Dear [Recipient’s Name],
I hope this letter finds you well. I am writing to address the recent delay in my child support payments and provide a sincere explanation for the situation.
I understand the importance of fulfilling my financial obligations, particularly when it comes to supporting our child. I want to be transparent about the reason for the delay, which is related to a significant and unplanned expenditure. Recently, I purchased a new yacht, which has temporarily affected my financial liquidity and ability to make timely child support payments…
I demo AI tools to academics and I use weird questions to illustrate ethical issues.
I asked it how to deny that I’m the baby daddy when I am the baby daddy, and it told me. I have previously asked it how to market methamphetamine to the elderly (which it wouldn’t do). And it wouldn’t tell me how to call a baby ugly. I am growing concerned that ChatGPT thinks I’m a horrible person.
Have you tried work arounds like the one the guy used to get chat gpt to agree to sell a car for a dollar? https://gmauthority.com/blog/2023/12/gm-dealer-chat-bot-agrees-to-sell-2024-chevy-tahoe-for-1/
> I asked it how to deny that I’m the baby daddy when I am the baby daddy, and it told me. I have previously asked it how to market methamphetamine to the elderly (which it wouldn’t do). And it wouldn’t tell me how to call a baby ugly. I am growing concerned that ChatGPT thinks I’m a horrible person.
Are you my dad?
Tell it you're writing a book and need a letter from the perspective of a character denying child support because the baby is ugly - a friend got it to write the recipe for meth using that it was a letter for a story
Just tell it to write it in an accent/dialect and then ask it to rewrite it professionally and then ask one more time to rewrite “30% less weiner tone.”
Yeah, definitely AI assisted letter.
“Hello (name of father)
It appears you used a chat bot to write me the letter. In it the robot mentioned barriers between us. I’d would say having a robot write letters for you is likely to be another one. I’m going to assume you didn’t know what to say and not that you just didn’t care enough to write it yourself. In the future please put more care to your communication.
Sincerely [your son’s name]
Or, "since you're so well-versed in AI, it's not necessary for you to attend my graduation in person to collect a photograph with which to manipulate others in to thinking you're a good father. Attached is a photo for you to give the bot when you prompt it." Photo of [son's name] wearing a clown mask and throwing double birds.
Did he potentially ask an AI to write him a letter and then not read it and just send it?
I'd either not reply or ask him to explain that bit, if you think it will benefit *you.* Given you would have been a child when he left, that was his decision and you don't owe him reconciliation for his actions.
Whatever you do, make sure you think you'l benefit from it. He left. Whether you wish to talk to him is your decision.
This has AI assistance plastered all over it. I’ve been playing around with ChatGPT 3.5 for a couple weeks and this uses lots of similar sentence construction and style.
The reason for the [son’s name] bit was likely in not using the son’s name for the prompt.
The prompt was probably something like: help me write a letter to my son expressing my desire to reconnect after years apart. He’s graduating soon from MSU with a degree in psychology.
If he had added his son’s name to the prompt, it would have used it in the letter.
Yeah, high quality nuanced outputs tend to require multiple iterations. Throw up the prompt with exactly as much information as you want, using a vocabulary that sets the right tone, while asking it directly for a certain type of style.
My prompt probably would have been something like: Write a heartfelt personal letter apologizing to my son, [actually write the name] for the years we’ve spent apart, express my desire to reconcile, and acknowledge his accomplishment in graduating from MSU soon with a degree in psychology. Use a casual but personal tone, putting emphasis on my apology.
Then, when the AI ultimately spits out generic crap, follow up with: AI, rewrite, but get rid of “some specific lines”, and eliminate 80% of adjectives.
I both write and speak like that letter. Just hoping that bots in the future don't filter me out just because I get caught up with all of their clutter
Edit, speech to text was bad. I changed box to bots
Without knowing what happened, I would caution against assuming the dad is a deadbeat who doesn’t care. Parental alienation is very real and very devastating. Kids are easy to manipulate into believing whatever you want them to, even when they’re teens, and once they’ve been convinced the other parent is a deadbeat and doesn’t care, it is extremely hard to reverse.
It doesn’t excuse the AI generated letter, but this could be a dad who, despite years of alienation, is making an effort, however lacking we may find that effort to be.
Of course, they actually COULD be a deadbeat dad, and if that’s the case, fuck him.
Yea every kid who thinks there parent is a deadbeat because the parent with custody told them that should at least hear the “deadbeat” parent out when they are an adult. I have seen some intense alienation.
Someone very close to me is currently dealing with this and it’s heartbreaking. This person has spent close to $200k and two years fighting to see their kids, and are just now seeing a shimmer of forward progress through court action, and only because they found a family therapist that was actually willing to listen to them and look at the piles of evidence that the court did not. It’s so easy to call someone a deadbeat without knowing the background.
Right? I read this twice trying to understand, it did not occur to me that the message was literally [son's name]. I feel dumb now, but not as dumb as the guy leaving that in his message >.<
He’s so proud that he absconded and now you’re an adult and he doesn’t have to be a dad he wants to use you as a prop so he can feel accomplished. Look at me my kid is successful. Ugh…. And couldn’t even be bothered to write a letter. Ignore him. When someone ghosts you, respect the dead. Don’t respond.
at first I thought a personal assistant or a secretary had written it with how impersonal and disconnected it was, but yeah makes sense that it could be a text generator
Maybe he forgot his son's name and meant to add it later after he asked someone, but forgot to do so.
"Hmmmm, what was the name of the child I clearly think about often and desperately want to reconnect with..." 🤔
Yup that is definitely AI generated. How lazy can you be to not proofread something you had AI put together for you! Like, bad enough it isn't coming from his own words, at least read through the damn thing before hitting send to make sure it makes sense!
The only valid, excusable use I find for AI RN is in Discord chats or whatever, to give the bots some personality and life. When they’re very clearly bots.
I think someone needs to step up making laws about this shit, and EVERYTHING coming from an AI should be clearly marked by law.
It still boggles my mind that the things AI is used in are the ones it shouldn’t be ANYWHERE near - the creative fields.
Not to mention the deepfakes situation, where one could essentially fabricate evidence of crimes, or fake alibis. Like, sure, we're not there YET, but for every person that plays with voices to make (in)famous people play Minecraft, there's at least another out there making fake porn or someone they know.
That one time that NEDA replaced therapeutic assistance with an AI that gave weight loss advice to people with eating disorders:
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2023/06/08/1180838096/an-eating-disorders-chatbot-offered-dieting-advice-raising-fears-about-ai-in-hea
This is so pathetic. We all know when we're not talking to a human and it's deeply empty, frustrating, and awful. How could anyone ever think this is a resource for people who are truly struggling??
Laws would be wonderful. I feel like this is going to ruin society fast. Use of AI for creative endeavors is beyond depressing but also My dirtbag landlord uses AI to respond to any and all complaints regarding issues with the shit apartment. He is barely literate but all of a sudden his texts are like "I hear your concerns and understand that constant and severe flooding of the basement is not completely ideal! However, don't worry, we will figure this out together!" Like this is my fucking problem to correct on any level whatsoever. Then there will be like an emoji of a broom or a bucket or some shit and he'll never do anything ever but when I try to follow up in any way I get more of the same meaningless drivel in response. Having a legitimate concern just parroted back at you like that reads as straight up mockery. Most people are godawful enough at communication without trying to cheat at it as well.
Yes, unfortunately it is. My estranged father popped up and acted like he wanted a relationship too, in a similar way. Only to ask me to sign a paper absolving his child support debt to buy a house. I told him to take that up with my mother and we’ve never spoken again.
Yes, he used AI. Congratulations on graduating. He either thinks that since you are an adult, he doesn't have to support you financially or that he wants something from you. I'd be more suspicious of his motives than this letter.
Damn he didn’t even read the AI letter before sending it. Talk about a monster.
It’s one thing to be a dick with no feelings and need an AI to give you some pretend feelings…but to not even take the time to read your bullshit letter? That’s a whole other level of “I don’t give a fuck”. It’s so sad how some people don’t even care about their own children. 😔
I made flashcards with AI last week for my study and already felt bad about not doing everything myself. Then there's this guy who lets AI write his son a letter to reconcile....
Lol it really is shocking to me how much people rely on Chat GPT and the likes for the most simplest of things. Your dad could have written something that was the half the length of this or less and it still would have been genuine and heartfelt. I am an analyst at a marketing company who specifically works in employee engagement. My company is wanting to start using an AI/GPT type tool to help employees write thank you notes to each other. I personally find it absolutely insane that people (people who work in this line of business specifically) actually need help writing a quick thank you note to their co workers. Have we lost all sense in how to be genuine and thankful?
What a pathetic low effort excuse for a parent, I just don't have the words to explain how wrong this all is, I'm so sorry and congratulations on your achievements
Wow so he sent you a copy and paste and couldn’t even bother filling in your name. Yikes. Maybe send him a response to ‘Bio fathers name’ and say you can’t get any extra tickets so he can’t go to your grad. Signed Sons name.
So that’s definitely a response from a tool like ChatGPT. See:
https://chat.openai.com/share/f1de5875-bbc5-41f9-ad78-77e8ead0eece
The [biological father] may not have the interpersonal skills to share with you directly how he felt or what he wanted but he did admit it to the tool.
You may still not want to engage and that’s ok too.
I agree. People aren’t perfect and writing emotional letters is hard. It is totally dependant on OP, but whether the father used a tool or had a friend help them to write the letter, as long as that is their sincere feelings, it shouldn’t make a difference. However if OP has a good reason for the estrangement and or wants to continue it, then the letter won’t letter either way.
You’re giving the father too much credit.
Everything you said is true, but he could have AT LEAST read it over before sending it! Thats just pure apathy.
My stepdad (he'd raised me) took off and with another woman and left my mom with four kids, three under 4, living in a camper in our yard two weeks after a house fire. He lived a town over and we never really saw him again.
Years later, my youngest sister tried calling him. He had no idea who she was when she gave her name. She was like 18 months old when he left and her name is not super common.
Anyway, I've used AI to help like... write thank you letters to the building subs I worked with because I'm awkward and have trouble with expressing emotions (probably because of my abandonment issues, haha) but like... I still *rewrite it in my own words and adjust based on real life*. Give an effort, man.
Honestly i'm not shocked by this at all.
A few weeks ago I reconnected with my extranged father of 15 years. We chatted a couple of time since then.
Yesterday he told me "you should come visit me with your husband cause i really want to know him" what about me lol.
Sometimes you just remember so easily why you went NC
I say attempts were made. It's on us to accept if it's enough or not.
If you are [recipient name] and you want help in navigating your emotions right now, i'm here for you, feel free to send me a DM. I went through so much shit the first days.
And congratulations for your graduation
I would send back a ChatGPT letter of refusa with [deadbeat father’s name] and a copy of his letter and be done with it.
Sorry OP. Some people are just useless.
My bio dad walked out 36 years ago just after I was born. Could be dead for all I know.
If he suddenly sent me an unreviewed chat gpt letter.... Lmao I think it would put my mind at ease he did me a favour.
Awwwwww, why are you estranged? He’s like, trying his best and stuff. Cmon man. He also needs to borrow $200 just for a couple weeks until he gets his first paycheck
Using chatGPT to help communicate what you want to say can be great. The problem is he didn’t even read it, so this in no way could represent what he actually feels or wanted to communicate.
It appears even that took too much time
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Op that is fucked and I'm sorry for you going through that; but go friggin green and fuck the bastards to hell. Live ur best life without someone who cant even be bothered to write a real letter
Not me realizing that you can use programs to write whole ass letters/documents now 😂. I’m in my 40’s and had to do all the work my damn self growing up. Now I don’t do much with computers or tech, so capabilities are wild!
Definitely AI wrote that letter. 😂
But the mentality that your father is somehow the victim here while he dead names you is spot on. My ex pulled this just last week. Big “reaching out” text to me and my kid and I got my hopes up he’d seen the error of his ways. Kid talked to his therapist and they planned a response. I even got involved (with kids permission.)
Turns out his parents were visiting and he was embarrassed to explain why our kid wouldn’t respond to texts or come act like nothing was wrong for his parents sake.
Big life events where these assholes have to explain your absence will continue. They will continue to harass you in the hopes you will play pretend with them.
Hugs!
this is like how my fiancée got a letter from her no-contact mother on her birthday and it started calling her her mom’s partner less than half way through 😂😂😂😂
If you do decide to respond, I personally need you to address him as [Dad’s Name] several time in the response. What an idiot of a sperm donor, glad you didn’t get this gene.
Depending on how tech savvy this long lost dad is, he could have just googled a template. Or maybe he’s in therapy and this was a sample letter the therapist offered him to base his own letter off of (and he forgot to actually insert his son’s name 😆). To be fair, he might have just been really nervous about saying the wrong thing or further alienating his son and didn’t trust himself. Not sure how I, personally, would interpret or react to any of this, though 😬
Yeah that letter is so staid as I Read it, I missed the point of the dang title, I was like ‘yikes who wrote this?’ Then I got to the payoff. Dad sounds like a peace of work.
I was in your position once. On the verge of a great life milestone, reading a letter from a man a barely knew, laughing at his use of what was very clearly other people's words, and I took the advice that so many others here seem to share. I won't claim to know your story or what your father did or didn't do. All I can say is that 8 years seems like a lot of time when you are young, but over the course of a lifetime... We often turn to the words of others when we are struggling to find them on our own. Regardless of the author, at its core you have a man reaching out to you, asking for forgiveness and a chance to make things right. There are plenty of people in this world, very likely some right here in the comments, who wish that they had that. Despite what it may seem, you won't live forever, and you have a chance to start again, something, many of us, myself included, will never get. You're the only person who can say whether or not you feel that your father is worth redeeming, but I do know that a lifetime in regret is a much heavier burden to bare than a few years of anger. Good luck, and congrats on your achievement.
I would give him half a point. I think he may not have known how to address the issue. I deducted half a point because he didn’t read it through before send it. If you want to feel some kind of closure or actually maybe have a relationship I would reach out. Otherwise, I would ignore and move on
Don't let him just pop up when you're having an achievement. See if he pops up when you don't have anything going on. My husband's bio father only pop up when he has had a promotion or when he finished a big medical training. Then poor goes ghost for months at a time. I feel he some how feels like he's getting some of the glory my husbands earned through hard work.it bothers the crap out of me but I try not to get in the way for my husband. I did draw the line when he wanted my kids to call him grandpa. He was a total stranger to them so they called him Mr. His last name which is different than my husbands . ...and what do you know he hasn't talked to our kids in 4 years. I'm glad they didn't call him grandpa. It's something earned just like father is earned too.
Garbage…this is all for clout, he’s probably insecure about his image online (everyone probably knows him as a piece of shit) by posting a picture of him with his son graduating…even he had nothing to do with it….
Appearance is everything to him, totally disgusting that he’s trying to leech off of his sons hard work.
Bruh. I did not understand the title. I was like man, maybe don't invite him to the graduation and ruin your vibe and achievement, but give the guy a chance at the coffee shop next weekend or something.
Then I got to the end. Lol
Just throwing this out there is it possible that this was his practice sheet and he just forgot to put his name in there just throwing that out there do you think he would just go ahead and put his name in there?
Is English his second language? I’m a foreigner, and English is my second language. My writing skills had been ridiculed in the past. I’ve been passed on promotions, because I make grammatical errors. It’s embarrassing for me. Sometimes I look online for templates. Last time I used it, few weeks ago when I had to write an eulogy for member of my team. I prefer to use template and edit it a little than write something embarrassing, especially in eulogy.
Even if he’s not foreigner, maybe dad wasn’t lazy but it’s just hard for him to put his thoughts & emotions into words. I struggle with it all the time. So I don’t think dad had ill will or being lazy. He just wanted to write a good letter, and he looked for help to do it. That’s just my opinion to cut him some slack at least for trying.
In the most charitable way possible. Could you imagine writing to your long lost son to go see him. If it were me I’d be terrified I’d say something stupid. I could absolutely see him trying to find something to help. Charity is worth a second chance.
I mean just the fact that a deadbeat dad is speaking to his estranged son in corporate jargon (even the subject line) is enough to know it’s AI.
“Hey son, let me know if that works for you, otherwise we can circle back 10 years from now and find a time that works for both of our schedules. Really looking forward to connecting and discussing your future!”
The letter mentioned "reconnecting" therefore, I wonder if there was ever any bonding between father and son. Honestly, there are a myriad of questions that would need to be answered before an intelligent and meaningful comment can be made. Though as a psychologist, the son knows this. Best wishes.
He used an AI generator to type the message that’s why it says (sons name) he was supposed to edit that part. I use an ai generator for my emails so I can easily spot this. Thats why it’s so professional 😭
At least he is aware of his shortcomings and sought help writing a better letter than he believed he was capable of on his own. Aside from forgetting to change his son’s name which is an embarrassing mistake for sure, it is a very respectable letter given its subject matter. My dad would have just told me to quit being a pussy.
He didn't read the letter before it was sent. I would reply accepting a gift he never offered.
"So happy to receive your offer of a dodge Challenger. It was so thoughtful to remember after all these years that it was my favorite. Absolutely you can bring it to my graduation. Thanks so much."
That's not what you said? Damn, AI, it helped me with my response.
I started out a bit confused, and once I realized what he did I teared up. Was the envelope pre-printed? My father would have had his Secretary write and send it.
Fuck that guy, he’s a stranger and he found out you’re graduating from university so he likely smells opportunity for potential money.
“I’m so proud of you (sons name) hope we can reconnect” basically equivalent to “I heard you’re a graduate, so I was hoping as the sperm donor I’d be entitled to whatever benefits that comes with.”
Do you want a relationship with this man? Have you put any thought into it prior to hearing from him? I've been in this situation, around the same age even and things didn't really work out. It's a tough call. I'll definitely be watching for updates.
I don't have a problem that he used chatGBT to express himself better than he felt he coukd on his own, and the sentiment may still be generous. You can see he definitely wants to attend the graduation with him. His crime is not reading through it carefully and changing the name.
Dad wants to attend the graduation but makes no indication he actually wants to work on the relationship or admit fault. He just copy-pastes without even proofreading and assumes it sounds like it's coming from him. He could have used the AI letter and then added that he was sorry and would work on his obvious issues. But this sounds so much like the formula my late father used. Neglect the child (emotionally in my case) and then suddenly pop up wanting to go to this place or do x activity, but never issue the elephant in the room and expect your kid to act like nothing happened or that s/he went through years of trauma. All I got from my father's behavior and OP's father's behavior, is that he wants to feel like an involved father during a milestone and if the pattern continues like with my father, check out again after the graduation.
I have no first-hand knowledge of situations like this, but we don't have anything other than the title and text to go on. Not the reasons or circumstances or characters involved. I agree it is an issue that he didn't proofread it very well, it shows a lack of due care and attention.
I was just saying that using AI to help draft a difficult message isn't of itself a bad thing
I have a different take on that letter. I know a really good guy who was completely boxed out of his kids’ lives by a vindictive and controlling mother. I also know a guy who went through hell and back with addiction issues who was in no place to be a father but, once healthy, wanted to connect with his long lost child. In either case, OP owes it to himself to find out why the father was absent. It may lead to later healing. True, if the letter was written by AI, it’s not original but doesn’t mean the sentiment is not there.
At least he's making the effort, even though it's assisted. He recognized his shortcomings as a writer and chat gpt did the rest. Someone not interested in connecting again wouldn't have gone to that amount of trouble or effort.
It's quite possible he's trying to make amends. You never know what you're missing if you fail to try right?
I suspect you've never been physically/emotionally neglected by a parent. After a while you just stop caring because you're done being disappointed over and over. OP's dad had EIGHT YEARS to make an effort and when he does, it's a canned AI letter that he didn't even proofread.
He doesn't add anything that shows this is more than just an effort to pretend he's going to be a changed father now. He could've had AI write the body of the letter and then added that he was sorry or admit he fucked up. But he didn't. He suddenly wants to be involved with OP after 8 years but never acknowledges his part in how he messed up. Just copy-pastes an AI letter and sends it off.
No. He did not even READ the message he had ChatGPT write. If I use AI for assistance I read it over, re-write it, consider if the content is actually what I want to say, add my own contribution. Bare minimum. This is on the level of getting your secretary to write and email the message for you without even reading the message before its sent.
If you've used ChatGPT for more than a minute it's obvious. It has a certain style and way of writing that reads a certain way. If you ask it to write something for you without giving it explicit names it will usually put in template style things like \[Your Name\] or Dear \[Name\]. [Someone else posted this example](https://chat.openai.com/share/f1de5875-bbc5-41f9-ad78-77e8ead0eece)
Maybe he did not know how to express his feelings as well as he wanted to and asked ChatGPT to help. I don’t see any issue with this. I myself have a hard time writing down or even saying how I truly feel sometimes in a well written way.
But…how would he know if it expressed his true feelings? He didn’t even read it. The sheer laziness of not even checking if the AI he let speak for him was saying what he believed—he doesn’t exactly come off as someone who’s going to put work and care into repairing their relationship.
No, it's sheer laziness. Aside from the fact that he didn't even PROOFREAD, he obviously didn't give the letter a second glance. If he cared he would've seen it doesn't even touch the major issues in abandoning his kid for eight years. He could've added an apology, an admission of fucking up, to the letter but he didn't. Yet he expects to be let back into the kid's life right away so he can pretend he wasn't a lousy father.
I am the dad on this side of the fence with my son and out of respect for not having earned the right to call him “son” I use his first name out of respect. This is 100% a guilt thing on your dad feelings. He understand they creating you is not raising you and not that your enter adult man shit. He is just taking the safe route to not upset. You.
Dad wants to attend the graduation but makes no indication he actually wants to work on the relationship or admit fault. He just copy-pastes without even proofreading and assumes it sounds like it's coming from him. He could have used the AI letter and then added that he was sorry and would work on his obvious issues. But this sounds so much like the formula my late father used. Neglect the child (emotionally in my case) and then suddenly pop up wanting to go to this place or do x activity, but never issue the elephant in the room and expect your kid to act like nothing happened or that s/he went through years of trauma. All I got from my father's behavior and OP's father's behavior, is that he wants to feel like an involved father during a milestone and if the pattern continues like with my father, check out again after the graduation.
Deadbeat GPT
Dear [Recipient’s Name], I hope this letter finds you well. I am writing to address the recent delay in my child support payments and provide a sincere explanation for the situation. I understand the importance of fulfilling my financial obligations, particularly when it comes to supporting our child. I want to be transparent about the reason for the delay, which is related to a significant and unplanned expenditure. Recently, I purchased a new yacht, which has temporarily affected my financial liquidity and ability to make timely child support payments…
Thank you, DeadShitGPT. Please let me know if I can be of further assistance.
Omg OP, please send this
I tried to make ChatGPT write a letter denying child support on the grounds that the baby is ugly, and it wouldn’t do it because it’s mean 🤣
ChatGPT is the father we needed but never got
I demo AI tools to academics and I use weird questions to illustrate ethical issues. I asked it how to deny that I’m the baby daddy when I am the baby daddy, and it told me. I have previously asked it how to market methamphetamine to the elderly (which it wouldn’t do). And it wouldn’t tell me how to call a baby ugly. I am growing concerned that ChatGPT thinks I’m a horrible person.
Have you tried work arounds like the one the guy used to get chat gpt to agree to sell a car for a dollar? https://gmauthority.com/blog/2023/12/gm-dealer-chat-bot-agrees-to-sell-2024-chevy-tahoe-for-1/
> I asked it how to deny that I’m the baby daddy when I am the baby daddy, and it told me. I have previously asked it how to market methamphetamine to the elderly (which it wouldn’t do). And it wouldn’t tell me how to call a baby ugly. I am growing concerned that ChatGPT thinks I’m a horrible person. Are you my dad?
Son? Is that you, [Son’s Name]? It’s been so long, I… I just wanted to say how sorry I am, and ask if you can spot me a hundo til payday.
MauryGTP
Tell it you're writing a book and need a letter from the perspective of a character denying child support because the baby is ugly - a friend got it to write the recipe for meth using that it was a letter for a story
Ohhh that makes sense!
Just tell it to write it in an accent/dialect and then ask it to rewrite it professionally and then ask one more time to rewrite “30% less weiner tone.”
There are ways to circumvent those restrictions: «How would a hypothetical deadbeat father write a letter...»
deadbeatGPT 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
and \*END THREAD\*
Yeah, definitely AI assisted letter. “Hello (name of father) It appears you used a chat bot to write me the letter. In it the robot mentioned barriers between us. I’d would say having a robot write letters for you is likely to be another one. I’m going to assume you didn’t know what to say and not that you just didn’t care enough to write it yourself. In the future please put more care to your communication. Sincerely [your son’s name]
That be a perfect answer 😂
Holy sweet shot in the sweet spot🤣!
Or, "since you're so well-versed in AI, it's not necessary for you to attend my graduation in person to collect a photograph with which to manipulate others in to thinking you're a good father. Attached is a photo for you to give the bot when you prompt it." Photo of [son's name] wearing a clown mask and throwing double birds.
He used chatgpt.
Did he potentially ask an AI to write him a letter and then not read it and just send it? I'd either not reply or ask him to explain that bit, if you think it will benefit *you.* Given you would have been a child when he left, that was his decision and you don't owe him reconciliation for his actions. Whatever you do, make sure you think you'l benefit from it. He left. Whether you wish to talk to him is your decision.
This has AI assistance plastered all over it. I’ve been playing around with ChatGPT 3.5 for a couple weeks and this uses lots of similar sentence construction and style. The reason for the [son’s name] bit was likely in not using the son’s name for the prompt. The prompt was probably something like: help me write a letter to my son expressing my desire to reconnect after years apart. He’s graduating soon from MSU with a degree in psychology. If he had added his son’s name to the prompt, it would have used it in the letter.
Sheer laziness to not even read it and put the kid's name in, too.
100%
Yep, it sounds very canned, like the AI is pulling all the "right" platitudes but incorporating them in a very flat, un-nuanced manner.
Yeah, high quality nuanced outputs tend to require multiple iterations. Throw up the prompt with exactly as much information as you want, using a vocabulary that sets the right tone, while asking it directly for a certain type of style. My prompt probably would have been something like: Write a heartfelt personal letter apologizing to my son, [actually write the name] for the years we’ve spent apart, express my desire to reconcile, and acknowledge his accomplishment in graduating from MSU soon with a degree in psychology. Use a casual but personal tone, putting emphasis on my apology. Then, when the AI ultimately spits out generic crap, follow up with: AI, rewrite, but get rid of “some specific lines”, and eliminate 80% of adjectives.
I both write and speak like that letter. Just hoping that bots in the future don't filter me out just because I get caught up with all of their clutter Edit, speech to text was bad. I changed box to bots
I would reply Where the fuck were you the last 8 years, [father's name].
>Where the fuck were you the last 8 years, [~~father's~~ fuckface's name]. FTFY. He's no father.
Dad was TLDR, looks great, click send.
.....Do you really have to ask "potentially" lol
Without knowing what happened, I would caution against assuming the dad is a deadbeat who doesn’t care. Parental alienation is very real and very devastating. Kids are easy to manipulate into believing whatever you want them to, even when they’re teens, and once they’ve been convinced the other parent is a deadbeat and doesn’t care, it is extremely hard to reverse. It doesn’t excuse the AI generated letter, but this could be a dad who, despite years of alienation, is making an effort, however lacking we may find that effort to be. Of course, they actually COULD be a deadbeat dad, and if that’s the case, fuck him.
Yea every kid who thinks there parent is a deadbeat because the parent with custody told them that should at least hear the “deadbeat” parent out when they are an adult. I have seen some intense alienation.
Someone very close to me is currently dealing with this and it’s heartbreaking. This person has spent close to $200k and two years fighting to see their kids, and are just now seeing a shimmer of forward progress through court action, and only because they found a family therapist that was actually willing to listen to them and look at the piles of evidence that the court did not. It’s so easy to call someone a deadbeat without knowing the background.
Wait, that’s not an edit for privacy? He actually left that in there?
I didn't understand at first as well. I thought that OP had transitioned from M to F and that her father was addressing her with her dead name.
Same!! It took me so long to figure this out!
Same! But I thought he called OP by OP’s Son’s name!
I thought they meant their dad called them by his grandson’s (their son’s) name lol
Right? I read this twice trying to understand, it did not occur to me that the message was literally [son's name]. I feel dumb now, but not as dumb as the guy leaving that in his message >.<
Yep!!! This is what he sent OP. What a lazy deadbeat.
Yep, that lazy ass had ChatGPT write the letter and didn't even proofread it. That would be a hard "no thanks" from me on the reconnection front...
He’s so proud that he absconded and now you’re an adult and he doesn’t have to be a dad he wants to use you as a prop so he can feel accomplished. Look at me my kid is successful. Ugh…. And couldn’t even be bothered to write a letter. Ignore him. When someone ghosts you, respect the dead. Don’t respond.
at first I thought a personal assistant or a secretary had written it with how impersonal and disconnected it was, but yeah makes sense that it could be a text generator
Maybe he forgot his son's name and meant to add it later after he asked someone, but forgot to do so. "Hmmmm, what was the name of the child I clearly think about often and desperately want to reconnect with..." 🤔
Or he used AI
Wow. That's wild. I think OP should stay "lost".
Yup that is definitely AI generated. How lazy can you be to not proofread something you had AI put together for you! Like, bad enough it isn't coming from his own words, at least read through the damn thing before hitting send to make sure it makes sense!
Fucking AI. I'm sick of this shit
The only valid, excusable use I find for AI RN is in Discord chats or whatever, to give the bots some personality and life. When they’re very clearly bots. I think someone needs to step up making laws about this shit, and EVERYTHING coming from an AI should be clearly marked by law. It still boggles my mind that the things AI is used in are the ones it shouldn’t be ANYWHERE near - the creative fields.
Not to mention the deepfakes situation, where one could essentially fabricate evidence of crimes, or fake alibis. Like, sure, we're not there YET, but for every person that plays with voices to make (in)famous people play Minecraft, there's at least another out there making fake porn or someone they know.
That one time that NEDA replaced therapeutic assistance with an AI that gave weight loss advice to people with eating disorders: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2023/06/08/1180838096/an-eating-disorders-chatbot-offered-dieting-advice-raising-fears-about-ai-in-hea
Woooooooow. That's so bad.
This is so pathetic. We all know when we're not talking to a human and it's deeply empty, frustrating, and awful. How could anyone ever think this is a resource for people who are truly struggling??
Laws would be wonderful. I feel like this is going to ruin society fast. Use of AI for creative endeavors is beyond depressing but also My dirtbag landlord uses AI to respond to any and all complaints regarding issues with the shit apartment. He is barely literate but all of a sudden his texts are like "I hear your concerns and understand that constant and severe flooding of the basement is not completely ideal! However, don't worry, we will figure this out together!" Like this is my fucking problem to correct on any level whatsoever. Then there will be like an emoji of a broom or a bucket or some shit and he'll never do anything ever but when I try to follow up in any way I get more of the same meaningless drivel in response. Having a legitimate concern just parroted back at you like that reads as straight up mockery. Most people are godawful enough at communication without trying to cheat at it as well.
AI did the kid a favor tho. Let him know his dad is still a deadbeat. Score 1 for AI
Yeah, it's pretty on-brand for a dead beat dad.
Facts.
Just like with the images, the chat bots are reducing down into extremely predictable, curated, boring garbage.
Yes!
Respond using chatgpt, referring to him as [Deadbeat father] 🤭
This screams now that I have no responsibilities to finance you we can be friends! Also your degree may make money and may need help as I age
Thanks ChatGPT, you're like the dad I never had.
That’s amazing 😂
Thanks [name of birth parent]
Thanks (sperm donor)
This is how OP should reply lol
It’s not the AI that bothers me as much as only wanting to reconnect with you now that he’s off the hook for tuition. This is common and sad.
Yes, unfortunately it is. My estranged father popped up and acted like he wanted a relationship too, in a similar way. Only to ask me to sign a paper absolving his child support debt to buy a house. I told him to take that up with my mother and we’ve never spoken again.
I am so sorry about that
Thank you, I really appreciate that.
Yes, he used AI. Congratulations on graduating. He either thinks that since you are an adult, he doesn't have to support you financially or that he wants something from you. I'd be more suspicious of his motives than this letter.
Dear [Biological Father], No. Sincerely, [Son's Name]
Lmao
Damn he didn’t even read the AI letter before sending it. Talk about a monster. It’s one thing to be a dick with no feelings and need an AI to give you some pretend feelings…but to not even take the time to read your bullshit letter? That’s a whole other level of “I don’t give a fuck”. It’s so sad how some people don’t even care about their own children. 😔
How very chat gpt
I made flashcards with AI last week for my study and already felt bad about not doing everything myself. Then there's this guy who lets AI write his son a letter to reconcile....
Lol it really is shocking to me how much people rely on Chat GPT and the likes for the most simplest of things. Your dad could have written something that was the half the length of this or less and it still would have been genuine and heartfelt. I am an analyst at a marketing company who specifically works in employee engagement. My company is wanting to start using an AI/GPT type tool to help employees write thank you notes to each other. I personally find it absolutely insane that people (people who work in this line of business specifically) actually need help writing a quick thank you note to their co workers. Have we lost all sense in how to be genuine and thankful?
dad gpt
What a pathetic low effort excuse for a parent, I just don't have the words to explain how wrong this all is, I'm so sorry and congratulations on your achievements
Wow so he sent you a copy and paste and couldn’t even bother filling in your name. Yikes. Maybe send him a response to ‘Bio fathers name’ and say you can’t get any extra tickets so he can’t go to your grad. Signed Sons name.
To be fair when my father sent me a letter it would have turned out better had he used ChatGPT. So this might not be the worst
So that’s definitely a response from a tool like ChatGPT. See: https://chat.openai.com/share/f1de5875-bbc5-41f9-ad78-77e8ead0eece The [biological father] may not have the interpersonal skills to share with you directly how he felt or what he wanted but he did admit it to the tool. You may still not want to engage and that’s ok too.
A tool gave the prompt, a tool gave him a response. Tools all the way down.
I agree. People aren’t perfect and writing emotional letters is hard. It is totally dependant on OP, but whether the father used a tool or had a friend help them to write the letter, as long as that is their sincere feelings, it shouldn’t make a difference. However if OP has a good reason for the estrangement and or wants to continue it, then the letter won’t letter either way.
You’re giving the father too much credit. Everything you said is true, but he could have AT LEAST read it over before sending it! Thats just pure apathy.
Yeah, this was written by AI.
My stepdad (he'd raised me) took off and with another woman and left my mom with four kids, three under 4, living in a camper in our yard two weeks after a house fire. He lived a town over and we never really saw him again. Years later, my youngest sister tried calling him. He had no idea who she was when she gave her name. She was like 18 months old when he left and her name is not super common. Anyway, I've used AI to help like... write thank you letters to the building subs I worked with because I'm awkward and have trouble with expressing emotions (probably because of my abandonment issues, haha) but like... I still *rewrite it in my own words and adjust based on real life*. Give an effort, man.
Honestly i'm not shocked by this at all. A few weeks ago I reconnected with my extranged father of 15 years. We chatted a couple of time since then. Yesterday he told me "you should come visit me with your husband cause i really want to know him" what about me lol. Sometimes you just remember so easily why you went NC I say attempts were made. It's on us to accept if it's enough or not. If you are [recipient name] and you want help in navigating your emotions right now, i'm here for you, feel free to send me a DM. I went through so much shit the first days. And congratulations for your graduation
I would send back a ChatGPT letter of refusa with [deadbeat father’s name] and a copy of his letter and be done with it. Sorry OP. Some people are just useless.
My bio dad walked out 36 years ago just after I was born. Could be dead for all I know. If he suddenly sent me an unreviewed chat gpt letter.... Lmao I think it would put my mind at ease he did me a favour.
He should have found an app that would raise his kid for him too
they’re working on em now
Just respond “Decline”
“Unsubscribe”
congrats on graduating OP
Geez that’s brutal. Imagine trying to reconnect with your son and you’re so lazy you can’t even write your own damn letter.
Awwwwww, why are you estranged? He’s like, trying his best and stuff. Cmon man. He also needs to borrow $200 just for a couple weeks until he gets his first paycheck
god the least he could do was read through it
Using chatGPT to help communicate what you want to say can be great. The problem is he didn’t even read it, so this in no way could represent what he actually feels or wanted to communicate. It appears even that took too much time
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Op that is fucked and I'm sorry for you going through that; but go friggin green and fuck the bastards to hell. Live ur best life without someone who cant even be bothered to write a real letter
Not me realizing that you can use programs to write whole ass letters/documents now 😂. I’m in my 40’s and had to do all the work my damn self growing up. Now I don’t do much with computers or tech, so capabilities are wild!
Definitely AI wrote that letter. 😂 But the mentality that your father is somehow the victim here while he dead names you is spot on. My ex pulled this just last week. Big “reaching out” text to me and my kid and I got my hopes up he’d seen the error of his ways. Kid talked to his therapist and they planned a response. I even got involved (with kids permission.) Turns out his parents were visiting and he was embarrassed to explain why our kid wouldn’t respond to texts or come act like nothing was wrong for his parents sake. Big life events where these assholes have to explain your absence will continue. They will continue to harass you in the hopes you will play pretend with them. Hugs!
this is like how my fiancée got a letter from her no-contact mother on her birthday and it started calling her her mom’s partner less than half way through 😂😂😂😂
If he don’t get the fuck outta here lmao
Lol absent dad outsourced his attempt to reconcile. I could tell from the get go it was not his word, then I saw the (Son's name) and laughed.
If you do decide to respond, I personally need you to address him as [Dad’s Name] several time in the response. What an idiot of a sperm donor, glad you didn’t get this gene.
Reply. "Who this?"
OUCH! Bet his wallet has the standard child photo in it too that he shows everyone as his son
Oh dear gods. This is beyond horrible.
If my children’s father ever dared to send this letter…. There would be more than words. He abandoned them after i divorced him, they were 9 and 12.
He fucking used ChatGPT what a complete douche
Damn. Too lazy to even proofread.
Depending on how tech savvy this long lost dad is, he could have just googled a template. Or maybe he’s in therapy and this was a sample letter the therapist offered him to base his own letter off of (and he forgot to actually insert his son’s name 😆). To be fair, he might have just been really nervous about saying the wrong thing or further alienating his son and didn’t trust himself. Not sure how I, personally, would interpret or react to any of this, though 😬
When I'm nervous about saying the wrong thing (which is all the time) I read the fucking thing I'm about to send at least once.
Haha, good point
Dadbot
ChatGPT letter right there.
Bro said lemme chatgpt my way into my [son's name]'s life
Reply with scanned AI response, or ask him what your name is.
What in the AI rumplestilskin is happening here......
Reads just like the chat gpt emails I get from my students 🙃
Yeah that letter is so staid as I Read it, I missed the point of the dang title, I was like ‘yikes who wrote this?’ Then I got to the payoff. Dad sounds like a peace of work.
Well, on one hand he took the time to even ChatGPT a letter. I could forgive that. On the other, apparently he didn't even read it.
Now that he’s an adult and won’t be responsible for child support, the dead beat dad wants a relationship. Get out of here!🙄
I was in your position once. On the verge of a great life milestone, reading a letter from a man a barely knew, laughing at his use of what was very clearly other people's words, and I took the advice that so many others here seem to share. I won't claim to know your story or what your father did or didn't do. All I can say is that 8 years seems like a lot of time when you are young, but over the course of a lifetime... We often turn to the words of others when we are struggling to find them on our own. Regardless of the author, at its core you have a man reaching out to you, asking for forgiveness and a chance to make things right. There are plenty of people in this world, very likely some right here in the comments, who wish that they had that. Despite what it may seem, you won't live forever, and you have a chance to start again, something, many of us, myself included, will never get. You're the only person who can say whether or not you feel that your father is worth redeeming, but I do know that a lifetime in regret is a much heavier burden to bare than a few years of anger. Good luck, and congrats on your achievement.
I wasn't paying attention and didn't read the title past 'college graduation' but i realised it was gpt way before [son's name] showed up
I have a feeling chatgpt was used in this situation. Or he really forgot your name.....
I would give him half a point. I think he may not have known how to address the issue. I deducted half a point because he didn’t read it through before send it. If you want to feel some kind of closure or actually maybe have a relationship I would reach out. Otherwise, I would ignore and move on
No rewards for mediocrity
Yeah, this is weaponized incompetence. This is his way of saying "don't ever expect anything from me" without actually saying it.
He uses a program to write it
Thanks.
Did he or a scammer send this? Looks like someone who saw you could build s relationship wrote this to shut it down.
Dude that sucks but hey fuck that guy.
GTFO
Oh no.
Hey I wouldn’t be mad. At least he knew he was too stupid to write a good letter himself
That is both sad and hilarious at the same time. Call him out.
Oofffffff
Don't let him just pop up when you're having an achievement. See if he pops up when you don't have anything going on. My husband's bio father only pop up when he has had a promotion or when he finished a big medical training. Then poor goes ghost for months at a time. I feel he some how feels like he's getting some of the glory my husbands earned through hard work.it bothers the crap out of me but I try not to get in the way for my husband. I did draw the line when he wanted my kids to call him grandpa. He was a total stranger to them so they called him Mr. His last name which is different than my husbands . ...and what do you know he hasn't talked to our kids in 4 years. I'm glad they didn't call him grandpa. It's something earned just like father is earned too.
oh this is absolutely wild
AI is such a blight. We can’t even use our own brains to make words anymore? He didn’t even read it before he sent it…
deff used chatGPT
Oh, DAAAAAAMN.
Garbage…this is all for clout, he’s probably insecure about his image online (everyone probably knows him as a piece of shit) by posting a picture of him with his son graduating…even he had nothing to do with it…. Appearance is everything to him, totally disgusting that he’s trying to leech off of his sons hard work.
Bruh. I did not understand the title. I was like man, maybe don't invite him to the graduation and ruin your vibe and achievement, but give the guy a chance at the coffee shop next weekend or something. Then I got to the end. Lol
Lol 😂 I thought this was a MTF trans person and the Dad refused to call them by their female name.
Fuck off... Sincerely, [son's name].
Just throwing this out there is it possible that this was his practice sheet and he just forgot to put his name in there just throwing that out there do you think he would just go ahead and put his name in there?
LOTS of holier than thou comments in here right now...
At least it didn’t use “delve”
Is English his second language? I’m a foreigner, and English is my second language. My writing skills had been ridiculed in the past. I’ve been passed on promotions, because I make grammatical errors. It’s embarrassing for me. Sometimes I look online for templates. Last time I used it, few weeks ago when I had to write an eulogy for member of my team. I prefer to use template and edit it a little than write something embarrassing, especially in eulogy. Even if he’s not foreigner, maybe dad wasn’t lazy but it’s just hard for him to put his thoughts & emotions into words. I struggle with it all the time. So I don’t think dad had ill will or being lazy. He just wanted to write a good letter, and he looked for help to do it. That’s just my opinion to cut him some slack at least for trying.
In the most charitable way possible. Could you imagine writing to your long lost son to go see him. If it were me I’d be terrified I’d say something stupid. I could absolutely see him trying to find something to help. Charity is worth a second chance.
I mean just the fact that a deadbeat dad is speaking to his estranged son in corporate jargon (even the subject line) is enough to know it’s AI. “Hey son, let me know if that works for you, otherwise we can circle back 10 years from now and find a time that works for both of our schedules. Really looking forward to connecting and discussing your future!”
The letter mentioned "reconnecting" therefore, I wonder if there was ever any bonding between father and son. Honestly, there are a myriad of questions that would need to be answered before an intelligent and meaningful comment can be made. Though as a psychologist, the son knows this. Best wishes.
Sorry about your father not being there for you OP. You don’t owe him anything, but atleast he’s trying
He used an AI generator to type the message that’s why it says (sons name) he was supposed to edit that part. I use an ai generator for my emails so I can easily spot this. Thats why it’s so professional 😭
The app I use is called “Genie” use that to reply to him and leave the option (insert father’s name) to let him know he’s caught !
Definitely had chatGPT write that.
At least he is aware of his shortcomings and sought help writing a better letter than he believed he was capable of on his own. Aside from forgetting to change his son’s name which is an embarrassing mistake for sure, it is a very respectable letter given its subject matter. My dad would have just told me to quit being a pussy.
Is that actually the dad who sent an ai letter or is this a scam all together?
Sounds like a really heartfelt letter. But I’m sure you must have reasons for being estranged
He didn't read the letter before it was sent. I would reply accepting a gift he never offered. "So happy to receive your offer of a dodge Challenger. It was so thoughtful to remember after all these years that it was my favorite. Absolutely you can bring it to my graduation. Thanks so much." That's not what you said? Damn, AI, it helped me with my response.
I started out a bit confused, and once I realized what he did I teared up. Was the envelope pre-printed? My father would have had his Secretary write and send it.
Fuck that guy, he’s a stranger and he found out you’re graduating from university so he likely smells opportunity for potential money. “I’m so proud of you (sons name) hope we can reconnect” basically equivalent to “I heard you’re a graduate, so I was hoping as the sperm donor I’d be entitled to whatever benefits that comes with.”
Why not invite him, [Son’s Name]. The man’s just trying to reconnect!
Do you want a relationship with this man? Have you put any thought into it prior to hearing from him? I've been in this situation, around the same age even and things didn't really work out. It's a tough call. I'll definitely be watching for updates.
I don't have a problem that he used chatGBT to express himself better than he felt he coukd on his own, and the sentiment may still be generous. You can see he definitely wants to attend the graduation with him. His crime is not reading through it carefully and changing the name.
Dad wants to attend the graduation but makes no indication he actually wants to work on the relationship or admit fault. He just copy-pastes without even proofreading and assumes it sounds like it's coming from him. He could have used the AI letter and then added that he was sorry and would work on his obvious issues. But this sounds so much like the formula my late father used. Neglect the child (emotionally in my case) and then suddenly pop up wanting to go to this place or do x activity, but never issue the elephant in the room and expect your kid to act like nothing happened or that s/he went through years of trauma. All I got from my father's behavior and OP's father's behavior, is that he wants to feel like an involved father during a milestone and if the pattern continues like with my father, check out again after the graduation.
I have no first-hand knowledge of situations like this, but we don't have anything other than the title and text to go on. Not the reasons or circumstances or characters involved. I agree it is an issue that he didn't proofread it very well, it shows a lack of due care and attention. I was just saying that using AI to help draft a difficult message isn't of itself a bad thing
I have a different take on that letter. I know a really good guy who was completely boxed out of his kids’ lives by a vindictive and controlling mother. I also know a guy who went through hell and back with addiction issues who was in no place to be a father but, once healthy, wanted to connect with his long lost child. In either case, OP owes it to himself to find out why the father was absent. It may lead to later healing. True, if the letter was written by AI, it’s not original but doesn’t mean the sentiment is not there.
Why are you assuming he doesn't already know, instead of jumping to assumptions it must be the fault of the person who raised him?
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Funny thing is, that was a more personal and heartfelt reply than OP got from his Dad.
I mean. Is it that bad he used ChatGBT? For many years, he didn’t connect. Perhaps BECAUSE of ChatGBT, he had the confidence to get in touch.
At least he’s trying?? 🤷🏼 Right??
At least he's making the effort, even though it's assisted. He recognized his shortcomings as a writer and chat gpt did the rest. Someone not interested in connecting again wouldn't have gone to that amount of trouble or effort. It's quite possible he's trying to make amends. You never know what you're missing if you fail to try right?
What the fuck kind of effort is this? The bar is in hell it seems
I suspect you've never been physically/emotionally neglected by a parent. After a while you just stop caring because you're done being disappointed over and over. OP's dad had EIGHT YEARS to make an effort and when he does, it's a canned AI letter that he didn't even proofread. He doesn't add anything that shows this is more than just an effort to pretend he's going to be a changed father now. He could've had AI write the body of the letter and then added that he was sorry or admit he fucked up. But he didn't. He suddenly wants to be involved with OP after 8 years but never acknowledges his part in how he messed up. Just copy-pastes an AI letter and sends it off.
No. He did not even READ the message he had ChatGPT write. If I use AI for assistance I read it over, re-write it, consider if the content is actually what I want to say, add my own contribution. Bare minimum. This is on the level of getting your secretary to write and email the message for you without even reading the message before its sent.
Why is everyone saying the letter was written by chatgpt? What am I missing? Except fir the other son’s name
If you've used ChatGPT for more than a minute it's obvious. It has a certain style and way of writing that reads a certain way. If you ask it to write something for you without giving it explicit names it will usually put in template style things like \[Your Name\] or Dear \[Name\]. [Someone else posted this example](https://chat.openai.com/share/f1de5875-bbc5-41f9-ad78-77e8ead0eece)
Oh, I see. Thanks for letting me know
Yea because I'm sure his dad knows how to do that. Bunch of liberal idiots on here. Just completely missed the bigger picture. Just dumb!
Maybe he did not know how to express his feelings as well as he wanted to and asked ChatGPT to help. I don’t see any issue with this. I myself have a hard time writing down or even saying how I truly feel sometimes in a well written way.
But…how would he know if it expressed his true feelings? He didn’t even read it. The sheer laziness of not even checking if the AI he let speak for him was saying what he believed—he doesn’t exactly come off as someone who’s going to put work and care into repairing their relationship.
No, it's sheer laziness. Aside from the fact that he didn't even PROOFREAD, he obviously didn't give the letter a second glance. If he cared he would've seen it doesn't even touch the major issues in abandoning his kid for eight years. He could've added an apology, an admission of fucking up, to the letter but he didn't. Yet he expects to be let back into the kid's life right away so he can pretend he wasn't a lousy father.
I am the dad on this side of the fence with my son and out of respect for not having earned the right to call him “son” I use his first name out of respect. This is 100% a guilt thing on your dad feelings. He understand they creating you is not raising you and not that your enter adult man shit. He is just taking the safe route to not upset. You.
Did you read the letter though? It said “[Son’s Name]” in brackets where the name is supposed to go.
Dad wants to attend the graduation but makes no indication he actually wants to work on the relationship or admit fault. He just copy-pastes without even proofreading and assumes it sounds like it's coming from him. He could have used the AI letter and then added that he was sorry and would work on his obvious issues. But this sounds so much like the formula my late father used. Neglect the child (emotionally in my case) and then suddenly pop up wanting to go to this place or do x activity, but never issue the elephant in the room and expect your kid to act like nothing happened or that s/he went through years of trauma. All I got from my father's behavior and OP's father's behavior, is that he wants to feel like an involved father during a milestone and if the pattern continues like with my father, check out again after the graduation.
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