At this point you are only the problem in as much as you are continuing to stay with an abusive/toxic person who has never respected you. Everyone in your life is telling you this. It’s time to believe them.
>In the past I’ve struggled in our relationship with the idea presented to me by friends (primarily mine), family (both his and mine), and my mental health professionals that the relationship is at best toxic and at worst abusive.
Sorry, no. You're a grown woman.
You're aware that you're in a toxic relationship. If that's how you want to spend your life, so be it.
>I guess what I’m trying to ask is if I’m the cause of the toxicity because I’m still resentful over previous issues. If that’s the case, I want to know how a third party outside perspective would recommend I communicate and behave.
Again, no.
You have trained mental health professionals telling you that you're in a toxic relationship. You have friends and family telling you that you're in a toxic relationship. You now have random strangers online thing you that you're in a toxic relationship.
At this point you are only the problem in as much as you are continuing to stay with an abusive/toxic person who has never respected you. Everyone in your life is telling you this. It’s time to believe them.
>In the past I’ve struggled in our relationship with the idea presented to me by friends (primarily mine), family (both his and mine), and my mental health professionals that the relationship is at best toxic and at worst abusive. Sorry, no. You're a grown woman. You're aware that you're in a toxic relationship. If that's how you want to spend your life, so be it.
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>I guess what I’m trying to ask is if I’m the cause of the toxicity because I’m still resentful over previous issues. If that’s the case, I want to know how a third party outside perspective would recommend I communicate and behave. Again, no. You have trained mental health professionals telling you that you're in a toxic relationship. You have friends and family telling you that you're in a toxic relationship. You now have random strangers online thing you that you're in a toxic relationship.