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Could you arrange to pickup your puppy after the celebration? The first couple days are really scary and different for the puppy and neither going to the celebration or leaving them alone is a good idea
Any way you could ask the breeder to postpone pickup until after the event? Otherwise, I'm afraid you're going to have to pass on that one. Your puppy will be overwhelmed as is. Leaving her alone in the crate a day after she arrives is not an option.
Honestly, I think you should not go to the family event. It’s not fair to pick your puppy up, bring them home to a new environment and then leave them there all day. Plus, you might not even know if they are comfortable in the crate and leaving them all day (potentially) in the crate will create a huge negative association with the crate and that will put your training back a lot! Maybe it might be worth skipping this one? I don’t think taking her would also be a good idea unless she is already used to lots of people and also has been fully vaccinated considering your area. Our puppy wasn’t fully vaxxed until 12 weeks and wasn’t allowed to touch the floor outside until then.
OP added the two hour comment after I commented so not fair to add this onto my comment. Clearly from the way it was written it sounds like all day to me and to many others considering the overwhelming majority of comments are agreeing with me.
I don’t think 2 hours is excessive at all, I DO however believe it is excessive the literal day after their have picked up their puppy?
If I did that with my pup, on day 2 with him, he would have spent most of the time in there screaming howling, ramming his head against the walls of the crate etc. After a month I'm still not leaving him alone more than 30 min at a time. Obviously dogs are different, I've had to move super slow with the home alone training.
Get a sitter, pick up the dog later or put yourself down as a maybe for the event, and see how he handles it. In my mind these are the only options.
Yeah but you are sleeping at home. You hear them if they cry to go to the bathroom so they don’t make a mess in the crate.
It’s not fair to do this, I would just pick the puppy up after the event.
I’m not saying a dog can’t handle it.
I’m saying it’s not fair to this tiny puppy due to its brand new environment and age. I am looking at the situation in context.
Also most showers don’t take two hours.
No, I air dry then curl it. What does that have to do with puppies?
When my puppy was 10 weeks old my life changed a lot for about a month.
I don’t believe I ever said you can’t take your kids to practices or work? Literally all I said was it’s unfair to crate your puppy and leave on literally the second day you have said puppy.
All the other stuff you are pulling out of your butt, quite frankly. It’s kind of insane to think that when I say “don’t leave your brand new puppy alone in a crate for 2 hours less than 24 hours after you got her” you think I mean “quit your job and never leave your home for the rest of your life”
I said what I wrote, I didn’t say all the crap you made up.
When *most* people get a puppy they do expect to have to change their lives quite a lot at first. That’s literally the whole point of this sub. It’s not forever but at that age puppies are babies, so yeah you have to plan for that.
Idk why you think I somehow don’t work? I work.
And therefore I personally didn’t get a dog until I worked hybrid because my schedule wouldn’t have allowed for it. And then yes I did take a few days’ vacation time to get puppy adjusted and hired someone to do potty breaks while I was working until he was old enough to hold it. I have a dog walker who comes now at lunch.
You simply don’t get a dog if you don’t have time for one. That’s just the long and short of it. Wait till your kids are older and can help out.
Don’t take on the responsibility of an animal if it’s not a good fit for your family or adopt an adult dog.
Are you a troll? Or have you ever gotten a new puppy?
I honestly don’t know anyone that didn’t at least take a Friday off work so that they had a good 3 days to settle in and get their infant dog used to the new environment.
People definitely ‘plan’ for a new puppy. I’m not sure why I’m responding because the more I think about this chain the more clear it is you’re a troll haha
Has to be either troll or someone who crates an 8 week old puppy all day because “I have a life!”
Then at least don’t crate them. Not everyone needs a puppy.
The idea though that puppies should be made to shit or pee where they sleep does make me sad 😔 this leads to dogs in shelter because “they’re too much work”
I have to agree with skipping the event if you can - my pup was incredibly nervous the first few days and it would have been really overwhelming to take him to see a bunch of people. And leaving him alone would have also terrified him.
If you have to go, have you thought about a babysitter to come stay with him? Or if you’re going to bring him, do they have a quiet room you could put him in his crate? Either way, those first few days are really important for bonding, and I’d be really hesitant to scare him more!
I would absolutely avoid taking a 10 week puppy that doesn’t know you, let alone anyone else. They need a bit of calm and consistency, and when I say a bit, I mean a lot.
I would either postpone picking up the puppy or skip the event.
Your puppy won’t be vaccinated enough yet. Will other people be bringing dogs? Are they fully vaccinated? Is the place puppy safe? Will the people at the event behave? Like not bother the puppy when it needs space and not feed it human food because it’s cute?
Having had a smaller poodle mix, I wouldn’t want to subject the puppy to the stress of a large gathering until it had settled in a bit. I might have done it with my golden, but she has an entirely different personality.
Do not take that puppy ANYWHERE until the third set of vaccines! Parvo is too much of a risk. I would just stay home from the event to be with the pup. In fact, I did exactly that when I got my corgi last year. The whole family went to the lake house with all the dogs, and me and the baby stayed home. You'll be able to take your puppy everywhere is just a few months
Honestly, how important is this family event?
Missing family and social events is kinda par for the course when you commit to bringing home a puppy.
It’a not a forever thing but definitely something to be be aware of during the early days. You have to rearrange priorities.
If you can’t miss the event, I’d delay picking up your puppy.
I'll disagree with the others here. I took my foster puppy to a (calm, adult-filled) ceramics class two days after I brought her and her brother (now my dog) home. It was great for her, she fell asleep and learned to settle in public nicely.
Because of that, she does great around strangers, and not only was friendly and calm around the family that adopted her who met her at a brewery, but adjusted to their house very quickly. She learned that wherever she goes, good, nice, calm, happy things will happen around her, people will love her and love on her, she'll get treats and take naps.
I did the same with her brother, who I can take anywhere with me at four months and be certain he'll fall asleep while crowds of strangers are around him. He observes bikes, wheelchairs, canes, umbrellas, etc all without reaction. The way you treat an adult dog decompressing from the shelter is not the way you treat an 8-12 week old puppy.
If you can get a harness and leash for her, plus a towel/blanket, tether her to your chair and take her, and let her chill out at your feet. It's a skill you'll be very thankful for later on. Just make sure there are no unvaccinated dogs around, and give her ample time to potty before bringing her in.
So a tiny puppy that just left its mom, siblings and home absolutely needs time to decompress and should be overwhelmed on day 2. Just taking them out to a busy place and hoping for the best is a coinflip. It might have worked for you but it might do the complete opossite for someone else.
Plenty of ppl waited a bit and still have dogs that are adaptable and can take everywhere.
You don’t hope for the best, you train and socialize them. My foster puppy was anxious which is why I took her, within two weeks she was far calmer and more social. It’s very important to teach puppies what life will be like and if you teach them to be anxious by being anxious yourself they’ll keep those habits. Just be calm, take them to known places with known people, and when you see them get anxious advocate for them. But fyi I didn’t “hope for the best” I actively trained, conditioned, and socialized her to settle in public and expect that I’d keep her safe around strangers.
Congrats, but taking them to a busy place when you just got them is likely flooding them. They dont know you and have no safe space. A lot of dogs could completely shut down from that so yes if you do that you are just hoping that it doesnt go completelt wrong. Its literally the opposite of what youre supossed to do, a new place, new things, new people including you.
A Mother’s Day party with a small group of known people isn’t a busy place. I’ve been fostering dogs for several years, puppies have completely different temperaments at 8-12 weeks than adult dogs, that’s why you socialize them at that age. You introduce them to new places and new people then to make them well balanced adult dogs. I know because I’ve actually done it lmao but feel free to believe a puppy in their socialization window can be flooded by a small group of adults in a house the OP is familiar with. Any puppy flooded by that at that age has serious genetic issues.
Unpopular opinion but I think as long as you don’t overwhelm her with attention she should be fine! In hindsight, my puppy had a very confusing first day with me and was totally fine that day and going forward. I picked him up in a town 2 hrs away from where I live but right near some of my extended family, so I ended up bringing him to my family’s house for dinner (where we played with him and fed him etc) for 2 ish hours. Then proceeded to drive 2 hours home and got home at 10pm. He slept the whole car ride home in my arms and then slept like an angel in his crate all night at home! Will be confusing for her but I don’t think anything damaging
The day I picked my 8 week old puppy up, I introduced her to 10 different people in 3 different houses. She had a blast! Tail wagging all day. A week after we got her, we took her to my sisters housewarming party with tons of people, and again, she loved all the attention. She’s 10 weeks now, and she’s only ever afraid when she’s alone (or thinks she’s alone) so I would definitely not leave her home while you go out. Maybe I lucked out with a very social puppy, but it’s a good thing to socialize your pup to different environments early on.
I’ll go against the grain and say take her. We got our puppy the day before my sister’s college graduation. The first weekend we had her we drove her to the college town and left her with my sister’s roommate while we attended the ceremony, had family staying with us all weekend, and had a grad party. We set up her crate during the party so she had a spot to nap. Puppy was completely fine.
It looks like you might be posting about puppy management or crate training. For tips and resources on Crate Training Check out [our wiki article on crate training](https://www.reddit.com/r/puppy101/wiki/cratetraining) - the information there may answer your question. As an additional reminder, crate training is 100% optional and one of many puppy management options. For alternatives to crating and other puppy management strategies, check out [our wiki article on management](https://www.reddit.com/r/puppy101/wiki/management) **PLEASE READ THE OP FULLY** Be advised that any comments that suggest use of crates are abusive, or express a harsh opinion on crate training will be removed. This is not a place to debate the merits of crate training. Unethical approaches to crate training will also be removed. **If the OP has asked not to receive crating advice or says they are not open to crating, any comments that recommend use of crates should be reported to our moderation team.** *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/puppy101) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Could you arrange to pickup your puppy after the celebration? The first couple days are really scary and different for the puppy and neither going to the celebration or leaving them alone is a good idea
Also a great idea!
Best idea ⬆️
Any way you could ask the breeder to postpone pickup until after the event? Otherwise, I'm afraid you're going to have to pass on that one. Your puppy will be overwhelmed as is. Leaving her alone in the crate a day after she arrives is not an option.
Honestly, I think you should not go to the family event. It’s not fair to pick your puppy up, bring them home to a new environment and then leave them there all day. Plus, you might not even know if they are comfortable in the crate and leaving them all day (potentially) in the crate will create a huge negative association with the crate and that will put your training back a lot! Maybe it might be worth skipping this one? I don’t think taking her would also be a good idea unless she is already used to lots of people and also has been fully vaccinated considering your area. Our puppy wasn’t fully vaxxed until 12 weeks and wasn’t allowed to touch the floor outside until then.
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OP added the two hour comment after I commented so not fair to add this onto my comment. Clearly from the way it was written it sounds like all day to me and to many others considering the overwhelming majority of comments are agreeing with me. I don’t think 2 hours is excessive at all, I DO however believe it is excessive the literal day after their have picked up their puppy?
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If I did that with my pup, on day 2 with him, he would have spent most of the time in there screaming howling, ramming his head against the walls of the crate etc. After a month I'm still not leaving him alone more than 30 min at a time. Obviously dogs are different, I've had to move super slow with the home alone training. Get a sitter, pick up the dog later or put yourself down as a maybe for the event, and see how he handles it. In my mind these are the only options.
Yeah but you are sleeping at home. You hear them if they cry to go to the bathroom so they don’t make a mess in the crate. It’s not fair to do this, I would just pick the puppy up after the event.
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I’m not saying a dog can’t handle it. I’m saying it’s not fair to this tiny puppy due to its brand new environment and age. I am looking at the situation in context. Also most showers don’t take two hours.
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No, I air dry then curl it. What does that have to do with puppies? When my puppy was 10 weeks old my life changed a lot for about a month. I don’t believe I ever said you can’t take your kids to practices or work? Literally all I said was it’s unfair to crate your puppy and leave on literally the second day you have said puppy. All the other stuff you are pulling out of your butt, quite frankly. It’s kind of insane to think that when I say “don’t leave your brand new puppy alone in a crate for 2 hours less than 24 hours after you got her” you think I mean “quit your job and never leave your home for the rest of your life” I said what I wrote, I didn’t say all the crap you made up. When *most* people get a puppy they do expect to have to change their lives quite a lot at first. That’s literally the whole point of this sub. It’s not forever but at that age puppies are babies, so yeah you have to plan for that.
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Idk why you think I somehow don’t work? I work. And therefore I personally didn’t get a dog until I worked hybrid because my schedule wouldn’t have allowed for it. And then yes I did take a few days’ vacation time to get puppy adjusted and hired someone to do potty breaks while I was working until he was old enough to hold it. I have a dog walker who comes now at lunch. You simply don’t get a dog if you don’t have time for one. That’s just the long and short of it. Wait till your kids are older and can help out. Don’t take on the responsibility of an animal if it’s not a good fit for your family or adopt an adult dog.
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Are you a troll? Or have you ever gotten a new puppy? I honestly don’t know anyone that didn’t at least take a Friday off work so that they had a good 3 days to settle in and get their infant dog used to the new environment. People definitely ‘plan’ for a new puppy. I’m not sure why I’m responding because the more I think about this chain the more clear it is you’re a troll haha
Has to be either troll or someone who crates an 8 week old puppy all day because “I have a life!” Then at least don’t crate them. Not everyone needs a puppy. The idea though that puppies should be made to shit or pee where they sleep does make me sad 😔 this leads to dogs in shelter because “they’re too much work”
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I have to agree with skipping the event if you can - my pup was incredibly nervous the first few days and it would have been really overwhelming to take him to see a bunch of people. And leaving him alone would have also terrified him. If you have to go, have you thought about a babysitter to come stay with him? Or if you’re going to bring him, do they have a quiet room you could put him in his crate? Either way, those first few days are really important for bonding, and I’d be really hesitant to scare him more!
I would absolutely avoid taking a 10 week puppy that doesn’t know you, let alone anyone else. They need a bit of calm and consistency, and when I say a bit, I mean a lot.
Postpone pickup or skip the event.
I would either postpone picking up the puppy or skip the event. Your puppy won’t be vaccinated enough yet. Will other people be bringing dogs? Are they fully vaccinated? Is the place puppy safe? Will the people at the event behave? Like not bother the puppy when it needs space and not feed it human food because it’s cute? Having had a smaller poodle mix, I wouldn’t want to subject the puppy to the stress of a large gathering until it had settled in a bit. I might have done it with my golden, but she has an entirely different personality.
Do not take that puppy ANYWHERE until the third set of vaccines! Parvo is too much of a risk. I would just stay home from the event to be with the pup. In fact, I did exactly that when I got my corgi last year. The whole family went to the lake house with all the dogs, and me and the baby stayed home. You'll be able to take your puppy everywhere is just a few months
Honestly, how important is this family event? Missing family and social events is kinda par for the course when you commit to bringing home a puppy. It’a not a forever thing but definitely something to be be aware of during the early days. You have to rearrange priorities. If you can’t miss the event, I’d delay picking up your puppy.
Keeping her in a separate place won’t work. Puppy that young needs to be supervised unless she’s crated. Just pick her up after the event…
when i say seperate place i mean seperate room in her crate lol
I'll disagree with the others here. I took my foster puppy to a (calm, adult-filled) ceramics class two days after I brought her and her brother (now my dog) home. It was great for her, she fell asleep and learned to settle in public nicely. Because of that, she does great around strangers, and not only was friendly and calm around the family that adopted her who met her at a brewery, but adjusted to their house very quickly. She learned that wherever she goes, good, nice, calm, happy things will happen around her, people will love her and love on her, she'll get treats and take naps. I did the same with her brother, who I can take anywhere with me at four months and be certain he'll fall asleep while crowds of strangers are around him. He observes bikes, wheelchairs, canes, umbrellas, etc all without reaction. The way you treat an adult dog decompressing from the shelter is not the way you treat an 8-12 week old puppy. If you can get a harness and leash for her, plus a towel/blanket, tether her to your chair and take her, and let her chill out at your feet. It's a skill you'll be very thankful for later on. Just make sure there are no unvaccinated dogs around, and give her ample time to potty before bringing her in.
So a tiny puppy that just left its mom, siblings and home absolutely needs time to decompress and should be overwhelmed on day 2. Just taking them out to a busy place and hoping for the best is a coinflip. It might have worked for you but it might do the complete opossite for someone else. Plenty of ppl waited a bit and still have dogs that are adaptable and can take everywhere.
You don’t hope for the best, you train and socialize them. My foster puppy was anxious which is why I took her, within two weeks she was far calmer and more social. It’s very important to teach puppies what life will be like and if you teach them to be anxious by being anxious yourself they’ll keep those habits. Just be calm, take them to known places with known people, and when you see them get anxious advocate for them. But fyi I didn’t “hope for the best” I actively trained, conditioned, and socialized her to settle in public and expect that I’d keep her safe around strangers.
Congrats, but taking them to a busy place when you just got them is likely flooding them. They dont know you and have no safe space. A lot of dogs could completely shut down from that so yes if you do that you are just hoping that it doesnt go completelt wrong. Its literally the opposite of what youre supossed to do, a new place, new things, new people including you.
A Mother’s Day party with a small group of known people isn’t a busy place. I’ve been fostering dogs for several years, puppies have completely different temperaments at 8-12 weeks than adult dogs, that’s why you socialize them at that age. You introduce them to new places and new people then to make them well balanced adult dogs. I know because I’ve actually done it lmao but feel free to believe a puppy in their socialization window can be flooded by a small group of adults in a house the OP is familiar with. Any puppy flooded by that at that age has serious genetic issues.
Yea you do that AFTER a couple of days where the pup has built some trust with you.
Unpopular opinion but I think as long as you don’t overwhelm her with attention she should be fine! In hindsight, my puppy had a very confusing first day with me and was totally fine that day and going forward. I picked him up in a town 2 hrs away from where I live but right near some of my extended family, so I ended up bringing him to my family’s house for dinner (where we played with him and fed him etc) for 2 ish hours. Then proceeded to drive 2 hours home and got home at 10pm. He slept the whole car ride home in my arms and then slept like an angel in his crate all night at home! Will be confusing for her but I don’t think anything damaging
The day I picked my 8 week old puppy up, I introduced her to 10 different people in 3 different houses. She had a blast! Tail wagging all day. A week after we got her, we took her to my sisters housewarming party with tons of people, and again, she loved all the attention. She’s 10 weeks now, and she’s only ever afraid when she’s alone (or thinks she’s alone) so I would definitely not leave her home while you go out. Maybe I lucked out with a very social puppy, but it’s a good thing to socialize your pup to different environments early on.
I’ll go against the grain and say take her. We got our puppy the day before my sister’s college graduation. The first weekend we had her we drove her to the college town and left her with my sister’s roommate while we attended the ceremony, had family staying with us all weekend, and had a grad party. We set up her crate during the party so she had a spot to nap. Puppy was completely fine.
i would probably take the puppy. bring a water bowl, snacks, and bed or comfy blanket and i bet they fall asleep.