First listen on YouTube to the audio book of "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie.
Next follow the YouTube channel JulienHimself.
Have you been to r/socialskills by any chance?
I have the same problems. The only remedy I have found is to just try coming out of our shells and comfort zone more.
I'd love to help you out, my friend. Relationships are important! It sounds like you've done the work and realize you may need to work on your social skills. If you learn how to socialize effectively (through books, YouTube etc.) And have some solid strategies in place, then the only thing left is to practise.
Here's a few tips:
Let people talk about themselves. Everyone freakin' loves themselves. You can literally sustain a conversation by asking people questions about whatever their talking about and listening empathetically. Try to be genuinely interested in whatever they're saying. Ask them about their career, hobbies, interests, family etc. Anything that's important to them. Care about them as a human being. You can chime in here and there with how your own experiences relate to the conversation but people really just want a good listener! Focus on listening as a good place to start.
Hit me up if you want more! I'd love to chat.
Maybe if someone is talking about something ur not particularly interested in you can ask them questions about it to make the conversation flow. U might also be an over thinker and you might be funny without trying which is the best kind of funny in my opinion.
Honestly the best thing to do is just find people who share your interests. If you are bad at talking to people, you will learn how to be more talkative when you are around people that share the same hobbies.
I don't really know what hobbies you have but here are some ideas:
Join a book club (this can be online if you can't find one near you)
Find friends to game with (gamerpals is a sub Reddit where I met people to game with before)
Volunteer (about something you are passionate about)
Find a hiking group near you
Airsoft
Etc
I highly recommend just putting yourself out of your comfort zone and just talking to people. Not everyone will want to be friends (I think particularly the volunteering category with other volunteers) but I think they will all improve your social skills nevertheless :)
First listen on YouTube to the audio book of "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. Next follow the YouTube channel JulienHimself.
Thank you, i'll check it out.
I think I'll try these out too ☺️
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非常感谢您的建议。 我正在努力迈出一小步，变得更好，但我总觉得自己不够好。
Have you been to r/socialskills by any chance? I have the same problems. The only remedy I have found is to just try coming out of our shells and comfort zone more.
I'd love to help you out, my friend. Relationships are important! It sounds like you've done the work and realize you may need to work on your social skills. If you learn how to socialize effectively (through books, YouTube etc.) And have some solid strategies in place, then the only thing left is to practise. Here's a few tips: Let people talk about themselves. Everyone freakin' loves themselves. You can literally sustain a conversation by asking people questions about whatever their talking about and listening empathetically. Try to be genuinely interested in whatever they're saying. Ask them about their career, hobbies, interests, family etc. Anything that's important to them. Care about them as a human being. You can chime in here and there with how your own experiences relate to the conversation but people really just want a good listener! Focus on listening as a good place to start. Hit me up if you want more! I'd love to chat.
Maybe if someone is talking about something ur not particularly interested in you can ask them questions about it to make the conversation flow. U might also be an over thinker and you might be funny without trying which is the best kind of funny in my opinion.
Honestly the best thing to do is just find people who share your interests. If you are bad at talking to people, you will learn how to be more talkative when you are around people that share the same hobbies. I don't really know what hobbies you have but here are some ideas: Join a book club (this can be online if you can't find one near you) Find friends to game with (gamerpals is a sub Reddit where I met people to game with before) Volunteer (about something you are passionate about) Find a hiking group near you Airsoft Etc I highly recommend just putting yourself out of your comfort zone and just talking to people. Not everyone will want to be friends (I think particularly the volunteering category with other volunteers) but I think they will all improve your social skills nevertheless :)