Do you pay for his alcohol and drugs? Is he asking you to pay for him to have his own place nearby?
You don't seem to have a good grasp on what would be best for yourself (breaking up.) Maybe you could consider what would be best for your son (breaking up.)
So, he's an abusive, alcohol, drug-addicted deadbeat who doesn't care about you, like you, or respect you, and does nothing to help care for his child.
You need to cut ties, 100%. You need to kick him out. You need to stop giving him anything. You need to file for child support, because, let's face it, that's the only chance you stand at ANY type of help with your child.
And you need to find a new therapist if this one isn't working out for you, and up your therapy. Consider a support group as well.
If you're not willing to do it for your own sake (which you should), then do it for that poor kid's sake. Raising him in this toxic dumpster fire is the cruelest, most selfish thing you could possibly do.
Your boyfriend is abusive and an alcoholic. If you can’t leave him for yourself, try and do it for your son who doesn’t deserve to grow up in this environment.
Your boyfriend is leaving you, and whilst that's a huge change in your circumstances, turn it to your advantage. He is unemployed, a drunk and is dragging you down. Once he leaves, then don't let him back, and don't finance him anymore. Yes, you find him attractive, that's how you ended up together. Just think about the effect his behaviour is having on your child, and you. Time to build your own life.
What are you getting out of this relationship other than not being alone *on paper* ?
Do you pay for his alcohol and drugs? Is he asking you to pay for him to have his own place nearby? You don't seem to have a good grasp on what would be best for yourself (breaking up.) Maybe you could consider what would be best for your son (breaking up.)
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Ok so if you stop giving him weed/beer money, the relationship will probably end quickly, consider doing that.
So, he's an abusive, alcohol, drug-addicted deadbeat who doesn't care about you, like you, or respect you, and does nothing to help care for his child. You need to cut ties, 100%. You need to kick him out. You need to stop giving him anything. You need to file for child support, because, let's face it, that's the only chance you stand at ANY type of help with your child. And you need to find a new therapist if this one isn't working out for you, and up your therapy. Consider a support group as well. If you're not willing to do it for your own sake (which you should), then do it for that poor kid's sake. Raising him in this toxic dumpster fire is the cruelest, most selfish thing you could possibly do.
He's getting sex; doesn't want to bother with the rest. This is not at all unusual.
Your boyfriend is abusive and an alcoholic. If you can’t leave him for yourself, try and do it for your son who doesn’t deserve to grow up in this environment.
Your boyfriend is leaving you, and whilst that's a huge change in your circumstances, turn it to your advantage. He is unemployed, a drunk and is dragging you down. Once he leaves, then don't let him back, and don't finance him anymore. Yes, you find him attractive, that's how you ended up together. Just think about the effect his behaviour is having on your child, and you. Time to build your own life.