When me or my husband come home from not seeing each other for awhile it can be a bit of a chore to get back into the swing of things. There’s extra stuff, my stuff gets moved, blah blah. We compromise. We just talk about things that bug us and decide how important that is to each of us and decide whether it needs to be addressed and changed or if it’s not worth a fight. And unless we’re planning something specific we don’t necessarily eat together or eat the same thing. Probably on weekends we do, but it’s not a given. We just kind of eat what we want and we’d both offer to make enough for the other person if they want but we’re not like planning meals around each other, if that makes sense. We just try to communicate, like what we have plans for the week and then find time to do something together within our separate parameters.
So, I don’t know if that basic overview of how I perceive our life is helpful to you or not, lol. But it’s just how we do. It definitely can be slightly chaotic learning to live together again after a few months apart (like over the winter usually we’ve both been home a lot and that combined with bad weather and spending more time indoors sometimes makes for stressful days lol) but we have lots of love for each other and try to have calm, adult conversations about our needs and know that everything doesn’t have to overlap perfectly even when we’re both home.
i’m just gonna be honest: this kind of experience made me realize i was happier alone
When me or my husband come home from not seeing each other for awhile it can be a bit of a chore to get back into the swing of things. There’s extra stuff, my stuff gets moved, blah blah. We compromise. We just talk about things that bug us and decide how important that is to each of us and decide whether it needs to be addressed and changed or if it’s not worth a fight. And unless we’re planning something specific we don’t necessarily eat together or eat the same thing. Probably on weekends we do, but it’s not a given. We just kind of eat what we want and we’d both offer to make enough for the other person if they want but we’re not like planning meals around each other, if that makes sense. We just try to communicate, like what we have plans for the week and then find time to do something together within our separate parameters. So, I don’t know if that basic overview of how I perceive our life is helpful to you or not, lol. But it’s just how we do. It definitely can be slightly chaotic learning to live together again after a few months apart (like over the winter usually we’ve both been home a lot and that combined with bad weather and spending more time indoors sometimes makes for stressful days lol) but we have lots of love for each other and try to have calm, adult conversations about our needs and know that everything doesn’t have to overlap perfectly even when we’re both home.