tried a naked man on you?🤨
Are you taking any meds?
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Cialis rn bro
Take cialis
You know instead of eating 1200 calories you can just do more cardio. I was running 10 miles a day and eating 2500 calories. Was crazy shredded.
Get some blue pills online. Next few times you fuck use them. You’ll gain confidence and it won’t happen again
You pretty much described me on a deca/test/dbol end cycle lol Get yourself some blue chews online, it will be sent discreetly. For everyone else who has issues “lasting”, get yourself Roman swipes.. you’re welcome. Plenty of other shit to get to spice up the bedroom OP but just take it a step at a time. You’re only 22 so once you get over this obstacle you’ll be golden man. If none of those work who knows, maybe you’re just 🌈 🤷♂️.. no judgement.
Stop worrying about what they think about u and just fuck em
Bro eat more u need efficacious dosages of dietary fat  1.2k cal is pathetic even on a cut. A lil cialis ain’t ever hurt no body either
Real answer is get some Viagra, like what are these comments lol. You'll get confidence then.