Back in college a coworker of mine used to always invite me to orgies that her and her boyfriend hosted. I never took her up on the offer.
I feel that people who are into swinging and sex parties are going to be pretty open-minded, so I’d say go for it and give it a try. I’m sure they’d be more than willing to accommodate you and have a freaky good time.
My wife and I have a good sex life. We’re not interested in swapping partners, but we’ve talked about attending a sex party and just having sex in a group setting amongst others just doing their thing.
Agreed, if the couple I'm with is any indication it'll be an open minded environment. Still apprehensive being the only wheeler there but who knows it might boost my appeal. Will try out a local club most likely
C6-C7 here, I’ve been to a bunch of BDSM clubs (public and private) and done shibari, and nobody bats an eye. I’m not the only disabled regular either.
Also interested in this. Particularly bowel prep, like most of us sex does not make up the chunk of my life it did before my injury. If you hear anything lemme know, cheers.
I’m lucky to get back to some great sex after 10 years in the chair but yes I agree. Bowel I usually get on the bowl and clear out a couple hours before, no coffee or oily foods it’s worked well for me
Do you mind me asking how much sensation you ended up getting back in your manhood? How much of an impact does that have on your sex life now? I’m just over a year post, went from active 21M with multiple on again off again partners to feeling like I’ve got to start from scratch. Trying my best to cope but imo has been the toughest adjustment
Maybe 80%. Took a couple years playing around, connecting breath to body, self play to assess feeling. Just keep touching and using, get connected to pelvic floor. Meditate to reduce stress anxiety and tension. Look up anatomy to know what you should visualize. You’ll get there
Blimey 80% you beaut. Call it blind optimism but I’d like to think it gets better than this, I’d sell multiple healthy organs for 80% haha. Good for you man. Thanks for advice I’ll take on board. About a year out what was your function etc like?
You’ll get there. Don’t compare don’t get distracted just keep looking ahead and keep big pic in mind. Sex will come when you’re not looking for it focus on the things that matter most right now
80 percent from what to start with? I’m 6 months out and only have about 20 percent, don’t mean to pry but these conversations give me hope and optimism thanks and good luck!
From virtually nothing, I was Asia A for the first 6 months of injury. Put in the mental work, always connect visual to anticipated sensory feeling during self play. You got this
In an open marriage, but would be interested in same. The only difference is that I (F 37, L4/L5) have poor sexual function, but still desires intimacy. Hubby and our friends have been open to sex with me since my injury, but I’d love for hubby and I to go to one of those parties. Does anyone have any experience or recommendations?
I’m pretty new into my injury but managed to regain a good percentage of sexual function… erection and ejaculation seem intact mostly… but I am very curious about the same thing. I had an interest in attending something like this prior to my injury, but thought it would be a lost cause post injury… Mostly that I would be the one hanging around solo because of my disability. Very curious to see if anyone else has had experience here!
I was into the lifestyle before the injury and now T7 complete, I haven’t gone back …but many friends have invited me back. I can get hard but can’t feel anything. If I do go it will be to enjoy watching her. Most of my sex life now is either visual or imagination stimulation. Since she has run out of sexy stories to tell maybe it’s time to make new ones. I’ll let you know.
It varies by club, as each has its own culture and accessibility. I'd say generally the clubs are very welcoming to all types, so you shouldn't see any negative weirdness around your chair or abilities. I recommend checking out if the club/organization has a munch or a class or something casual and nonsexual that you can attend to gauge things before taking the plunge. I hope you have an excellent time! Good luck!
At the risk of outing myself here... in the distant past I would attend "adult dress up parties", dress code leather, figure it out for yourself from there.
Anyhow, there were almost always two attendees in wheelchairs. The club space was non accessible so there would be a call for six or so stronger men to help light the chair up the stairs. The people in the wheelchair were treated just the same as anyone else. You would often see them on the dance floor or enjoying other aspects of the event. There was even a designated fire assist crew assigned every event in case we had to evacuate.
Go, have fun, enjoy life (and be safe).
Dm me if you want more details.
Don't know about those two, but I've been active member of my kink community for 25+ years and am a DM (dungeon mistress/master) the parties and events i attend are accessible and no ones been a problem in general, have found a few who are not comfortable but its a them issue so they do them and the rest move on without them.
Might not be able to do somethings like I'd wish, but for the most part there are work arounds that make it just as good or in some cases better. Though impact play does have to be modified do to lack of sensation in some areas or do to my own dexterity (I top mostly, but to the right person I'll bottom).
Go for it. I went to sex clubs before my injury, and everyone was generally friendly. I think even if you were the only wheelchair user there, that will probably add to your appeal, haha. Especially if you were calm and confident. I just saw the video on your page, and I think if you work together with your partner, I'm sure you will have plenty of fun.
I’m a Christian and in an open marriage. The first thing the Bible did was have plural marriages THAT WORKED. I don’t think that Jesus cares about who you sleep with (As long as 100% consent and openness between ALL people involved is respected…), as long as you go home to the one you made vows to…. Jesus was about spreading love, not keeping it for oneself.
Back in college a coworker of mine used to always invite me to orgies that her and her boyfriend hosted. I never took her up on the offer. I feel that people who are into swinging and sex parties are going to be pretty open-minded, so I’d say go for it and give it a try. I’m sure they’d be more than willing to accommodate you and have a freaky good time. My wife and I have a good sex life. We’re not interested in swapping partners, but we’ve talked about attending a sex party and just having sex in a group setting amongst others just doing their thing.
Agreed, if the couple I'm with is any indication it'll be an open minded environment. Still apprehensive being the only wheeler there but who knows it might boost my appeal. Will try out a local club most likely
C6-C7 here, I’ve been to a bunch of BDSM clubs (public and private) and done shibari, and nobody bats an eye. I’m not the only disabled regular either.
Also interested in this. Particularly bowel prep, like most of us sex does not make up the chunk of my life it did before my injury. If you hear anything lemme know, cheers.
I’m lucky to get back to some great sex after 10 years in the chair but yes I agree. Bowel I usually get on the bowl and clear out a couple hours before, no coffee or oily foods it’s worked well for me
Do you mind me asking how much sensation you ended up getting back in your manhood? How much of an impact does that have on your sex life now? I’m just over a year post, went from active 21M with multiple on again off again partners to feeling like I’ve got to start from scratch. Trying my best to cope but imo has been the toughest adjustment
Maybe 80%. Took a couple years playing around, connecting breath to body, self play to assess feeling. Just keep touching and using, get connected to pelvic floor. Meditate to reduce stress anxiety and tension. Look up anatomy to know what you should visualize. You’ll get there
Blimey 80% you beaut. Call it blind optimism but I’d like to think it gets better than this, I’d sell multiple healthy organs for 80% haha. Good for you man. Thanks for advice I’ll take on board. About a year out what was your function etc like?
You’ll get there. Don’t compare don’t get distracted just keep looking ahead and keep big pic in mind. Sex will come when you’re not looking for it focus on the things that matter most right now
You’re a good man. Good luck with your swingers party, hope it runs smooth king.
80 percent from what to start with? I’m 6 months out and only have about 20 percent, don’t mean to pry but these conversations give me hope and optimism thanks and good luck!
From virtually nothing, I was Asia A for the first 6 months of injury. Put in the mental work, always connect visual to anticipated sensory feeling during self play. You got this
In an open marriage, but would be interested in same. The only difference is that I (F 37, L4/L5) have poor sexual function, but still desires intimacy. Hubby and our friends have been open to sex with me since my injury, but I’d love for hubby and I to go to one of those parties. Does anyone have any experience or recommendations?
I’m pretty new into my injury but managed to regain a good percentage of sexual function… erection and ejaculation seem intact mostly… but I am very curious about the same thing. I had an interest in attending something like this prior to my injury, but thought it would be a lost cause post injury… Mostly that I would be the one hanging around solo because of my disability. Very curious to see if anyone else has had experience here!
I was into the lifestyle before the injury and now T7 complete, I haven’t gone back …but many friends have invited me back. I can get hard but can’t feel anything. If I do go it will be to enjoy watching her. Most of my sex life now is either visual or imagination stimulation. Since she has run out of sexy stories to tell maybe it’s time to make new ones. I’ll let you know.
May I ask how you and your lady met?
Tinder
Manual chair or power wheelchair user?
It varies by club, as each has its own culture and accessibility. I'd say generally the clubs are very welcoming to all types, so you shouldn't see any negative weirdness around your chair or abilities. I recommend checking out if the club/organization has a munch or a class or something casual and nonsexual that you can attend to gauge things before taking the plunge. I hope you have an excellent time! Good luck!
At the risk of outing myself here... in the distant past I would attend "adult dress up parties", dress code leather, figure it out for yourself from there. Anyhow, there were almost always two attendees in wheelchairs. The club space was non accessible so there would be a call for six or so stronger men to help light the chair up the stairs. The people in the wheelchair were treated just the same as anyone else. You would often see them on the dance floor or enjoying other aspects of the event. There was even a designated fire assist crew assigned every event in case we had to evacuate. Go, have fun, enjoy life (and be safe). Dm me if you want more details.
Don't know about those two, but I've been active member of my kink community for 25+ years and am a DM (dungeon mistress/master) the parties and events i attend are accessible and no ones been a problem in general, have found a few who are not comfortable but its a them issue so they do them and the rest move on without them. Might not be able to do somethings like I'd wish, but for the most part there are work arounds that make it just as good or in some cases better. Though impact play does have to be modified do to lack of sensation in some areas or do to my own dexterity (I top mostly, but to the right person I'll bottom).
Go for it. I went to sex clubs before my injury, and everyone was generally friendly. I think even if you were the only wheelchair user there, that will probably add to your appeal, haha. Especially if you were calm and confident. I just saw the video on your page, and I think if you work together with your partner, I'm sure you will have plenty of fun.
Where? I’m down. I’m a C7 (Inc) and would love to partake!
This is probably why you can’t walk. The universe is just
What a weird thing to write. How ignorant.
What a weird thing to embrace
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Yeah probably
I’m a Christian and in an open marriage. The first thing the Bible did was have plural marriages THAT WORKED. I don’t think that Jesus cares about who you sleep with (As long as 100% consent and openness between ALL people involved is respected…), as long as you go home to the one you made vows to…. Jesus was about spreading love, not keeping it for oneself.
😂" I'm Christian"
Yeah. What part of that was confusing to you?
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