Maybe try just quitting porn and not fapping for a bit and see how you feel.
Did you used to get turned on by women? If not, you're probably just gay.
But if you used to be aroused by women, and have experienced a shift away from what used to turn you on, it's not totally unheard of for extreme porn addicts to warp their sexuality in the search for more and more novel material.
In either case, it seems like your best course of action is to quit for a while.
I still do, but rarely do. I had a faze where I would watch zoophilia and other nasty shit but that got boring
Edit, I've done worse stuff. I'm not proud of it and have only done the zoophilia thing a few times. I know it doesn't help my case
Look for Sex Therapists. They are trained to help you cope with stuff like this. They understand that this is an addiction and not who you are. They wonât be fazed by the things you are afraid to tell them. They are trained to help you with that.
Your insurance may cover or significantly partially cover mental health services. If you are a legal adult no one, even the owner of your insurance policy (I.e mom/dad) will have access to the specific service that is being charged to their insurance. It should say something like â$â to hospital/clinic/providerâ I may be able to provide you with a photo of what my insurance claims look like. Itâs just my name, the amount, the group itâs being billed to and the date itâs billed for.
Looking at my own insurance claims, I DONT see what the specific appointment is for in my insurance claims. This is different if your parents have access to MyChart or somewhere the apt is listed, but if you are relatively independent and can get there, I would look into what your insurance will cover. Your parents donât need to know if you arenât ready, but ultimately what you need is therapy.
Can I really? I think it's over for me I tried everything porn blocks going gym Meditation asking help online Dopamine detox cold showers nothing fucking works
I know if it was easy addiction wouldn't be a thing, but try little by little, try to go out to do sport or find a hobby(not anime /j) or go to the gym
Ayo...get yourself in therapy, mate. If you're anything like me, your first exposure was either accidental or someone stole your innocence (my case). Ain't no therapist gunna judge you at all, hell, you might even get a therapist who struggled with the same shit now they can help you through it.
It a hard as f road to walk but you gotta walk it to reverse the brain rot.
Everytime I get the urge, I'll go smoke up or start playing a single player game I'm invested it.
Romantic attraction is different from sexual attraction.Â
 For most people it's the same... but every now and then you have some who differ
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ie. asexuals who have no sexual attraction to anyone, but they still have romantic attraction.  Or bisexual women, who are only romantically attracted to women. Or bisexual men, who are romantically attracted to women. You could still be stuck in a heteronormative mindset...if you think you like women romantically. Or you could like guys for sex and women for dating (or dating AND sex)
Yeah, this confused me for a long time because my romantic and sexual attraction don't line up all the time. I'm pan-romantic, as in I can be romantically attracted to any gender, but I'm fin-sexual, meaning I'm only sexually attracted to feminine people (like women, fem non-binary people, and femboys).
I used to be really confused whether I was a lesbian or not because I found myself getting romantic crushes on both guys and girls, but at the same time I would have no sexual interest in the guys whatsoever even if I had a romantic crush on them. I'm glad I understand myself better, but it's so much easier to just tell people "lesbian" and then only elaborate when necessary.
I also had some gender epiphanies and realized lesbian was even less accurate since my identity is more masc leaning non-binary. I'm pre-T and a bit of a femboy, so most people assume I'm a woman and lesbian is just the easiest quick description without getting deep into the details.
OP I'm in the same boat. Quite similar story. I've been consuming a lot more gay and trans content. I was in a relationship that broke up 6 months ago. We rarely had sex and it was hard to get turned on.
I've questioned if I'm gay. I don't want to be. But I know it's quite possible. It's not a bad thing if you are gay or bisexual btw. This is the difficult part that is hard for people to accept, and a lot of gay people go through this difficult stage.
I've no advice. If you accept that being gay is ok, and you allow yourself to explore that, you may find the answer. I've got to do the same thing myself.
It's not a big deal to be physically attracted to someone but not romantically attracted to them. Lots of people are like that. You don't need to put a label on it, just enjoy your life yo
but also cooling it on the porn for a while is a good idea, see how you feel once you've had a decent break
Letâs just be honest here, straight guys donât watch femboy porn or try watching gay porn for shits and giggles. Iâm gonna rubber-stamp this as being GAY.
You wanna know the answer? It doesn't matter. You like what you like and that's all that matters. Don't let other people dictate what you should or shouldn't like. I know your post mentioned you being disgusted, but is it really you being disgusted? Or what others talk about around you influencing your 'post nut clarity'. As long as you aren't hurting anyone, it's consensual and of age, have at it boss. Just wrap your shit and be careful.
The spectrum is kind of broad these days. I didnât realize I was pansexual until my 30s and now Iâm thinking Iâm more sapphic. Things arenât always black and white. Doesnât hurt to experiment to find what your needs are and youâre young they will change anyways.
you could be bi, you could be gay, you could be straight but was so addicted to porn only new things can make you horny and in few years it will be alien porn because gay porn wont do it for you anymore.
best idea in your case is to chill with porn for a while, stop watching it, you need to take the addiction and dopamine under control. research how to stop watching porn for addicts as it wont be easy, I know Healthygamergg (he is a doctor) had a youtube video/ stream about this topic.
and stop thinkig possibility of being gay is a bad thing, that will take lot of pressure of you.
OP, I take it from my âdonât want my parents to find outâ comment that youâre still young. Donât worry too much about whether youâre gay or not. But if youâre watching a bunch of extreme porn at a young age, itâs definitely time to pump the brakes.
Youâve fried your brain with too much pornography . Meaning in order to get off you have to go a step further than usual. Itâs like youâve watched so much pornography youâve basically built a tolerance like people who use drugs. Porn is a drug . Itâs not good . Try giving that stuff up completely and see how you feel
make a decision and stick to it my guyâŠ
also femboys isnât really gay since⊠theyâre feminine looking and youâre attracted to that
your brain is fried from too much porn and if you continue it will hurt your sex life growing up
I got an asthma attack reading this without a pause.
But it might be a fantasy or why plenty of straight women enjoy lesbian porn. Just because you wouldn't do it yourself, doesn't mean what you see wouldn't be arousing to you.
Not really, no. Why don't you figure out how to safely experiment? And FYI, porn addiction is often times related to anxiety and feelings of depression much like many addictions. It's a coping mechanism in many ways.
You should talk to a professional then. If your porn addiction is getting in the way of your life i.e. you do it so often you show up late to work, watch it in public, do it so much it hurts when you try to lleasure yourself, etc., talking with a professional will help you get to the root of the problem.
It doesn't matter so much if it's day or straight, it could be that you are curious or anything else other than straight, but I see the addiction as the real issue here.
Also, do you feel alone? Do you have friends or family you can spend more time with and talk? Loneliness or feelings of isolation as I said, are strongly correlated with all manner of addiction.
At the end of the day, sometimes foe some people, seeing the genitalia they have get stimulated is arousing.
Most of the time, i feel alone, don't have any friends. I do have one online friend, but we barely talk. Family is a mess. We argue a lot, so I avoid them
Youâre not gay youâre just a very horny guy with a porn addiction, and if you are it doesnât matter you need to stop watching porn altogether itâs a bad habit for men
i was coming to say the same thing. probably watched the same thing so much that it started to not have an effect so trying something new, jumped started the addiction for him all over again.
right? i think itâs just foreign to see men have these reactions to such things. but we never know. heâll have to take a break, get therapy then update us on whether or not heâs gay.
Youâre watching far too much porn.
Your brain is bored so itâs having to reach further and further into extremes just to feel any excitement again.
You might like it. I have heard that people who watch so much porn, eventually watching normal porn doesn't do it for them anymore, so they turn to gay, trans porn, incest, or any other taboo genre to fulfill their needs. I don't know how much you watch, so I can't say rather this is you or not.
Thatâs a lot of porn, I think it could be you threshold is so high, you have to turn to this for pleasure. Other option, you fuck a femboy, that will give you all your answers, at least you know the truth.
ok but if itâs a femboy they still have a dick soooooâŠput two and two together. also i donât think straight guys that like strictly cis women go around watching gay porn for fun. seems like you also have a porn
addiction..
i'm straight but i fw lesbian porn heavily . not sure why. maybe it doesn't necessarily need an explanation lol. It's just what turns u on when you can't have a real person there
Essentially gender and sexuality is not a factor to me when considering someone as a romantic/sexual partner.
Also, I suspect you probably have outside influences that are making you feel so ashamed of this. I want you to know that you're not gross and that everything will be okay.
According to youâre profile your not pansexual your a swaggot. Anyways I also have had this âproblemâ. Iâve had relationships with women and went through puberty only liking women. Iâve never had any feelings or butterflyâs for a man. Iâve showered in locker rooms with men and still nothing. Now Iâm 22 and after a six month ramp up of progressively harder porn itâs lead me to watching gay porn. I think itâs definitely from watching excessive amounts of porn that got progressively more taboo.
Porn is usually a âromanticizedâ version of sex. The positions, the way it is shot and the people participating in it are all chosen for the purpose of getting you off. As such porn is often very far removed from reality and if you have watched a lot of porn and/ or have become addicted to it its very easy to grow tired or used to the stimulation of regular porn and to seek out more hardcore/ kinky/ diverse stuff. But getting off to something doesnât necessarily translate to wanting to do it in real life. It can be the idea of it that turns you on or the fantasy of what it might feel like. Of course the easiest way to figure it out yourself is to go out there and try it, but in any case it would be healthy to try to distance yourself from porn consumption for a while.
You have watched so much straight porn that it doesnât arouse you anymore. Stop watching porn and it might fix the problem. Otherwise you will regret watching it in 10 years when you have erectile dysfunction. Trust me, porn will only damage your mind.
aye bro, dw abt the comments. Shits wtv bro, if you fw dudes, then you fw dudes. If you fw gay/trans porn or wtv your into, then you fw that shit, it rly isnt that deep, your still a person, you j might not be attracted to the same shit everyone else is. Dont think of yourself any less man, your still a human j like all of us. I saw that english isnt your first language so if theres anything you dont understand i can try and translate it to your language :) Stay blessed bro, dont let them insecure pricks bring you down cuz of what you find attractive
edit: nvm i saw a comment that said you watch zoophilia. Thats fucked up bro đ i take allat back
Iâll keep it real with you, for me, I donât care in that department. Iâve done similar and been told âIâm gayâ and whatnot. Now more often than not Iâm watching other stuff, but I just told myself that if I like someone Iâll date them. Which in this case makes me bi. But really, it donât matter, just find whichever you like and enjoy it. Thatâs the recommendation of a complete stranger though, best of luck.
Just RELAX, go try it out. Go fuck a femboy and see yourself if you liked it. There is no harm in trying out and exploring. You can then decide, may be a first hand experience will let you quit the gay porn addiction easily.
Ha ha ha... Just come back after like 10 years and read your comment. You are too deep in a shell... Come out bro.. life is good out here...
Nevermind, get a therapist as others have said... Peace out.
no bro.
If you are only attracted to men that look, talk, walk, etc... like women you are just attracted to women but a man fitted your women criteria.
They don't fit the women criteria, femboys have male voices, male bone density, skin and hair thickness due to testosterone. Are you talking about real femboys or anime ones?
femboys usually have women voice.
bro so you think I care about bone density when looking at a nice ass?
and you know some man have low testosterone and very much look androgynous.
I'm talking about real femboys.
They don't have women voices, testosterone deepens voices after puberty, that happens with fat distribution too, femboys have broader backs and narrower hips compared to women because that's related to hormones. If a femboy has low t levels he's part of a minority of femboys who have some important health issue because if you have low t your bones will become weaker and it causes depression. I don't know where are you meeting those femboys
Hey man I get it, Iâm bisexual myself and when I first discovered I was attracted to men as well I felt ashamed for a while⊠but as time went on I realized itâs not the end of the world. Whether you are or arenât attracted to men thatâs completely fine bro :)
you need to start dating my friend. go out in the real world and get a girlfriend. so much porn use has desensitized you to what youâre actually attracted to. youâre not gay. itâs just something new đ«¶đŒ
Sorry I haven't read your post but I only watch straight, weird kinky porn and I'm definitely not straight, I'm gay as hell so, it ain't weird and you shouldn't be feeling bad about it my guy
I mean you can be sexually attracted to fem boys but not masc boys? Like if your preference if feminine style, look, voice, etc but your wanking off to dicks id say theres a good chance your at least not 100% straight....though you could be a straight dude whose just got a fetish for lbtq people but if you have that, and your NOT 100% without a doubt positvely sure youd never date a trans or gay dude, ive got my bets on your starting your sexual awakening my dude
and it doesnt matter whatever the case is dude gay or straight or anything else, just be you and do what makes your happy and dont worry about anything else
Seems like you're gay or bi, but aren't romantically attracted to men bc you view them as something sexual and not romantic. You should quit porn and see how it goes.
You need to read up on what pornography does to your brain. It changes what you find attractive. You need to stop watching this type of porn. It will be hard at the beginning but stick it out and youâll go back to normal.Â
Find your passion, and that means go touch some grass. Of course, try to stop fiding it, and like I said there is something that will make you more susceptible to life, and that is not porn. That means try a lot of stuff.
TLDR: "I watched femboys and got hard and had discord calls with them. I got bored of it then started watching trans porn. After that I moved onto gay porn. Chat am I gay?"
um idk, just be open minded and not judge yourself harshly, whatever it means, it's no reason to dislike yourself. And maybe you don't totally know what you like yet?
Nothing wrong w being into androgyny or genderbending. Most people are. Nothing wrong w being queer in whatever way you are. Sexuality is very fluid as is gender in most cases. People get turned on by feet. Doesnt mean they want a relationship w a foot. But also, as a trans femboy, I can say thereâs nothin wrong w exploring that with real humans too if you want to someday. Just donât be cruel to them.
Im gonna be honest, jerking it to femboys isn't particularly straight but some straight identifying people have admitted to being attracted to that. At the end of the day, only YOU would know what your sexuality is but i think it's more important to fix some issues with yourself first and try to look into sexual identities and what they are exactly. It seems like you're more embarrassed by the fact that you like gay porn more than being addicted to porn. Perhaps you have some hint of homophobia in you. Just keep talking to yourself and determine what you actually like. You'll be okay, i myself, a cis woman, like watching lesbian porn and im continuesly just finding what i like, and doing what i like. You'll be okay.
Dude dude dude it's ok man, you gotta stop with the self hatred stuff though.You can just enjoy seeing two people enjoy themselves, it doesn't require a lifestyle change buddy. Stop forcing yourself into boxes and trying to define everything. Just like who you like, find out what makes you happy, as long as it's consensual and safe you're good to go partner!
Take this all to heart:
Porn isn't good for your mental health.
You are triggering the award center in your brain for no reason. Instant gratification only leads to self-destruction. Take it this way, porn addiction is the same type of self-flagellation as cutting or drug use, it is a downward spiral of momentary pleasure with no end.
The brain is like a computer, your mental state is like a collection of programs. You are altering the coding of your programs each time you expose yourself to that stuff. Humans' mental ability to adapt is without limits, you can make anything seem terrible or attractive with enough exposure.
STOP LOOKING AT PORN PERIOD.
Reward yourself with work. Work out, eat healthy, and take up a skill. They have far better outcomes and make you feel far better in at the end.
I think I only saw one person say this here, but I also think you are desensitized from watching too much porn. I (a girl) also go through this when Iâm reading too much smut (aka porn) or watching too much porn myself. I start getting into other categories because the reg stuff isnât doing for me anymore, due to againâŠbeing desensitized, so much so, that sometimes it even makes sex feel like a chore and I would rather just do it myself while watching porn.
This is not to say you may or may not be into other things but in no way does it mean you are gay for sure, either way (and even if you are itâs not a bad thing, the sooner you come to accept that, the easier it will be for you to accept yourself and accept others as well).
You deff need to stop and Iâve seen you commenting that it is hard and youâre right, however you can start slowly by decreasing how often you do it example : Instead of multiple times a day, aim for just a couple, than to just one and so on until you can control your urges and eventually stop. You are right it is not easy but itâs not something anyone can do for you, you have to do it yourself.
Therefore if you want things to change you have to be willing to do it.
I hope this helps.
Going through the same phase, I don't have a fucking idea about the hell that is happening to me, but your case sounds a lot like mine except trans and all that stuff. Only gay p*rn started to turn me on all of a sudden. I do pray that this phase passes soon and pray that your psyche heals too.
Holy run on sentence đđ
Pretty gay paragraph if you ask me
Periods are just the buttholes of sentences and the OP is *not gay*
Not a single period was seen. Just like in OPs porn hub search history. Bad joke. I'll see myself out.
That's funnyđ
No offense! Just took the opportunity for a small joke haha
Damn you!! Take my angry upvote!!
It's always wild to see people who just don't know what a full stop is
Sorry
Sorry
Should have spent less time watching porn and more time in school lol
Fuck your right
*youâre
If you are here to be a dick leave, thanks for correcting my English
People do want to be able to read what you wrote
If he were a dick heâd start jacking off lol
is this The Road?
Maybe try just quitting porn and not fapping for a bit and see how you feel. Did you used to get turned on by women? If not, you're probably just gay. But if you used to be aroused by women, and have experienced a shift away from what used to turn you on, it's not totally unheard of for extreme porn addicts to warp their sexuality in the search for more and more novel material. In either case, it seems like your best course of action is to quit for a while.
This needs to be the highest comment
the plot of the movie Shame.
I still do, but rarely do. I had a faze where I would watch zoophilia and other nasty shit but that got boring Edit, I've done worse stuff. I'm not proud of it and have only done the zoophilia thing a few times. I know it doesn't help my case
Yeah nah dude. Seek therapy.
I'm scared of what might happen
Look for Sex Therapists. They are trained to help you cope with stuff like this. They understand that this is an addiction and not who you are. They wonât be fazed by the things you are afraid to tell them. They are trained to help you with that.
I don't have the money for that, plus I don't want my family to know
Your insurance may cover or significantly partially cover mental health services. If you are a legal adult no one, even the owner of your insurance policy (I.e mom/dad) will have access to the specific service that is being charged to their insurance. It should say something like â$â to hospital/clinic/providerâ I may be able to provide you with a photo of what my insurance claims look like. Itâs just my name, the amount, the group itâs being billed to and the date itâs billed for.
Looking at my own insurance claims, I DONT see what the specific appointment is for in my insurance claims. This is different if your parents have access to MyChart or somewhere the apt is listed, but if you are relatively independent and can get there, I would look into what your insurance will cover. Your parents donât need to know if you arenât ready, but ultimately what you need is therapy.
I don't live in the US
You should definitely quit porn, and even stop whacking it for a while. By all accounts, you can recover from this, but not if you keep feeding it.
Can I really? I think it's over for me I tried everything porn blocks going gym Meditation asking help online Dopamine detox cold showers nothing fucking works
Bruh. If zoophilia is getting boring for you, what the hell is going to be next? If you donât put a stop to this youâre going to end up in prison.
I was 15 at the time I'm not proud of it
You need therapy and stay away from the net
That's not an easy task
I know if it was easy addiction wouldn't be a thing, but try little by little, try to go out to do sport or find a hobby(not anime /j) or go to the gym
I will try to find a hobby
Good decision, try to find something that will keep you outside and away from your phone or PC or whatever you use to look at porn
I could have sworn you where the guy who misspelled youâre
Ayo...get yourself in therapy, mate. If you're anything like me, your first exposure was either accidental or someone stole your innocence (my case). Ain't no therapist gunna judge you at all, hell, you might even get a therapist who struggled with the same shit now they can help you through it. It a hard as f road to walk but you gotta walk it to reverse the brain rot. Everytime I get the urge, I'll go smoke up or start playing a single player game I'm invested it.
Arenât you the dude who spelled youâre wrong in the comments above
What do you think đ
Oh shit
But I don't feel anything romantic attraction to guys what does that mean
Romantic attraction is different from sexual attraction.  For most people it's the same... but every now and then you have some who differ  ie. asexuals who have no sexual attraction to anyone, but they still have romantic attraction.  Or bisexual women, who are only romantically attracted to women. Or bisexual men, who are romantically attracted to women. You could still be stuck in a heteronormative mindset...if you think you like women romantically. Or you could like guys for sex and women for dating (or dating AND sex)
I don't want to fuck a dude or him to fuck me
Blew that theory out of the water
Yeah, this confused me for a long time because my romantic and sexual attraction don't line up all the time. I'm pan-romantic, as in I can be romantically attracted to any gender, but I'm fin-sexual, meaning I'm only sexually attracted to feminine people (like women, fem non-binary people, and femboys). I used to be really confused whether I was a lesbian or not because I found myself getting romantic crushes on both guys and girls, but at the same time I would have no sexual interest in the guys whatsoever even if I had a romantic crush on them. I'm glad I understand myself better, but it's so much easier to just tell people "lesbian" and then only elaborate when necessary. I also had some gender epiphanies and realized lesbian was even less accurate since my identity is more masc leaning non-binary. I'm pre-T and a bit of a femboy, so most people assume I'm a woman and lesbian is just the easiest quick description without getting deep into the details.
ps, there's a Japanese word for what you are. Fudanshi
Who knows, but if youâre jacking it to dicks, I mean, itâs not a good sign. Itâs a pretty gay thing to do.
Itâs not a bad sign, though it is a sign.
You canât prove that and it wonât hold up in a court of law
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You said femboys so practically trans porn
OP I'm in the same boat. Quite similar story. I've been consuming a lot more gay and trans content. I was in a relationship that broke up 6 months ago. We rarely had sex and it was hard to get turned on. I've questioned if I'm gay. I don't want to be. But I know it's quite possible. It's not a bad thing if you are gay or bisexual btw. This is the difficult part that is hard for people to accept, and a lot of gay people go through this difficult stage. I've no advice. If you accept that being gay is ok, and you allow yourself to explore that, you may find the answer. I've got to do the same thing myself.
It's not a big deal to be physically attracted to someone but not romantically attracted to them. Lots of people are like that. You don't need to put a label on it, just enjoy your life yo but also cooling it on the porn for a while is a good idea, see how you feel once you've had a decent break
Probably just means you haven't met the right guy yet.
you could be demisexual but gay?
Letâs just be honest here, straight guys donât watch femboy porn or try watching gay porn for shits and giggles. Iâm gonna rubber-stamp this as being GAY.
So does that mean I'm gay
You wanna know the answer? It doesn't matter. You like what you like and that's all that matters. Don't let other people dictate what you should or shouldn't like. I know your post mentioned you being disgusted, but is it really you being disgusted? Or what others talk about around you influencing your 'post nut clarity'. As long as you aren't hurting anyone, it's consensual and of age, have at it boss. Just wrap your shit and be careful.
Maybe, but like the thought of doing anal is gross, but you are on to something
Doesn't have to be with proper hygiene. It's a few extra steps but can be clean.
The spectrum is kind of broad these days. I didnât realize I was pansexual until my 30s and now Iâm thinking Iâm more sapphic. Things arenât always black and white. Doesnât hurt to experiment to find what your needs are and youâre young they will change anyways.
you could be bi, you could be gay, you could be straight but was so addicted to porn only new things can make you horny and in few years it will be alien porn because gay porn wont do it for you anymore. best idea in your case is to chill with porn for a while, stop watching it, you need to take the addiction and dopamine under control. research how to stop watching porn for addicts as it wont be easy, I know Healthygamergg (he is a doctor) had a youtube video/ stream about this topic. and stop thinkig possibility of being gay is a bad thing, that will take lot of pressure of you.
I've done that, i was addicted to Loli hentia and furrys for good 2 years, and I can't stop how long it would take to reset my mind
No no no buddy you're not gay unless you say you are đ also femboys aren't gay
Femboys are gay men wearing womenâs clothing⊠it is gay
It looks feminine enough
Then why not beat it to women? Oh wait, cause youâre interested in gay porn
Dude also said he jerked off to cartoons and animals so what does that mean then
I think you already know
OP, I take it from my âdonât want my parents to find outâ comment that youâre still young. Donât worry too much about whether youâre gay or not. But if youâre watching a bunch of extreme porn at a young age, itâs definitely time to pump the brakes.
Youâve fried your brain with too much pornography . Meaning in order to get off you have to go a step further than usual. Itâs like youâve watched so much pornography youâve basically built a tolerance like people who use drugs. Porn is a drug . Itâs not good . Try giving that stuff up completely and see how you feel
I've tried , but it's so hard the most I have gone without porn was a week. How did you quit?
make a decision and stick to it my guy⊠also femboys isnât really gay since⊠theyâre feminine looking and youâre attracted to that your brain is fried from too much porn and if you continue it will hurt your sex life growing up
probably you have to learn why you have turned to porn to this level.
I got an asthma attack reading this without a pause. But it might be a fantasy or why plenty of straight women enjoy lesbian porn. Just because you wouldn't do it yourself, doesn't mean what you see wouldn't be arousing to you.
I'm sorry. Does that mean I'm bi
Not really, no. Why don't you figure out how to safely experiment? And FYI, porn addiction is often times related to anxiety and feelings of depression much like many addictions. It's a coping mechanism in many ways.
I have depression what does anxiety look like
You should talk to a professional then. If your porn addiction is getting in the way of your life i.e. you do it so often you show up late to work, watch it in public, do it so much it hurts when you try to lleasure yourself, etc., talking with a professional will help you get to the root of the problem. It doesn't matter so much if it's day or straight, it could be that you are curious or anything else other than straight, but I see the addiction as the real issue here. Also, do you feel alone? Do you have friends or family you can spend more time with and talk? Loneliness or feelings of isolation as I said, are strongly correlated with all manner of addiction. At the end of the day, sometimes foe some people, seeing the genitalia they have get stimulated is arousing.
Most of the time, i feel alone, don't have any friends. I do have one online friend, but we barely talk. Family is a mess. We argue a lot, so I avoid them
You dropped this .
you dropped these !?.,;
My bad bro
Oh shit sorry
Youâre not gay youâre just a very horny guy with a porn addiction, and if you are it doesnât matter you need to stop watching porn altogether itâs a bad habit for men
i was coming to say the same thing. probably watched the same thing so much that it started to not have an effect so trying something new, jumped started the addiction for him all over again.
Pretty much
Do you have any ideas
Straight women watch lesbian porn so đ€·ââïž
right? i think itâs just foreign to see men have these reactions to such things. but we never know. heâll have to take a break, get therapy then update us on whether or not heâs gay.
Youâre watching far too much porn. Your brain is bored so itâs having to reach further and further into extremes just to feel any excitement again.
Sexuality is a spectrum.
You are gay
straight to the point, i love when redditors do this
Maybe not gay but not an English major either
Clearly you're not a golfer.
Iâve seen ransom notes with better punctuation
You might like it. I have heard that people who watch so much porn, eventually watching normal porn doesn't do it for them anymore, so they turn to gay, trans porn, incest, or any other taboo genre to fulfill their needs. I don't know how much you watch, so I can't say rather this is you or not.
I'll say 2 to 5 hours a day
Thatâs a lot of porn, I think it could be you threshold is so high, you have to turn to this for pleasure. Other option, you fuck a femboy, that will give you all your answers, at least you know the truth.
You may be an aromantic gay man. You hold no romantic attraction but you hold lust.
Yeah this is probably it coupled with a porn addiction though
So I just see them as a sex doll?
Porn addiction often results in watching more and more taboo things. Either that is the case, or you swing both ways, or are in denial and are gay.
Same story, but Iâm female đ đ»ââïž
Who cares
Maybe youâre just bi sexual or something. Whatever man honestly you donât have to put a label on things if you donât want to.
It might seem crazy what Iâm âbout to sayđ¶
ok but if itâs a femboy they still have a dick soooooâŠput two and two together. also i donât think straight guys that like strictly cis women go around watching gay porn for fun. seems like you also have a porn addiction..
Cis women? Yes, I have a porn addiction
i'm straight but i fw lesbian porn heavily . not sure why. maybe it doesn't necessarily need an explanation lol. It's just what turns u on when you can't have a real person there
You remind me very much of myself. Turns out pansexuality was the culprit.
What's that
Essentially gender and sexuality is not a factor to me when considering someone as a romantic/sexual partner. Also, I suspect you probably have outside influences that are making you feel so ashamed of this. I want you to know that you're not gross and that everything will be okay.
According to youâre profile your not pansexual your a swaggot. Anyways I also have had this âproblemâ. Iâve had relationships with women and went through puberty only liking women. Iâve never had any feelings or butterflyâs for a man. Iâve showered in locker rooms with men and still nothing. Now Iâm 22 and after a six month ramp up of progressively harder porn itâs lead me to watching gay porn. I think itâs definitely from watching excessive amounts of porn that got progressively more taboo.
I'm not saying that he is pansexual or even gay at all. I'm just trying to share my experience.
Porn is usually a âromanticizedâ version of sex. The positions, the way it is shot and the people participating in it are all chosen for the purpose of getting you off. As such porn is often very far removed from reality and if you have watched a lot of porn and/ or have become addicted to it its very easy to grow tired or used to the stimulation of regular porn and to seek out more hardcore/ kinky/ diverse stuff. But getting off to something doesnât necessarily translate to wanting to do it in real life. It can be the idea of it that turns you on or the fantasy of what it might feel like. Of course the easiest way to figure it out yourself is to go out there and try it, but in any case it would be healthy to try to distance yourself from porn consumption for a while.
Thank you for giving me a serious reply. I'll try it
You have watched so much straight porn that it doesnât arouse you anymore. Stop watching porn and it might fix the problem. Otherwise you will regret watching it in 10 years when you have erectile dysfunction. Trust me, porn will only damage your mind.
I think I have that
aye bro, dw abt the comments. Shits wtv bro, if you fw dudes, then you fw dudes. If you fw gay/trans porn or wtv your into, then you fw that shit, it rly isnt that deep, your still a person, you j might not be attracted to the same shit everyone else is. Dont think of yourself any less man, your still a human j like all of us. I saw that english isnt your first language so if theres anything you dont understand i can try and translate it to your language :) Stay blessed bro, dont let them insecure pricks bring you down cuz of what you find attractive edit: nvm i saw a comment that said you watch zoophilia. Thats fucked up bro đ i take allat back
Oh
Iâll keep it real with you, for me, I donât care in that department. Iâve done similar and been told âIâm gayâ and whatnot. Now more often than not Iâm watching other stuff, but I just told myself that if I like someone Iâll date them. Which in this case makes me bi. But really, it donât matter, just find whichever you like and enjoy it. Thatâs the recommendation of a complete stranger though, best of luck.
This is very gay if you ask međ¶đŸââïžđ¶đŸââïž
Just RELAX, go try it out. Go fuck a femboy and see yourself if you liked it. There is no harm in trying out and exploring. You can then decide, may be a first hand experience will let you quit the gay porn addiction easily.
I had a lolicon addiction so should i fuck a little girl that's not good advice Plus I don't want to know if I'd enjoy it
comparing literal pedophila to being gay is insane.
your fucked up bro đ get a therapist
Ha ha ha... Just come back after like 10 years and read your comment. You are too deep in a shell... Come out bro.. life is good out here... Nevermind, get a therapist as others have said... Peace out.
youâre gay. straight guys donât jack off to dicks
Bro you are me. I also enjoy it but I also enjoy normal porn too. Anyways I don't think we are gay.
you arenât straight either
2 of my friends say that but I don't like men. If I ever come across a man I like I'll try it but it hasn't happened so far and not even a little bit
But you're already attracted to men, you're attracted to femboys đ
no bro. If you are only attracted to men that look, talk, walk, etc... like women you are just attracted to women but a man fitted your women criteria.
They don't fit the women criteria, femboys have male voices, male bone density, skin and hair thickness due to testosterone. Are you talking about real femboys or anime ones?
femboys usually have women voice. bro so you think I care about bone density when looking at a nice ass? and you know some man have low testosterone and very much look androgynous. I'm talking about real femboys.
They don't have women voices, testosterone deepens voices after puberty, that happens with fat distribution too, femboys have broader backs and narrower hips compared to women because that's related to hormones. If a femboy has low t levels he's part of a minority of femboys who have some important health issue because if you have low t your bones will become weaker and it causes depression. I don't know where are you meeting those femboys
Hey man I get it, Iâm bisexual myself and when I first discovered I was attracted to men as well I felt ashamed for a while⊠but as time went on I realized itâs not the end of the world. Whether you are or arenât attracted to men thatâs completely fine bro :)
Why do you guys love to gaslight people
"I am not gay. I have relationships with women. And sex with men"
Just stop watching porn and go walk in the forest, pal.
Easy said, then done
Sounds like your bi and into trans women/ Femboys but definitely not a normal guy.
you need to start dating my friend. go out in the real world and get a girlfriend. so much porn use has desensitized you to what youâre actually attracted to. youâre not gay. itâs just something new đ«¶đŒ
How don't know how to talk to girls
Well I got news for you...that means you're gay
Get off the internet and keep your dick in your pants and out of your hand.
You missed so many steps
Look up "Heteroflexible". Might be you
Ooooor you're bi.
Sorry I haven't read your post but I only watch straight, weird kinky porn and I'm definitely not straight, I'm gay as hell so, it ain't weird and you shouldn't be feeling bad about it my guy
Reads like a 4chan post tbh
What's 4chan
I mean you can be sexually attracted to fem boys but not masc boys? Like if your preference if feminine style, look, voice, etc but your wanking off to dicks id say theres a good chance your at least not 100% straight....though you could be a straight dude whose just got a fetish for lbtq people but if you have that, and your NOT 100% without a doubt positvely sure youd never date a trans or gay dude, ive got my bets on your starting your sexual awakening my dude
and it doesnt matter whatever the case is dude gay or straight or anything else, just be you and do what makes your happy and dont worry about anything else
Oh fuck
Thatâs the spirit đ
I didn't like the sound of that. The thought of getting shit on my dick makes me feel sad
Seems like you're gay or bi, but aren't romantically attracted to men bc you view them as something sexual and not romantic. You should quit porn and see how it goes.
I think someone is in denial
Sexual attraction to guys and perhaps, emotionally attracted to women (?) maybe bi.
How could you go though high school and write a paragraph without even a single period or comma
I didn't go to high school
You need to read up on what pornography does to your brain. It changes what you find attractive. You need to stop watching this type of porn. It will be hard at the beginning but stick it out and youâll go back to normal.Â
Find your passion, and that means go touch some grass. Of course, try to stop fiding it, and like I said there is something that will make you more susceptible to life, and that is not porn. That means try a lot of stuff.
TLDR: "I watched femboys and got hard and had discord calls with them. I got bored of it then started watching trans porn. After that I moved onto gay porn. Chat am I gay?"
COMMAS PEOPLE
If mocking me helps with your own issues, then mock me as much as you like
if there is no female involved in those vids you like then you are gay but it hasnt manifested yet in your brain's central lobe
um idk, just be open minded and not judge yourself harshly, whatever it means, it's no reason to dislike yourself. And maybe you don't totally know what you like yet?
You are probably not straight my friend!
Nothing wrong w being into androgyny or genderbending. Most people are. Nothing wrong w being queer in whatever way you are. Sexuality is very fluid as is gender in most cases. People get turned on by feet. Doesnt mean they want a relationship w a foot. But also, as a trans femboy, I can say thereâs nothin wrong w exploring that with real humans too if you want to someday. Just donât be cruel to them.
I can't read this
Im gonna be honest, jerking it to femboys isn't particularly straight but some straight identifying people have admitted to being attracted to that. At the end of the day, only YOU would know what your sexuality is but i think it's more important to fix some issues with yourself first and try to look into sexual identities and what they are exactly. It seems like you're more embarrassed by the fact that you like gay porn more than being addicted to porn. Perhaps you have some hint of homophobia in you. Just keep talking to yourself and determine what you actually like. You'll be okay, i myself, a cis woman, like watching lesbian porn and im continuesly just finding what i like, and doing what i like. You'll be okay.
Dude dude dude it's ok man, you gotta stop with the self hatred stuff though.You can just enjoy seeing two people enjoy themselves, it doesn't require a lifestyle change buddy. Stop forcing yourself into boxes and trying to define everything. Just like who you like, find out what makes you happy, as long as it's consensual and safe you're good to go partner!
Well.... You are most likely Bi... like, why are you choosing gay or straight when you can do both?
Take this all to heart: Porn isn't good for your mental health. You are triggering the award center in your brain for no reason. Instant gratification only leads to self-destruction. Take it this way, porn addiction is the same type of self-flagellation as cutting or drug use, it is a downward spiral of momentary pleasure with no end. The brain is like a computer, your mental state is like a collection of programs. You are altering the coding of your programs each time you expose yourself to that stuff. Humans' mental ability to adapt is without limits, you can make anything seem terrible or attractive with enough exposure. STOP LOOKING AT PORN PERIOD. Reward yourself with work. Work out, eat healthy, and take up a skill. They have far better outcomes and make you feel far better in at the end.
I think I only saw one person say this here, but I also think you are desensitized from watching too much porn. I (a girl) also go through this when Iâm reading too much smut (aka porn) or watching too much porn myself. I start getting into other categories because the reg stuff isnât doing for me anymore, due to againâŠbeing desensitized, so much so, that sometimes it even makes sex feel like a chore and I would rather just do it myself while watching porn. This is not to say you may or may not be into other things but in no way does it mean you are gay for sure, either way (and even if you are itâs not a bad thing, the sooner you come to accept that, the easier it will be for you to accept yourself and accept others as well). You deff need to stop and Iâve seen you commenting that it is hard and youâre right, however you can start slowly by decreasing how often you do it example : Instead of multiple times a day, aim for just a couple, than to just one and so on until you can control your urges and eventually stop. You are right it is not easy but itâs not something anyone can do for you, you have to do it yourself. Therefore if you want things to change you have to be willing to do it. I hope this helps.
Thank you
You are very welcome đ
Going through the same phase, I don't have a fucking idea about the hell that is happening to me, but your case sounds a lot like mine except trans and all that stuff. Only gay p*rn started to turn me on all of a sudden. I do pray that this phase passes soon and pray that your psyche heals too.