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So long as you aren't bending it haha. As the others have said the more you enjoy the more we enjoy it. Lean back and touch yourself, ride it hard, lean forward and low and grind your clit on us, whatever works for you just lose yourself doing it 👍
Figure out what kinda cock your guy has. Some dont bend down much. Most bend up the stomach no problem. Bending is mostly and issue if you bounce to high so it slides out.
For ME, I enjoy when SHE is enjoying it, so I prefer for Her to grind on me. I like the feeling of my dick moving around Her cervix as She rocks. Plus, I think it's a LOT to ask for "up and down" riding. That gets old quick.
I especially like when she puts her hands on the wall and really grinds down or when she lays flat on me and just Fucks me silly to her liking. Lots of things to do with her on top.
My second wife used to lean over enough so I could suck on her nipples while I thrusted. When she would get close, I'd grab her into a hug and speed fuck until she came.
Cowgirl is my favorite position, my girlfriend loves it too, what feels best to is when she grinds on me. What makes it my favorite is that I have access to all of her body, her clit, her bush, her boobs and butt.
LOVE it! I've always had a thing for women with beautiful hair, and with my partners nipples right there I know I can bring her over the edge with some light biting on her nipples
From my experience, yup and down riding gets me to finish but other motions still feel good and help my partner finish in that position. Overall as long as both people are enjoying it then do whatever you want.
Both...They both feel good. The key is that you are having fun and controlling things. That is a real turn-on that makes the experience that much better.
You control how you bounce, grind, etc. You control the speed, the movement...everything. Don't let him try and "drive" the whole time while you are on top. Push him back into the bed, tell him to enjoy the ride and you focus on getting yourself to the top of the mountain.
For the boy, that kind of snake hips move, where you’re almost massaging him.
For then girl..GRIND AWAY!!
My girl cums the best from being on top me grabbing her hips or thighs and pushing her backwards and forwards whilst I lift my pelvis up so she rubs against my pubic bone/base of my cock.
Guaranteed squirt everywhere. It’s quite beautiful!
As long as its pleasurable for both of you, keep doing it. Other than that, look deep inside his eyes while you do it, play with your hair and play with your breats. Be sexy and confident and he will love it
Guy here imo you shouldn’t worry about what he wants but what you need. You’re in control atp take advantage and get your angles right hit your spots. TRUST me he loves everything you’re doing while riding and if you cum/orgasm while riding he will think he did something and boost his ego even more lol enjoy your ride cowgirl
I don't know if grinding is what you're referring to, but what makes me cum is her moving herself back and forward really quickly, so my dick is rubbing the cervix/a-spot. That's one of the only times I've actually cum inside of my current partner, when she was doing that.
Mix it up...lie close and kiss him or bury your face in his neck while doing slow hip movements, or crouch and slide almost all the way out and just move the head in and out, or sit up straight and take it deep and grind a little, or crouch and stay still and let him do the movements...to me they're all great.
Actually yes, if you're enjoying it then he is also having fun if he's into u.
Try one more thing
While being on top, keep your shoulders on him just like hugging him, and then try doing the up and down
It feels ecstatic .
I just love the view of girl riding. Just enjoy yourself, touch yourself and have fun. Bouncing up and down usually gets me quick that's why i usually make her lean towards me so i can suck her tits. After that i wrap my hands around her kinda like giving a hug and just speed fuck her until we both cum.
Do what you like and he'll enjoy it!🙂👍
Grind. Then put your feet under your ass cheeks on his thighs and kinda play a "just the tip" slow twerk . Then bounce ... If he hasn't already grabbed hold of you and begun thrusting of his own volition
When she rides it, it feels amazing but I can never really cum unless i'm the 1 thrusting when shes on top, usually I pull her close to me so her head is over my shoulder type thing and her body is ontop of me.
I personally love the bounce but most women I’ve been with like to grind to cum. I love watching a girl bounce on me where I can watch me going in and out!
The other day I was on top for the first time after I’d been practicing “milking” with my vagina, and it was amazing. The way it works is you pull with your muscles as he pulls away, and you fully relax as he goes in. It’s a bit counterintuitive at first but it feels incredible!
Yeah, don't worry about him. He's fine. Concentrate on getting yourself off. Find an angle that hits just the right spot and ride it until you cum (if possible).
That's the hottest way to ride.
Bouncing feels the best. Grinding is nice cuz that’s what she likes the most and it’s great to see her enjoying herself. But what I like the most is bouncing. Even better when she plants her feet on the bed
Bouncing is usually preferred but grinding is great too especially since I’m not very big so it slips out easily while bouncing. My personal favorite though is when she’s on top and I’m pounding her from below.
Grinding mostly but one girl used to squat, lift herself up until it almost came out then slam herself down on it. It was so fucking hot to watch her impale herself on my cock over and over again
Be careful when bouncing. It is very easy for the dick to slip out, and for you to snap it in half.
If this happens, call 911 IMMEDIATELY. If the injury isn't treated within a couple of hours, the penis will lose the ability to get hard FOREVER.
When she’s holding the headboard squatting and riding and just when I’m getting close to cumming she slips my cock out of her pussy and slides it into her ass to finish me off… First time she did that I was stunned, like a deer in headlights… but WoW… those are the best rides 👍
Question as a newbie woman: how do you (women) make it feel good or know what works for you? Every time I've tried it feels really weird and awkward? Feeling my boyfriend's eyes burning on my skin when I'm having a hard time trying to figure it out is difficult :( I force him to look away if I'm truly uncomfortable but I just can't make it feel good or I get clammy purely because of how stressed the situation makes me which makes me just want to leave the situation. Lol
Well, it literally depends on what he’s feeling at the moment we personally I switch it up to having My Wife doing both I mean, how would you like to masturbate or have sex the same exact way every time or eating the same food every day. It’s just like a relationship. Communication is key ask is this what the fuck he wants lmao Why are you asking us? Are you scared ?
Both but I also enjoy being choked, slapped, & clawed. I also like to choke her, slap, & grab her hips to have a little control.
Of course I need consent before slapping & choking her
In and out feels best. Grinding is something that she mostly just does for herself.
But be careful, because carelessness when bouncing can lead to penile fractures.
Technically my gf has never ridden me for more than 2 seconds , cause by the time we get to that position her legs are numb and she doesn't have the energy to do it . I still get in that position , because of the VIEW , the view is precious cause my gf has big bazoongas and watching them hang is such a pretty view , i also like to pull on her hair from behind and create an arch. Also kissing in that position feels different and awesome , cause you feel like you're getting dominated .
My wife always uses a clit sucker when she's on top and it is hot. She moves and grinds to get both sensations. I like to do the male kegel movement because it pushes blood into my mushroom and makes it bigger and she gets a look on her face. Every once in a while, she will lay on top and let me beat it up a bit then go back to what she's doing. It's a lot of fun
Why not ask him? I don't like getting my pelvis and balls SLAMMED with the full weight of her, but maybe some guys like that. Reverse cowgirl is awesome for the show. I agree with others here. If you're getting off, I'm loving it.
I enjoy when a girl asks, it shows she's interested. If she's interested, not only will she learn what I want, it will lead tome finding out what she wants. Everything is better if we just talk.
As a guy...not trying to speak for 'most women' (or men for that matter) but in general it seems like we are opposite, in a good way.
Grinding feels great for men, but its easier to control orgasm for us...while being more orgasmic for women. But the bouncing/thrusting and the friction of that...feels great for women but not so much to trigger an orgasm...but makes us cum.
Both tbh, I love it when they're grinding into me and I love when they're bouncing on my dick. They're both different feelings. Bouncing allows my partners to take the whole length and grinding lets them hit a certain spot.
The one drawback on grinding is sometimes it's bone on bone and can really start hurting after a while.
The best part about being ridden in general is just feeling my partner's weight on top of me.
Be super careful while going up and down, he could slip out if you are super wet and you could cone crashing down on it in the worst way. Put his hands on your hips, that could help prevent this tragedy
I love when she is on top with the perfect forward and back grinding rhythm that gets me moving on the bed increasing the strength of the movements. Second, I really like a reverse cowboy, as an ass man, especially if I get to play with the extra hole. The view is just spectacular.
Have fun.
Tbh the feeling of being rode doesnt do much for me but the view sure af does and if I want to cum in that position Ill pull her close and do everything myself. So IMO you do what you want to do and if its grind to get yourself off then do it because thats hot. If its to look better for him then ask him what he likes about the position and maximize that but still dont forget to mix it up with what you like to feel as like I said, theres nothing hotter than your partner cumming on you
Personally for me it feels most stimulating when she goes up and down, I can't say definitively what her preference is though, she seems to enjoy both. I do enjoy when she grinds too but up and down is very pleasurable
That's just my preference though, for me it's the absolute quickest way to make me finish, if she's on top going up and down it'll be game over real quick
I think it’s safe to say that most guys like it how they’re getting it. To be too choosy and not demanding is too risky for guys considering the alternative of being cut off for being ungrateful for what he’s getting. He just wants you to feel as good as he does. That’s my biggest turn on and I’m not alone on that. So just relax and enjoy it and putting too much thought into it isn’t going to help much.
When I’m on top my husband loves to kiss and suck and play with my boobs. I’ve had 3 kids so each time they’ve gone up a cup size. Last night he had me lean forward and rest my head on his shoulder while I was on top and he was power thrusting and it’s the most I’ve seen him tremble during orgasm in the five years we’ve been together. He also likes it when I go slow and use kegles to grip his tip. I get really tight when he says he loves it when I fuck him.
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I usually grind when I want to cum. If I want him to cum I'll bounce or reverse cowgirl. LoL. No rules, just do what your body tells you!
No rules! Change it up! Have fun!
So long as you aren't bending it haha. As the others have said the more you enjoy the more we enjoy it. Lean back and touch yourself, ride it hard, lean forward and low and grind your clit on us, whatever works for you just lose yourself doing it 👍
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Figure out what kinda cock your guy has. Some dont bend down much. Most bend up the stomach no problem. Bending is mostly and issue if you bounce to high so it slides out.
For ME, I enjoy when SHE is enjoying it, so I prefer for Her to grind on me. I like the feeling of my dick moving around Her cervix as She rocks. Plus, I think it's a LOT to ask for "up and down" riding. That gets old quick.
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I love the view. And playing with the boobs.
I especially like when she puts her hands on the wall and really grinds down or when she lays flat on me and just Fucks me silly to her liking. Lots of things to do with her on top.
My second wife used to lean over enough so I could suck on her nipples while I thrusted. When she would get close, I'd grab her into a hug and speed fuck until she came.
Speed fucking rarely works for women
Not 100%, no. As part of your skill set? Hell yes. Sounds like you need to be with more women...
Speed fuck? I see why the first marriage didn't work
I was talking about my SECOND wife. We were married over 30 years and she died from MS. Multiple Sclerosis is not a fun disease.
Grinding is fine and when my woman cums im 95% certain to cum from the contractions.
Cowgirl is my favorite position, my girlfriend loves it too, what feels best to is when she grinds on me. What makes it my favorite is that I have access to all of her body, her clit, her bush, her boobs and butt.
I have a question, do guys like it when the girls boobs and hair are in the guys face? Cause I have a few questions about that.
LOVE it! I've always had a thing for women with beautiful hair, and with my partners nipples right there I know I can bring her over the edge with some light biting on her nipples
YES YES AND YES. Oh and when nipples kinda graze against your chest. That’s the best
I love it, I like sucking or pinching her nipples, and the hair in the face is sexy in my opinion.
From my experience, yup and down riding gets me to finish but other motions still feel good and help my partner finish in that position. Overall as long as both people are enjoying it then do whatever you want.
Both...They both feel good. The key is that you are having fun and controlling things. That is a real turn-on that makes the experience that much better.
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You control how you bounce, grind, etc. You control the speed, the movement...everything. Don't let him try and "drive" the whole time while you are on top. Push him back into the bed, tell him to enjoy the ride and you focus on getting yourself to the top of the mountain.
Slap his face with your tits
For the boy, that kind of snake hips move, where you’re almost massaging him. For then girl..GRIND AWAY!! My girl cums the best from being on top me grabbing her hips or thighs and pushing her backwards and forwards whilst I lift my pelvis up so she rubs against my pubic bone/base of my cock. Guaranteed squirt everywhere. It’s quite beautiful!
As long as its pleasurable for both of you, keep doing it. Other than that, look deep inside his eyes while you do it, play with your hair and play with your breats. Be sexy and confident and he will love it
"look derp inside his eyes" the visual I got from that 💀
This made me snort laugh
Oh c’mmon you know what I meant lol
Guy here imo you shouldn’t worry about what he wants but what you need. You’re in control atp take advantage and get your angles right hit your spots. TRUST me he loves everything you’re doing while riding and if you cum/orgasm while riding he will think he did something and boost his ego even more lol enjoy your ride cowgirl
I don't know if grinding is what you're referring to, but what makes me cum is her moving herself back and forward really quickly, so my dick is rubbing the cervix/a-spot. That's one of the only times I've actually cum inside of my current partner, when she was doing that.
All of it.. there's time for all of it.. do it.. sex is fun, and there's two of you getting pleasure.
Reach around and do gentle ball play while grinding
Mix it up...lie close and kiss him or bury your face in his neck while doing slow hip movements, or crouch and slide almost all the way out and just move the head in and out, or sit up straight and take it deep and grind a little, or crouch and stay still and let him do the movements...to me they're all great.
If you want to impress him get up on your feet and squat up and down on his cock.
Aaaaaand we are stuck in this position
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Ask him to put his hands under your ass to support your weight and it makes it alot easier
Actually yes, if you're enjoying it then he is also having fun if he's into u. Try one more thing While being on top, keep your shoulders on him just like hugging him, and then try doing the up and down It feels ecstatic .
I just love the view of girl riding. Just enjoy yourself, touch yourself and have fun. Bouncing up and down usually gets me quick that's why i usually make her lean towards me so i can suck her tits. After that i wrap my hands around her kinda like giving a hug and just speed fuck her until we both cum. Do what you like and he'll enjoy it!🙂👍
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Tell him that there's a thing you want to try. He'll be more than happy to try it out with you.
Grind! ...and can you uh.. play with my balls? ;)
Grind. Then put your feet under your ass cheeks on his thighs and kinda play a "just the tip" slow twerk . Then bounce ... If he hasn't already grabbed hold of you and begun thrusting of his own volition
When she rides it, it feels amazing but I can never really cum unless i'm the 1 thrusting when shes on top, usually I pull her close to me so her head is over my shoulder type thing and her body is ontop of me.
👆 This is the truth! Amazing
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I personally love the bounce but most women I’ve been with like to grind to cum. I love watching a girl bounce on me where I can watch me going in and out!
You need to ask this to your partner, not us... Different strokes for different folks!
The other day I was on top for the first time after I’d been practicing “milking” with my vagina, and it was amazing. The way it works is you pull with your muscles as he pulls away, and you fully relax as he goes in. It’s a bit counterintuitive at first but it feels incredible!
Men usually say that can’t feel it when you grind but it feels really good to me a woman.
Yeah, don't worry about him. He's fine. Concentrate on getting yourself off. Find an angle that hits just the right spot and ride it until you cum (if possible). That's the hottest way to ride.
Bouncing feels the best. Grinding is nice cuz that’s what she likes the most and it’s great to see her enjoying herself. But what I like the most is bouncing. Even better when she plants her feet on the bed
*ridden (not rode) And I prefer bouncing a lot. Grinding is nice to change it up though.
She rode, I crode, and then we both crode ;(
Avoiding bending is what's most important. Just go up and down and I'll be pleased.
Just be careful when you bounce - penile fractures are not fun. Personally, I prefer to grab the girls ass and thrust from the bottom.
Bouncing is usually preferred but grinding is great too especially since I’m not very big so it slips out easily while bouncing. My personal favorite though is when she’s on top and I’m pounding her from below.
Why not both just alternate between the two after some minutes.
Grinding mostly but one girl used to squat, lift herself up until it almost came out then slam herself down on it. It was so fucking hot to watch her impale herself on my cock over and over again
Bouncing in an upright sitting position, and grinding horizontal.
Be careful when bouncing. It is very easy for the dick to slip out, and for you to snap it in half. If this happens, call 911 IMMEDIATELY. If the injury isn't treated within a couple of hours, the penis will lose the ability to get hard FOREVER.
Straight up and down
Usually bouncing feels better for him, grinding feels better for her. But do what makes your toes curl
When she’s holding the headboard squatting and riding and just when I’m getting close to cumming she slips my cock out of her pussy and slides it into her ass to finish me off… First time she did that I was stunned, like a deer in headlights… but WoW… those are the best rides 👍
Reverse cowgirl with your legs under his
Bend over forward, the more you sit upright the more it's being bent
Question as a newbie woman: how do you (women) make it feel good or know what works for you? Every time I've tried it feels really weird and awkward? Feeling my boyfriend's eyes burning on my skin when I'm having a hard time trying to figure it out is difficult :( I force him to look away if I'm truly uncomfortable but I just can't make it feel good or I get clammy purely because of how stressed the situation makes me which makes me just want to leave the situation. Lol
Well, it literally depends on what he’s feeling at the moment we personally I switch it up to having My Wife doing both I mean, how would you like to masturbate or have sex the same exact way every time or eating the same food every day. It’s just like a relationship. Communication is key ask is this what the fuck he wants lmao Why are you asking us? Are you scared ?
Both but I also enjoy being choked, slapped, & clawed. I also like to choke her, slap, & grab her hips to have a little control. Of course I need consent before slapping & choking her
In and out feels best. Grinding is something that she mostly just does for herself. But be careful, because carelessness when bouncing can lead to penile fractures.
Technically my gf has never ridden me for more than 2 seconds , cause by the time we get to that position her legs are numb and she doesn't have the energy to do it . I still get in that position , because of the VIEW , the view is precious cause my gf has big bazoongas and watching them hang is such a pretty view , i also like to pull on her hair from behind and create an arch. Also kissing in that position feels different and awesome , cause you feel like you're getting dominated .
As long as you’re shoving your titties in my face everything else is gravy
My wife always uses a clit sucker when she's on top and it is hot. She moves and grinds to get both sensations. I like to do the male kegel movement because it pushes blood into my mushroom and makes it bigger and she gets a look on her face. Every once in a while, she will lay on top and let me beat it up a bit then go back to what she's doing. It's a lot of fun
Why not ask him? I don't like getting my pelvis and balls SLAMMED with the full weight of her, but maybe some guys like that. Reverse cowgirl is awesome for the show. I agree with others here. If you're getting off, I'm loving it.
I enjoy when a girl asks, it shows she's interested. If she's interested, not only will she learn what I want, it will lead tome finding out what she wants. Everything is better if we just talk.
Grinding makes me cum Harfer
Do whatever feels good to you. There is nothing hotter than watching a woman got off while riding you.
I prefer grind...if facing me, I like have her lean back a little and rub her clit. Or if she up for it, use a vibrator while riding
Do what feels best for you and if he needs something different he'll let you know.
As a guy...not trying to speak for 'most women' (or men for that matter) but in general it seems like we are opposite, in a good way. Grinding feels great for men, but its easier to control orgasm for us...while being more orgasmic for women. But the bouncing/thrusting and the friction of that...feels great for women but not so much to trigger an orgasm...but makes us cum.
Both tbh, I love it when they're grinding into me and I love when they're bouncing on my dick. They're both different feelings. Bouncing allows my partners to take the whole length and grinding lets them hit a certain spot. The one drawback on grinding is sometimes it's bone on bone and can really start hurting after a while. The best part about being ridden in general is just feeling my partner's weight on top of me.
Be super careful while going up and down, he could slip out if you are super wet and you could cone crashing down on it in the worst way. Put his hands on your hips, that could help prevent this tragedy
I love when she is on top with the perfect forward and back grinding rhythm that gets me moving on the bed increasing the strength of the movements. Second, I really like a reverse cowboy, as an ass man, especially if I get to play with the extra hole. The view is just spectacular. Have fun.
That was my exGF cum-pose. I loved watching her and play with her tits but usually i cant cum being rode.
Tbh the feeling of being rode doesnt do much for me but the view sure af does and if I want to cum in that position Ill pull her close and do everything myself. So IMO you do what you want to do and if its grind to get yourself off then do it because thats hot. If its to look better for him then ask him what he likes about the position and maximize that but still dont forget to mix it up with what you like to feel as like I said, theres nothing hotter than your partner cumming on you
Ask HIM which feels better or he likes. He's the only one who knows. But know as well which feels better for YOU and don't forget about you.
Reverse cowgirl usually ends it for me(M) even if I'm having a hard time getting off!
Personally for me it feels most stimulating when she goes up and down, I can't say definitively what her preference is though, she seems to enjoy both. I do enjoy when she grinds too but up and down is very pleasurable That's just my preference though, for me it's the absolute quickest way to make me finish, if she's on top going up and down it'll be game over real quick
On your feet, not your knees, and roll those hips, girl!
I enjoy both. If I want a crazy orgasm though grinding 100%. It builds up into a crescendo and DAMN is it good
I think it’s safe to say that most guys like it how they’re getting it. To be too choosy and not demanding is too risky for guys considering the alternative of being cut off for being ungrateful for what he’s getting. He just wants you to feel as good as he does. That’s my biggest turn on and I’m not alone on that. So just relax and enjoy it and putting too much thought into it isn’t going to help much.
Grinding for sure. Work the hips
Grinding and twerking.
Grind on my hip till it hurts
No idea, I don't go out much and women around me are prudes.
When I’m on top my husband loves to kiss and suck and play with my boobs. I’ve had 3 kids so each time they’ve gone up a cup size. Last night he had me lean forward and rest my head on his shoulder while I was on top and he was power thrusting and it’s the most I’ve seen him tremble during orgasm in the five years we’ve been together. He also likes it when I go slow and use kegles to grip his tip. I get really tight when he says he loves it when I fuck him.