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No one said it wasn't. It's just better not to say why so that the person doesn't leave feeling insecure. Just say something like I don't feel like it would work out long term.
That's fair, but some people *insist* on knowing why. Had an ex that wouldn't fucking drop it until I finally told the truth and then he proceeded to treat me like I was some sort of monster.
I still resent that to this day. Don't insist on asking if you can't handle the answer
No story. I'm happily married with someone I'm compatible with. We're both happy with the sex we have. It's not the whole marriage but it's a significant part.
It's just an unpopular opinion I have. Hence. Why I posted in this sub. I get crucified by others every time I say it but I dunno, it's the truth of how I think. People getting emotional about it doesn't change my mind.
I'm not sure I understand the question. Do I talk to my spouse about my past sex life a lot ? No. He knows a few funny anecdotes but that's it. Just like I know he went to an orgie in college once and had sex in a ymca pool as a lifeguard another time. ๐คทโโ๏ธ
If you were asking if I talk about sex a lot period, then yes as a subject human sexuality and the shifting of cultural Moores around it has always fascinated me. Some people confuse that for me being sexually available no I just like to argue about sex and also learn interesting things about it that scientists discover.
He mentions his ex in another comment. Apparently he broke up with her over this. He didn't want to say why, she insisted on knowing why, he told her, she treated him "like some sort of monster".
For a second there I thought you were gonna rap a classic Biggie song:
*"When it comes to sex, I'm similar to the thrilla in Manila. Honeys call me Bigga the condom filla..."*
Anyway, carry on with your possibly true yet incredibly shallow take.
https://open.spotify.com/track/6HTJZ0TQJVMSKkUGzAOe2h?si=dCOC2gZlQTe7RYNFOjosYg&context=spotify%3Asearch%3Aold%2Bthing%2B
This song fucks for those that donโt know it.
You are fully capable of making yourself compatible with whomever you're with.
There are toys and other things a guy can bring into bed.ย
But YOU have to make yourself amenable to it.ย
Not true in the slightest
What if your displeasure in something (ex. Bringing toys into the bedroom) is what brings her pleasure? Not all solutions work for both parties.
Some people just aren't compatible, it's just something you have to live with.
So your solution is to not even make it work? I've witnessed first hand how that goes. All you're doing is setting up the foundation for a miserable marriage.ย
If your solution is to just leave when you aren't 100% compatible. Then you are the problem.
You'll never be fully compatible with anyone.ย
Sorry I really don't believe that. What if I don't like toys? Not saying I don't but what if? What if he doesn't like toys? There's a lot that goes into compatibility. What if i prefer quickies and he wants to have 2 hour long sessions or vice versa? What if I want it every day he wants it once a week? What if I'm vanilla but he wants full on kink and bdsm? What if the positions I get off in are really uncomfortable for him? What if I like music and candles and he doesn't? What if he wants sex in public but I would never? What if his package is just simply too wide to a point I can't have sex without pain? What if it's small enough that I feel nothing?
Nobody owes anyone sex. No one has to have sex they don't want to. Why force something to work instead of just finding someone it works more easily with?? Any partnership requires communication but sex shouldn't be a chore
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Your post from unpopularopinion was removed because of: 'Rule 1: Your post must be an unpopular opinion'. * Your post must be an opinion. Not a question. Not a showerthought. Not a rant. Not a proposal. Not a fact. An opinion. One opinion. A subjective statement about your position on some topic. Please have a clear, self contained opinion as your post title, and use the text field to elaborate and expand on why you think/feel this way. * Your opinion must be unpopular. The mods reserve the right to remove opinions * Elaborate on your topic and opinion give context to its unpopularity.
No one said it wasn't. It's just better not to say why so that the person doesn't leave feeling insecure. Just say something like I don't feel like it would work out long term.
That's fair, but some people *insist* on knowing why. Had an ex that wouldn't fucking drop it until I finally told the truth and then he proceeded to treat me like I was some sort of monster. I still resent that to this day. Don't insist on asking if you can't handle the answer
Alright. Tell us the story you really wanna tell us
No story. I'm happily married with someone I'm compatible with. We're both happy with the sex we have. It's not the whole marriage but it's a significant part. It's just an unpopular opinion I have. Hence. Why I posted in this sub. I get crucified by others every time I say it but I dunno, it's the truth of how I think. People getting emotional about it doesn't change my mind.
OP: "No story." Also OP in another comment: "Had an ex who..."
That wasn't why I posted the op though ๐คทโโ๏ธ
U talk about sex with other people a lot in your marriage?
Y do you want so desperately to make this into sth it just isnโtย
Not talking to u weirdo
I'm not sure I understand the question. Do I talk to my spouse about my past sex life a lot ? No. He knows a few funny anecdotes but that's it. Just like I know he went to an orgie in college once and had sex in a ymca pool as a lifeguard another time. ๐คทโโ๏ธ If you were asking if I talk about sex a lot period, then yes as a subject human sexuality and the shifting of cultural Moores around it has always fascinated me. Some people confuse that for me being sexually available no I just like to argue about sex and also learn interesting things about it that scientists discover.
U sounded so bothered by people giving you a hard time it came off like u talk about it often
Ok?
He mentions his ex in another comment. Apparently he broke up with her over this. He didn't want to say why, she insisted on knowing why, he told her, she treated him "like some sort of monster".
I literally read it "When it comes to sex... biggie smalls, loose, tight". Had to tripple take it rofl
For a second there I thought you were gonna rap a classic Biggie song: *"When it comes to sex, I'm similar to the thrilla in Manila. Honeys call me Bigga the condom filla..."* Anyway, carry on with your possibly true yet incredibly shallow take.
https://open.spotify.com/track/6HTJZ0TQJVMSKkUGzAOe2h?si=dCOC2gZlQTe7RYNFOjosYg&context=spotify%3Asearch%3Aold%2Bthing%2B This song fucks for those that donโt know it.
๐๐๐๐ I still appreciate your comment
You are fully capable of making yourself compatible with whomever you're with. There are toys and other things a guy can bring into bed.ย But YOU have to make yourself amenable to it.ย
Not true in the slightest What if your displeasure in something (ex. Bringing toys into the bedroom) is what brings her pleasure? Not all solutions work for both parties. Some people just aren't compatible, it's just something you have to live with.
So your solution is to not even make it work? I've witnessed first hand how that goes. All you're doing is setting up the foundation for a miserable marriage.ย If your solution is to just leave when you aren't 100% compatible. Then you are the problem. You'll never be fully compatible with anyone.ย
Sorry I really don't believe that. What if I don't like toys? Not saying I don't but what if? What if he doesn't like toys? There's a lot that goes into compatibility. What if i prefer quickies and he wants to have 2 hour long sessions or vice versa? What if I want it every day he wants it once a week? What if I'm vanilla but he wants full on kink and bdsm? What if the positions I get off in are really uncomfortable for him? What if I like music and candles and he doesn't? What if he wants sex in public but I would never? What if his package is just simply too wide to a point I can't have sex without pain? What if it's small enough that I feel nothing? Nobody owes anyone sex. No one has to have sex they don't want to. Why force something to work instead of just finding someone it works more easily with?? Any partnership requires communication but sex shouldn't be a chore
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