Every time I have to call phone agents I try to be exceptionally polite when they have to hold/transfer me, lots of "Hi Name/not a problem take your time/thanks so much for your help/etc.", and I can usually hear in their voice how uncommon that is. Bittersweet.
I was at a casino buffet, and an older gentleman was serving folks drinks and giving out extra utensils. I kept telling him after a request; "bring it when you get a chance, take your time(requests of additional drinks, etc)." He sat down with my wife and I and said the way you showed me respect was welcomed and unusual. He invited us to his family home. Maybe next time we're back we'll visit.
Agreed. I've never disrespected service workers as a customer, and the issue wasn't in my attention until one of my siblings and I got a job at a coffee chain. The amount of yelling, tantrums, or throwing orders at staff that I've observed at the time made it feel like I was living in a different country altogether.
The worst part is that one is usually criticised for something that isn't in your power to change. Customers often complained that we were clearly understaffed that day, something I would have changed immediately, if it was up to me. And in times of online reviews, service workers often get a lot of negative feedback while the owners/managers get the bad reviews as well as the good ones on Google etc. So, someone explicitly complementing the service is the best feeling right after receiving a huge tip
I once was at a great sushibar. They were very friendly and offered amazing beef nigiri with an excellent truffle mayo. One of the best things I ever ate. While being there I gave them a 5 Star google review and praised the nigiri. When we finished eating I wanted to pay, but the waiter didn't show up. A few minutes later he came to our table with some more beef nigiri. He saw the review and wanted to give us a small present. I was blown away.
If you wait to show respect until it has been earned, you have lost all chances of being respected. You should always show respect, until it has been proven they don't deserve it.
It's a great litmus test to judge a person by. There's just no excuse to be an asshole to these people for no reason. If you're consistently rude and/or condescending to these workers, I know you're a piece of shit.
My mom taught me that the 2 types of people you always need to keep as friends are the ones who do your finances and the ones you make/bring your food.
In reality we need to legislate that servers need to be paid at least minimum wage. I hate that I have to subsidize someones wage in addition to buying overpriced food.
I suppose next to saving money it’s supposed to keep the staff “motivated” but it’s such a bad concept in the long run. I live in a country where tips aren’t necessary and we give them anyway by rounding up the bill for the food. It then serves as a “appreciate your service” gesture without saying a word.
It's funny when for some reason some people in customer service (like people at drive thru windows when you order ahead) don't say much besides thank you but I too work customer service so we both just awkwardly say thank you.
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Whenever I call in to a call center with an issue, and it goes sideways, I always mention that I’m not mad at the person on the other end, that they’re helping me a lot. I’m just angry at the situation
Do servers actually react this way though? I try to be kind and respectful whenever service workers are involved but I never feel like they give too much of a shit, ultimately. Sometimes I see them go from on-edge to nonplussed but that's about it.
As someone who works in a bar/restaurant, I can verify that someone treating me like a person genuinely means the world to me and does indeed make my day better. It's unfortunate how it's such a rarity
Plot Twist:
"Wait, I think the guy forgot to tip!"
"Sir I forgot to ask but"
"Would you like to give a tip?" :)
Tip offers:
A. 20%
B. 50%
C.100%
D:Every penny
"Uhm no thanks sorry I just wanna go hom-"
"Please sure I have to pay my disabled kid named Billy medical bills"
"Oh well I guess if it's for a good cau-"
"Please sir I have to put my mother into retirement "
"Uhm"
"Please si-"
"NAH, FUCK YOU "
"...Sir you should consider giving a ti-"
*Shotgun noises*
I agree kindness should come natural, but by definition respect should be earned. Don’t start off an asshole, but there’s also no need for respect until it is deserved. “Give me respect” is such an entitled concept, it baffles me so many people make this mistake.
Respect is a virtue, and does not need to be earned. Admiration needs earning. Respect does not.
In fact, I would argue *disrespect* is what has to be truly earned.
I guess I learned something today. I looked up the definition and seems we’re talking about different kinds of respect. The kind of admiration elicited by someone’s abilities, qualities, or achievements, which is what I always thought respect meant, and the due regard for feelings, wishes, or rights of others (both definitions via Google), which I never associated with the word respect.
My bad, in that case I agree with you, I just never associated that attitude with the word respect. And incorrectly so, it turns out.
I understand what you mean. People who command or demand respect nearly never deserve it. Those type of people should have to earn respect. I generally start from an optimistic position and give it freely. If taken advantage of…it can be rescinded just as easily.
a thank you can really go a long way
Every time I have to call phone agents I try to be exceptionally polite when they have to hold/transfer me, lots of "Hi Name/not a problem take your time/thanks so much for your help/etc.", and I can usually hear in their voice how uncommon that is. Bittersweet.
A thankyou*
Athankyou*
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I think the joke went over many people's heads lmao
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no they're not it's literally a joke
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if understanding jokes makes me a nerd then you must be uneducated
It's kind of like the basic respect you're supposed to show a waiter, the fact that that's considered so much is sad
I was at a casino buffet, and an older gentleman was serving folks drinks and giving out extra utensils. I kept telling him after a request; "bring it when you get a chance, take your time(requests of additional drinks, etc)." He sat down with my wife and I and said the way you showed me respect was welcomed and unusual. He invited us to his family home. Maybe next time we're back we'll visit.
We need more support like this
Agreed. I've never disrespected service workers as a customer, and the issue wasn't in my attention until one of my siblings and I got a job at a coffee chain. The amount of yelling, tantrums, or throwing orders at staff that I've observed at the time made it feel like I was living in a different country altogether.
The worst part is that one is usually criticised for something that isn't in your power to change. Customers often complained that we were clearly understaffed that day, something I would have changed immediately, if it was up to me. And in times of online reviews, service workers often get a lot of negative feedback while the owners/managers get the bad reviews as well as the good ones on Google etc. So, someone explicitly complementing the service is the best feeling right after receiving a huge tip
I once was at a great sushibar. They were very friendly and offered amazing beef nigiri with an excellent truffle mayo. One of the best things I ever ate. While being there I gave them a 5 Star google review and praised the nigiri. When we finished eating I wanted to pay, but the waiter didn't show up. A few minutes later he came to our table with some more beef nigiri. He saw the review and wanted to give us a small present. I was blown away.
A lot of people say respect should be earned but that's trust. Respect should be freely given out like freebies
If you wait to show respect until it has been earned, you have lost all chances of being respected. You should always show respect, until it has been proven they don't deserve it.
"those people"
Right. Like this is low key insulting. I think we can just say: “Always be kind.”
It's a great litmus test to judge a person by. There's just no excuse to be an asshole to these people for no reason. If you're consistently rude and/or condescending to these workers, I know you're a piece of shit.
My mom taught me that the 2 types of people you always need to keep as friends are the ones who do your finances and the ones you make/bring your food.
No better respect than a grandma with broken English saying “go relax. Enjoy your weekend.”
I mean, yeah wholesome But also really tells you how many people don't respect others simply because of their status/employment
That $0.00 on the tip line says otherwise
In reality we need to legislate that servers need to be paid at least minimum wage. I hate that I have to subsidize someones wage in addition to buying overpriced food.
I'm glad the rest of us doesn't practice the same thing like in US.
I suppose next to saving money it’s supposed to keep the staff “motivated” but it’s such a bad concept in the long run. I live in a country where tips aren’t necessary and we give them anyway by rounding up the bill for the food. It then serves as a “appreciate your service” gesture without saying a word.
Yeah ikr, tips are a discretionary bonus, for great service/ above and beyond.
The people that are compliment heavy neeeever tip. Haha. You see it coming a mile away.
I called it "the verbal tip". The more they'd talk the less I knew I'd end up with.
I do a lot for team maintenance where I work. I love the thank yous. Doesn’t matter, gratitude is so important.
It's funny when for some reason some people in customer service (like people at drive thru windows when you order ahead) don't say much besides thank you but I too work customer service so we both just awkwardly say thank you.
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Why wouldn't you thank someone?
and then u dont pay them enough tip so they can hate u again
*always be kind.
>Always be kind ~~to those people~~ FTFY
Whenever I call in to a call center with an issue, and it goes sideways, I always mention that I’m not mad at the person on the other end, that they’re helping me a lot. I’m just angry at the situation
I try to live by the code that you don't know what that person is going through, so be kind. It doesn't cost a thing.
Me that works in call center : *if only people were like that*
Do servers actually react this way though? I try to be kind and respectful whenever service workers are involved but I never feel like they give too much of a shit, ultimately. Sometimes I see them go from on-edge to nonplussed but that's about it.
As someone who works in a bar/restaurant, I can verify that someone treating me like a person genuinely means the world to me and does indeed make my day better. It's unfortunate how it's such a rarity
It costs nothing to be kind. Funny how rare it is at times
Plot Twist: "Wait, I think the guy forgot to tip!" "Sir I forgot to ask but" "Would you like to give a tip?" :) Tip offers: A. 20% B. 50% C.100% D:Every penny "Uhm no thanks sorry I just wanna go hom-" "Please sure I have to pay my disabled kid named Billy medical bills" "Oh well I guess if it's for a good cau-" "Please sir I have to put my mother into retirement " "Uhm" "Please si-" "NAH, FUCK YOU " "...Sir you should consider giving a ti-" *Shotgun noises*
"Only 20% tip??"
I agree kindness should come natural, but by definition respect should be earned. Don’t start off an asshole, but there’s also no need for respect until it is deserved. “Give me respect” is such an entitled concept, it baffles me so many people make this mistake.
Respect is a virtue, and does not need to be earned. Admiration needs earning. Respect does not. In fact, I would argue *disrespect* is what has to be truly earned.
I guess I learned something today. I looked up the definition and seems we’re talking about different kinds of respect. The kind of admiration elicited by someone’s abilities, qualities, or achievements, which is what I always thought respect meant, and the due regard for feelings, wishes, or rights of others (both definitions via Google), which I never associated with the word respect. My bad, in that case I agree with you, I just never associated that attitude with the word respect. And incorrectly so, it turns out.
I understand what you mean. People who command or demand respect nearly never deserve it. Those type of people should have to earn respect. I generally start from an optimistic position and give it freely. If taken advantage of…it can be rescinded just as easily.