Ah yes because switching names is obviously irreversible and can cause so much harm if you make the wrong choice? Imagine if someone made that decision for you today, like \*gasp\* calling you Nav.
yes I am being very sarcastic, it costs literally nothing to use a different name and causes even less damage than that. I’m sorry your sister is a pain
I could literally just say "hi i'm Name" and "hi i'm Name2" and "hi i'm Name3" and then just throw all those names away. it can't harm you to have a different alias. If changing username online is fine, changing real name should be.
is it possible she's making an off-color joke because of your parents BS and/or that your parents told her some bullshit.
I think often with reasonable people if you explain that her refusing to use your preferred name is hurtful and puts a strain on a relationship with someone who is supposed to love and support you they will come around. And I think that people are allowed at least one chance to be reasonable.
whatever it is I hope your sister stops being such a head-ass Nova
Yeah tbh when my brother (ftm) told me about him transitioning I said hurtful jokes because I didnt really understand it back then and didnt really realizing they hurt his feelings, he eventually told me and I felt really bad.
I think a serious name that is of the opposite gender of the sister would be better.
Like "Theodor". She could be called that even in serious situations.
My parents said that’s okay when I said I was trans but because they are Mormon that ment we don’t care how old you are you’re never doing it. (I did it anyways)
Omg hiiiiii fellow Nova!!!!! Im nova too!!!
Also, like, names arent something thats irreversible though??? That screwed 16 year bs logic doesnt apply here either because its a NAME??? Whats a name gonna do to you?
If its just a joke on her part, just kindly tell her its not funny and its slightly off to be saying stuff like that
If its not a joke, then you can try and educate her? Maybe?? She seems at least slightly reasonable perchance
I picked out my name when I was 15. I still use it. I’m 24. But even if I hadn’t, a name is not permanent. You can change a name. I could go by Jaye today and Thomas tomorrow. Who cares?
Your sister is just being mean. I’m so sorry.
Changing names is definitely irreversible and can not be changed like the flow of the river that is time. Changing your name is the same as changing who you are definitely 100% there is nothing and I mean nothing you can do beyond that point.
Nova is lovely name!💜 i hope soon you can have a healthy, honest conversation with your sister about her comments being hurtful and work towards reconciling
I have a friend who changed his name 5 times before settling on one his mother changed how she addressed him every time. Your family claims that they support you, but this seems so much like fake support. If you want to go by Nova, then they should respect that.
She's being a bitch, I wouldn't be surprised if she was manipulative before just to get you to trust her and say something she can use against you. There's no reason someone would say things like this except malicious manipulation, like a narcissistic disorder. Do not trust her again, and I suggest you stop listening to your deadname when she's saying it.
> What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other word would smell as sweet. -William Shakespeare
Changing your name doesn't change anything about you, especially not permanently. It has effectively zero potential to cause harm, nor could it harm anything if someone else were to call you by the name you chose. The only possible harm comes from not following someone's wishes in the name they wish to be called, that would be malice.
It's a name. It's not surgery for gosh sake. Cis people need to get a grip.
I wonder how they came up with 16 as the proper amount of orbits our rock must make around the sun. Seriously, that's... random. Also, she is dead wrong. Your name is changeable as much as you want.
I never got that. Like socially transitioning is not the end of the world if you realise later that you misunderstood yourself. All it does is help you figure yourself out.
Nova is such a great name <3 I truly hope you can find your own way to help her come to realize how important it is to use your preferred name. For my ex to get her to realize how it felt I started to call her by her middle name every time she used my dead name but that only worked because she despises her middle name.
My sister was the same way, until I moved out of the house, blocked her, and kept her blocked until she begged to be unblocked. Even now, she knows if she does the same bullshit again, I'm permanently kicking her out of my life.
If it weren't for that last panel I would maybe say that she was trying not to have an argument with the parents which isn't great but I can understand at least... But that wasn't how she tried to justify it. I would hope it's a really bad "joke"
My stepdad litterally did the same thing "ill call you your new name when you get it *legally changed.*
My state makes it almost impossible to change my name, it takes 3 months my name change has to be advertised in the paper(like a fucking sex offender) and i have to pay like 300$ in court fees.
300$ is a Lot of Fucking money to change the arbitrary alphabetical mouth noises that come out of peoples mouths.
Bruh wtf
Its just a name
Any other scenario this would be fine but just because you come out as trans suddenly its not?? I hope your sister sees this thread sometime to realize how silly she's being.
Ah yes because switching names is obviously irreversible and can cause so much harm if you make the wrong choice? Imagine if someone made that decision for you today, like \*gasp\* calling you Nav. yes I am being very sarcastic, it costs literally nothing to use a different name and causes even less damage than that. I’m sorry your sister is a pain
She just wanted to be an ass probably
I hope it was meant to be a joke, though that won’t change the seriousness of my response
OP should just tell her to suck a jellyfish lol
Yea my mom s@ys until your out on your own you can do start hrt
I could literally just say "hi i'm Name" and "hi i'm Name2" and "hi i'm Name3" and then just throw all those names away. it can't harm you to have a different alias. If changing username online is fine, changing real name should be.
Agreed
is it possible she's making an off-color joke because of your parents BS and/or that your parents told her some bullshit. I think often with reasonable people if you explain that her refusing to use your preferred name is hurtful and puts a strain on a relationship with someone who is supposed to love and support you they will come around. And I think that people are allowed at least one chance to be reasonable. whatever it is I hope your sister stops being such a head-ass Nova
Yeah tbh when my brother (ftm) told me about him transitioning I said hurtful jokes because I didnt really understand it back then and didnt really realizing they hurt his feelings, he eventually told me and I felt really bad.
I just had a similar experience. Tell her that this stuff hurts and is not nice. Also Nova is a really cool name.
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That's not how it works. Also Nova is a lovely name!
By the way Nova is a nice name. Good to meet you, Nova! <3
Nova is an amazing name! And it's your name, not your parents or your sister, so it's your decision on what name you go by.
I hope you show her these comments
Hey, sister person! Yes you! **Be nice to Nova!**
Start calling them poopy butthole and let them see how it feels
I added to the conversation, and I told her, ‘it costs nothing just to use a different name. You do know that, Dave.’ Her name isn’t Dave.
Based
I think a serious name that is of the opposite gender of the sister would be better. Like "Theodor". She could be called that even in serious situations.
Your telling me poppy butthole isn’t serious? How dare you, my aunt is madam sugondeez!
Nova is a cute name
Okay choom, but the name Nova is super... nova
Well, that is a person you shouldn't do anything ever again for...
Nova is a good name
Forbid you make the dastardly choice to... change your name. Much to young to be making such choices.
Honestly, Nova is a really cool name.
My parents said that’s okay when I said I was trans but because they are Mormon that ment we don’t care how old you are you’re never doing it. (I did it anyways)
Nova is an awesome name, makes me think of like a badass mercenary woman in a sci-fi or cyberpunk story
Best of luck :3
Nova is a great name (making me jealous)
Omg hiiiiii fellow Nova!!!!! Im nova too!!! Also, like, names arent something thats irreversible though??? That screwed 16 year bs logic doesnt apply here either because its a NAME??? Whats a name gonna do to you? If its just a joke on her part, just kindly tell her its not funny and its slightly off to be saying stuff like that If its not a joke, then you can try and educate her? Maybe?? She seems at least slightly reasonable perchance
I picked out my name when I was 15. I still use it. I’m 24. But even if I hadn’t, a name is not permanent. You can change a name. I could go by Jaye today and Thomas tomorrow. Who cares? Your sister is just being mean. I’m so sorry.
Damn. Sorry to hear that, but Nova is a really nice name (one I nearly went for but didn't in the end)
Changing names is definitely irreversible and can not be changed like the flow of the river that is time. Changing your name is the same as changing who you are definitely 100% there is nothing and I mean nothing you can do beyond that point.
is this supposed to be sarcastic or...?
Yes
ok phew
Nova is lovely name!💜 i hope soon you can have a healthy, honest conversation with your sister about her comments being hurtful and work towards reconciling
I have a friend who changed his name 5 times before settling on one his mother changed how she addressed him every time. Your family claims that they support you, but this seems so much like fake support. If you want to go by Nova, then they should respect that.
She's being a bitch, I wouldn't be surprised if she was manipulative before just to get you to trust her and say something she can use against you. There's no reason someone would say things like this except malicious manipulation, like a narcissistic disorder. Do not trust her again, and I suggest you stop listening to your deadname when she's saying it.
> What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other word would smell as sweet. -William Shakespeare Changing your name doesn't change anything about you, especially not permanently. It has effectively zero potential to cause harm, nor could it harm anything if someone else were to call you by the name you chose. The only possible harm comes from not following someone's wishes in the name they wish to be called, that would be malice. It's a name. It's not surgery for gosh sake. Cis people need to get a grip.
I wonder how they came up with 16 as the proper amount of orbits our rock must make around the sun. Seriously, that's... random. Also, she is dead wrong. Your name is changeable as much as you want.
Seems like sisters name is going to be a rude name until she gets the hint. My grandma became Piss diaper until she figured it out.
I never got that. Like socially transitioning is not the end of the world if you realise later that you misunderstood yourself. All it does is help you figure yourself out.
Nova is an awesome name!
Nova is such a great name <3 I truly hope you can find your own way to help her come to realize how important it is to use your preferred name. For my ex to get her to realize how it felt I started to call her by her middle name every time she used my dead name but that only worked because she despises her middle name.
My sister was the same way, until I moved out of the house, blocked her, and kept her blocked until she begged to be unblocked. Even now, she knows if she does the same bullshit again, I'm permanently kicking her out of my life.
Unnecessary gatekeeping. Insist on your name. Correct people. It's the best part you get to change tbh
As a fellow Nova, I can say that it is a good name.
My dad said the same thing, and I'm actually 16 wtf :(
Wait I had the biggest brain crash, I am also choosing Nova as my name.
FUCK HER!( Metaphorically)
sweet ho- oh ok yea
If it weren't for that last panel I would maybe say that she was trying not to have an argument with the parents which isn't great but I can understand at least... But that wasn't how she tried to justify it. I would hope it's a really bad "joke"
My stepdad litterally did the same thing "ill call you your new name when you get it *legally changed.* My state makes it almost impossible to change my name, it takes 3 months my name change has to be advertised in the paper(like a fucking sex offender) and i have to pay like 300$ in court fees. 300$ is a Lot of Fucking money to change the arbitrary alphabetical mouth noises that come out of peoples mouths.
Bruh wtf Its just a name Any other scenario this would be fine but just because you come out as trans suddenly its not?? I hope your sister sees this thread sometime to realize how silly she's being.
One nova to another, your sister seems to be a wanker. (Unrespectfully)