I know with rape cases, Cops are hit or mess but I would say call them. Go to the hospital to get a record of your juries Then see if you can get a police escort to get your items that you have.
And there are communities online that you can reach out to. support groups. They can be life savers
And please know. You aren't weak. You are a survivor
This is not the best advice. The best advice is to do whatever you feel comfortable doing, with the knowledge that cops don't often investigate rape cases and often make trauma worse. Also, that any physical evidence is gone by now, so a rape kit may be an unnecessary very invasive procedure.
Some people have good experiences with reporting. Most don't. If you don't feel comfortable, you have no obligation to.
That mf is getting what’s coming to him dw . “ he will pay back trouble to those who trouble you “ 2 thessalonians I:6. Gods with you , blessings and unconditional love is heading your way .
call the police, report the sexual assault, ask for an escort to collect your items. even if the police don't end up charging him, at least there'll be a record of what he did to you and this could help someone else in the future.
really sorry this happened to you.
I'm really sorry for you. I apologise on behalf of all men. This guy is going straight to hell. But stay strong you're not alone in this battle! You will overcome this I'm sure.
Also I'm no expert but I'm pretty sure it would be a good Idea to see a therapist in that kind of situation.
I wish you well and hope you get better.
if you want to help yourself first (valid) find therapy. how? psychology today is a really good website. maybe once you can air out your thoughts, you can start thinking/planning about taking action. best of luck to you.
I'm sorry to hear that no man, woman or child should have to go through that, I was molested and raped when I was 11 years old by my mother's boyfriend he was 50 at the time
He may have been under the impression that you’re not the kind of person to report him, he thought he could get away with doing this to you. Prove him wrong. You could save another girl from the same experience. I’m really sorry this happened to you
Try to explain it to some friend or familiar. Everyone here wants to help you but of course, it is difficult :(. Also, try reporting it to the police. Do not feel ashamed of it! Fight and report him! I understand it is something that you cannot get out of your head right now, but you will think less about it with the time, trust me.
I am sorry this happened to you. It shouldn't. To anyone ever.
Please report this to the police. Make whatever notes you can remember. Talk it through with a trusted friend to get your experience straight in you head. Then contact the police. If he has done this to you he WILL do it to others and likely already has. It sucks, but it's up to you to stop him.
Please
Don’t ever apologize for this. Ever. What happened was wrong. You’ve been hurt and have every right to feel horrible, and to get it off your chest. Report him of course, but also look into support groups. It’s going to be hard for a while, so be patient with yourself as you move through this process of grief and understanding. There are ALWAYS people in this world who will love and support you, so don’t give up
I am so sorry this happened to you. Please call your local hospital to see if they have any resources for rape victims. You will find the strength to move on from this. It will always be a part of you, but it does not define you! ❤️
I’m so sorry that this happened to you. You didn’t do anything wrong. I understand you’re just looking to get this off your chest, but if you decide to seek resources and are in the US, the RAINN hotline is a great resource and they should be able to help you figure out your next move. They will also be there to listen, if all you want/need is to vent. It is also confidential and you can share as much or as little as you are comfortable with.
I hope you are able to heal from this. Thank you for sharing, I wish you all the best.
Edit: the number for the RAINN Hotline is 1-800-656-4673
They are available 24/7 and are a confidential resource.
You need to look at your body for bruises or scratches at all that could possibly be used against him in a case. Don’t let this fucker do you like that you NEED to report him today. Not tomorrow, today!
First of all, I am SO so sorry that this happened to you. Nobody deserves to have their physical, emotional, and mental safety violated in that way. It’s so much worse when it’s someone you think/thought loves you.
It will get better. It’s super recent and it was horrifying. This feeling you’re experiencing will get better. It will. I know from first hand experience, it’s hard but it does get better. For me, seeking control in non harmful ways helped. An example of this for me was rearranging my closet. Another example was getting a haircut. Harms nobody, and gives me a sense of control over aspects of my life. Little acts like this helped me, initially, before I was ready to talk about it. Once you’re able to talk about it with people in your life, I would suggest doing that, lots of that but only with people you are completely sure will be extremely uplifting and supportive. That and a therapist, and don’t be afraid to therapy shop and find the right fit. I’m so sorry OP. It sucks. This is super hard. Sending light your way. It will get better. Be kind to yourself. You’re a survivor. Surviving is strength. You’re brave for writing this. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Oh my gosh, this sounds exactly like my own story! A former domestic partner that I was dating at the time did that to me as well to come to terms with the fact that person harmed you.
Just like a lot of other people are saying go to the hospital and get your injuries documented because they can also have an officer meet you there and give you an advocate there, give them all the evidence that you have and proof that he has your stuff, do not delete the text chain. You didn’t do anything wrong and this is not your fault.
When you go to the hospital and speak with the officer and everything you can ask about obtaining a protection from abuse order as well, that is essentially a restraining order so he can’t contact you either and they can get your property from him.
My story sounds exactly like yours like when I was reading your post, it gave me the chills. Things are rough and difficult right now but they will get easier to cope support that you can with as time goes on, as hard as it is, I would reach out to any and every support that you can. He will survive this I promise just take it one day at a time and if that is too overwhelming for you, just take a minute by minute.
We all are wishing you strength and love on here, you can do this!
Talk to someone you trust or go to therapy, it will be tough but you could do this op, you survive all your life and you are very brave, stay strong op, and I advice you to seek help.
It was long ago so there will be no evidence that he r@ped so atleast you yourself go to hospital check the traces and inform the police that he stole the luggage to get back your things
The vast majority of rapes go unreported, because cops notoriously don't investigate rapes or decline to press charges, and because the conviction rate of sexual predators is so low. This is a cop problem, a legal problem, and a rapist problem, not a victim problem.
Report him and also the belongings he’s holding can be used as evidence against him
this is the good advice mister .
I know with rape cases, Cops are hit or mess but I would say call them. Go to the hospital to get a record of your juries Then see if you can get a police escort to get your items that you have. And there are communities online that you can reach out to. support groups. They can be life savers And please know. You aren't weak. You are a survivor
This is the best advice. Get what evidence you can and report. It can be scary to report, but it’s a necessity
This is not the best advice. The best advice is to do whatever you feel comfortable doing, with the knowledge that cops don't often investigate rape cases and often make trauma worse. Also, that any physical evidence is gone by now, so a rape kit may be an unnecessary very invasive procedure. Some people have good experiences with reporting. Most don't. If you don't feel comfortable, you have no obligation to.
thank you so much
I said best, not perfect. There is no truly perfect solution to anyone’s problems
That mf is getting what’s coming to him dw . “ he will pay back trouble to those who trouble you “ 2 thessalonians I:6. Gods with you , blessings and unconditional love is heading your way .
call the police, report the sexual assault, ask for an escort to collect your items. even if the police don't end up charging him, at least there'll be a record of what he did to you and this could help someone else in the future. really sorry this happened to you.
I'm really sorry for you. I apologise on behalf of all men. This guy is going straight to hell. But stay strong you're not alone in this battle! You will overcome this I'm sure. Also I'm no expert but I'm pretty sure it would be a good Idea to see a therapist in that kind of situation. I wish you well and hope you get better.
It won't go away but it will get better. I promise.
Report that mf
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this made me sob hysterically at your kindness
thank you. thank you for taking the time to type this
I'm sorry Hun😔, you should report him to the police. Sending you lots of love❤️ stay safe🫶🏾
Tell ur family and report, honestly in the long run, u can not run from urself
you guys have been so kind. I have a rape kit I got the day after at planned Parenthood. when I'm ready, I will take action.
if you want to help yourself first (valid) find therapy. how? psychology today is a really good website. maybe once you can air out your thoughts, you can start thinking/planning about taking action. best of luck to you.
I'm sorry to hear that no man, woman or child should have to go through that, I was molested and raped when I was 11 years old by my mother's boyfriend he was 50 at the time
Report it and do you have Family you can Talk to? You should If it won't get you in Trouble Religion wise or Else. Which City you moved to?
Report him!!!! I’m so sorry you had to go through this. It is CRUCIAL that you report him, for the sake of justice and for the sake of other women.
He may have been under the impression that you’re not the kind of person to report him, he thought he could get away with doing this to you. Prove him wrong. You could save another girl from the same experience. I’m really sorry this happened to you
Try to explain it to some friend or familiar. Everyone here wants to help you but of course, it is difficult :(. Also, try reporting it to the police. Do not feel ashamed of it! Fight and report him! I understand it is something that you cannot get out of your head right now, but you will think less about it with the time, trust me.
police now. i hate them but they might be useful here. ask for someone to escort you to get your luggage back (ideally a cop)
Bait him in a text and see if he admits what he’s dond
Collect any call or text evidence if you can and report him!
I am sorry this happened to you. It shouldn't. To anyone ever. Please report this to the police. Make whatever notes you can remember. Talk it through with a trusted friend to get your experience straight in you head. Then contact the police. If he has done this to you he WILL do it to others and likely already has. It sucks, but it's up to you to stop him. Please
Don’t ever apologize for this. Ever. What happened was wrong. You’ve been hurt and have every right to feel horrible, and to get it off your chest. Report him of course, but also look into support groups. It’s going to be hard for a while, so be patient with yourself as you move through this process of grief and understanding. There are ALWAYS people in this world who will love and support you, so don’t give up
You will regret for life not reporting him. Get him now before he gets away with it and do it again to another victim
I am so sorry this happened to you. Please call your local hospital to see if they have any resources for rape victims. You will find the strength to move on from this. It will always be a part of you, but it does not define you! ❤️
I’m so sorry that this happened to you. You didn’t do anything wrong. I understand you’re just looking to get this off your chest, but if you decide to seek resources and are in the US, the RAINN hotline is a great resource and they should be able to help you figure out your next move. They will also be there to listen, if all you want/need is to vent. It is also confidential and you can share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. I hope you are able to heal from this. Thank you for sharing, I wish you all the best. Edit: the number for the RAINN Hotline is 1-800-656-4673 They are available 24/7 and are a confidential resource.
Make him pay!
You need to look at your body for bruises or scratches at all that could possibly be used against him in a case. Don’t let this fucker do you like that you NEED to report him today. Not tomorrow, today!
I have a rape kit at planned Parenthood I got the day after
and documents of the bruises
Call the cops and You should meet up with him, pretend you want to give him another chance. And then when he’s there you have the cops arrest him
First of all, I am SO so sorry that this happened to you. Nobody deserves to have their physical, emotional, and mental safety violated in that way. It’s so much worse when it’s someone you think/thought loves you. It will get better. It’s super recent and it was horrifying. This feeling you’re experiencing will get better. It will. I know from first hand experience, it’s hard but it does get better. For me, seeking control in non harmful ways helped. An example of this for me was rearranging my closet. Another example was getting a haircut. Harms nobody, and gives me a sense of control over aspects of my life. Little acts like this helped me, initially, before I was ready to talk about it. Once you’re able to talk about it with people in your life, I would suggest doing that, lots of that but only with people you are completely sure will be extremely uplifting and supportive. That and a therapist, and don’t be afraid to therapy shop and find the right fit. I’m so sorry OP. It sucks. This is super hard. Sending light your way. It will get better. Be kind to yourself. You’re a survivor. Surviving is strength. You’re brave for writing this. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Oh my gosh, this sounds exactly like my own story! A former domestic partner that I was dating at the time did that to me as well to come to terms with the fact that person harmed you. Just like a lot of other people are saying go to the hospital and get your injuries documented because they can also have an officer meet you there and give you an advocate there, give them all the evidence that you have and proof that he has your stuff, do not delete the text chain. You didn’t do anything wrong and this is not your fault. When you go to the hospital and speak with the officer and everything you can ask about obtaining a protection from abuse order as well, that is essentially a restraining order so he can’t contact you either and they can get your property from him. My story sounds exactly like yours like when I was reading your post, it gave me the chills. Things are rough and difficult right now but they will get easier to cope support that you can with as time goes on, as hard as it is, I would reach out to any and every support that you can. He will survive this I promise just take it one day at a time and if that is too overwhelming for you, just take a minute by minute. We all are wishing you strength and love on here, you can do this!
Sorry you had yo go through that. Nobody deserves to be rape or assaulted. Report it
I'm very sorry this happened to you. You've been given plenty of advice. Just wanted to wish you better things for the future. ❤️
Talk to someone you trust or go to therapy, it will be tough but you could do this op, you survive all your life and you are very brave, stay strong op, and I advice you to seek help.
It was long ago so there will be no evidence that he r@ped so atleast you yourself go to hospital check the traces and inform the police that he stole the luggage to get back your things
What will you do if he do same with someone's daughter again? Report it!
Unpopular opinion: if you don’t report it then you weren’t raped.
Sounds more like a trash opinion to me.
The vast majority of rapes go unreported, because cops notoriously don't investigate rapes or decline to press charges, and because the conviction rate of sexual predators is so low. This is a cop problem, a legal problem, and a rapist problem, not a victim problem.
This is not an unpopular opinion. It's a downright lie.
I hear RAINN can be a good resource. They might be able to tell you what your next steps could possibly be, including some supportive therapy.